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Family / Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by Zeewirld: 3:41pm On Oct 29, 2022
DSS1335:
I am writing this with a sorrowful heart!
This is quite a lengthy piece!!


In 2018, My wife brought a live-in maid toward the end of her gestational period as we eagerly anticipate the birth of our first fruit after 8 years of marriage.

We took the young girl as part of our family, she was just 13 years old in JSS2 at the time she joined us. She does minor household chores, like washing the dishes, keeping the house in and out clean, that's all. I made sure
her education was not interrupted, she continued her schooling from Js3 till she completed her SSCE this year. Outsiders thought she was my first child considering the way she was being taken good care of.

At 16 years age, the evidence of proper nutrition was so glaring in her physique, the young girl of yesterday was already a beautiful damsel. I protected her from ravenous men old enough to be her father. Even from her classmates. Perhaps the mistake i made was in buying her phone before WAEC exam started. Well, the need for constant communication can not be overemphasized because i and my wife go out for work in the morning. My wife comes back in the day while i return back in the evening. Living her our 2 kids in her care: My first Child is 3 years plus in Nursery, the second is about 2 years in Prenursery.

When her mother made a stop by to visit her daughter 5 months ago after 4 years, she was so full of praise and thanking us for taking good care of her daughter, and begged us to allow her stay longer with us rather than her returning back to the village after completing her WAEC. I and my wife plan that i will take up the responsibility to train her up in University so she can be light to her family. Her elder siblings didn't complete their secondary school!

Today, all those dreams and aspirations have been shattered! The innocent girl child i took as a daughter is 5 months pregnant without even knowing she was pregnant! How possible? I could have swear with my life that she was still a virgin and innocent. Damm it! Where do I start from eh??

Well, my wife was rattled up by a what she called a terrible nightmare, she dreamt that she saw her girl carrying a new born baby. That was around 3 A.M she woke her up from sleep and asked her if she was pregnant, the girl denied it ignorantly. My wife had no reason to suspect her as she always buy her pads for her monthly menses except for this month. Then examined her and her suspicion became heightened as she saw a remarkable changes, her bra can't fit any longer, her bellybutton was out with black line running down! She ordered her to pee and run her test kit, it came back positive! My wife broke down in tears.

That morning, we didn't go to work for the day. we grilled her with questions. She confessed to us that she had intercourse only once in the month MAY yet she was still seeing her monthly menses. That she had a boy friend whom they secretly communicate on phone every day. That she lost her virginity to the boy. And they did it only ones in less than 30 minutes as she came back to check the kids who were still sleeping in the afternoon.

The boy came to visit her grand mother who return from the USA, she refused traveling to the East due to insecurities and rented a flat opposite my compound for just 3 months from March to June. During her stay, all her children and grandchildren came to visit her. It was one of her grand son that lured my maid and took advantage of her innocences.

We contacted the boy on phone and told him what happened, he denied it that it is impossible for him to be held responsible that he had sex with her only once and that's not enough to get a girl pregnant! I swear,i could have dealt with him fatally if he were within my reach. Well, i was able to comport myself and explain to him in details after which he kept quiet. He is just 20 years old awaiting admission. We have informed the girl's mother too who became shock and cold! And asked her daughter to return back to the village!

Considering this scenario, i came up with the plan to make that boy and family take up the responsibility of the pregnancy, she can't remain with my family anymore so as not draw unnecessary attention. I will track down the boy and his family and file a statutory rape charge against them if all avenue to resolve this case peacefully fail. From Pregnancy to child care is no joke. My people that is no joke at all. I feel very bad and compassionate for the innocent young girl who will be forced to sacrifice her future to be in the family way.

Any honest advise on how best to tackle this issue at hand would be appreciated
...I can feel your pains....Only a disappointed parent will feel that way.

Please go ahead and file rape charges against the boy if him and his family aren't willing to put into writing how they will take care of the girl and the unborn baby.

They should sign a binding agreement on how much they will be paying as child support till the child is 18 years of age.

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Travel / Re: New UK PM Is 42 While 42 Years Old Nigerians Are Japping by Zeewirld: 5:02pm On Oct 25, 2022
Munamoqel:
The New UK PM is 42 years old while his educated age mates in Nigeria are selling everything to japa to the UK on student visa /depandants to do care jobs , security and other dead ends low life jobs . Kenya ,Ghana are all having economic problems but are not resigning and selling everything to japa on a temporary student visa .
... Nobody would have known him if his parents hasn't Japa from Africa to UK.

God bless the parents taking similar steps for their children too.... You guys are the real MVP...

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Politics / Re: Nigeria Needs A Youth Who Demonstrated Progress In Personal Capacity - Imumolen by Zeewirld: 2:56pm On Oct 21, 2022
Afro3:
*2023: Nigeria Needs A Youth Not Affiliated To Political Ideology Of Those Who Caused Nigeria's Problems — Imumolen*


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qzZ7Yt_pVyU

As the 2023 general elections draw nearer, the presidential candidate of Accord Party, Prof Chris Imumolen has said the country needs a young leader who is detached from the political ideology of those who have caused the country's challenges.

According to Imumolen, he understands the country's challenges and has the political will to address them which others may not have.

"Many people here in this hall understand too, but many of the presidential candidates may not have the will to solve that problem because they are affiliated to the set of those that caused the problems of Nigeria" he told participants at the recently concluded Nigeria Youth Decide conference in Abuja.

Prof. Imumolen, 39 insists that only a neutral man who has progressed in his endeavour can lead the country.

He said the country's problems is caused by those who in the past have occupied or still occupying leadership positions, calling for a departure from their brand of leadership.

"I am the only candidate who has given more scholarships to more Nigerians than the rest of the presidential candidates and governors.

"I have done that privately, you can research it, I have given over 500,000 Nigerians scholarship. I have been doing that for the past 15 years. I believe so much in education and I believe education is one of the tools that will deliver Nigeria from the obscurity we have found ourselves" he added.

His capacity to lead, and successes he has achieved is his driving force in joining the 2023 presidential race, maintaining that he has a deep understanding of the issues with the country.

He assured that if elected into office as the country's president, he will surpass the demands of the Nigeria Youth Decide organisers in youth inclusion of 50 percent and give them 100 percent
...39 years old with 2 PhD?? Pray how did he achieve this feat?? Which school did he do his doctoral programs Can anyone point us to his doctoral publications?
Family / Re: My Mother-in-law Told Me Not To Touch My Wife by Zeewirld: 8:52am On Oct 19, 2022
Obavoh:
My wife put to bed 2 weeks ago.

My mother usually takes care of her but her aunty decided to come this time.

I usually have sex with my wife 2 weeks after she puts to bed. It pains her a little but I am very gentle with her. She knows I am not a cheating husband that is why.

Last night as I tried to make love to her, she was crying as usual. Before you know it, her aunty started banging the door and was shouting that I want to kill my wife.

I felt so embarrassed and went tried to explain to her that it’s not so. She said if I try it again she will carry my wife and children back to the village and will return her bride price.

She asked me to wait for at least 4 months before I touch my wife again which I promised her I will as I did not want her to report to my wife’s family.

What can I do? I don’t want to cheat on my wife and I don’t want to disrespect my Inlaw by sending her away. She is a nice woman but she is making me uncomfortable in my own home.
.... You are a wicked man....So you no want make she heal?

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Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/Federal Skilled Worker Program - Connect Here Part 11 by Zeewirld: 7:50pm On Oct 13, 2022
Dearra:


Please did you go to the school yourself or you applied for the transcript on AAU website? I’m struggling here terribly. I asked someone to help with my transcript and they told me it’s 3million naira. ���
Is it safe to apply on AAU website? Pls I need guidance.

Thanks.

deaaraa315 @
gmail.com
..Send me a DM...I will link you up
Family / Re: Once Husband And Wife Sleep In Different Beds, The Marriage Is Almost Over ..... by Zeewirld: 7:46pm On Oct 13, 2022
Ilekokonit:
Once husband and wife sleep in different beds or in different rooms, the marriage is almost over and may not last for very long

Husband and wife have no business sleeping in different beds or in different rooms.

The excuse some women give is that they are nursing a baby who must breast feed through the night and thats a fair point but at some point, the baby will stop feeding on breast milk and at that point, the baby can go and sleep in his or her cot and not in the parents marital bed and after some time he or she or they if twins have to go and sleep in their own room and let Mum and Dad have the needed private time so that they can bond if their young marriage is to survive long after their children have left home (which they will someday).

But the mistake a lot of women make is to over prioritize their time with their baby / toddler to the detriment of their marriage. Why go into a marriage when at the first sign of a baby, the wife imports the baby permanently into her marital bed under the guise of breastfeeding and in some cases even when the child is more than 3 years old, he or she is still sleeping beside the mum at night and often times the man has been stylishly shunted to sleeping in another room and even if chairman wan nack during the day, the 3 year old child is furiously banging on the door for the parents to open the door because the child has been made to always feel he or she has to be beside the Mum.

But wives who want their marriage to last will know where to draw the line and give unto Caesar what is Caesar's in a TIMELY manner.

A word is enough for the wise woman who wants her marriage to last way past when the kids will have left home to start their own families.
...Some of you can type rubbish just to form knowledgeable meanwhile nothing dey upstairs....I know a couple that have not been sleeping together for years ,and yet they're extremely close..
Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/Federal Skilled Worker Program - Connect Here Part 11 by Zeewirld: 3:05pm On Oct 05, 2022
Danesk01:
Hello Guys,

Please I need to estimate my chances of getting ITA this year. My score right now is 481 but will reduce to 470 before Jan next year because of birthday. I am worried that this might be a close one. Is there any like possibility of clinching ITA lastest December with a CRS of 481?

Thanks for your response.
...Most likely your score will reduce to 470 if you're around 40 years.. Are you going as single or married? Because I think the two options has different scores. In addition,has your partner written and passed IELTS and evaluated results?

Draws should reduce to 481 before year end if there is no hiatus in November , Candidates drawn remains above 4k per draw ,and PNP nominations aren't much.

All these should help.

All the best
Travel / Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by Zeewirld: 8:58pm On Sep 26, 2022
slydog:

Absolutely not. Apply as early as 2months sef, no shaking
... Is that not like a government funded housing scheme..What's the advantage of applying for it and for how long can one enjoy it?
Travel / Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by Zeewirld: 8:54pm On Sep 26, 2022
seunpinky:

Your down payment as a first time home owner is determined by the price of your house:
5% on the first 500k cad
10% from 501k to 999k cad
20% flat on any house above 1m cad

Illustrations
Case 1:
House price 450k
Down payment is 5% of 450 that is 22.5k

Case 2:
House price is 950k
Down payment is
5% of 500k = 25k
10% of 450= 45k
Total down payment is 70k

Case 3:
House price is 1m
Down payment is 20% ie 200k

Also note that the down payment is not the only fee required to buying a home. You should budget another 10k - 15k for closing costs ( lawyers fee, PST on mortgage insurance, Land Transfer Tax,Title insurance)
..

What then is the advantage of buying houses through mortgage considering that you still pay humongous amounts as closing costs.
Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/Federal Skilled Worker Program - Connect Here Part 11 by Zeewirld: 1:28pm On Sep 08, 2022
cyris:
If you will be coming to Saskatchewan (Regina included) and need help with settling in (accommodation, airport pickup, getting around for the first few days after arrival or general help and advice), you can reach out to us on whatsapp +1 639 916 2466.
...Ok.

Thanks
Travel / Re: Canadian Student Visa Thread Part 22 by Zeewirld: 1:04pm On Sep 08, 2022
Questions way I want ask am nay him you ask oooo....wow o
KellyTech007:



Congratulations my leader. Please I have a Question for you . I went through some a few of your comments here on NL. I saw one part where you said this (I have secured a fully funded program at the USASK, 38,000CAD for the duration of 2yrs. My tuition fee is 8,095 CAD/yr) . Please how were you able to secure the fully funded Program? Also you said something about your faculty already prepared your office. Why are you in Saskatoon sir ? Lol funny Question. Are you there for your Master's or something else ? I'll wait for your Response. Thanks
Travel / Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by Zeewirld: 12:58pm On Sep 08, 2022
How is Saskatchewan?? I hope to meet you there next year.

Regards
Nabby2603:
I'm so sorry you had/ have to deal with such toxic people.
My few cents
1) They can chose to move to Canada with or without your hubby 's input ,so don't say a word about them relocating
2) Express your displeasure to your hubby about the abuse you went through in their hands, and let him know you will not hesitate to take actions against them if they don't reset their brains before coming over.
3) Safe / transfer every evidence you have against them to cloud or where your hubby can't have access to it, you might need it some day to build a strong case against them. Abuse especially against children is not taken lightly here in Canada.
4) set the boundaries now ,not when they arrive Canada o, seat your hubby down and tell him you will call / report to the cops if they threaten your life when they arrive
5) Pray and draw strength from God
6) Get back into practice, make your money, get that financial security.
P.s If you need a female doctor from Nigeria to talk to, kindly reach out. I'm in Saskatchewan though.
Have a great weekend.









quote author=DrFareedah post=116090694]Hello everyone, I've been following this thread for the past five years. But i was forced to create an account just now. My husband and I landed in Halifax three months ago. With a set a twin girls. Making us a family of four.

I had a good job in nigeria, was working as a gynae with a big hospital on the island. However, i was forced to work on relocation because of very toxic inlaws. I can't explain it in words. I've got a deep story to tell. Just one of which is, after giving birth to the girls, my mother in law left the annoyance that I am maltreating her 8 days post partum. She said I didn't cook for her and all that. Bare in mind I had a caeserian session to birth the girls, I was recovering and I couldn't do much. She gossiped and said all sorts with her four girls but i was not bothered, I just decided to run far by coming to canada.

My issue now is they all insist on coming to canada to live with their brother. He's the only son and as such i think he owes them so much, I dont understand yoruba tradition deeply. But I'm here asking everyone to help because once they step into this country, our marraige is over. They tried to ruin it in lagos, but i was very patient. his siblings said they hate my children. Hubby's mom said sometimes she just feels like slapping my children and they turn deaf (they are just 3), Pls what do I do next. I'm exhausted. I hate drama. Cant families just let young couple be. Why do they want to be in our business so much? My hubby isn't seeing it as an issue yet, offcourse he hasn't done the leave/cleave thing.
I have some recordings of their threats towarda me. I just dont want anything to happen to my kids. I dont want them here at all. Please people should chip in their one cent.
Family / Re: What Is The Best Way To Handle This Type Of Wildness In A Kid? by Zeewirld: 10:18pm On Sep 06, 2022
BluntCrazeMan:
As a parent or a teacher to this type of kid,, how would you handle the child when he/she goes wild like this??

Beat him/her??

Shout at him/her??



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E6ZwUbC5ebA
....No responsible Nigerian parent will stand by and watch a child behave so weird ...Better cane go down touch the body

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Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/Federal Skilled Worker Program - Connect Here Part 11 by Zeewirld: 2:54pm On Aug 27, 2022
Backpedal:
I'm just wondering whether this CRS score will ever go down undecided
..It will, albeit, marginally . If I may ask...What is your crs score?
Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/Federal Skilled Worker Program - Connect Here Part 11 by Zeewirld: 2:35pm On Aug 27, 2022
CountVersailles:

What’s woke in what I typed? I encourage you think more critically about things. I know many Nigerians don’t, but you can be the exception if you want to.
..Critical thinker..Thanks ma
Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/Federal Skilled Worker Program - Connect Here Part 11 by Zeewirld: 2:33pm On Aug 27, 2022
TWoods:


Nothing bugs me more than ignorant black people using the term "woke".
..White knowledgeable person...pele oooo....We have seen your types in the past and we know how they end.

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Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/Federal Skilled Worker Program - Connect Here Part 11 by Zeewirld: 1:20pm On Aug 25, 2022
CountVersailles:

Let's get something straight. It's not any God's grace. You were an exception, which is okay. There are many more people possibly in other countries who were also exceptions like this. It's a good thing, an excellent thing, but don't let it get into your head. It's not any God's grace where you were specifically targeted. Those who are in for longer are just like you and it doesn't make them any worse off or any lacking of God's grace.
..While trying to sound Woke...you ended up typing rubbish....You claimed that something is EXCEPTION and yet it is not God! Haba now.....The truth is everybody's path is different and God has paved his/her with success and speed....So if you can't rejoice with the person...Won't be better you get yourself engaged productively?

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Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/Federal Skilled Worker Program - Connect Here Part 11 by Zeewirld: 10:22pm On Aug 14, 2022
NSE19:
Canada please just do another OINP for HC stream (No Tech, No French) embarassed embarassed embarassed embarassed embarassed embarassed embarassed embarassed embarassed

Please now
... I believe French stream draw will happen this month
Travel / Re: Where Can I Relocate To Abroad With 2million Naira? by Zeewirld: 5:27pm On Aug 06, 2022
Gracepikin33333:
Please advice me elders in this travel section.
Niger
Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/Federal Skilled Worker Program - Connect Here Part 11 by Zeewirld: 12:49am On Aug 03, 2022
Teluv:
Good day my special people,
We received an email today from CIC with the Subject title visa Ready with instructions on how to submit our passport, there is no update on our application .
Family of 4
PNP New Brunswick- December 2021
AOR - December 2021
Application submitted January 2022
Medicals done - December 2021
Medicals passed - March 2022
Visa Ready email May 2022

Pls my dear people which fees is VAC Passport Transmission fee and how is it made to the VAC. We already made all payment at application submission. Abeg make una no vex. Guide a learner please.

Thank You



.Congratulation.How is New Brunswick?

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Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/Federal Skilled Worker Program - Connect Here Part 11 by Zeewirld: 7:27pm On Aug 02, 2022
Favouriteguy:
SUCCESS to everybody hoping to relocate to Canada and CONGRATULATIONS to those already here.

Briefly, let me share some important info/update necessary to know while you plan to come or already landed.

PREPARE
While waiting for PPR, get yourself ready by asking relevant questions about your desired place of residence (Province and City). Ask about skills that sells, nature of living, relevant jobs but please never listen to people who tell you about security, dish washing and cleaning. I am not saying these are bad jobs but trying to let you know these set of ppl may have missed opportunities and may never know what the land is full of by believing your skills, experiences and studies in Nigeria won't land you a professional job.

Prepare by learning IT skills or other skills set you already researched about, check job descriptions, get yourself an eye catching Resume that will attract the attention of hirers and keep learning those skills listed you don't have. If you do not already know how to drive a car, get some driving lessons and be acquainted with the best principle of driving ing so you do not have to spend so much learning to drive here. Tutors charge btw C$50 to C$100 (#26,000 to #52,000)per hour whereas you can get a tutor driving school in Nigeria for less than #50,000.

When you get you PPR, do not forget to get enough soup and stew spices. Get food stuffs that you won't have to spend too much on, African food is not so cheap hence you don't want to be spending most of your naira as you arrive.

Not all clothes you wore in Nigeria you need to bring here. Select a few but do not forget winter clothes of you are coming in winter. 1 or 2 Winter jacket and some sweaters is enough so you won't take all the space in your luggage.

NB: Buy a digital scale that will help you measure your bags as you plan. This is to avoid embarrassing moments or having to pay extra for things you could have let go.




.The four bolded are what I would love you to throw more light on.
Firstly, IT Skills. What are the general IT skills that you would encourage anyone to learn? In addition, would you suggest that skills such as electrical ,plumbing ,tailoring ,hair-making and other related skills are learnt? if yes, what advantages would they confer on the learner?

Secondly,Skills that sells..Please what do you mean by this?

Thirdly, getting enough soup and stew spices and ,food stuffs .Do you suggest that one cargo food stuffs such as yams, beans, garri ,Ofada rice ,Dry pepper ,flour ,locust beans, red oil and some related products in large quantities. IS the cost of cargo worth it?

Fourthly ,buying a digital scale. Where exactly can one get the most accurate digital scale? What kind of bags do you think one should use to cargo the goods and for boarding?

In conclusion, for clothing. Assuming one is not coming in winter.Do you think it is ok to come with a lot of clothes?
Politics / Re: Yakubu Dogara And Babachir Lawal Visit Governor Wike (Pictures) by Zeewirld: 7:15pm On Jul 30, 2022
vicdom:


https://www.channelstv.com/2022/07/30/babachir-lawal-dogara-meet-with-indispensable-wike-for-inclusive-nigeria/
..Dogara and the grasscutter called Babachir were calculating that Tinubu would nominate one of them as his VP. Sadly,Tinubu wise pass that....That is why both of them are very angry.....
Travel / Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by Zeewirld: 11:03pm On Jul 29, 2022
TheCongo2:


All you will need to do is to walk in a school for enrolment. Most likely the school board will recommend to enrol him in a school near your home address. But it isn’t always the case.

Will your 5 year old be 6 by the time you land ?
If he will be less than 6, you will have to enroll him in kindergarten which is also free
...Please can a three year old child attend kindergarten?

Thank you
Family / Re: A Thread For 2018 Brides And Grooms To Be. by Zeewirld: 1:38pm On Jul 27, 2022
slydog:
I'm joining this thread by faith that I will find a good wife and get married next year, so help me God
..You are indaboski ! you a man of faith. More success to you

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Programming / Re: Mass Resignation Of Software Engineers Disrupts Banks Digitisation Move by Zeewirld: 1:12pm On Jul 27, 2022
slydog:
I worked in the banking industry for 9years as a relationship manager.
In March this year, I asked my boss to nominate me for sack (when you are sacked they pay you a few millions depending on your level).
The day the sack list came was the day Canada stamped my passport. I arrived Canada last month, I'm resuming work on the 2nd of next month (on my 59th day in Canada) as a credit analyst in one of Canada big 3 banks. My annual pay is a $65,000 not a bad start at all. People with $100k combined income (husband and wife) are buying houses here and there.
I encourage every banker to run away.
...Congratulations Bros....You still in Sask?? What opportunities are there for persons with banking experience and AML/CFT background.

Additionally , can I DM you?

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Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/Federal Skilled Worker Program - Connect Here Part 11 by Zeewirld: 1:03pm On Jul 25, 2022
tshtsh:

I also noticed that more people with high scores are joining the pool daily. Hopefully if draws remain regular and the number of invitations sent out increases the cut-off will drop to below 500 before the year runs out
.

Let's do small maths using CIC Gradual increments as a basis of calculation ...Assuming the gradual increase continues at 250 each..We will be talking of circa 4,500 invites in August , 5,250 invites in September , 6,250 in October , 7,250 in November and 8,250 in December . That should be a total of 31,250 .I learnt the total FSW target for this year is around 45k.

Note that PNPs with EE linked will be issuing nominations too...As at July 20,2022...The number of persons above 500 is more than 9k ...That figure will definitely increase over the months.

Let's be realist while being optimistic.....I believe and agree with you that the points might drop below 500 but I doubt if it will drop below the 480 marks...

Everything good is possible !

So do your calculations.

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Romance / Re: My Babe Is Too Clingy by Zeewirld: 6:29pm On Jul 22, 2022
Brightw278:
Who else is having issues with a clingy girl. I have been in a relationship with my girl for sometime, everything has been going on fine a good girl and all you can desire in a lady.

The issue here is she is so clingy, I mean it’s good to be clingy but I think this one is extreme. The nature of my job make me leave house very early and come back late at night. Before I wake up she is calling me, at work she is calling, when I’m back she would have given me 10 missed calls.

We talk everyday, but sometimes a man just want sometime to himself, and if I miss just a call I will have to Dey/dx the reason for missing that call, not to talk of the explanations. Every missed calls is always a potential cheating scenario to her. She monitors my movement as Bleep, I have to tell her where I’m going, when I’m coming, even if I’m going to the rest room and I did not tell her she flare up.

I don’t think of settling with anybody else as this is only her flaw but how do I reduce this, it’s affecting me a lot, if I’m out with freinds she wants to know them, can’t even speak to femal colleagues at work anymore. How do I go about this m, she is a sweet person.

For the records I have never cheated on her before, she checks my phone from time to time too any chat with a female colleague and she is already suspecting me not until I open up the chats for her to read the contents and see we have nothing together. How do you all handle clingy girls it should not look like I’m overreacting


Have you bothered to look into the future and imagine what life will be in say 10 years down the line with her? Hopefully, that is assuming you married her ooo....In ten years, you should have children, moved up in your career and both of you might not been seeing each other often....Have you bothered to imagine what she would turn out to be then, if she is this terrible now

You are playing with fire.....

Most times,women acts before they think...This one might even poison you before she even remember the good things that you had done for her...just because she suspected you or even catch you.

A word is enough for the wise sha

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Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/Federal Skilled Worker Program - Connect Here Part 11 by Zeewirld: 12:57pm On Jul 22, 2022
bekayy:
If someone’s score is in the 470, 480s. ITA may still be possible. If it’s lower then I truly don’t know and PNP would seem like the viable option.

..Any one below 480 should just target PNP or other means this year.....They might stand a better chance say from next year sha....but I doubt same for this year.

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Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/Federal Skilled Worker Program - Connect Here Part 11 by Zeewirld: 3:04pm On Jul 21, 2022
bekayy:
Thank GOD for the draws. If it continues like this, by the end of the year, many of us here would have gotten ITA. Canada next year. Amin.

Make sure your documents are ready so you do not waste time with submission.

Shalom.
In the process of being optimistic ...it is still great to be realist too o
Travel / Re: MOTIVATION | DEMOTIVATION - Immigrating To Canada - Our Story So Far by Zeewirld: 2:58pm On Jul 21, 2022
1nairaland1:
Update

I cannot believe that it's been over 1 since I last updated this thread.

Well, a lot of things have happened over these months. Like Biggie would say - it's been topsy turvy.

Summarily, I got relieved by my company in June 2021. That was after they have kept me on payroll for about 6 months and were unable to close another project they were lining up for me. Although there was no project for me at the time, the company kept paying me over 11,000 monthly and also paid for some of my exams within the period.

During my exit meeting, the company were very sorry that they are letting me go. They mentioned that they will like to have me as one of their contractors, so that when the projects they are chasing comes through, we can reengage and I will deliver the projects as a contractor for them. I accepted the offer and after some coupe of days, they sent me a contract for retainership.

I was in the job search market for 2 months, doing tons of interviews, rejecting many offers they do not align with my expectations and also not getting offers for some jobs I so desired.

During the job search period, I was earning stipends from my employment insurance account - over 2,000 dollars monthly. So that was able to care for some of my bills while I compensated with my savings.

In August, we moved into our new family home we bought in April 2021. Incidentally I also got a job offer in August ending following an interview with the hiring manager. It was the only interview I have ever had with a woman as the hiring manager. During the interview, she asked me how much I would like for the role, I told her I am open and flexible. She insisted that I mention my desire. I told her somewhere between $90,000, $100,000 or $110,000 (This were lower than my previous job which paid me over 135k. I went this way because she appeared to be a very nice soft spoken woman who incidentally looked like the notorious Monalisa, for those who know the Monalisa painting and most importantly because I have been out of work for about 2 months and needed a new job to get going towards my financial goals). She said she really enjoyed my time with her and will hire me for $120,000.

Well, it seemed like a beautiful start until I started and found out that this woman was a toxic woman with a whole lot of issues and sensitivities. Disappointingly, I was hired to start doing things I had little skills for and things that were not in the job description. This put me under undue pressure before my manager. My attempts to explain issues and challenges were not taken easily by her. Damn! See me see wahala for oyibo female manager hand.

I remember one funny experience I had with her. When I was employed, I was the only male in the team of 4. So few weeks in, she hired a senior folk in the team. During the introduction, I made one careless comment that "it's nice having someone I could discuss about 'men in cybersecurity' with". Women In Cybersecurity was a constant conversation within the team. Well, during my one-on-one meeting with my manager, she brought my attention to my statement about 'men in cybersecurity', and how that violates corporate policy and shows that I am incapable of working with women. hahahahaha! Wahala raised to power 2. I immediately went into defensive mode - explaining how harmless the thoughts were in my mind and how I have many women around me, so working with women was not any sort of issues with me. After all the rambling and defenses, she mentioned that she'll not report me to HR for the statement but I should apologize to the other females in the team, as they felt my expression were offensive to them.

I spoke with one of the females who was more like a handbag to my manager and she accepted the apology. I spoke with another female employee who was surprised that the manager felt that way with such harmless joke. She said I don't need to apologize, that it was a bit extreme for the manager to come down hard in that way.

Well, I got fired from the job in October. I felt very great relief leaving the job, it was like a heavy weight was lifted off my shoulders. One unfortunate thing with many of us as Nigerian immigrants, especially those who are new is not knowing when to quit for mental wellness reasons. I should have resigned when I found out that the environment does not suite my personality, before more pressures started piling up. This is what a typical smart person would have done - I was still culturally naïve. Once the pressure starts piling up, it may likely get worse.

Three months after I was fired my my Monalisa manager (Karen is her real name - there seem to be something about that name), I saw that the senior architect that was employed had changed his LinkedIn status to "Open to Work", and was commenting on some LinkedIn job postings. I reached out to another former employee who was concerned with my managers' actions and she told me she also left the company - as she had worse experience with the manager and I was lucky I left earlier. This gave me some mental relief, as I really questioned my capabilities and actions leading to my unfortunate experience.

Well, in November, I got tons of offers from the many interviews I was doing the past couple of months. I picked one of those offers paying over $120,000 + numerous benefits and started up immediately.

In December, my previous employer who I signed retainership with came back that they have successfully signed the project contract they were working on and want to present me for interview with their client - one of the biggest software development company in Canada. They asked me how much I need for the role. I told them $150 per hour. The manager I was speaking with said the customer's budget is $130 per hour and I should understand that they need to also earn revenue from that budget. I ended up charging them $120 per hour and I did the interview and was cleared to start the project in mid-January. Mid-January, they came back that the customer was not ready, that they need to move by one week. After the one week, they asked for February start and I told them that I cannot move the date and any further move will be charged in full - which I did until the customer was ready.

Since this will be a 13 months contract, I decided to keep it as a second job. I calculated the revenue from the job for the period and couldn't say no. That was like $960 daily or $20,000+ monthly. The 2 jobs have been progressing well so far.

In March, I got another recruiter persuading me to take his contract job which will add another $90 per hour to my wallet. I spoke with someone who worked with the client and mentioned that the job does not have too much pressure with it. I said YES! Remember I mentioned about someone who was doing 4 jobs and collecting $2,400 daily? I started the job and the dolls and trickling in gradually.

Like play like play - looks like my income monthly is over $45,000. That is over 22,000,000 naira monthly - you can do the annual math with the present exchange rate, which keeps getting higher everyday. The hunger for more is not going away. The new plan I have is to get into jobs that are not too hectic or demanding and would afford me more time to add another job to my plate. I am currently interviewing to fulfill that dream.

I met one Nigerian fella last weekend who told me that he knows another Naija fella doing 4 jobs as well, so many folks are really hitting it this time around.

I chose to update this thread today to motivate someone - to motivate you to keep your hands on your immigration plough - do not tire out no matter how difficult it seems.

I read about a twitter/nairaland thread about a big man earning 24,000,000 naira annually who left that along with his wife's good paying job to immigrate to masters and possibly immigration reasons. I think those who are kicking against the man are possibly blinded by the possibilities that lay ahead for that man and his family. People immigrate for many different reasons, so no need bashing the man. If you condemn him for leaving the 24,000,000 naira annual job to immigrate, be assured that he stands a chance to earn tons of money over what he's leaving behind, coupled with a lot of positives that come with living abroad.


Thanks for coming around to update us on what is happening in your life. it is a great sort of encouragement for us all. Are you based in Ontario? what would you advice those that might be desirous of transitioning to IT?

Warm regards.
Travel / Re: Canadian Express Entry/Federal Skilled Worker Program - Connect Here Part 11 by Zeewirld: 2:39pm On Jul 20, 2022
confidential20:
Hello guys, I have been trying the Saskatchewan PNP program in a while and just if recent I got a request to upload much more information and also was requested to make a payment of 350 CAD. To the best of my knowledge regarding Saskatchewan PNP, I know it's only when you get a nomination that you will be required to make the 350 CAD payment. This is making me a bit confused. Does it mean I have been nominated or that's the new changes when submitting an Expression of Interest? Please anyone abreast with recent changes should please enlighten me . Cheers*
..You have been nominated.What is your score and NOC?
Travel / Re: Living In Saskatchewan, Canada by Zeewirld: 1:38pm On Jul 14, 2022
slydog:


In Regina, love the place, small, can get around in minutes, 2bedroom got for $795 per month, can apply for Regina housing that can cut my rent bill by 50%, heard they have income support too, don't know if I should apply now.
Got a nice Honda civic too, 3700
However, I've been doing lots of interviews, but only one in Regina- Brandt. U can't compare job opportunities here to that in Alberta, however the place is nice
...Thanks..What about business opportunities there..Can one start a hair business there and grow it sustainably?

What kind of jobs are really available in there?

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