Samantha124:
I think it depends on what separated you guys and whether you were still in contact after the separation or not.

Sometimes it's best that when you separate, you move away from each other and don't get to have any contact with one another or see each other's day to day lives.

Some breakups can be very ugly and never be mended, while some can still stand a chance of being mended.

hmmmmm

Artiiclebeast:
Funny skit.

You need to get more serious with your employment status at the moment.

That is sure to go a very long way in determining how, and what you truly feel in the long run, including serving as a potential distraction for you and also an opportunity to start meeting new people.

Do not ever underestimate the power of idleness and joblessness.

Yea you may be right, some persons have equally told me that, some even argued that I will eventually forget her, if I bounce back with money and a job . hmmmm it really well with me oooo

Married couples who came back to reconcile with their ex and marry please advice me.

I and my gal have been together for a long period of time at a point we had to cohabit. I supported part of her school, thank God she will be graduating few months from now. We separated January this year, our relationship is 7 years older, reasons we stayed that long was because we were just growing up, i was 23 in my year 3 in school , while she was 18 writing her weac. This is someone i later engaged . Initially when she left me and parked out of my house I had to full my hands and watch her leave 7years of what we built . when she left, she couldn't stay without me unfortunately where she went to, she had to call and be disturbing me and I paid deaf ears , out of this she fall into depression and her bp rised , she was admitted twice in the hospital.

She had to recover with different people , today she has alot of different people she's seeing , unfortunately she's actually exploring life now, many people have asked me to let her be for now, though I was her first experience ( I deflowered her), that if she's mine, she will definitely come back, I have tried for the past 7 months now to move on I can't, and efforts to bring her back has provened abortive though we've been communicating but rght now i ended the communication . I have been at home now unemployment for a while now. My career is still young and a very good one as at that, just that it has not began paying yet.

People advice me to pray that God should bless me so I could call her back . Deep inside of me I'm just imagining how will our love life look like if we eventually come back after separating for a while. How will sex look like ? How will kissing look like, Knowing that she must have slept with a lot of persons. people who came back together please share your experience, I still love and want her to come back so we settle down, if you ask her , she will tell u that I'm still in her mind.

I do hear of people who separated and later came back and marry and they're doing fine , how possible is that and why is mine like this ?

immortalmortal:
Check your sim settings and make sure it's not on call divert

baba u borrowed money from those online loan apps and u didn't pay , that's d penalty for not paying back, that's what those online loan sharks are doing now to violators . I'm a victim as well, they send in an imsi coding to ur number and from there ur phone dials different numbers just for them to get back at u , so ur credit will be finished without u knowing, and also too u will be banned on WhatsApp. That's what those loan sharks are doing now.

Josephagada03:
I'm experiencing the same thing too. My whatsapp is always banned.

baba u borrowed money from those online loan apps and u didn't pay , that's d penalty for not paying back, that's what those online loan sharks are doing now to violators . I'm a victim as well, they send in an imsi coding to ur number and from there ur phone dials different numbers just for them to get back at u , so ur credit will be finished without u knowing, and also too u will be banned on WhatsApp. That's what those loan sharks are doing now.

Pals I met this very pretty damsel , I mean she's very very beautiful, tall, light skin with beautiful curves. Still on the pursuit for a perfect relationship that could lead to marriage.
When I met her at the market, she was hawking ice cream obviously it's family business cos I equally saw her mom selling as well. When I saw her it was very striking, I had to go back to look for her, of a truth it was like love at first sight. I went back to look for her behold I saw her and I told her I wanted to talk to her and that i needed her number though I still bought d ice cream.
She gave me her number and we start talking , she made me understand she was into hair dressing that she works for someone that d ice cream business is her 2nd business.
I tried my best keeping in touch with her but she always claim she's busy and that she's working for someone, I begged her that I only wanted us to talk thats all.
She finally fixed a day and I went as I got there, I discovered she was d owner of the place she actually told her mates to pretend as though the had a madam that wasn't around , what an intelligent but as a sharp guy I still knew she owns the place, despite warning her mates to pretend, most of them were still making mistake by calling her ma, when she called them, this gal should be like 22 and she has about 6 gals in her establishment wow.
At first when I got to the place , I was a bit shy having about 10 women around me, she was d one making d customer hair while others were learning or going for arrand for her I stayed till she closed but we couldn't talk so she told me we should meet again d next day but that wasn't possible as well.
Two days later I sent her a text in d morning she read and responded and thanked me for d text and she also made a request that she wants to go for a photo shoot in a studio and she demanded for some money and I asked her how much , she told me that 5k will do. I wasn't comfortable, for goodness sake we bearly know each other , we have not really spoken , or is it a way of testing me, someone adviced me to send if I have that much it might be a way of testing me.
Pals it this a bad omen ?? this is someone that owns an establishment she can afford that money over and over again , what is she up to , anyways i sent her 3k and she thanked me . But one thing I know for sure is that when a relationship starts this way, its a sign of bad Omen or let just assume she's just testing me . pals what do u think ?

After years of terrible relationship I thought that i have finally found someone my heart yearn for. This gal was so lovely, she was calm, humbly to earth excessively beautiful with pink lips chocolate in colour, she's so natural not wasteful , very cultured, she barely demand, she got the curves and hips i crave for, she's really a spec, she's a soul to be loved. Barely one month we stayed I felt loved like i never felt for a very long period of time.

She was loved by all my neighbours because of her simple nature, she could bare hurt a fly she's just natural good to stay with forever I even had to go run some test because i felt she was a treasure that shouldn't be left atleast God done answer my prayer of a wife though I was still studying her.

Pals when we first met, I asked her about her relationship status she told me she had a guy but the guy is no longer in her mind that she as moved on and moreover her family doesn't like him. She gave me her word that she's alone I was rest assured. Little did I know that they were still communicating and whenever she traveled home it's actually the guy's place she will be staying cos both of them are from the same village and the said guy is doing well at home.

Cutting the story short , she traveled this last time she made up with the guy , they are back together again, she didn't even communicate to me that they are back , i found out myself when we last spoke telling each other i love u at the end of the call and all of a sudden i heard sound of struggling at the background her guy was asking and struggling at the background asking her who she was talking to. I had to call back again and the guy picked and we spoke. It's 5 days my gal has not called to say something about the situation. I decided to call her today, someone that did as if I was her oxygen she was breathing , I was surprised at her calling me by my name, she told me to move on, I feel heart broken, I thought I have finally met my missing rib someone that fits in into the kind of woman I want to build my home with, it's very obvious she using me because she and her guy had issues and that was the period I met her. I will miss everything about her cos she was so lovely.

Some of my guys were advising me that I should have played alone since I knew she had someone, that I should be sleeping with her but I can't do that , I can't share my woman with someone else . what if I contact STDs like HIV, playing along will demand spending resources and time I would used to build witj someone else . I guess love isn't for me such good soul left me.

At a point we were thanking God for bringing us together, she really felt she was more luckier for being with me and wanting to end up with me, that I accepted her. mean while I was the one who was more happier , I just feel disappointed I really love her and her nature .


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Have u been unable to pay your online loan you collected, what's your experience like, those guys almost drain my battery with calls , I submitted my dads contact as a guarantor, u know usually they will always ask for 2 contacts , I didn't know a time like this will come that i will be unable to pay. I needed to borrow from one to repay another that's how I got to be owing about 6 loan apps , one is currently calling my dad, I feel sad about it already. I will certainly pay them but not now, I just tire evil people, I heard it's Chinese people that owns most of those apps .

I have received alot of calls from online loan apps for me to pick their offers , they keep calling over and over for me to pick an offer with them despite of oweing about 6 apps already , I never even pay but others are keeping disturbing me. Depression wan almost kill me for d ones I dey Owe. Are they not aware I'm owing 6 apps already. Abeg make den leave me alone, make I face my life.

Pals I'm really depressed , my bp is rising , I borrowed from online app to do small business instead of being idle, and the business income has being very poor almost made loses , and these bank apps don't give good time frame, I borrowed from A to pay B, B to pay C , D to pay A , now I'm owing up to 6 bank apps don't know what I'm going to do. God abeg make I no go commit suicide , they're beginning to send me text, I don dey think and my bp don dey rise, good Nigerians abeg help me, before I commit suicide.

How do I come out of this , no property to sale , God please help me .

Artemis444:
What apps and can you file an extension? I hope it isn't those 7 - 14 days loan apps!

it is ooooo, I don't really know what to do

Dpatch:
Live my bro...I don't want to tell my own past story here..but work towards paying. you have to live first...

please share ur experience , it might help me .

Pals I borrowed some money from online app to do business, but its didn't play out as I thought right now I have borrowed up to 6 apps and the dept is almost 300k , I don't know where I will get such money for now, I pray and wish someone will come to my rescue , right now I'm trying to push my career forward, the course i came for wish is a 6months course , we are only 4months gone i can't even open book again to read, right now I'm really feeling depressed .

frozen70:


For the fact that you are satisfied staying with her for the rest of your life

Pls follow your heart so that you will be satisfied for thr choice you made

In the issue of child bearing, you musnt go up to 4 children unless you love children

So now you are aware of the medical procedure that awaits you any time she is pregnant,

Start saving towards that from now and carry her along so that she too will contribute what she can

thanks dear for your encouragement, I'm currently chasing my license hoping to get it before the year runs out, as soon as I do that there will be inflow of cash.

She at the other end is a 18yrs gal, but thinks and behave like a 30yrs old woman very mature , humble and homy knowing what to do at all time, u might even doubt her age because of her maturity. she has really been a piece of mind to me, I really suffer in my previous relationship.

Also for career , she has been learning chemist before she had misunderstanding with the woman she was staying with so had to relocate to my area where I met her at the market, so I have made an arrangements with a family friend so she could go over there and continue building herself in chemist , as soon as I'm balanced I intend setting up somewhere for her (chemist), that will be after our marriage.

Divoc19:
Every child has the right to life.
Foetus testing is good. I know of one.
I'll advise you open a special account in that regard now so that you won't make any bloody mistake. Good luck

thanks my dear for your advice

frozen70:


You should have asked the Doctor the possible cost of such procedure that's where you would have started with

Then you can compare it with your income

Alternatively, you guys will an adopt a child pending when you can afford the cost of that medical procedure including all expenses and drugs

Meanwhile enjoy your relationship toll you find your way out

well spoken but with a good pay one can sustain it. If u target 3 to 4 kids when ever she's pregnant u go for it , I feel I can do it, my woman has brought peace of mind to me ever I met her after terrible 7yrs in my previous toxic relationship, I see my new gal as a God sent exactly what any man could look for in a woman. Though the money is not yet there , I'm in early stage of my career no money yet, but I know it will come. I don't want to loose this gal she's a peace of mind, first time I'm feeling loved in a very long while .

I and my gal are planning settling down despite genotype not matching , she's AS same with me, but because of medical technological advancements, we visited a specialist who told us that we can still marry if we so desired to be together.

Just that If we can afford the cost of going for foetus testing whenever she's pregnant so as to ascertain the genotype of the child. According to him if the test is conducted and it turns out to be AA or AS, we can keep it, but if it's SS we determate, I have spoken to my gal and we are yet a decide despite this seeming goodnews that we can still be together if we choose to, she really wanted us together same with me.
On my part, I have been in terrible and toxic relationship for the past 4years that almost claimed my life but God served from her. And this my current gal came along and she's exactly what I prayed God for, she's really like a gift to me, since she came I have had peace of mind I don't want to loose her because of genotype but thank God for this technically medical advancement , please I want to know if anyone have undergone this treatment before , what's your experience or experiences

I and my woman decided to go for genotype test cos we wish to settle down soon, I know mine which is "AS" but she doesn't know hers. And we really wanted to settle down together in fact from the first time I saw her something struck my mine that she's my wife.

Getting there hers happen to "AS" as well, at first we were very sad we got home and cheered up. We both took decision to continue with the relationship and future plan of settling down together, please married people with this scenario what's ur experience please share with us to strengthen us.

Medical experts please advice , I love my woman I don't wanna lose her, thanks everyone .

AbdulMagaji:


Sometimes when a man prays to God for a devine opportunity to find a wife, he might end up meeting a woman with incompatible genotype.

This is not to say that God wants you to produce kids that you will end up regretting, but this is to show you that human activities and actions have distorted and created imbalance on the earth we live in today.

A sickle shaped blood is a disease which might be possibly developed by man.

If you have money and truly love her and want to marry her please make sure you select your child within 2 weeks of pregnancy.

Or

If you're lucky that the first two kids are AS then just stop giving birth.

boss thank u so much for d advice, I think choosing my child within the first 2weeks according to u is the best, but medical can all hospital do that for me ? Or it's only specialist hospital that can do it and how possible is it, just surprise that there's that option, this is a great relieve to me and my gal here with me. We are not panicking anymore , pls tell us more. Better still here is my WhatsApp number , 08165859931 thanks pls advise me more.

I and my woman decided to go for genotype test cos we wish to settle down soon, I know mine which is "AS" but she doesn't know hers. And we really wanted to settle down together in fact from the first time I saw her something struck my mine that she's my wife.

Getting there hers happen to "AS" as well, at first we were very sad we got home and cheered up. We both took decision to continue with the relationship and future plan of settling down together, please married people with this scenario what's ur experience please share with us to strengthen us.

Medical experts please advice , I love my woman I don't wanna lose her, thanks everyone .

Bombeverybody:
I feel like seeing you physically to gift you a hot slap. Yeah, you deserve that slap if I can see you. Lemme give you hint about the male world.
People tend to call anyone with balls underneath a man whereas the word "man" is the ability to stand on your feet in times of troubles and a merry day. One of the key point inside the manual to live as a man is NEVER to take a woman that leave you back...under no condition, if she leaves, let her leave for good. Women are the most manipulative being and that's why she told you she didn't sleep with anyone during when you guys were apart, those under our roofs sef still dey go back outside let alone when no one will question her movement. She has gone far and wide in male market and she discovered that the goods she rejected is the only available in the market, hence , her decision to come back to you. You are not superb bro, you are just the last option she can take. Rejecting her is a statement that you are not an OPTION.
My daughter's mom left me without an hint that she can do that, I went to her ,pleaded with friends , she said no. I decided to plead with her to come.back because of our daughter because I want the best for my kid, she didn't give in. While I was pleading with her, I noticed that she feel on top of the world like I'm no match for her, I knew there is a guy somewhere making her happy. I picked up my pieces, as God would have it in my life, he bless me , bought 2 cars, finished up my building ( we were living in rented 2 bedroom appt when we were together) boom, she wants me back, I tricked her to travel with me to another state, I can read her eyes, she wants me back at all cost , she agreed to the trip, I lodged her in an hotel room beside my room , she thought we will sleep together, late night around 10pm ...went to her room, told her to follow me to have a nice time at the downtown club, she agreed, she was happy thinking she had her way back automatically, got to the club , sat , ordered drinks ,she was doing the talkings, while I faked smiles, na so one beautiful olosho walked by, call her to come and sit beside me, I asked her how much , olosho said 15k for the night and if I'm doing 2some because my ex was on seat...I told oloso na only her I wan Bleep, my ex was amazed , she touched herself to know she wasn't dreaming....halfway to what I bought, food and drinks etc, I told ex to hurry up that I want to go back to the hotel room with my new olosho....she couldn't utter a sentence , she was trembling as she was about to open the car front door , I told her she should sit at the back , that my olosho will sit in the front....drove to hotel ,everybody alighted and told her goodnight....went to my room with olosho.
Didn't do a thing with her, gave her 5k and told her that I'm not interested ...she left without rancour.
Daybreak, went to my ex room to know she didn't commit suicide overnight, met sitting at the edge of the bed , told her it's time we go back to our state, she was looking at me like I'm the most devilish person she has ever seen, she didn't say so but I read her Psyche. For the 4 hours trip, she spoke only 12 times throughout the journey. She was looking at me with side eye 👁️ while I was driving , singing along with music I was playing in the car...loads were going through her mind. Dropped her at the garage and drove away.....I texted her this " If my dog intends to take you back, I will kill the dog, I bet you have a nice time with trip, Bye"

Bros, till today , those that know us together that she reported me to always say I'm evil in treating her that way....well it is what it is. We have different ways of dealing with people and that is just one out of hundred ways I can treat a woman Bleep up.

lol bro u wicked.

Pls I need advice on how to start POS business, which machine is the best , I'm just having 100k, I heard bank POS is like 6k to acquire , how much then will they charge for each transactions, any commissions for me at the end of the month?? Then I equally heard monie point is 21k to 25k to acquire then after that it's just 6 naira per transfer, pls which is the best. If I come commot 25k for machine how much go come remain for d business kwanu ....

Pal pls I want to start up a P.O.S business in my area , pls what machine is the best for a starter ? What are they charges per transaction, what are the pros and cons of the business, pls advice me and make recommendations for me pls biko. I bank with zenith, access and gtb.

Pals pls help a friend, my friend's gal just left him i witness her packed her things out of my Guy's house.

My guy has been down, they have really sacrificed alot for each other, why is this happening, I have really tried talking sense into him that he should let go I don't know what to tell him again. Pls what's the best advice for him.

Nonywendy:
In all ur doings, please don't be a SIMP

Yes my lord and spiritual

Pals I'm still trying to find my true Match, the rib of my ribs, someone that will understand and see future with me , even as e no dey today, e no dey tomorrow, someone that will sow and ripe with me , someone that will love and respect me. I won't promise her heaven and earth, but inasmuch she remands with me, life will be comfortable.

I stumbled on this gal on Facebook, she's exact my spec, thick, big hips with big booty (big yansh) lol, young and fair in complexion and we are from the same state. the south south, and i so much like her and we are in the same town.

After talking on Facebook I asked for her contact and she gave it to me. I told her I will love to see her she said no problem. She gave me a day and where to meet (an eatery) but pals i must be honest , I didn't have a dime at the moment, I work offshore though as a trainee coming back home from work, i stayed at home for 7months no work no pay, I was broke at the moment. So I posted her that I'm not in town that as soon as I'm back I will meet her , she said no problem.

Since I didn't meet her at where she said we should meet , I resorted to chatting with her on WhatsApp since I noticed she was on WhatsApp. First time I demanded to know what she's into , be it schooling or she's learning a trade, she responded to me that she's tied infact she needs data to talk, suggesting that I should buy her data, I ignored . I got to understand that she's a women's fashion designer cos she do post most of their firm's designs , d firm looks very expensive not like your normal tailoring shop.

Equally got to understand that she uses iPhone 14 pro max and that's what she uses to upload her designs on WhatsApp , compared to me that uses ordinary android lol, but that isn't a problem.
Our chatting has not really been good , currently I saw from her status when she wrote " guys are no longer toasting me" and I respond I don't want guys toasting her and that my eyes is fixed on her infact that she's taken.

Before I could knew it she demanded for Christmas gift and new year, this is someone that barely meet me . And I responded that Christmas gift isn't the problem ,that I want us to meet so we could talk and know each other then I will get to tell her my intentions. She responded back that she demanded for Christmas gift not a date with me. since I said the gift isn't the problem do you know she sent in her account number immediately.

Pals since then I have not responded to her yet, pals the thing is heart breaking and worrisome , I really like this gal, she's exact what I need as a wife if God permit I will love to marry her. Why is she putting peanuts in front compared to plans I have in mind for her.

I see her as my wife , I watch her short videos everyday on my phone the ones she displays on WhatsApp status , but I will soon stop viewing her status.

This year I will be going for a 6months career license course and as soon as I get my license things will change.


Pals pls advice me on what to do, make I bon her, our conversation on WhatsApp is not really flowing well. Why is she so materialistic and it's obvious d iPhone 14 pro max she's using must have been given to her by one rich dude she's dating or was dating I guess , I just love her. Pls advice insults too is also welcome.

Fancygurl23:


Here is a picture. Not showing my face. Hope I've cleared the doubts of you Thomases? Nairaland sef

Baby but u are very OK like this , u are perfect like this, there's nothing too big here, though I'm not a fan of Brest , I belong to gang of men who are lovers of big butty( yansh), Even though u claim u got big Brest men who loves them big are there also, pls love ursef the way u are, before u go cut ur Brest and ur husband to be couldn't regconize u.

Buskynwa:
Good day guys,please i need advice on this disturbing my mind for quite sometime now
I'm the only son of my father,although my mum remarried after he died when i was still a toddler so i had a father figure althrough my childhood
Now, i want to continue my father's lineage and dont want to disappoint him wherever he is now by not extending his lineage. I'm in my late 20's and i feel like something might happen to me (you cant rule out death as a reality) so i want to get married and have children on-time, im not that buoyant though but i'm comfy enough to afford some basic things in life.
I need advice on how to go about such situation and can i possibly get married and still scale up the financial ladder?
insults are welcome though as per nairaland tradition
CC:
Caveadullam
Ubunja
Justkatty et all.

bro i understand ur point, since you can take care of basic needs according to u that means u have a steady source of income , then start a family what are u waiting for. But u need an understanding lady but they are not very easy to come by. U can't see them easily especially among this our so called modern day gals, wey be say all they want is already made men with flashy car and good apartment to marry them.

But don't forget to pray to God about it for direction, God could guide your heart to a reasonable and understanding gal. You might be favored with the one that has something doing already, or the one that loves business that wants to do something to assist the family, you are favored.

DaddyCK:



Bro.i fukkkk married women all the time & I forked the 9th one juss 2 week ago. They are more loyal, more faithful, u can truss them 100%, they will not trap u with pregnancy , and they jeep secret good. This is why I pay them between 200k and 220k. The one I fukkk 2week ago got the highest 220k.if u want to enjoy married women then u must pay them more than normal.thats the exact reason why I go to weddings sir!!((TRUE STORY)

baba I bet u , u no get shishi to give to anybody, u no sleep with anybody let alone married women, fear no go even let u do am. Stop to come here come dey write rubbish wey u no fit do.

smogia1994:

Who else knows that the man above me here has HIV/AIDS

see another mumu , continue playing

faceLAGOS:
I’ve only sucked an ashy before @ 9th mile in Enugu.

I was scared I was going to get infected because she’s an ashy.

Well, nothing at all.

I believe most of these girls take very good care of their body & are very conscious of what goes in/on their body.

I tried to suck another ashy recently, she was a little scared but the anticipation of the pleasure she was going to get made her relax her pucci for me to suck.

I just lost interest when she opened her legs & left the pucci for me to suck.

I was like so you know you were going to have a sweet experience that you probably haven’t had in awhile and also made me give you extra money, when in reality you should be the one to pay me for sucking the public toilet in between your legs.

She’s beautiful & sweet to fu(k though.

I’ll prefer a wh0re in a brothel than the regular girls on the street.

insane people everywhere, why play with ur life just because of 5mins foolishness. why try to endanger ur lives and future by having unprotected sex, see my man, HIV no dey show for face, U can't to be taking medications for d rest part of ur life, pls desieze from unprotected sex, if u must have sex use condoms. U might even have HIV and be sharing it without knowing because of the early symptoms, abeg use condoms, na beg I dey beg u , abeg

Davizee:
2022 was literally the worst year in my life. All my plans were futile and it really affected me mentally

First plan was to get admission into the university,the admission came but the money to further it was no where to be found.Now all my pals who wrote JAMB with me are all fulfilling their dream except me. When they come on holidays they always find a way to oppress me with their school life and I sometimes weep in my closet and ask God 'why me'. I wrote my SSCE exam when I was 14 years old and thought by now I would be around 300l in the university but I am yet to sit for JAMB in this new year.

Also as a result of excess thinking due to accommodation problem and other problems, I am presently suffering from dementia,insomnia,amnesia, nympholepsy,OCD,paranoia, suicide thoughts and many more mental disorders

I am now a pariah in my environment, church and everywhere

I am very confused and don't know what to do

my dear some persons where once in your shoes , many struggled to complete their university education, many dropped out because no helping hands, I remember many times my dad had to borrow to pay my fees.

many graduated no job, there re thousands of graduates roaming the streets without job to do, I didn't say your case will be like that, some even with master degree no jobs. Be it as it may, its good to be educated but education is not a yardstick for success.

Wen I finished nysc no job I was teaching a guy who had a Mercedes repairing company, he repairs Mercedes, he programs them, the guy is good at what he's doing, but he was just an olevel holder, and he left school like 20yrs ago. He had all the money in the world he travels out at will. And you know Mercedes is a car wealthy people buys, top politicians brings them to him for repairs, but he wasn't satisfied he had to go for university education. Even though he won't use d certificate but atleast for self actualization.

I teach him in the morning before he goes out to work and by 4pm he going for his normal partime class, as we speak today he's in his finals .Though I later left him because of job opportunity I had .

what I'm I trying to say, u can learn a skill that pays later in life, may be when u become a master and earns enough money u can enroll for a partime course, don't be discouraged my dear.