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When is 2019 going to come o

askino:
sowi ...jare...autocorrect gone wild...i meant that you only gets to have every thing precious to a female specie by using deception ,tricks or manipulation while you give it a Behind nice name..you only get what dey are willing to lose when you use transparency,sincerity and truth which most of the time gives negative result ...i dont pity their stories most times cus they enjoy being cunned ...many times i laugh in wonder why a lady you cheerished and honor simply cus you want her to keep to the end..she put you on a run ...give you rules and limits..you made sure to meet up so as to show your loyalty...only for you to realise at the long run that she as given the most precious of herself out to cheaply while with you by the time you get to see your contender...you feels like dying in total insult and disapointment for he is no where close to compete...how come? Did he jazz her? Now she still comes back begging you to settle for less while professing love to you like ogbanje first born...

Thank you

eTECTIV:
D responses of our General hospital staff and doctors to emergency cases is nothing to write home about... So sorry about ur loss

Oyin Gucci
@GucciOyin

My son had an attack around 3am in the morning on the 19th of July,2019. we got to General hospital Ikorodu around 3:30am, rushed to the emergency room and had my mom fill form for my son cos he needs to be attended to immediately... Unfortunately for us, the doctor wasn't on

seat or in his office and what the nurse said then was "I can do nothing to him unless the doctor is here" (in Yoruba) tho after helping with oxygen.
Called his line it was switched off, checked his office he wasn't there, nobody knows his whereabout.
When he was later found around 5am, he wasn't emotional, no sign of emergency act through him, he wasn't audible enough when he started asking question, no first aid treatment except from the one given from the nurse, the worst part of it was that he kept insisting he wants to go pray (as a Muslim

All of this was around 5:30am cos I kept checking the time. He wrote all what to get... Ran to get them and got back. He told me to get another stuffs, went to get them... During this period he was already at the mosque..
He got back around after 6 and my son was already weak. He kept attending to other people (tho I'm not really against that but those people are not even emergency cases cos they were only complaining about headache or body pain) During this period my son couldn't breath fine again and he said he will need to transfer us to ikeja cos there's no bed to admit him.. to cut the long story short... I lost my son around 10am in the morning... No treatment given, no first aid except from oxygen given, all items bought was wasted, no effort shown at all, even at his death bed no emotion at all... I'm not writing this

cos I feel I should write it... I already promised the doctor I'm gonna file a petition against him for incompetency... I don't know his name but I know they will surely search for his name through their register... He was on night shift and he's a muslim... If we don't do this,

they won't take government work serious. They feel government can't do nothing to them that's why they keep wasting lives ..

Please kindly help repost this till the government see this
Thank you

ps: my son was just 9 month 2 days then... I'm pained right now and

There is this church in Abuja with a weird flex. The Pastor built a swimming pool in the church premises and called it "pool of bethsheba" or something.

The pool has healing powers. Enter and your problems disappear. If you want to enter the pool, you have to pay 50K per swim

For those who are too poor to pay 50K, there is a anointed bottle water sourced from the "pool of Bethsheba." It goes for 10K. I am not sure it has as much healing power as paying 50K to submerge yourself in the pool itself. I mean, you cannot cheat God. It issa Pay as you go.

One certain Sundays, the Pastor does spiritual promo. That means he will let you bath in the pool, all expense paid by God. Even God Sabi do promo. And of course God is blessing the members of the church who are already rich because they work hard. No shortcuts to heaven dear. The Pastor of this Church is, or course, eccentric like the average Nigerian Pentecostal Pastor. Fire for fire Ministry.

The man got another woman Pregnant while he was married. I think some fine ass South African woman.I mean, even Pastor like big bum bum.Cherish God's creation

After plenty scandal, he divorced his wife and settled down with his fine ass South African Queen with big bum bum. Of course the Church is still marching on, the gates of hell shall not prevail. People still troop in. I mean, who can battle with the Lord? Not some sex scandal

I will like to mention the name of the Church and the Pastor but I don't want the wrath of God to finally descend on me. I am a God-fearing man! But hey, anyone who tells you religion is not too 2 the biggest problem of Nigeria is deceiving you. Religion is our own CANCER! Just a hint: The Church is located somewhere around Kubwa. I think after Kubwa or so. Religion loves Poverty. Yeah. If Jack Thanos my account again, I will pay 50K, strip naked and enter that pool with his name in my mouth. Btw, if you need Bethsheba water, I sell at a discount

A very nice Brother finally shared an image from the pool of Bethsheba. I kid you not, this is the pool. I think it is inside the Church gan gan. The most high God dwells in our midsts.

You can check out YouTube for videos of his healing sessions. Or Facebook. Just as a snippet

Most dangerous places to live, 2019.

1. Brazil
2. South Africa
3. Nigeria
4. Argentina
5. India
6. Peru
7. Kenya
8. Ukraine
9. Turkey
10. Colombia
11. Mexico
12. UK
13. Egypt
14. Philippines
15. Italy
16. US
17. Indonesia
18. Greece
19. Kuwait
20. Thailand

(InterNations)

Of the 20 AIRPORTS in Nigeria,
12 are INTERNATIONAL
8 are DOMESTIC
The NORTH has 8 Airports designated as "International" by FAAN,
The rest of Nigeria has 4 INTERNATIONAL airports.
South-South 1
South East 1
South West 2
7 of the 8 Northern International airports handled less than 2,700 flights since 2016 according to FAAN figures.
Calabar is NOT designated as an "International" airport operation wise.
Enugu, till date, is still not functional.
The injustice in Nigeria is obvious to even the blind.

The implication of this is that these so-called ghost international airports get funds and attention like an International hub though nothing practically goes on there. How can Katsina, Yola, Maiduguri and Sokoto be designated international status for God's sake!

Who exactly is flying out of Nigeria from these places?
Please, lets peacefully split along regional lines before we choke to death on sadness.

Oyin Gucci
@GucciOyin

My son had an attack around 3am in the morning on the 19th of July,2019. we got to General hospital Ikorodu around 3:30am, rushed to the emergency room and had my mom fill form for my son cos he needs to be attended to immediately... Unfortunately for us, the doctor wasn't on

seat or in his office and what the nurse said then was "I can do nothing to him unless the doctor is here" (in Yoruba) tho after helping with oxygen.
Called his line it was switched off, checked his office he wasn't there, nobody knows his whereabout.
When he was later found around 5am, he wasn't emotional, no sign of emergency act through him, he wasn't audible enough when he started asking question, no first aid treatment except from the one given from the nurse, the worst part of it was that he kept insisting he wants to go pray (as a Muslim

All of this was around 5:30am cos I kept checking the time. He wrote all what to get... Ran to get them and got back. He told me to get another stuffs, went to get them... During this period he was already at the mosque..
He got back around after 6 and my son was already weak. He kept attending to other people (tho I'm not really against that but those people are not even emergency cases cos they were only complaining about headache or body pain) During this period my son couldn't breath fine again and he said he will need to transfer us to ikeja cos there's no bed to admit him.. to cut the long story short... I lost my son around 10am in the morning... No treatment given, no first aid except from oxygen given, all items bought was wasted, no effort shown at all, even at his death bed no emotion at all... I'm not writing this

cos I feel I should write it... I already promised the doctor I'm gonna file a petition against him for incompetency... I don't know his name but I know they will surely search for his name through their register... He was on night shift and he's a muslim... If we don't do this,

they won't take government work serious. They feel government can't do nothing to them that's why they keep wasting lives ��...

Please kindly help repost this �till the government see this
Thank you �

ps: my son was just 9 month 2 days then... I'm pained right now and

Of the 20 AIRPORTS in Nigeria,
12 are INTERNATIONAL
8 are DOMESTIC
The NORTH has 8 Airports designated as "International" by FAAN,
The rest of Nigeria has 4 INTERNATIONAL airports.
South-South 1
South East 1
South West 2
7 of the 8 Northern International airports handled less than 2,700 flights since 2016 according to FAAN figures.
Calabar is NOT designated as an "International" airport operation wise.
Enugu, till date, is still not functional.
The injustice in Nigeria is obvious to even the blind.

The implication of this is that these so-called ghost international airports get funds and attention like an International hub though nothing practically goes on there. How can Katsina, Yola, Maiduguri and Sokoto be designated international status for God's sake!

Who exactly is flying out of Nigeria from these places?
Please, lets peacefully split along regional lines before we choke to death on sadness.

You people are not ready for match making in this section until you realise people want different things, you all sound like sore losers when you don't meet a person criteria , you then resort to insults

How low can you go?
How low to display your low self esteem?
Work on it before anyone can take you seriously?

Many of you here are hypocrites too?
A man says I don't want feminists, you say GBAM ?
A man says I don't want Yoruba or Hausa, only Igbo, you insult him?
And begin to body shame him

A man says he wants women with big ass
Carry your medium ass and go
But NO
You must come and spray your insecurities everywhere
Don't you also want a man with a sizable dick?
Don't you want a tall man?
Don't you want a man with beards?
All of these things are superficial things too

A woman says she doesn't want a poor man
You insult her
She says she wants men above 50
You insult her

Are you really ready to meet someone?
You think you are Party jollof
And every one must want you?
Hell no

Please and please
Let us begin to behave like adults in this group.

In my introduction, I stated I want a man above 25 yrs
That still stands
Are you a widower or divorced?
Are you lonely and looking for company
You reside in Abuja or Lagos
You are comfortable?
PM me let's chat

Thank you.

Mryacks:
a genuine Godly woman won't. But I understand the point you made.

Vacancies exist in an International Secondary School in Abuja.
1. Head of School
Requirements: Nigerian[British Returnee or White Expat] Masters in Education; IGCSE/Cambridge certified; and practical knowledge of the UK national curriculum.
Minimum of 8 years in Education Leadership in a British run Secondary school.
Nigerian Salary: #750,000
Expat Salary: $4000
Deadline: 29th November 2019.

2. Administrator
Requirements: Nigerian[British Returnee or Asian Expat]; Masters in Education with a minimum of 7 years management level experience in a British run Secondary; CIPD [UK]/CIPM/International HR qualification with excellent working knowledge of Microsoft Office
, Excel, Outlook)
Nigerian Salary: #450,000
Expat Salary: $2000
Deadline: 14th November 2019.

3. Biology Teacher
Requirements: Nigerian with a Bachelor's degree in Biology/Natural Sciences; minimum of 5 years experience in a Nigerian/ British run secondary school. Salary #200,000
Deadline: 14th November 2019.

4. House Parent
Requirements: Nigerian with a Bachelor's degree in Education with a minimum of 6 years of experience as a House Parent in a Nigerian/British run Secondary School; Knowledge of CPR and First Aid will be an added advantage.
Deadline: 14th November 2019.

5. Music/ Drama Teacher
Requirements: Bachelor's degree in Music/ Performing Arts Education, IGCSE/ Cambridge Certified with a minimum of 5 years teaching experience in a British run secondary school; and practical knowledge of the UK national curriculum.
Deadline: 14th November.
Interested Applicants who satisfy the requirements and are available for immediate employment should send applications in PDF to internationalbritishschool@edensrpeople.com on or before the deadline referencing Nelly and using the position as the subject of the email.

Ref: Nelly [ Head of School]

No

Skyfornia:
But why avoiding someone that has a baby mama when you also have a baby daddy? Are you indirectly criticizing yourself??

AwkaetitiBabe:
Ngwa and mbaise

So on point.

ambitiouschap:
hello

hi

mrwonlasewonie:
do you know whether she's enjoying the rape?

She has a choice but she will rather whine and complain to online strangers,ok then,let's all be entertained

ehn?!

Because majority of people acquiring the highest judicial position are men themselves. And that education does not guarantee being bereft of patriarchal values. There are core beliefs which are deeply ingrained in you since birth and no matter how much higher position you hold in academic sphere, those still remain ingrained. Moral policing and conservative patriarchal values remains one of them. As per SC criminalizing marital law will hurt the “institution of marriage”.Really?? ! “That women shall use the law for vengeance then!”

I can vouch from real life experiences that a huge majority of Indian women whom I have come across aren’t happy with their marital life. They have no other option or are “forced” to stay in those marriage because

Of societal pressure. They have no choice to decide for themselves.
They have nowhere to go because they are completely financially dependent on their husbands
The didn’t inherit anything from paternal side financially because after marriage girls were supposed to be and still considered “someone else’s property” .
Being almost disowned by family after marriage. Men’s home is her only home now. Her own home now is visitor’s paradise for her now!
Marital rape is being raised with much aggression now because women are now voicing for their rights. When today women have options to move out of abusive, incompatible marriages and self sustain themselves, why shouldn’t today. Today many women have options and hence they are demanding for themselves for what is wrong and right. Saying that in earlier times(probably in 90’s), marriages were more sacred is ignorance to the fullest. Most women had no options then, were reduced to household jobs. It was “thrust upon them , forced upon them”, and not out of “CHOICE”.

I have a brother whose wife despite being a Ph.D. chose to stay home. I never understood and often wondered how an educated person like her could choose to stay at home until I learnt that For whatever reason it is ,it was her “choice”. Having “choice” to decide for yourself and be supported with love and respect by your loved ones for what it true equality means. There is nothing bad in being a housewife if it come of healthy choices and not compulsion.That means if a man chose to stay home and wife works , he is supported with for it with respect(in and idol world!).Because , patriarchy harms as much men as women. See men who stay at home and how much they are catcalled or looked down upon.

Being financially independent doesn’t always mean living through a feminist lens. There have been cases that even being financially independent, women have no love or respect or empathy from their partners at home or in family. The whole idea of equality is to have right to make choices for one’s own life and be loved and supported from the other person unconditionally.

Most Women from 90’s never got this. I have relatives giving mental cancers whenever they open their mouth who believe god has made men more physically strong than women and hence they are superior to women. I have no second thoughts that the women in their lives would mostly be victims of their acts. Not just that. What happens inside bedrooms is a hush hush topic. Whose parents discuss their “sex life”! When did we asked women around and in ours lives if they ever did it unwillingly. “Sex” is a very private thing. Though people among today’s generation are getting open about it amongst each other , talking about it still confided around academic space mostly. I know I can still not talk to my mother about it. I may ever ask about the word “Sex” but not her own life revolving around it.

So it’s downright stupid to say that “it hurts the institution of marriage” until you have all facts , figures and stats in place from proper surveys. Find out how many women are really happy in their lives , was it willingly or forced upon things in their times(which used to be mostly an arrange marriage set up). Your myth will be busted.

I read an article where a girl returns back to her home after 2 months of her arrange marriage because her husband used to force himself on her and when she told it to her mother and sister. And to her surprise her mother rather scolded her that “why else her husband had married her. What does it means it hurts. We all do it. “It hurts us all few times”.It’s no reason to not be intimate with your husband. If you can’t satisfy him , give it to him or satisfy his “needs’, he will go somewhere else and that’s how she and only she and no one else will be responsible for her marriage failure.”(I will edit link of article if I found it) If you see the thoughts process here , elder women might have been meted out similar treatment for they are giving their daughters similar advises!!

If you can’t recognize marital rape , just simply declare that marriage does not something sacred for you as a symbol of love but rather life long sex slavery. Calling it sacrament is simply to fool others. People are more for themselves rather than saving someone else. They are more concerned with what if it’s a false case , blatantly ignoring the woes of those being victimized.

If asking for right and recognition for autonomy over one’s body and dignity hurts the institution of marriage so much , than such institutions should go down in shambles. This is about one’s body and the other person has to take permission before entering it. SC ruling shows how fragile the system it . Many may not like it but it does even matter because this is not about them , this is about those who are being slaved down in bedrooms just because somebody is physically not that strong as compared to other and you lack the basic human empathy to understand what love and consent means.

ImaIma1:
But it doesn't mean if someone is not up to it, the other person has the right to take it by force

The mentality of some of the guys in this forum, is very risky and sadly, it represents a good picture of the mindset of Nigerian men. I always wanted a Yoruba, Delta or Akwaibom man, with a soft spot for liberal Ibo men, but with the things I am reading here, it's like I should accept the invitation of that Black American man on my WhatsApp because Nigerian men are becoming risky.

When it comes to relationship and marriage, you have to be what you want in your partner. The kind of person you want, wants that kind of person too. So why then would men want women that are not liabilities, but would become angry when a woman wants a financially capable man?

If a woman says she wants a financially capable man, does financially capable depicts (I want a man to spend his money on me)? Did you ever think, in your closeted mind, that she has a picture of the kind of family life she wants and the kind of effort she wants to put in, and as such, wants a man who can bring in similar effort?

Did it ever occur to you, that she wants to build a power family and knows exactly the kind of man that can help her build it? Did it ever sneak up on you that if she wants to do a joint account with her future husband, she wants a man who puts into the account more than he takes from it? Did it ever occur to you that she promised her future children a life where they are not handicapped in anyway and have the potential to pursue any opportunity with the backing of capable parents and wants a man that can go toe to toe with her on that promise?

No, you probably didn't think of it that way. All you saw is a woman who doesn't want the present you. But you can always improve. Many years ago, I was crushing so badly on a guy, but he wanted my friend because although I have always been smart, due to my closeted upbringing I haven't always been sophisticated. He wanted a woman who was exposed, with a career, polished and can flow in his circle, when I was only a young girl, still in school, no career, not exposed and too shy to flow in any circle. Did I hate him for that? No, I leveled up.

So please, if you don't meet a certain requirement, level up and stop hating people for their choices.

Happy new month everyone

It's a very big lie

Fountainofyouth:
They marry the worst disguised as the best of the best, so why the continuous repetitive wailing

Because majority of people acquiring the highest judicial position are men themselves. And that education does not guarantee being bereft of patriarchal values. There are core beliefs which are deeply ingrained in you since birth and no matter how much higher position you hold in academic sphere, those still remain ingrained. Moral policing and conservative patriarchal values remains one of them. As per SC criminalizing marital law will hurt the “institution of marriage”.Really?? ! “That women shall use the law for vengeance then!”

I can vouch from real life experiences that a huge majority of Indian women whom I have come across aren’t happy with their marital life. They have no other option or are “forced” to stay in those marriage because

Of societal pressure. They have no choice to decide for themselves.
They have nowhere to go because they are completely financially dependent on their husbands
The didn’t inherit anything from paternal side financially because after marriage girls were supposed to be and still considered “someone else’s property” .
Being almost disowned by family after marriage. Men’s home is her only home now. Her own home now is visitor’s paradise for her now!
Marital rape is being raised with much aggression now because women are now voicing for their rights. When today women have options to move out of abusive, incompatible marriages and self sustain themselves, why shouldn’t today. Today many women have options and hence they are demanding for themselves for what is wrong and right. Saying that in earlier times(probably in 90’s), marriages were more sacred is ignorance to the fullest. Most women had no options then, were reduced to household jobs. It was “thrust upon them , forced upon them”, and not out of “CHOICE”.

I have a brother whose wife despite being a Ph.D. chose to stay home. I never understood and often wondered how an educated person like her could choose to stay at home until I learnt that For whatever reason it is ,it was her “choice”. Having “choice” to decide for yourself and be supported with love and respect by your loved ones for what it true equality means. There is nothing bad in being a housewife if it come of healthy choices and not compulsion.That means if a man chose to stay home and wife works , he is supported with for it with respect(in and idol world!).Because , patriarchy harms as much men as women. See men who stay at home and how much they are catcalled or looked down upon.

Being financially independent doesn’t always mean living through a feminist lens. There have been cases that even being financially independent, women have no love or respect or empathy from their partners at home or in family. The whole idea of equality is to have right to make choices for one’s own life and be loved and supported from the other person unconditionally.

Most Women from 90’s never got this. I have relatives giving mental cancers whenever they open their mouth who believe god has made men more physically strong than women and hence they are superior to women. I have no second thoughts that the women in their lives would mostly be victims of their acts. Not just that. What happens inside bedrooms is a hush hush topic. Whose parents discuss their “sex life”! When did we asked women around and in ours lives if they ever did it unwillingly. “Sex” is a very private thing. Though people among today’s generation are getting open about it amongst each other , talking about it still confided around academic space mostly. I know I can still not talk to my mother about it. I may ever ask about the word “Sex” but not her own life revolving around it.

So it’s downright stupid to say that “it hurts the institution of marriage” until you have all facts , figures and stats in place from proper surveys. Find out how many women are really happy in their lives , was it willingly or forced upon things in their times(which used to be mostly an arrange marriage set up). Your myth will be busted.

I read an article where a girl returns back to her home after 2 months of her arrange marriage because her husband used to force himself on her and when she told it to her mother and sister. And to her surprise her mother rather scolded her that “why else her husband had married her. What does it means it hurts. We all do it. “It hurts us all few times”.It’s no reason to not be intimate with your husband. If you can’t satisfy him , give it to him or satisfy his “needs’, he will go somewhere else and that’s how she and only she and no one else will be responsible for her marriage failure.”(I will edit link of article if I found it) If you see the thoughts process here , elder women might have been meted out similar treatment for they are giving their daughters similar advises!!

If you can’t recognize marital rape , just simply declare that marriage does not something sacred for you as a symbol of love but rather life long sex slavery. Calling it sacrament is simply to fool others. People are more for themselves rather than saving someone else. They are more concerned with what if it’s a false case , blatantly ignoring the woes of those being victimized.

If asking for right and recognition for autonomy over one’s body and dignity hurts the institution of marriage so much , than such institutions should go down in shambles. This is about one’s body and the other person has to take permission before entering it. SC ruling shows how fragile the system it . Many may not like it but it does even matter because this is not about them , this is about those who are being slaved down in bedrooms just because somebody is physically not that strong as compared to other and you lack the basic human empathy to understand what love and consent means..

Graxie:
How can there be no rape in marriage? You mean because of the vow I had with my husband, he can come and have sex with me anytime he wants without my consent? You mean I lost my right to say no, I don't feel like having now. Hmmmm. I am married by the grace of God, 11 years now, thank God for my husband. I will teach my daughter to look for a man like the father that will not pounce on her just because of marriage vows. I know men like that will be available in her generation.

There is no such thing as rape in MARRIAGE

Fountainofyouth:
Where is bukatyne that says there is nothing like rape and sexual assault in marriage? Oh she's here already, what say ye to that, ignoring the fact that the story is as fictitious as it sounds, I'm asking generally......

She is right, VERY CORRECT