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SonOfUbunja:
I don't really know If there's a thing like "high maintenance", but if I am not spending my money on her then someone else is doing so, and "he who pays the piper dictates the tune" for this reason, I urge my girlfriend to be comfortable spending my money without feeling like she's high maintenance.

biGDhAp:
D O A

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It breaks my heart that we're such a superstitious & judgemental people. But I guarantee that they will dance to the altar on Sunday & hit their heads on the concrete on Friday..

Simplep:
Wicked world.

Still,i don't pity those girls.

We that work our asses out,are we stupid?

They call for whatever thing that happens to them,free money free problem.

No one can convince me that the lady thrown out of the car just started to “drastically lose weight”. And nobody got it on camera? No one started to film the scene as soon as she was thrown out, just for them to realise that she was losing weight? Abeg.

Buffalo2:
Izza lie. No phone around her, no bag, no better shoe, just a two yard wrapper and one yeye water bottle. Which slay queen goes out like that?

It's funny how you assumed the lady dropped at Ajah bus stop is a prostitute, because she had tattoo on her body. what if she was a victim of kidnappers?. We are saying not all guys with dread & laptop is a yahoo boy, but a girl with tattoo is a prostitute to you. Madness

luiscarter:
Everybody wants it fast, some ends up being used, inside life

Nigerians are so stupid. The babe was sick and instead of getting her help, they fabricated stupid stories of ritualistic & rubbish. This woman could have died in Ajah cause y’all care more about showing your faux morality over your humanity. Even a “doctor” said it’s “voodoo”! Why is everyone assuming she was used by yahoo guys? Not ruling that out completely, but why is no one thinking in the direction that she may have been kidnapped for a very long time and was starved in the process? Those images are really disturbing. She's psychologically damaged and needs help not stones. Y’all are smelling with your hatred and double standards.

Yes

Ennyhorlar:
Is this a true life story?

I wake up to the sound of someone whispering my name. I turn over and see him standing there. "Mike"? I say in a groggy voice. No reply, so I got up from the bed and realize, it's my imaginations again. Mike was my friend long before the Dr incident. Mike is tall, dark in complexion and in his early 40s. He had a good job but I've known him as a married man. He approached me saying," Tochi I like you. I want us to date for three months and we would get married. I was stunned at his statement and politely asked, ain't you married? He said i was married, I'm single now and I want to start all over. I had an issue with that statement, married before makes me ponder on why it never worked? And why it would work with me? My biggest issue was the age difference but as time went on I realized age was a number and understanding mattered most. The next day, I thought I play the detective myself so I asked, "why did your first marriage fail?" He replied," I didn't know my wife so well, she was selfish, she was not submissive". His words awakened my senses. No blame on him,everything was on the woman. I became skeptical to be a friend let alone a close one because I felt he was lying. We kept talking and sharing aspirations.

One morning, he offered we go on a trip, his reasons were he wants to know me well and not make previous mistakes. I declined and he asked why? I replied,"it's not necessary as we could know each other from here ,why travel to the United Kingdom?". I puzzled at his request, thought deeper and concluded this man wants sex and thinks I'm still naive. Whilst we kept keeping in touch, I disliked something about our video calls,guess what it was? He was always naked and it was annoying. I would end the call each time i see he is not dressed up. He complained at it. He said i was not into him. I will always giggle and ignore. He invited me over and I refused, wanted to come over, I declined as well. I wasn't too sure about him. My instincts led me until I traveled to lag to see my folks.

One day i was in my aunt's house and he called,we spoke and he said he wants to speak to my aunt. I passed the phone to her,whispered to her,"speak in igbo language so truth can be said". They kept conversing for hours and the call ended. My aunt turned to me and said,"Nne,i thought you said he has returned the bride price? because,he said he is yet to return the bride price. I was shocked at this new revelation. I carefully went back to our chats n saw where he said I'm single,the bride price conversation was on a phone call. I called him and asked questions. He replied saying,he never told me he had returned the bride price,how I hate lies. I screenshot the I'm single and sent to him,to explain what it meant. He said moving out of his house makes him single. I gave him a warning," don't call this line and never message me". He thought I was blabbing. He called several times, sent messages. I ignored them all and our story ended.

Yes, food for thought.

Blackfriday:
hmmmmm....

Food for thought..

*APPEARANCES ARE DECEPTIVE. MEETING OLD CLASS MATE.*

We had not seen each other for about 35 years. The Lord has been kind to me. When I saw him again - this time at a hotel lobby - he was looking simple. He wore simple Ankara attire. I felt touched. He walked up to me and was glad to see me again. But deep within me I was not impressed with his status compared to mine and poor me, I couldn't hide it. We exchanged contact details and I could see the joy in him as he collected mine.

I told him I will drop him home in my brand new Range Rover and I pointed it to him. He declined and said he had already called for his car. It looked old, a 2001 Honda Accord.

I invited him the next day for lunch at my house. A part of me wanted to impress him - To show off my success and affluence to him, while another was to discuss opportunities and possibly help him.

He drove to Parkview where I lived. He looked impressed with my home. I had taken a heavy mortgage. In fact I was heavily in debt. We had lunch. He told me he was into small business and particularly real estate. I brought up more business discussions, but he didn't sound too interested. I asked him how I could help him. He said he was fine. I even told him if he was interested, I could help him secure some loans... He looked at me and smiled.

He told me he would invite me over soon to his place. His old car came for him. I was grateful to God for what I had. “Fingers are not all equal”, I thought to myself...I was lucky. I worked in a good place.

Two weeks later, we went to see him in Ikeja. My wife and I. She was reluctant to go because she was not impressed with the man's status as to warrant our visiting him in his house. I was able to convince her that we were close friends in college. We saw the Estate. *Okwara Estate.* We asked for directions to his home. Those leading us spoke his name with deference.

It was a simple but lovely home. A 4 bedroom bungalow. I saw 4 cars parked in front. We entered his home. It was simply elegant with a touch of class inside. He welcomed us warmly.

Lunch was well served. His wife called him Onye Eze
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During lunch, he asked about my MD. He said they were friends. I saw a company gift on one of his tables nearby. That company owned about 38% shares where I worked. I enquired from him about it. He smiled. He told me he owned the company. He also owned the estate.

I did not know when I called him sir... I was in awe of him too.

I had learnt a lesson in humility - A big one. Appearances are deceptive. He noticed my discomfort.

Driving back home, I was very quiet. I was humbled and extremely calm. I could perceive the thoughts in MY mind. I looked at myself. Living on loans, heavy loans and showing off while someone who pays my salary is quite modest and living a simple life!

Indeed Deeper Rivers Flow In Silence!

Here's how to Wed with just #50,000

First explain to your pastor that you don’t have money for radarada(nonesense).

1. Book in court beforehand. If you book like 2 months to, its just 4k for certificate.

2. Use your normal suit Bro. Budget 2k to buy tie, socks and handkerchief.

3. Buy fairly used wedding gown on Jiji for 5k or pay a tailor to do white chiffon gown with 5k budget or juss rent cheap gown for 3k(wash and iron yourself)…

4. Arrange for car to use from friends and fuel it or juss call taxi or uber going and coming 4k. (He should not wait, after wedding, you flash him to come pick you up)

5. Invite only family and friends, well wishers should just call or come to the house later…

6. Buy rings please. Very important. Budget 2k for the 2 rings.

7. Give decoration people in your church like 2k to do small design. (Your wife is a member so they cannot complain).

8. Do not cook for church people please. Just buy one carton of TomTom and spray during processional hymn.. About 1,200.

9. Give church small thing, like 5k.

10. Give your wife’s mum 10k to cook abacha and utazi stew for the traditional which you guys will do very early on Sunday morning before going to church.

11. You have 13,800 left. Remember, you have to buy palm wine for the trad…800 for a full keg(after all, your wife’s dad issa wine tapper).

12. Best man and bridal shower should buy their things biko.

13. That your old friend that snaps photo will take up to 3k oo.

14. Give someone your laptop or phone to play small music. Give him 1k to buy the cord to connect it.

15. Buy fuel for church. 2k fuel go do nau.

16. Your money remain 7k abi? Now hold 1k in 100 naira notes and give your wife 1k too in 100naira notes.

17. Keep the remaining #5000 for miscellaneous. One or two things might come up las las.

THERE YOU HAVE IT LOVERS, FULL WEDDING WITH 50K.

majamajic:
I like the coach

he select players based on current form

if it's local coaches they will still be playing iheancho and Mikel till now

ehn?!

There are two kind of reasons.

Two brothers marrying two sister , this is done because sisters will keep family United [no spilt in family,
Myth :women's fight will lead to split in brother's split] ,another scenario is Brother/sister of one family marring sister/brother of another family. [give a girl and take girl marriage ]

Same reason as before , Wealth part comes into play , it stays with family , no girl share given or taken , brother would keep the entire wealth. Plus these kind of marriages are between Families of Equal Social Status.

This is why cousin marriage are acceptable in Indian System It was time tested concept of Dravidian Kinship

Oh please, your rates re not friendly

walexy14:
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very true

Hallenjay:
probably bcs of ur quantity, ds people just de fall hand and I know gtb might treat it because de av d best online customer unlike stanbic . Very lazy idiots.
Now, do de send u the form, u filled,scanned and send bak to dem ?
My questions is d account offr incharge of ur cash ,is he at the headquarter (Lagos) or other of der branches.
I fill imdemenity form at stanbic and I can't still give other through mails because the form was d obstacle, now I filled submitted and nothing change.
Wat am doing wrong I don't know because I know at this time n hour, someone shd be able to purchase a tbill without necessary be In d bank premises.
Any stanbic offr here... Am ready to change my branch close d account down and open a new one, I don't want it read dt I opened d acct from der.
If not for der interest rate, I wud av leave dt place

Worst ever customer service over 3 weeks they are yet to contact me after a phone conversation regarding their rates.

Games played 99
Won 40
Drawn 26
Lost 33
Win rate 40.40%

jedisco:
Good question @op.

I wonder why we people are unnecessary critical of him when he is performing well given his group of players.
Ask those against him who they think should replace him and they go quiet
Let's not have another José Mourinho and ManU situation where we start looking back to reappoint him after being sacked. We know the crop of players we have and our expectations should be tenable.

46 26 11 9 56.52
Total 99 40 26 33 40.40

For a record eighth time in their history, Nigeria came away from an African Nations Cup campaign brandishing bronze medals around their necks. It is not just a record for Nigeria, but also for the tournament. No other country has more third-place finishes in the history of the competition. Super Eagles should have done better than bronze with the quality of talent at their disposal, believing the team was held back by a conservative coach.

There is no "one size fits all" solution, but Gernot Rohr's position be the major issue of concern?

Gernot Rohr's "lack of tactical nous" or, in other words, an "inability to read matches".

That comparison loses some steam in the face of context. Keshi had an almost ready-made squad with just a few additions to be made. Rohr has had to build his squad from the ground up.

Keshi's knockout stage opposition in 2013 was Ivory Coast, Mali and Burkina Faso. Rohr had to battle against Cameroon, South Africa and Algeria, were taken within seconds of extra-time by the 2019 Super Eagles.

Nigeria have had six coaching changes in the past five years. Samson Siasia, Keshi, Sunday Oliseh, Siasia again in a stand-in capacity, Salisu Yusuf (also in a temporary capacity) and then Rohr.

Oliseh aside -- he resigned due to issues with the NFF -- the rest have been fired. And the same story goes back even further.

Clemens Westerhof, is one of Nigeria's greatest coaches, was hounded out and did not even bother to return home with the team after they were eliminated from the 1994 World Cup. His former assistant, Jo Bonfrere, who won the 1996 Olympic gold medal with the under-23 team, was fired as Super Eagles coach. Philippe Troussier was fired. Amodu Shaibu was fired multiple times, despite qualifying Nigeria for two World Cups. Christian Chukwu was fired. Austin Eguavoen was replaced by Berti Vogts, who ended up being hounded out. Same with Swede Lars Lagerback, who opted not to renew his contract with the NFF after the 2010 World Cup. It is a long, unending cycle of celebrating new appointments, then bemoaning their (in)competence before sending them on their merry way.

This unending coaching merry-go-round seems to mask -- however unintentionally -- the real issue. That the complete grassroots development of Nigerian football has been, and continues to be, totally ignored. There are no articulated programs to scout, identify, develop and train talent from a young age. No structured tournaments for children to take part in. No playing philosophy, nothing beyond a hit-and-miss approach relying on an entitled "we have abundant talents" narrative. It's an approach that relies on said talents flocking off to Europe before being called into the Super Eagles, or, even worse, the cadet teams.

The domestic league, which should provide a conveyor belt of ready-made talent, is running on life support, as club administrators push back against much-needed reforms.

As it stands, two influential players retired after Afcon: Captain John Obi Mikel and forward Odion Ighalo; John Ogu may have been a bit part player, but he is also almost certainly looking at the door.

Goalkeeping remains a major issue. Nigeria have struggled in that department since the departure of Vincent Enyeama. Francis Uzoho showed some stability at the 2018 World Cup in Russia, but was shaky after. Ikechukwu Ezenwa is in his 30s, and rarely gets playing time in the Nigerian domestic league, and Daniel Akpeyi does not inspire confidence among the fans. Some say even among the coaches.

Nigeria can sack Rohr now or hound him out. But precedent has shown they are unable to attract any real big-name coaches. The ones they do attract, they take months just to hire. When a coach is eventually hired, whoever he is, what is the guarantee he will spend more than two or three years before being hounded out like others before?

And after poppling around in a fresh hire-celebrate-hound-fire cycle, the country returns once again to blaming the coach for another campaign that fails to meet entitled expectations, expectations without a grounding in fundamentals.

Rather than debating whether or not to fire a coach who has done more than most since Westerhof in 1989 to reboot the national team, conversation should be focused instead in a different direction.

How to reset the entire national football ecosystem in a manner that begins to produce and develop talent deliberately and consistently, one that will eventually lead to a playing philosophy that takes advantage of the in-bred self-expression of the Nigerian footballer as well as their natural physical attributes.

Source: Goal.com

Giving up is not an option.

abimbola74:
A graduate struggling to get a good job . Ventured into business to keep the body and soul together,it's still not making sense.

MountainView:
The truth be told, life is not fair, and it has all been like that, esp for us that came from the middle class and poor backgrounds,
and there is a reason for that, Our parents

they made decisions that are making us feel downcasted right now

The only thing we have to do is to make sure our children don't feel the same so that your child won't come here saying the same thing,
and my child doing same thing I did right now.

"Life is not fair, deal with it" - Bill Gates

"Life is not fair, bleach it" -Asa

The quality of the attention you get matters.

I have met women who love to brag about the number of men that are chyking them. It would seem that they swim in a pool of attention, yet these women are always single or never in a meaningful relationship. You begin to wonder, if these women are getting this much attention from men, how come they haven't been able to establish a relationship with any of them?

You see, it is not so much about the quantity of men who swoon over them. Instead it is about the quality of men.That is why it is not just enough that you set a standard for yourself. You must also make sure that you represent the standard that you seek.

Let's take for example Woman A and Woman B.

Woman A gets an average of 10 chykers in a day, while Woman B gets an average of just 3 chykers in a day.

However Woman A is unattached, while Woman B is romantically involved.

Both women have similar standards. They both want a man who is educated, intelligent, financially comfortable and attractive. But only one of them is currently involved with a man who meets those standards. Why?

It is because, unlike Woman A, Woman B is not just demanding for a specific type of man. She is also that specific type of woman.

She's educated, intelligent, financially comfortable and attractive. Because of these qualities that she possesses, her circle of interaction is more likely to include the kind of man that she wants.

Woman A on the other hand is lacking in either one, or two or in all these qualities and as a result her social circle includes men who, just like her, are also lacking in some or all of those qualities.

The reason why the men who chyke Woman A do not chyke Woman B is because they do not have access to Woman B. She operates on a different level from theirs. And similarly the men who chyke Woman B, do not chyke Woman A because they operate on a different level from hers.

When I wrote my introduction, I made sure that I stated clearly who I was and what I stood for because that would automatically filter out the kind of men I do not want. Mind you, I have not even written what I want in a prospective partner. I simply outlined, "This is me", and that alone helped me to tell the men who are worth it from the men who are not.

If I had simply posted a picture of myself with the usual name, age, occupation, location and hobbies, I'd have gotten a ton of attention, even from men who hate feminists, Atheists and women who don't seek their validation. And I don't care for that.

Quality matters to me, so I made sure that I became the quality that I seek.

This is a match making group. You are here to meet someone special with the hope of initiating a relationship with them. But is this person supposed to be anybody? Or do you have a specific kind of person in mind?

I know what I want and when I'm ready to go for it, I'll know exactly where to find it. So the men in this group can insult me as much as they want, but guess what? They will never slide into my inbox to yarn rubbish about getting to know me. I have already stated clearly that I operate on a different level from theirs.

This is the second lesson from me. The first one got deleted, but you can find it on my wall.

Have a lovely week

Heroclitus:
Now I knw how wrong one could be if one tried to conclude or assume for the other gender

Males aren't females and vice versa...Psychological studies will only give out a theory based on researches whose result could be used to ascertain the probability of something being what it really is...This probability could range from 50-95% but never 100



Yours doesn't even have anything to do with a research,just your solely-compounded false assumptions


You Are Very Wrong

How?