Kobojunkie: @Poster, I will tell you what I will tell a woman in your case, you just have to accept that you CANNOT CONTROL YOUR PARTNER. Simply,let her know how you feel about what she is doing, and continue your life as best you can. She is an adult and will make whatever decisions she will. You cannot impose your will on her, and you can only hope that she will do right by your marriage in the end.

Chanchit: First of all, go do DNA for ur children, that is if u have one, cos i've not seen anything abt children in your post, i'm very sure, if ur wife truely respects you, she won't try that sh!?t... Let me rest my case, cos if me give you my advice, they would start qouting me now..

bjcole: thats what i thought about, i will my life the way i want it,

bjcole: she had left dis guy long B4 we met, they dated from sec skool days, now d issue is, i ve told her, i dont like this ex closeness, right from day one. but her own understanding is different. she says an adage like, if we r fighting, its nt dat we shd die. is like we are nt one d same page, i ve told her & she said she heard but she does nt really understand why i shd bother, she trust her self & knows what she can do. but 4 me Ex is Ex, i dnt call my exs, because they r married & its gone.

Kobojunkie:

I think you should let it go. You have already told her what you want her to know of what you think of it. Why go on and on about it? She is an adult -- not your property or someone you can cajole into doing things YOUR WAY.

Dis Guy:

But he is not happy about it. the dude knows he has her attention and perhaps knows her weakness

Tell her to choose one, if she is bored she should talk to her friends or family members, seems she hasnt got a lot going on in her life? no excitement
i personally think it okay she greet the dude when they meet on the street on in town but stop all phone contact
and any conversation about him

threaten to report her to her mummy or sister (make sure the sister is not gaining anything from the guy too oo)

Kobojunkie:

He is not happy because according to him be thinks his wife is likely going to cheat on him because the man is an ex.has a bigger d1ck Of course that will make no one happy, but at the end...

Missy_B: There's no reason to keep in constant contact with an ex if you've 'moved on', let alone if you're married . . . More nonexistent that reason should be if your partner finds it offensive.
Oftentimes, Exes don't stick around unless there's still an iota of interest or an ulterior motive.
I expect every being who claims to be mature enough for marriage to understand the simplicity of that.

Efemena_xy: Nigerian men and their insecurity issues.

@Poster, so bottom line here is that you don't trust your wife.

So the question here is, what are you going to do about it?