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with my shoes on,its far safer
I know some ladies who do without them.
my hubby discouraged me from going shoeless

MsJackson:
. Maybe it's because no child. AM I GOD? had I know... #sobs#

ogar o!
why are you attributing all of their bad behavior to yourself
my dear you need to cut yourself some slack and enjoy your life
all these people are adults o !
you need a break from this environment fast
self love will help you and your family too!

aswear vedax you dey craze wish one be yoot again
[ quote author=vedaxcool post=44321056]

Na harmless questions dey cause harmful problems. our yoots no dey find this question funny.[/quote]

Dyt you made me lol!
hmmmm
I guess I am one of the lucky few
nothing particularly weird, but I will leave this here
so the OP will have the other side of the coin
I was having a filled day with the sound of other ladies
but couldnt laugh because I had no idea how mine will be
after 16 abi na 18 hours of labour
mine came on and off
infact i was sleeping deeply in between labour
when the contraction came , hubby will rub my back
when it stops i fall right back asleep
it was a teaching hospital with their '' yeye no male law'' and I was the only one in my labour ward
so he could sneak in when I need before he is caught
I could hear all sort of screams from the other labour ward close to mine!
when I started feeling poo poo I just called the nurse
unfortunately for me another woman in labour was already
in the same ward as me so my hubby couldnt enter e pain me ehen
According to him he said he just heard a loud hmmmmm and
boom Our son was born
me sha after I heard the nurse say yes the head is out
na deep sleep o!
I just heard them say
madam what do you have I said baby boy
then placenta came out with little effort.
I just felt one kin' relieve so unexplainable!
my next delivery I so want to try water birth
I wish myself luck with that

cc
tearoses
damiso
edwife
and others
make una come hep a Uk brother

you don com o!
which one be nack head for ground again
ROTFL!

Chillisauce:
While some dey church dey nack head for ground for a man.

Go girl! Abi na woman .

You sure know what you want and how to get it.

chukxie:
My Jessy

Chukxie your Jessy is cute
But better tell me true now before I go tell all the south west ladies say you no do made in Nigeria chai!

No be SIWES you say you dey do ni!
if you like am oya,
if not interested I dont see any problem with that because its just an Industrial Attachment that will be over before you know it

Funkychic:
Barely a month i got employed in a Microfinance bank for my SIWES, and my boss seriously wants a relationship with me!. Though, he's cute and handsome, but i can't just imagine dating someone working in d same organisation with me, not to talk of my boss. I av turned him down severally, but he has refused to take MY NO for an answer. ...what do i do to wave him aside and it wouldn't affect my job? I seriously need ur suggestions pls

medview is a sure choice, aero has 1
million issues

ori -shearbutter ( just rub on the breast and tips) will soothe you just fine
trust me when i say you did not put all your nipple almost to the areola in the kiddos mouth
I had this issue with my first but when my sweet MIL put the breas.t in properly I knew the difference
like you I was damn sure I was doing it correctly.
watch videos on it and make sure baby's mouth is properly open because if its not fully open the baby will quickly catch nipples only and it will keep hurting you kpele

NoQualms1:
Mamas, please come to my aid. I'm having sores and pains in my nipp.les, I dread breastfeeding now and I'm already thinking of introducing formula. I've done everything I know could be done. I couldn't find Lasinoh nipple cream in my area. I don search tire. Please I need fast solution, I'm loosing it o. I'm in pain o.

Are there mamas that don't go through this? Please what's the secret? It was like this with my first too and it didn't stop till I stopped breastfeeding. On top all the correct latching and Co.

we share same views on this medicine , Men I have a friend that has a fridge full of kids medicine back home
she was surprised when she asked me for common paracetamol i no get to give , her reason was her son has played too much and has slight temperature
hmmmm
me sha I be home remedy fan because I be ''Omo granny''

Onegai:
Paracetamol (either Calpol (Ibuprofen) or Infant Tylenol (Acetaminophen) or a good brand), bandages, Methyl spirit 70%, plaster, Neosporin, maybe a multivitamin. But the most important thing I'll tell you is: ASK YOUR PAEDIATRICIAN. Because I (and other mamas) don't know what challenges your baby may have medically. Those I listed are the basics, but before you dish out any drug, please ask your doctor. Not a pharmacist (because my pharmacist sister won't answer me unless the Doctor siblings have given an answer), but your own doctor. Who knows and treats your child.

I don't have a cabinet of drugs. I know someone who (because her husband had access to drugs) ended up in the hospital all in the name of popping meds that she didn't fully understand. what I'd get is a first aid kit, because I know kids hurt themselves by falling and playing, not drugs (that an inquisitive toddler will swallow as play and you end up crying in the hospital). That's just my opinion, I'm sure everyone feels differently.

cococandy:
Oya leave her make we hear word.

seun should do something about this tribalist, kill and divide title of threads here abeg. the title is too provoking
meanwhile R.I.P to the dead ritualist no dey select tribe.hmmmmm foolish people

Rome was not built in a day
Nigerians learn to promote and appreciate your own
no one will ever do it for you!
meanwhile my street light is not all white some are yellow tooo

TonySpike
thank you for bringing the home truth bare!
it is unfortunate that the majority will not read this pieces as explicit as it is!
we started moving backward as a nation when "Our History" lost its place
in our education system!
thank you for this!!!
it is only us that can save this nation of ours , indeed our oldies failed us chai!

edwife abeg wia you dey get all this gifs

edwife:
What is all this?

https://img.pandawhale.com/149533-penguin-hitting-jake-and-elwoo-2uGY.gif

and here I am praying for twins make I close shop !!!
na wa.

on reading further
you seem to attack people
that are here to advise you
not good at all!
have a rethink and retrace your steps

op

just straight advise because I am truly suprised you waited this long
to give yourself headway.
NEVER EVER EXPECT
ANYTHING FROM ANYONE!!!
It is clear your expectation
made you too relaxed!!!
follow Menix advise by enjoying the chores you
do for your aunt and ask for more, you
will at least have peace and roof over your head
IMPORTANTLY
go and get a job
it baffles me to no end seeing young guys and girls
not taking pride in earning their bread
get a job and be humble , you will get help beyond your expectation.
lastly YOU and only YOU
are responsible for yourself and what you get
out of life!

I stated clearly that my physical presence not needed...
Our understanding of SAHM is highly varied I guess.

bukatyne:
How can you be a SAHM if you have businesses by the side?

Msgr z★

damiso:
Money is the common denominator in the Nigerian context and my hubby has had it implied that he was being lazy because he said he won't take a job that gives him little or no time to see his children.

you have said it all my sister

let family A do what works for them and family B do same.
no comparison at all!

interesting topic and mature contributions
I am presently a SAHM ! ok 70 percent of the time
its hard and its going to continue this way for the next couple of years
it is my personal decision and am glad I made it.
it's true women go through shit!
but its not all bad for everybody
since my being SAHM, I have never have to ask my hubby for a dime because he knows what
we utililise and i get that plus extra for miscellenous spending
he trust me more than himself with finances because am usually practical and thorough.

Nairaland make SAHM sound like a wife goes cap in hand asking
for money from her man
that has never been the case for me at least!
and I am aware of bad cases.
My 2 kobo sha to any woman planing to SAHM
have a solid finanacial back up plan incase anything goes wrong.
Meanwhile byvan03 you got me rolling on the floor with laughter.


personally I have businesses that run successfully without me being there physically,

jazakallahu khayran!!!
enlightening and refreshing indeed

queenfav

your mama is a heroine, yes na me talk!!!
see the beautiful person she brought up
more grease to your elbow
and happy married life to you and the one you love

Realberry:
Happily married oshi..Does that even exist?..I'm 21 now and I'm yet to see a couple that lives happily...Even the ones that act all cozy and warmy outside are lying and pretending!..My house(it's not a home for me) is a living hell,I was born into it and until this moment,nothing has changed..Same goes for all the families I've ever come across..Do not be decieved,marry only when you've learnt taekwando like my mum and boxing like my dad..That is all there is to marriage,nothing more!

so sorry darling!
this is what we are saying women keep enduring rubbish in the name
of marriage , growing children in toxic environment !!!
and this same women keep saying is for my children ,
now see how screwed this lady is because of here parents decision
dear Realberry,
they are sweet marriages, condusive homes and lovely families all together
open your mind and see the big picture throw away this notion of boxing ring abeg
so the circle of boxers will not continue.
i am so emotional right now.
so sorry dear you deserve better.

ClassicQueen:
One of the wives is doing that right now whenever the woman insult her or scold her for what she didnt do wrong, she will just kneel down immediately pleading with her not to be angry you can imagine the rubbish. Whenever this woman have issues with me, the sad part is that she wont confront me and say oya this thing you did is wrong next time, do it this way etc, instead she will go behind my back and tell some other members of the family, adding pepper and salt to it those ones will now call me on fone sayin Ms A why did you do this? its not good o next time dont do it o. When next we meet, she will just lock up as if nothing happened feeling bitter but cant voice out to me you can imagine the rubbish all these things is what i am trying to correct when being myself. So much for being a woman these days!

ha human beings and eye service!
kneel kor kneel ni!
abeg Op
stay your lane and be the best you can be at all times
allow the silly thing! her space and enjoy your life
never start what you cannot see through sha!
meaning politely keep her for here hell hole
they are a million and one ways to finish person without even saying a word sef!

babeabike
weere la magbo o!

tearoses gave you sound advice look into telling your honey how you feel so the resentment doesnt pile up!
make you begin relax dey prepare for night vigil o!

Leopantro:
But you are wrong. I am a doctor and I work in the Nigerian system. Let me give you a story.
Some time ago I delivered a pre-term baby that is a baby born at 24 weeks . Immediately after birth the baby stopped breathing. The hospital I worked with didn't have oxygen and the two incubators where in use. I used my own oxygen cylinder on the baby and did ambubagged that is cardiac massage in the baby for it to breath normally. We entered my car and rushed to LASUTH. We were told no bed space and were referred to LUTH. We drove to LUTH, parked at the car park and walked over a 7 minutes to the pediatric ward where we were told they had no free incubator and had no electricity supply. We were referred to a private hospital in Surulere where the consultant was not around. We decided to go back to our hospital to continue care for the baby. Please note that all this time I was doing cardiac massage on this baby while someone else drove. On our way back to the hospital, the oxygen finished, the baby turned blue and died. We got back to the hospital and the husband beat me up for not saving the baby. This happened 4 years ago ; till date I have not received a dime for what I did. This is what happens everyday.

so sorry about this I cant begin to imagine the trauma of rendering all effort yet got a fight for it!
take solace in the fact that you did your best!
na wa o
nigeria go better!!!

Onegai:
Osolobua, truly women are other women's problems. One is complaining about one 18 year old female cousin instead of minding her pregnancy, this one is accusing her SiL of doing jazz because her brother has become a considerate person.

Chai!

babylawyr:
Truth be told and I'm speaking from experience now, driving in a car will limit the number of guys that will have access to you.

However, it will improve the quality of guys that approach you.

So its quality over quantity. You choose.

babeabike:
From your comment I'm guessing you are not married.

So I'm meant to make her 3 square meal for a week as a guest...ok?

Aunty mi,note oooo I av not bn cooking persay since I clocked 34weeks because its BN me n my hubby which he understands or I eat at work.

Don't worry I will not rant again.infact before I leave for work on the,I will dutifully go and make her breakfast..that's cool right?

Keneking:
Where is lalasticlala sef

+ I noticed that the handwriting of our foreign students are pathetic. Can't they write in Arial or Verdana or Times News Roman straight font.

+ $1,000 a month spend is a lot of money ie N200,000

+ CBN approves academic tuition overseas from Nigeria with priority.

+ Housing can be paid from Nigeria.

+ Handouts are not sold overseas.

+ Basically, you need cash for transportation (which is at times free), feeding allowance and entertainment. So that $1,000 is still too much.

+ You can buy food ingredients from Nigeria to conserve forex.

+ Clubbing is cheap.

+ I don't understand why they are complaining.

PS: where can I get a boxing glove? Its boxing day

Even students of Abia State University dont require such budget per semester.Where is lalasticlala sef

what are you saying
let me use the UK as an example as a handful of nigerians are schooling here!
the cheapest shared flat with utility will cost you 400 pounds equivalent to $700 to 800 pending on conversion rate
food and phone bills maybe £300 = $600
excluding emergency spendings and all that is already over $1000
now back to the depreciating Naira
if you convert that with the present $1= 280
where does a potential student stand?
meanwhile the pending 60k withdrawal limit is there that amounts to nigerian banks charging as much as 1k per transaction
it is harsh on legitimate student !!!