₦airaland Forum

hedonido:
The entitlement mentality and pseudo-feminism fuelled by social media and negative exposure would be the death of this generation of women. It is incredible.

Every idiot wants to use iPhone 13, want to live in Lekki, and wants constant 'free' alerts to be hitting her phone for doing absolutely nothing. On top of it all, they are all psychologically damaged, quarrelsome, and detest submissiveness. It is a joke really.

Marry at your own risk.

You can say that again, especially the feminism one. There is a reason where the place these ladies copied it from has divorces left, right and centre.

jrusky:
Don't give up you surely get one but don't be too rigid or looking for 100% human out there pls such human does not exist ok but don't give up you will get there.

Pls in your quest avoid with passion any trait of feminist, tonto, Anita, kemi, tega etc they are in hundred of thousands out there they are wizards created to give any man high BP stay off bro goodluck.

My honest advice.

Also, avoid the venom mouthed ones as e get why. Make they no call you wife beater tomorrow.

toujurs:
This is what i told guys earlier, a good woman with a good heart and character is very very hard to find, most of the ladies we have now are hungry lazy gold diggers or either very selfish. Look beyond physical beauty, its a scam. The beauty lies beneath, Ladies you see unmarried at 40, Bro check well its her bad character and selfishness that made her still single at such age, No guy will see a good hearted lady and keave her, guys have their own issues. But women own are worst. You cannot be a liability and still come into a man's life to dictate what happen.

You can say that again! But these ladies blame other things for their predicaments and not the real reason - them! I have one here and one is on the way to becoming one even though the one on the way is a very good pretender like most of them are.

karkinase:
You just Dey know.. the way everything is hard in this country so to get a good wife material. Many of the ladies out there r nothing to write home about.

You and him are just getting to know? Wife material don become dey find needle for haystack imo o.

Handsnigga:
Those living in Lagos should please advise, will it be worth it? I know transport and expenses in Lagos is higher than Ibadan but is it still a decision good enough?

Thanks

Well worth it but prepare your mind for Lagos rough life as e get why.

Buharifan:
1. Yemi Osinbajo
2. Bola Tinubu
3. Atiku Abubakar

Atiku. I will always be a PDP man. Yes, there was a lot of corruption but things were very cheap and affordable in their time.

Even if APC brings the most saintly candidate ever,I will never vote for them and Yes, I am a Yoruba man. That party has the reputation of turning good candidates into the devil (not for Buhari o, as we all know his antecedents).

If PDP even presents a stone, I will vote for that stone instead. That is how my hatred for the Association of Progressive Criminals - APC is.

BlackyOne:
We know these truth but when the weaker vessels whom are very quick to publicize the abuse meted on them do so, we join them to cry foul but forgetting Newtons third law "for every action there is an equal or opposite reaction"...

I know that there are some monsterous men out there but to absolve these daughters of eve of any blame leading to the abuse would be a wrong judgement.

These girls are our friends, girlfriends, sisters, wife, acquaintance etc and we know how they behave in real life too but let's not judge them till judgement day comes.

Exactly. I used to do that before until my experience from a lady from hell as regards not learning to bridle her mouth from a few months ago till now so I have gotten wiser as regards such issues.

treatise:
We are quick to condemn the men when we see bloodied faces of ladies but most of us don't have the courage to ask what the ladies could have said or done that led to the battery. The submission is usually "no matter what, nothing should warrant someone's daughter beaten like this". I hate battery of ladies essentially that I have a daughter and sisters but ladies should bridle their tongues.

You can say that again! The experience with my sister few days ago shows some of our ladies are not doing well as regards bridling their mouths these days. No wonder domestic violence is rampant in today's marriages as it is usually a result of a action-reaction - the lady not learning to bridle her mouth and keep shut in tense situations, the guy (which is perfectly normal) not being able to take it.

ImoleNaija:
Toxic r/ship is not good for one's physical or emotional health.

But for Naija girls, they can endure it, as long as money is involved.

Trust me South African girls are worse. But some Benue and Plateau Girls are not far behind as regards this. Infact, if you are not a rough guy, you have absolutely no chance with the state girls I just mentioned.

BlackyOne:
Honestly I won't join the bandwagon to judge, though beating a woman is bad and should be avoided by all means necessary but just pray you don't meet some women/girls;

1. Their mouth are sharper than knives and their words cut deeper than any blade...

2. They are mostly the first to hit, drag and maltreat a man...

But today is not the day to discuss on the above 1-2 issues, let's leave that till judgement day.

You can say that again and as a guy, you can't know if your gf has one as most of them pretend during dating until they are married. My sister puts up that facade of not being such but I fear for her because she is one of them with their caustic mouths as she has a mentor who is a very stupid and daft woman whose stock in trade is this SMH. As usual, due to the mentor's behavior I just mentioned and other thuggish tendencies, she doesn't have a fiance at 30 plus years while blaming her predicament on being an after 1 SMH. Some women don't know with their behaviours, they push men away and blame their predicaments on other frivolities. I as a man and most men will never get close to or at worst, marry such kind of women that can't bridle their mouths. I left my last Ex due to this same issue.

treatise:
My advice to guys is , never go into any relationship if you do not have the shockabsorbers for the venoms ladies spew ; you may commit murder if care is not taken.

Most of them seem to have that these days SMH. My sister has joined the venom mouth gang already SMH. No wonder, a lot of domestic violence is happening these days as some and is getting to most ladies don't know how to bridle their mouths these days and very few guys can take such. Just saying.

nedekid:
Take it to enter the system, you may do lesson teacher runs by the side which might even give you more that the salary. Your cv will also have reference you can use to earn better salary in another school.

Yes! I also mentioned that he needs the experience to get a reference for better job opportunities.

engrajoo1:
It can only b relevant in his working experience if his main course of study is in teaching line.... Imagine someone that studied biochemistry a d was teaching for 10years. Eventually he/she saw a posting for biochemist in a lab or hospital do u think his 10yrs teaching experience is relevant?

You are right that it is not relevant. But you are very obviously wrong that the working experience is not useful. Why? Let us say he is jobless for 3 years as he refused to take up the teaching job, he will have 3 years gap in the working experience section on his CV which the HR or recruiter will ask why. This happened to me at an interview last year. Recruiters or HR prefer irrelevant working experience than no working experience shown by gaps in that section on your CV and that is reality. They want to see you are at least desirable to another employer before them. Gaps on your CV in that section speaks bad about the potential employee as it could indicate the job seeker has some behaviours unsuitable for the workplace. I hope I have answered your question.

Sirchiboy:
I just finished my HND two months ago.
I applied for a teaching job and I was called up for the interview and they offered me the job with a salary of 20k per month.
I am over 30 years and I will be exempted from the NYSC because I am of aged.
I am just tired of this life.
Please someone should come to my aid to help me with a better job.

Take it up bro! At least for the working experience and reference contact to step up to bigger things once you see another opportunity. Sometimes, the money is not all in the career of being an employee. Just my advice and my 2 cents.

lexy2014:
na so deeper life take deny the other time. faith based school only interested in its business. is that what your faith preaches?

Are Nigerians ever good Christians? All everybody is interested in is making money without working for it claiming it on "Grace" and "God's blessings". No wonder, it is mostly prosperity gospel along with their testimonies you see in most churches these days SMH. No true Christian preaching because people are not ready to hear it and you wonder why the country is a shithole and things don't work despite the proliferation of churches? What I wrote there is your answer. The Canadians are not as religious but they do the right things at least while I was there which is why I believe you don't have to go to church to know and do the right thing. But espouse this kind of view in public, our people see you as the Devil incarnate SMH.

Kingcalls:
Finally wissaka is benched... most people don't know that wissaka has been a major problem for man u... people talk about Fred, forgetting wissaka is worse... all inform teams hv a fantastic RB to perform.... man u hv been lacking that for so long and its been a major problem for them.... thats y teams like real madrid, bayern, Chelsea, Liverpool, City hv been performing ....once your RB looses form , then u are in trouble ....thats what psg is suffering now....their wing backs ain't performing... dalot might not be as good in defence, but as long as the opposing teams know he is an added plus in attack , tactics must change.... whenever wissaka plays wing backs of opposing teams run man u over cos they know he is dead in attack and thats y he doesn't get invited to play for England

You can say that again!

greenie77:
Continuing with online classes is insensitivity on the part of the school management.

Real insensitivity and wickedness on their part in my opinion!

Spherical77:
You are right. No school teaches and encourage students to join cultism, bully and assault themselves, beat up teachers et al. Some of these children are spoilt from home. Which could be either bad parenting or total disobedience from them. These bad children will go out and influence the upright ones. Especially in boarding school. You know the school staffs can't be with the students 24/7. They could be doing all these cultists of a thing at mid night. They'd always find a way to hid their dirty shit. The school is definitely culpable for not being responsible and trying to sweep everything under the carpet. Heard this isn't the first iccident of students being bullied. Infact, this particular iccident the school attempted to hid it away from the public as usual by shutting up other students who witnessed the iccident as they tried to explain to them. The school is just after making money. The school management knows the parents of those killers. But because their parents are rich and well connected they couldn't speak out

Boarding schools cannot stop existing. However, a reform should be made. How can they mixed junior and senior students together in the same hostel? Parents should have access to their wards on phone at least 3 times weekly. Senior school should be demarcated away from junior school. They shouldn't access same cafeteria, rest rooms, lecture halls, sport facilities amongst many others. There should be a counselling department in the school that'd be counselling the students. Through that, they could easily deduce what individuals might be passing through (psychologist come into play) There should be mandatory monthly visitation by parents and all nooks and cranny of the school should have CCTV camera


This would also go along way in curbing all sorts of crime in boarding school

I also heard the same that the school had been sweeping issues like this under the carpet SMH thanks to a witness who was there. I think the Police should widen the investigation to the remaining students to see who can come out and say they experienced the same too. If they do come out, that will be the nail in the coffin of the school, owners and their associates and a veritable lesson for other schools like this where humongous fees are paid to nip issues like this in the bud by expelling the students involved regardless of the financial status and past charitable deeds of the parents. I am told issues like this happen in these schools and they handle it with kid gloves due to the parents' status. Well, Dowen did and they potentially could be closed forever. And yes to all your suggestions to making boarding schools a safe environment for the students. However, for me, I am done entertaining the thought of enrolling my future children in boarding school. It is day for me and I will be very close to my children to notice things like this! First warning on coming to the school, no changes, second incident, withdrawing my child to another school where they are safe and demanding for a refund of the remaining fees I paid.

ModelLook:
Looking at this Dowen College Saga.

How these evil young secondary school boys run a CULT group in the school and killed an innocent JSS1 boy.

How the parents quickly hide them from persecution.

How the school are covering the story up and hiding the identity of the boys and parents.

I am beginning to wonder, who is to blame for this whole situation.

Is it THE PARENTS OR THE SCHOOL?

Some people say Bad Parenting is the genesis of it all because if the parents are training their children well, small secondary school kids of ages 11 to 16 shouldn't know anything that has to do with CULTISM at that age.

Some say Bad School training is the genesis. That the school is meant to train the students well and eradicate anything unlawfull in it. After all, the parents are paying huge sums of money for that.

Some say none are to blame?

After all, Train up a Child in the way he should go.

To you, who is to blame in this case. Is it Bad Parenting or Bad School Training

What are your thoughts?

Bad parenting is the issue here, the responsibility of a child falls mostly with the parents as the buck stops with them. The parents have more contact hours with the children than the schools as the school can only do so much. However, the school is culpable here by not accepting responsibility and worse hiding the identities of the criminals (and yes they are) and their parents.

nesgeeek:
imagine comparing u to her ex. Op Nigerian ladies don't worth all the sacrifice u have made so far, try to develop yourself and ur family first, with that there will be a return on investment. Most ladies in Nigeria don't like good men.

You can say that again especially at the last statement! They are considered boring and last option to marry when they have gone through their hoeing phase. Just saying it as it is. I just wonder how marriages will be in the near future with the women and very few wives are SMH.

Confidant010:
I met this babe in 2017 while in school. She was in Diploma program then and I was in my final in degree program.
Initially, she pretended to be everything any man would wish in a woman; obedient, submissive, helpful in house chores, etc.

I left for my national youth service the following year and I have been supportive through her thick n thorn with the resources at my disposal. Sending her cash for upkeep, supporting her during her dad's burial, sending cash to her mum occasionally, paying her dept without her notice, etc.
If am to take into account all that I have spent from her since 2017-date, 300k wouldn't be an exaggeration.

Recently, having helped her in Jamb to get admission into a degree program on scholarship, while I am in Lagos, trying to build myself. The girl is completely a different human being entirely. She openly tells me countlessly that the cash I give to her now isn't enough for her, that her ex boyfriend she dated used to give her more. Last month I sent her 6k, I was really stressed financially, when we had issues, she told me not to stress her bc of ordinary 6K. She flares over very minor misunderstanding.

Please what should I do guys?
She's planning visiting me next month.
I'm very confused bc I really love her.
Pls mature minds only.
Your input will be of help.
Thanks guys.

Quite a SIMPle man!

iLoveYouToo:
Painful truth, I really miss the 90s

I miss the early 2000s, girls were not money hungry as now SMH.

Zion243:
I don't know how you come to this conclusion though. I've met many wife materials and NONE of them has ever had anything to do with a Yahoo boy.

If they are close to 30, you had better do your research son as e get why! Don't be a "church brother" wey think someone wey dey too good to be true na reality and go dey make foolish excuses for the women involved. Ire o.

ufotty2001:
This is the major reasons I don't look at all those old girls face that are above 30yrs.. reason because when they where young they where busy playing with Yahoo boys

You can say that again! Some of them even say because they are single mothers, that is why they are unmarried and have no fiance at 30+ years SMH. Unfortunately, my sister has one of such as her mentors, the future is clear to see for her if at 25+ years (when she should have a fiance but doesn't), she is still making bad choices and moved by peer pressure SMH.

Yinkakolawole:
If you want a house material girl plz marry a church goer & a lover of christ, even if she is zero fashion sense. She go still beta pass all this lovers of money.If you want a house material girl plz marry a church goer & a lover of christ, even if she is zero fashion sense. She go still beta pass all this lovers of money.If you want a house material girl plz marry a church goer & a lover of christ, even if she is zero fashion sense. She go still beta pass all this lovers of money.

But she could be a former h0e who is trying to eat her cake and have it o. Look well and do your research well especially the too good to be true single Soyoyo beautiful ones. I rest my case.

Rickmann:
No be lie my brother.
The annoying thing is that, for prospective bachelors, these girls don't even want to hear you talk about love.

Is there anything ever called love these days? That was circa 2006ish when poverty was not in the country and is a weight builder currently.

Greystone:
OP, the true wife materials don't fall prey to yahoo boys.

Most times, the problem with the victims is Greed.

You can say that again! A true wife material if there ever is is never money greedy and yes, including my sister.

BadRadio:
When you think you've found the bones of your bones, one yahoo boy will just come out of the blues and snatch her away from you.


Prospective wife materials are being carried away and these Yahoo boys prey on them.

Yahoo boys pls leave good girls alone so we can see one to marry.

Yahoo boys dont deserve wife material biko

As if they were never wife materials except for the church brothers that enable their eat their cake (h0e around in their prime) and have it (get married) mantra by being happy they married a Soyoyo, they never would have in their primes. Just saying it as it is.

soulfood:
You got it wrong


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pz2B5T6DdjI

We all learn. My bad.

potbelly:
Fred is a big fooooolllll

Every game, there must be one Fred mistake . Should be sold next season really.

AfroKnight:
Is anyone surprised?

I’ve said it here before. Good guys finish last.

You will be treating her like the best thing since sliced bread and she will cheat on you just to be with a thug who beats her before knacking.

This woman is damaged. Guys avoid damaged women.

You think she is damaged? I call her disaster instead and there are a lot of th3m parading around.

KingEverest:
The future has only one eye now

It will soon be none and not even living at all that is dead because she continues to prioritize big gbola and mumu love over her life