zone77: The rate at which marriages crumble these days...................

Having established that, I would like to say that submissiveness on the part of the woman is linked to unconditional love on the part of the man.

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zone77: The rate at which marriages crumble these days is alarming.
For this,a great number of men, the excuse for walking out is that their wives are not submissive.
For the women, they claim their hubbies cheat on them (of course if you as a man love your wife truly, you shouldnt cheat on her).

This is not limited to married couples alone, even ordinary friendships or courtships crumble based on these allegations.

Having established that, I would like to say that submissiveness on the part of the woman is linked to unconditional love on the part of the man.

We remember that the holy book (Bible) said that the woman should submit to her husband and the man should love his wife just like Christ loved the Church and died for her........Now my questions:

How many men love their wives like Christ loved and still loves the Church?

Is it necessary for a gal to submit to a man that hasnt paid her bride prize?

Guys, do you think that a gal that refused to submit to a man while they were dating would eventually submit when they marry?

Gals, would you submit to a man you arent married to?...

nyameke: One thing some of you guys should know is that when a man is really playing the role OF A MAN that he was born to play your woman( wife or whatever ) has no option but to submit. It's not coerced but happens naturally. It's the natural order of things and how nature intends..

To submit is to surrender oneself willingly to another's authority or will. This is done out of love and based on love and not FEAR. It's ignorant to think otherwise. The roles of man and woman follows a leader and a follower relationship and not a Master and Slave relationship.. A woman should never be looked at as a slave or lesser being that you command at your will but your HELPER.

The man being the head leads, loves,cherishes and protects the woman. The man actually has the greater responsibility because to lead is to take responsibility. Most relationship fails because most men refuses to be man and play their roles.

The ignorance is that most men and some women associates submission to a form of slavery or master and slave relationship. Or why would a wussy man tell me if it is submission I seek, go buy a DoG.

This doesn't apply to a girlfriend. . .

victorian: @ bukatyne, u are so right on point.. What we truly have these days is glorified slavery in marriages. And its not a pleasant sight to see.. Men wants a submissive girlfriend/wife, but does not give really give a damn about her and the woman who wants to be married by all means, accepts all bullshit from him until after marriage. Then , after marriage, either one gets tired or both, then they either choose a loveless marriage and smile infront of friends/families that they are happy, while at home they are cat and dog or one chooses a way out of the misery and file for divorce..frequent scenarios.

sexkillz: This doesn't apply to a girlfriend. . .

nyameke: yes it does. I told you before you have no idea what it means to submit so be quiet

sexkillz: Lol. You need help

nyameke: says the ignorant boy pretending to be a man and yet has no idea what manhood entails..

sexkillz: This doesn't apply to a girlfriend. . .

sexkillz: Lol. I'm older than your elder brother.

nyameke: I doubt it Cus you sound like a boy and if you are a man then more like a boy in a man's body. Sorry but adding on years does not equal intelligence.

Keep doubting then. . . When you have gained more experience, you'll understand better how a relationship functions.

Now run along. . .

wholexy009: My advice is that anyone going through such in their marriage should read the book LOVE ‎​‎​@̤̥̣̈̊̇п̲̣̣̥d̶̲̥̅̊ RESPECT, can't remember the name of the writer. Å̶̷̩̥͡•̸Ϟ sure u will come back to thank me

tellwisdom: If she don submit her punny......What else??

sexkillz: Keep doubting then. . . When you have gained more experience, you'll understand better how a relationship functions.

Now run along. . .

sweetcocoa: OP what do you mean by submitting?

I'm asking because there are lots of things i won't do or take from a man i'm not married to even from the one i eventually marry.

sexkillz: A woman should never never ever submit to a man she is not married to. . . Ever! Respect him, yes, but submit to him? Hell NO!

sexkillz: Keep doubting then. . . When you have gained more experience, you'll understand better how a relationship functions.

Now run along. . .

nyameke: One thing some of you guys should know is that when a man is really playing the role OF A MAN that he was born to play your woman( wife or whatever ) has no option but to submit. It's not coerced but happens naturally. It's the natural order of things and how nature intends..

To submit is to surrender oneself willingly to another's authority or will. This is done out of love and based on love and not FEAR. It's ignorant to think otherwise. The roles of man and woman follows a leader and a follower relationship and not a Master and Slave relationship.. A woman should never be looked at as a slave or lesser being that you command at your will but your HELPER.

The man being the head leads, loves,cherishes and protects the woman. The man actually has the greater responsibility because to lead is to take responsibility. Most relationship fails because most men refuses to be man and play their roles.

The ignorance is that most men and some women associates submission to a form of slavery or master and slave relationship. Or why would a wussy man tell me if it is submission I seek, go buy a DoG.

bukatyne: i m really enjoyin this topic and i agree wit sexrevives and Thoniaslim's points amongst others. i ve come to realize wit revelation that wat is obtainable in most Nigerian homes is not submission, it's servitude or wat a popular pastor calls 'glorified slavery'. A typical nigerian marriage only fulfills 1 out of d 3 reasons for marriage: companionship, prevention against adultery and child bearing and we all know d one they fulfill. initially, when i saw ...'wives submit to ur husbands...', i thought God was been sexist. However, on further study, i realized that the love God expects from men is much more indepth than even d submission of women. God compared His love for isreal to the love a husband has for his wife. i read 1Cor 13:1-8 and i realized that when a man loves genuinely, he lays it all for d woman. he believes d best of her. he can do anything to make her happy. she is his world and everything! King Solomon even said in Proverbs that 4 things amaze him and d last is 'how a man loves a woman'. when d man loves his wife, he esteems her above himself. he considers her first in all his decisions. when that loved woman submits, she esteems her husband above himself and considers him first so there is a balance. some people wonder y d man must love first; d man finds d woman and is d head (the source/building block of that family). a loved woman will do everything in her power to please her husband. she ll think of cooking his best meal, looking good for him, dressing him up to be outstanding, encourage him, believes in him and trusts him. when her husband brings suggestions/ideas, b'cos she knows that he loves her and has considered her before making that suggestion, she readily supports him and stand by him. a loved woman that doesn't submit has a problem and a husband that is expecting his wife to submit witout loving her unconditionally has a problem and is looking for a glorified slave. have a splendid day

black_beau: Submission isn't bad but servitude is.the strength of a woman lie in her ability to be submisive without acting like an illitrate,brainless slave.

zone77: Gals, would you submit to a man you arent married to?...

submissiveness on the part of the woman is linked to unconditional love on the part of the man.