Pusyiter:

Where have you been babe

Getting married

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JaceBlaze:
Nas - Surviving The Times

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6mb5Fq6a3Fk

This one here will have you thinking life,the good and the bad that comes with it.

Hey, stranger

If they did tell me something, I probably never listened

As for "Baiting suit"

Octopusssy:

Hear hear. You cannot even predict the next minute. We can only hope.

Exactly, girl!

Octopusssy:

Perhaps we shouldn't tell them with as much ease until we have passed through storms with them.

Yeah but you can't predict life. Some relationships end even after people have spent decades together & were sure they'd last forever.

It happens though lol. Maybe they really meant it when they said it, but things obviously didn't work out as hoped. There're people I've also said similar things to, but here I am unbothered, living & shìt.

ezanafe:

You are always everywhere and must have something to say. I doff my hat.

Of course because I'm not suffering from memory loss.

I guess because it's "unladylike". It gives off a rough impression. Personally, I feel ladies who drink beer have the same aura. It's like they could drink anyone, including their male counterparts under the table & then stab you for good measure

I was sharing a room with a friend at the time & that was actually part of our initial agreement that there will be no guys sleeping over. We didn't even have enough bedding for one, to accommodate overnight guests. We stuck to our verbal contract, until one night when her BF decided to show up unannounced, drunk. We all shared the same bed, but I slept at the bottom, facing the other way. At 1st I thought I was dreaming. In fact, I was dreaming! In the dream I was in a moving boat & it was swaying The waves got more violent & I startled to find them at it You know how sometimes dreams tend to borrow from reality? That's what was happening. Our bed was not that great, it was bouncy, so I guess in my sleepy state, that translated into a dream about turbulent waters I didn't say anything to them, until my foot touched a damp spot on the bed, to which I told her in our language that she better be ready to do some heavy-duty washing early the next day! Because I wasn't about to sleep on stained linen because of her.

Jaqenhghar:

Hmmm. Thats sum weird shít. Maybe he was a demon
Id really like to see his pic but I believe looks are secondary .. except of course we talking looks like shifty eyes, body language, etc.

The bolded has honestly crossed my mind. A very sick one at that!

You're right about that. Looks are not very high on my list of requirements either, but I brought that up because everyone that knows me kept asking what I saw in him. None of my family & friends liked him, except the one friend who was there from day one of the relationship. She grew to like him, probably because she has hung out with him unlike others. Plus she ended up dating a friend of his that he came with on one of his visits to our place.

I'll use A's FB to access his FB for you, so I can steal a photo

Deckylicious:
You're actually the toxic person here. You felt insecure because of a call? And you left and broke up with him without saying it loud to him?
And then when he tried reaching you to maybe to talk or explain, you blocked him. Wow.

You don't know the story. Say "huh?" so I can repeat it again or clarify the bits you can't comprehend.

Why the call got me upset is because we had just reconciled, probably about a week into the reconciliation. Otherwise I never would have reconciled with him if I knew there was someone else in the picture. I don't share a man or give him ultimatums. I prefer to remove myself when there's too many cooks in the kitchen because I value my peace of mind. He knew the kind of person I am, so there was really no need for any long speeches at that point. If things prove too difficult, I cut you out, that's how I've always been with him, the guys before him & anyone that came after him. I'm not built for endurance, especially when it comes to other women. All his other BS I tolerated a because I always took him back every time he became clumsy with my feelings, but trying to involve me in some 3rd party situation was something I could not tolerate.

He didn't reach out to explain anything because there was no need for any explanation. He simply asked if I had arrived home safely after our final meeting & I responded with a, "Yes, thank you", then I tossed away the sim card because I needed to move on. I've never contacted him even though I still knew his number by heart. So it's not like I hanged on & prevented him from going on with his own life in my decision. Years later that's when he got in touch with me on FB. He told me that he was going away. He was going through some hard times in his personal life. His father was also dying etc. I tried to encourage him the 1st few days, until he ignored one of my messages but was active online. I figured he was giving me the cold shoulder either because of the friend's request I have not accepted or he was playing another one of his mind games. I sent one last message to ask if he was okay, one hour went by & he still didn't respond but was in/out of FB. That's when I blocked him & I don't regret it one bit. How can you start a conversation with someone after so many years & yet waste no time to start faffing about again? That's unacceptable to me.

Jaqenhghar:

Soinds like yer soulmate

That's what I allowed myself to believe in the beginning, but that mindset is a little dangerous. How can a soulmate be like that? Isn't soul mate love supposed to be blissful & easy? Now I view him as someone who came into my life probably for the sole purpose of spiritual enlightenment. I don't want a relationship with him, I wouldn't be able to trust him. I also would never allow myself to be in a situation like that ever again, with anyone. The relationship & everything that came with it was too much.
If I showed you what he looks likes you'd also wonder what I ever saw in him

MOnkeyBabe:
Ahw, eya, nice wRiteup . I was bold enough to talk about his apparitions. Do you Guys both have strong ChRistian/SPiRitual //ethnic or ReliGious roots?
I will Remain with him even if he's toxic. I'll Do Anything for me. I love him more than my kids. Hate to say this

He's a "Muslim" by birth, but a hellion in every part of his existence I've always been a person who had premonitions & dreams that came true, I don't know what to call that. Some dreams though, not all. I actually had a dream about this person two years before I met him in person. How we met was also another strange occurence. He misdialed a friend's number & dialed mine instead. I told him that he dialed the wrong number & he dropped the call. The following day he called again & we started talking everyday from that point onwards, without meeting in person for about 6 months. We never exchanged any photos. Nothing. So as the months went by, we finally decided to meet. I must be honest, I didn't find him attractive as he approached us ( I was with a friend, incase he was a killer or something ). But something about his eyes was familiar. He actually said the same thing when we sat down for a chat. He's always been very vocal about things, btw. I'm the more reserved one, especially about weird things I can't explain. So I commend you for your fearlessness lol. How did he take it? He didn't think you were mental when you mentioned apparitions?
I can't tell you what to do, but just be kind to yourself. You deserve better. If it's meant to be, it'll be even if you choose yourself in the time being. Sometimes you need to let people go so things can happen the way they were meant to happen & so you can also find yourself. I have a feeling my ex will meet a spiritual teacher who'll help him through his journey. I can't make him see or accept things that he perhaps is not meant to realize in this lifetime & that's okay with me I have a life of my own to live & would like to do so with less stress as possible.

MOnkeyBabe:
This one has avoided me but he's the first man I've been able to love UnconDitionally. There is a SPiRitual connection with his name. That is what may have been keeping me. After believing or praying to God, the task of trying to change him as DiffiCult as it seems, makes my life whole. Should be he's my purpose Of CReatiOn. People would say I'm nuts. But I know there are no mistakes this Time BeCause I'm woRkinG with the SPiRit of God.

Lol, I know what you mean. I believed mine was a twin flame We had insane telepathy & could read each other's minds. The very 1st time we broke up & weren't on speaking terms, I bumped into him at the mall but we ignored each other. Without words I heard him say he misses me Later that evening I "felt" him in my room. It was the closest to insanity I've ever been my entire life. I started doubting my mental state at that point, but lo & behold, he showed up a couple of days later telling me of all the strange things that have been happening to him since we broke up. He said he felt me in his room etc. Mind you, I didn't tell him my own experience because I didn't want him to think I was an obsessed psycho lol. Another thing he would shiver when we were together. Things got so strange to the point where he started suspecting I had done something evil to "catch him" as he put it. But on my side I was also mystified & baffled by the things that were happening. I would talk to friends but they didn't understand the things I was going through. They'd just tell me to move on & forget about it. How do you forget about something where everywhere you turn you're constantly reminded about it? One day I switched on the TV to some talkshow & one of the guests was his namesake! His name is not popular so I was scared to death by the coincidences that were popping up everywhere as if they were trying to make sure I never forget. Another time during one of our many reconciliations, he told me that every time we reconciled it felt like "heavens were rejoicing"...I've always felt that but of course I never said it out loud because again, I didn't wanna seem crazy. There's a lot I could say, but trust me, I understand your situation. You'll be able to get through it like I did. I don't know if you'll ever stop caring about him though, but you'll learn to live without him if you so choose to remove yourself from the toxicity of the relationship. Wherever I am I always know how my ex feels. Time & distance didn't change that. But it just wasn't meant to be & I made peace with that.

olyrayy:


I think there was while back you said something about being INTJ. I'm not so sure... Was that you?

Yeah. Are you one too?

MOnkeyBabe:
Hei. XhOSA. You are too muCh. The last part got me. It May be me and a Guy CuRRently . "There'll be a lot of vacillation btw enmeshment and suffocation", please further expantiate dear if you don't mind. With my Guy, I just remember Stations Of the CROss. Maybe it's because his name is Chukwu. He has done many mean and evil things to me, like telling people im begging to Sleep with him, calling another girl his wife in front of me, pays full attention to her and totally neglects me in her presence etc. This has been going for 3 months. Can never fall out of love for him. And it's not like I can't get anything better.
Please ReaD my thread on ROmanCeland. Some serious Shit going on. I met him few days after I became BoRnAGain. FoR Real, I underwent transformation in Soul. Started to love and forgive others. FoRGiveness is something I couldn't do my entire life. Became the best of myself. Got RiD Of Unnecessary AnGRy.
You're among the SmARtest females on here. I ADmiRe you so much. God Bless you.

It's the typical hot & cold behaviour, nothing exotic lol. All over you one moment & distant for seemingly no reason the next. Sometimes they don't even know why they do it themselves & won't stop until you decide to get off the crazy train. Eventually, it'll drain the life out of you. Run for your life from someone like that for your peace of mind. It's an unhealthy cycle that'll send you on a rollercoaster ride of emotions, thus making you just just like them in a sense. Yours also sounds outright disrespectful in his madness. You'll be better off without such a callous prìck.

Monfeels:


Even if I was voyeuristic and I had a proclivity for memorizing email exchanges from couples and imagining their words morph into actions in the bedroom, I'd memorize actual sexual exchanges, not the platonic exchange you posted that had no sexual undertone whatsoever.

You must be so starved of sexual advances from men that you conflate even the slightest friendly gesture from a man as an indication of his desire to have sex with you, and you are so desperately in need of validation from strangers that you'd post a screenshot of it as proof of being desired. Your life is definitely a pathetic tale.

By the way, voyeurism isn't my cup of tea. I fall on the extreme end of the paraphilia spectrum.

Still feeding off the garbage I fed you, I see. Blah di blah. I don't care to entertain you today, so let me leave you to stew further & fatten up in the little poo pot I stirred you in the other day, you little maggot. It'll give me more pleasure when I step over you next time. Adios for now