Re: Is It Possible To Fall In Love With Someone You've Never Met?

Only if you're delusional, socially retarded or look much better in other people's pics.

I can't imagine a smart, paper making, globe-trotting kicka.s.s. chick having such a lame, not to mention retarded reason (excuse) for not buying a car - O.P, learn how to read between the bullshyte, it's an essential skill.

Is the use of contraceptives prohibited in Nigeria? How about condoms?

kojeiwa:

If you find your friend's boyfriend with another woman at the movies or restaurant eating together,

would you tell your friend?

Only if I'm fresh out of my own business to mind at that moment that I find 2 people dining or watching a movie as 'breaking news'.

I read 'Trouble Ahead' round about when you decided to give it a try and while she was thinking dinner date restaurant, you were halfway through appointing your Best Man.

No thanks, I prefer living to scheming and plotting my way through life. Existing in constant anxiety trying to secure my future when I'm not guaranteed the next few breaths seems like a great way to waste the present I have now. My life will happen exactly how it's meant to be with or without me arranging and rearranging others around me to suit what I believe to be my perfect destiny.

Some quick reality to grab on to,

- It's everyone's prerogative to change their mind as they see fit.
- The only thing you're owed while dating is curtesy and nothing more,
- Not everyone is destined to be married. Plenty who plotted their way to the alter are stuck in unhappy unions, pressing redial for the 56th time trying to locate their significant other who sees them as way too insignificant to give respect to or a simple damn about.
- Dating is only a waste of time when you're not present in it because you're too busy revving it on ffw2alter gear.
- Default plan should be to live a life of self discovery and many interests, then you won't be so bored with yourself you have to scheme to secure a lifetime hostage to be bored with. And sorry preserving virginity and using it as bait to the alter is not listed under 'Interesting'.

[center]LMAO @ t.itbit becoming Bosom bit, [/center]

Mr. Censorer, where your head at?

Lemme get this straight, marriage is important to you - but you've been showing up at your relationship everyday for 5 yrs and you've never mentioned that little tit bit to him? The mouth has other uses other than smiling and faking humble sweetness, I suggest you go look 'em up and go handle your business like you're grown.

My take: It's just money. When I got it, I spend it on whoever I wanna spend it on. But you say you feel bad about spending on this man and there's the little issue of student loans needing to be paid back. So you young lady are playing Ms Moneybags with money you don't have, and you're keeping some broke asss OLD fool like he's Tyrese.

1) I'd suggest you stop doing things that make you feel bad.
2) Soup kitchens are for volunteering, not picking up men.
3) 'Dating an older man' means 'I've struck Gold, Platinum and DeBeers all at once'. Throwing loaned money at him doesn't appear
on the Common Sense dictionary.

Now, between robbing Peter to pay for Dick and driving yourself nuts over a man old enough to be paying your tuition upfront, where do you get time to study?

Gracefully. And I'd be grateful to the guy for his honesty - Too many men out there making roll call guest appearances in their so called relationship while heart, mind, body and soul no longer live there.  I'm also not the kind to make a man my world, my life, or financial plan, Dude walks, and it's business as usual, will miss him certainly, but life goes on.

Rejection isn't the worst thing that can happen to someone, hanging on to what's not happening no more is,

What does love got to do with taking bullets. Why is he being shot at in the first place?
The only bullet i'm signing for is one wuth my name on it. Yes, I love you but when bullets fly, I choose Me. I love me more.

Marriage isn't always the big payout you get for time invested and services rendered in a relationship. You might be the perfect deal on paper, but her heart isn't made of paper. As hard as it is to accept cold hard reality, you my dear Sir, are not the one for this lady. Respect and command her for her honesty and her respect of you. She knows you're a cool dude and wouldn't
want to shackle you to an unbearable, loveless forever.

Cut your losses, keep the memories and get on with Plan B. Happily Ever After don't live there, try down the road to the left.

Good Luck.

Oh yeah she's ready to get married, just not to you. She's stalling hoping for a bigger better deal to come along, might even have a deadline for that. You're the Fallback dude, the 'Oh well, my knight in shining Hammer didn't come, I suppose this i.d.i.o.t is better than nothing' option. God will speak to her right around the time she perceives herself to be running low on options supply. But since you're desperate, just hang in there.

Are u walking around touching random Nigerian men's heads?

At first you were just some sad dude looking for love in all the wrong places, then you had to keep posting, you shouldn't have. You must like your nose an awful lot hey? Good Luck!

Boy, change your drawers! 2 days? Now you know that's the revised version of your filth, people with embarrassing bad habits like yours always minimise the gravity of said problem. Bet you don't shower daily too, otherwise what could possess you slip into dirty drawers fresh out of the shower?

Sies!

Not asking for the money will put her in an awkward position of feeling obligated to go on a date with you or feeling like a heartless b!tch for looking you dead in the eye and saying No. That's if she's a lady, and not some hungry ho/tease.

Keep your mind on your money always, you're in the business of making money not toiling for pity affections.
You can always go get stupid after hours.

No fart is that urgent, but if u absolutely have to, just simply excuse yourself, go to the bathroom and fart to your heart's content.

*blank stare*

Too busy = Not that into you. Even military soldiers call their SO inbetween blowing up people, and being busy trying to remain alive kicks the crap outta Real Estate busy.

^^^ what he said,

This is just sad: Wear red, insert humour to break ice, STOP! Just do YOU, even if 'You' has got the sorta charm that cures insomnia, there's a market for bores. And why the heck are u chasing attention, reeks of desperation, not the hottest scent.

Wtf's up with all this lameness masquerading as romance? Stop The Madness Already!

Hang on, Nope! Still not connecting the Big Romance/Love dots. But am LMAO at imagery of my baby presenting moi with a rose *Cue some Cheese Rock - Stab me with double dose Insulin please*

My man's 6'4, a fine specimen of a man :-) At 5'10, I feel Petit next to him.

Romance by numbers. Could people just get real and stop with the nonsensical western symbolisms. OP, thee romantic, why do you believe that a rose is more romantic? Wtf is a chick supposed to with a rose?

Whether it's true or not is irrelevant. 'I'm not interested in you' is the message that's loud and clear. Get Gone!

Yeah, am dating not looking to get paid.

When a lady breaks an engagement, proper etiquette dictates that she return the ring. It was not a gift and it would be in bad taste to keep it. Unfortunately, This Is Africa, so it's unlikely he'll get it back.

Don't you have some Tunde of your own to attend to? This is way too much mind to be paying into someone else's business. Go be relevant somewhere, pick up a scandal or 2.

Jenifa_:

lol @comments about her looking trashy. surprisingly, the comments were mostly coming from guys.
it's just because of her figure that she has that sexy trashy look.

I wonder though how she will look when she is 40.

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And how old is she now?