₦airaland Forum

airexx:
It's the same thing that will keep you single or sent out of ur husband's house if they manage marry you.

God1000:
exactly mercy, but I don't know if God will hear/answer my prayers because I hardly go to church.

God1000:
I'm scared of getting married due to heartbreaking stories we read these days, some people are just in hell.

Mercychen:
That is arrant nonsense and total disregard for her husband. To think the man already told you he's hungry.

Even if she was the one that provided the money for the food, her husband must be served first! Before any other person.

Someone like me, before I serve myself, I'll first serve his food and set aside not to talk of another person.

Na una know where una dey see all these chicken brains dey marry.

Sha no smoke your lungs dry.

BullyBullies:
God bless you for your rational contribution. How can your husband be hungry and he gave you money 6o make him food, and you made the good but went to serve your sleeping brother first before going to serve your starving husband who worked through the night? That's a big disrespect. Sometimes many people that comment don't think on their own, they form their judgment based in what is popular in the comment section. Only few people on the social media give judgment independently regardless of popular opinion.

elmagnifico411:
U get sense sir/ma and d mama wey raise u get sense well. Ladies of nowadays no dey treat husband like they should.. Na God hand we dey

BMathew:
This situation is very rude oh, you won't understand until you're married.
I was oppotuned to have similar experience while am still with my parents back then. That thing really hurts my dad and he wasn't a man of much word.

My mum senior brother came and my dad invited him to the family dinning table instead of using the visitor's room. It seems my dad was very famished and that triggers the dinner to be prepared before time.
Then my mom served the visitor first and I took the food from the kitchen, I was placing the tray on the table and my dad approached it, I told him it wasn't for you but for the visitor sir...."He said politely ooookay oh and stylishly looking or something and he left the dinning to his room and sigh hmm uuh.
When I noticed that, I told my mum what I saw and he said he would take the food to him herself. He took the food to him in his bedroom and after some minutes my mom brought the food out for him to eat on the dinning and it was settled. The following morning, the dinning were already set for my dad and the visitor before they call them for their breakfast.

It means so much and I learnt big from that scene that day.
Don't mind people bashing you cus they don't know what they're saying.
Politely call your wife and tell her how you feel about that and If you can't call her kindly drop a message for her cus if you didn't address it it would take the anger to another level and you could start hating her brother for that same reason.
Glad you're a man of understanding.

SayAsSeen:
Sir, my vote of confidence was rightly placed and your last question proofs that.

He has been here since I returned from my trip, let's say 8 days now. The first couple of days serving him first was cool, courteous and polite.

Then it became rude, I mean this dude isn't a guest anymore even if he still was; serving him first always is very annoying or offensive or so I think sir!

I am thinking of telling her to stop serving my food for the duration of his stay. It is beginning to seem disrespectful.


About confronting her sir, in real life-lol, I am not a man of many words. Besides I won't like to be seen as petty or immature as some may say. That's why I didn't ask older friends, my elder brother or my folks.


God bless you and meet you at the point of your needs sir!

BullyBullies:
OP disregard all the mumu response you've been receiving from some of these folks up there. Only a few have made sense so far. What your wife did by serving her bro food before you is very wrong, culturally and religiously. She MUST respect you (hope you respect her too), whether it's her father or her brother. You are her husband, she must serve you first before her brother. It's even stupid if her considering the fact that you worked through the night and gave her money to make noodles for you coz you were very hungry whilst her bro was still sleeping, and she had to go wake him up first to serve him food before serving her husband who asked her to make the food in the first place coz he was hungry. Tell her straight to never do that again. It is very wrong, forget what these clowns are saying up there.

SayAsSeen:
Dear sir, seeing as you and the guy whose post you quoted are the ones who are genuinely concerned or can think rationally; permit me to tell you a bit more.

I worked all through the night and was famished by the time the day broke this morning. I gave her some dough and told her to prepare me noodles and sardine, emphasizing on the fact that I was very hungry.

NOTE: Her Brother was still asleep at this time.

She prepared the meal, split it into two. Woke up and served her brother first in my guest room before coming to my room to give her hungry husband his food.

I was so mad, I ignored the food, went out to smoke a cigarette. While I was doing that it occured to me ask for advice here, because I didn't want to ask anybody I knew personally.

I still don't know whether to be mad, or to just ignore it. What she did this morning was wrong, and to those that feel otherwise, when you experience that and marriage, let us know how you feel?


I appreciate your comment sir!

Mariangeles:
If it matters that much to you, open up and tell your wife that she serves you first before her brother.
If it were a one time thing, it wouldn’t have mattered.
She should respect you in front of her brother because I doubt she’d like it if you constantly put your sister first before her.

Some feelings might seem irrational, but we can’t help but feel them.

Perfecttouch:
this your comment doesn't make sense..
She for marry the brother now..

Why can't she just set the table and everyone comes to eat at once?
Why make the husband inferior in his own house?

SayAsSeen:
Hello friends, I'd like to ask intelligent and older minds for advise about an issue before I react.

My wife's elder brother is visiting my house and my wife has been serving his food first before serving and bringing my good, in my own house.


Please I just want to ask if this is wrong or right or even just normal?

I worked all through the night and was famished by the time the day broke this morning. I gave her some dough and told her to prepare me noodles and sardine, emphasizing on the fact that I was very hungry.

NOTE: Her Brother was still asleep at this time.

She prepared the meal, split it into two. Woke up and served her brother first in my guest room before coming to my room to give her hungry husband his food.

I was so mad, I ignored the food, went out to smoke a cigarette. While I was doing that it occured to me ask for advice here, because I didn't want to ask anybody I knew personally.

I still don't know whether to be mad, or to just ignore it.

I am a strong believer of common sense and respect and her actions this morning lack both! It would have take her less than 30 seconds to give me my food then go wake and serve her brother!

Is she told me she needed money for something and I put my younger sister's need over her's-no matter how tribal her's might be-i know how she'd react and the amount of making up I'd have to do.

I am trying to be very mature about this, that's why I keeping things anonymous?

Besides I'd like to know, I possibly can't be the only person who has experienced this sort of situation because they say there's nothing new under the sun. Please who has ever felt this way, I am very understanding and if something irks me, it would irk every body else too.


Wish I could explain better

vineyardfarms:
yes! ! Yes, promise of hunger, insecurity, banditry, keep borrowing, high cost of living. Your promises are real and true. Thank you mr President

GhostWisperer:
hmmm, it's not really a generational thing. Exposure, education, personal development come to bear here.

Most landlords actually think there are in control of their tenants' behaviour and lifestyle in Nigeria. They think they are the ones doing the tenant a favour.

It's an African thing, from bankers who think they are doing you a massive favour when you come to withdraw your own money.

To your pastors who believe they are the gatekeepers of heaven to doctors in Africa who play God and are as unprofessional and arrogant as a peacock.

GhostWisperer:
the landlord is not within his rights to ask your friend to not bring on female visitors.

About the Gen, there are some areas where everyone is expected to shut it down at certain time of night for security reasons. If your friend has signed that, then it's within the landlord's right to ask him to turn it off.

Also, if na cassava-grinding generator your friend use, e suppose still dey off am sharply for night make people for sleep.

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggarrrr
Isoright


What is wrong with Nigerians

Look at the way so many people are saying it is wrong to put on your gen till 12 am

Wait o....so I can't put on my gen till dawn

2special:
I hate the noise of Generator....All generator should be off by 10pm or you on and keep your gen inside your room after 10pm.

jaeyking:
Crazy people everywhere
When u look at it
The older generation poses more problems to Nigeria than the youths

Staying with old landlords is a big NO

sammyj490:
I went to visit one of my friends in Ibadan on Sunday, I told him to fill up his generator tank because I don't like heat. We went to get fuel and turned on the generator.

When we got in, my friend started gisting me about his landlord's attitude towards him, the man called him one day and told him to stop bringing ladies home, he said the agent that got him the house lied to him that the landlord wasn't staying in the same compound, it was after he paid and already moved in he discovered the landlord was living in the same compound, at this point he had no choice anymore since he had already moved in, and ever since then the man has being given him different problems. I advised him to try enduring till his payment is due and move out of the house.

While we were gisting it was around some mintues past 12, we suddenly heard a loud bang on his window, had to pause the ps3 we were playing out of the shock, I already located the next available weapon incase someone was trying to play funny.

My friend went to check who was banging on the window only to discover it was the landlord, he said why would my friend's generator still be on by that time. My friend ignored him and the next thing this man did was turned off the Gen, at this point myself and my friend got very annoyed especially because i was about to win the FIFA we were playing, had to follow my friend out to see what's going on.

This man bought a mat outside and lay down beside the generator. It was when my friend told the man I was a military officer from Kano who came visiting that this man stood up and composed himself, he reluctantly went inside when he saw my strong face.

My friend turned on the generator again and when we got inside we started laughing about the whole situation, if not that my friend had lied that I was a military personnel this man would have left his wife and children inside his house just to sleep beside the generator to prevent us from turning on the generator...

Crazy people everywhere...P.S we later replayed the game and i lost...

Zorn:
government couldn't handle the distribution that's why it was privatised. It's very difficult to sale power to Nigerians

Adsexpert:
With the rate at which they all commit abortions , and use posti nor 2 Everytime..

Who go put basket for house, con deh run from mountain to mountain for child not knowing it's a fucking, useless youthful enjoyment

History555:
What is it with Nigeria govs and fly over

Sonnobax15:

Same format applies to a woman...if a man wants to know how broke a woman is,just go through her DM too.. Anywhere you see say she dey ask--"please can you do me a favor",just conclude say she broke pass the rats wey dey for pastor Kabiru church.... Because a woman who isn't broke wouldn't have much time asking for favours from men when she's the hardworking independent type...

Nosayer:
I don't think we should be bothered about whether he got the money or not. The question should be "why is construction of flyovers the recent standard of good governance and infrastructural development in Nigeria?"

Wisdomkosi:
One Of The 17 Flyovers Constructed By Gov. Umahi in Ebonyi State (Photos) | #IgbereTV

By Francis Nwaze

This flyover is one of the 17 flyovers that has been constructed by the present administration under the leadership of Engr. David Umahi in Ebonyi State.

Something spectacular about this flyover is that it is not located in the capital city of Ebonyi State, yet it this classy and enticing.

For the past few weeks, Ebonyi State's capital city has been experiencing traffic jams as a result of an influx of investors, contractors, job seekers, adventurers, students, etc. for the reason of the uncommon transformation that has happened in the state in the past six years and a fertile ground for investment, education, job opportunities and more. I particularly observed that Governor Umahi is indeed a man who saw the future, Ebonyi's future, the future of the fastest developing state across the country, he saw this and began to prepare before the time, the time that Ebonyi will become visible in the world map. He began to install good roads, connecting the roads with beautiful fountains in the roundabouts and installing the classy decongesting flyovers across the lengths and breaths of where he anticipated may have a traffic jam if allowed to remain in the originality.

A lot has happened in the period under discussion but I elect to leave it for another day but one factual thing you cannot take away from Governor Umahi is his ability to correctly predict what the future holds, of course, we can confirm that he is on a divine mission, judging from his antecedents. You cannot take his love for humanity, his doggedness, and his commitment to ensuring that dividends of democracy cut across all.

Umahi has written his name in gold and will always be remembered.


Source : https://igberetvnews.com/1409758/one-17-flyovers-constructed-gov-umahi-ebonyi-state-photos/

abudc:
Gtbank is worst of them all. I realised they've been deducting at least 500h from my account daily I don't know for how long but when I finally realised and decided to move all my fund to a safer place, the next morning I woke to check my balance and behold I saw -467.
Las las even banks are now running people on a low and it seems no one can question them.
Oya nw . Make we dey scam each other they go .

AmazingELixir:



I really don't understand....how do some guys love so deeply as in taking a female on a vacation for 2 weeks to celebrate birthday...

Op like seriously how are you guys formed.

Francismeek:
I duff cap for y'all still in relationships,... Baba listen up� women of this generation don't understand the word loyalty, it confuses them, never do anything for a woman & expect her to be loyal to only you... Remember no woman is yours, it's just your turn!!.... enjoy the moment but never invest what you can't afford to loose on any woman. Cheers.

DropsMic:
You are so naive

Coolsperm:
Bra buying gvt is better for us, at least the chop we chop, But this stupid gvt the chop we die

900warriorz:
She's using your emotions to turn Eba



In another words, these Engineers of doom don start to dey build again o