coogar:

if the husband wears condoms all the time with his concubines, the practical issue you identified becomes null and void!

shymexx:

If your husband keeps cheating; have you looked at the woman in the mirror to find out if you're not the architect of your own problems? Plenty men are promiscuous, but most men would rather have a 'link', or 'one-night' stand outside their marriages - and not wife up other chics outside, if the marriage is perfect.

Sisi_Kill: See phone on table or on couch or in car or wherever

Pick phone up

Scroll though phone

Find Frequently called number

Write phone number down or save phone number on your phone

Look for private place and call number.

. . . . .Yeah I can totally see how unbelievable THAT is.
Wow!!! Grandpa. . .is that you??

shymexx:

So, you would pick up the phone and call someone's wife, to find out who she's? And then proceed to meet her somewhere??

You've got to be the bravest woman alive..

Sisi_Kill:
I'm just saying it's not as unreal as you try to make it sound.

maclatunji: OP, there some things that come-up whenever anyone brings-up a topic like this. They are:

1. Sentimental issues.

2. Practical issues.

Today, I am focusing on the practical issue.

Your husband is sleeping with other women outside. You are his wife, that he has access to you in terms of intimacy goes without saying (95% of the time).

OP, have you heard of STDs and HIV/AIDS? Are you willing to risk your health for him knowing that he could transit some awful diseases to you? If your answer is no, what are you going to do about it?

I don't have time for sentimental issues today, I just thought I should bring this practical issues up for your attention.

Cuddlemii: Lmao! Op, your own husband is a chronic womanizer and a sick man.

Married men cheat on their wives but they make the terms clear to the mistress that they are happily married but just want to have fun. For your husband to consistently deny the existence of you and your kids means he is a sick man. Infact to identify a married man that would take care of his mistress is by what he says about his family. If the married man tells his gf that he is happily married and the fault is not from his wife then he would take care of the gf.


For the gfs to keep calling you means your husband doesn't treat them well or take care of them as therefore they are warning you that your hubby is sick!!! One gf is even considered normal/acceptable for a responsible married man but numerous gfs only confirms he is a useless man.


Well, here is the truth your hubby won't change cos he dated two women in his office despite the fact that he was bursted the first time. Its like an addiction, his fettish is to screw white collar chicks and he is bored with his normal routine. There is nothing prayers can not do, just don't waste your energy fighting him or any gf. You can have a matured conversation with him though


But didn't you notice his womanizing ways during the dating/courtship stage or did you overlook it expecting him to change after marriage? How is the sexual activity at home going? Are you doing your best to satisfy your hubby? Do you sleep off or refuse to connect with him using facial contact? Have you refused him unconventional ways of intimacy? Have you been concerntrating fully on your kids alone? Maybe you need to spice things up a little and add a little spu-nk

linearity:
His husband lies about his affairs even when caught red-handed, and you want her to bank on him telling the truth about wearing rubber every single time?...Moreso, the OP stated that..the first lady indicated that she have 'conceived'...whatever that means...if it is the general application in this type of subject, then it is obvious that the practical issues are still in play.... Sister, please go and have yourself checked for STDs & do not forget the AIDs test.

If you are still at a cross road of leaving him despite all that have happened, it means you are inclining on working things out with him, but if I were in your shoes and are even inclined on working things out and I oblige the option of intimacy with him... I will be insisting on rubber every single time he want to be intimate with me.

shymexx:

Perhaps, the guy isn't happy in the marriage... Hear his own side of the story before crucifying him - everything isn't always black and white... The OP painted a perfect picture like a saint, but we all know that no one's perfect - and people will always play victim and the blame game, that's human nature.

Sisi_Kill:
Aiight, who is making the call to hubby. . .Anybody? Anybody? Somebody?

He is unhappy. . ., Okaay, so what happened to talking to his wife about what is making him unhappy? How about seeking counseling? How about getting a divorce and let everybody move on with their separate lives? How about. . .Gosh so many how abouts to list but what's the point? We all know it is not about him being unhappy, he is just another greedy man who wants to eat his cake and have it too.

DailyNews: Everyone is here now counseling the op and blaming her believing all is well with their own marriage, relationship or date, nope! see, nemesis is real, karma is real, nature pays back every evil deed we do. most ladies now married were once jumping around town with aristo married me just to make money, wear flashy clothes, own flashy phones, go flashy places and wht have u. when they were students, they hardly stayed in their hostel, they were busy answering HOT CHICK, jumping from one city and top-rank hotel to another and enjoying the fun of spinsterhood, now they are married they now want men to be decent just because they are now married. you cannot eat you cake and have it, u can never win every battle of life; you win some and loose some, thats life. track back on your life when single, did you engage in indecency of such degree or any? this may be a pay back. for some good ladies who lived a good life and still get cheated by their hubby, you also need to look inwardly into your past life or that of your hubby before marriage. those men you as a single lady (not just the op, but to all ladies encountering similar thing), were they not somebody's husband? some girls will claim they never knew he was married, how would you not know when u have decided that the only men u want to go out with are men over 39, 40, etc just because of your selfish desire for money & material things, so u now want to believe that all men of that age bracket are single waiting for cindy like you, daydreamers, wake up! In summary, if you are a lady here reading this and shouting and thinking your own marriage or relationship is the best, then you are fooling yourself because you are just lucky that u haven't caught yours, pray u don't cos virtually 95% of financially able married men in Nigeria of today cheat on their wives, you know why? because the Nigerian girls from inception have taught Nigerian men to believe that money is equal to their love, no matter who you are. they have taught men to believe that so long as they have money, they can sleep with any girl of their choice in Nigeria with ease and thats what men grow up to believe even when they get married, they still want to exercise that freedom. Until Nigerian girls start to show less interest in men's money and material things and start to let men believe again that money cannot win them all girls they desire, this will become the order of the day, and more homes will be built on infidelity. So the re-orientation should start from the single ladies, change your ways now, don't think u can sleep around with men for money, job, favour, etc and then smartly walk your way into marriage and still enjoy a smooth home, never, expect a natural pay back, whether u turn to a sister-mother-mary born again plus or not, u must pay small...so start now to correct your mistakes so u don't end up in a deadly marriage, and deciding to stay single for life isn't the answer cos u will realize the demerits later in life. so ladies live a good life when u are single, stop being too desperate about money and fun, stop allowing peer-pressure to lure you into indecent lifestyle. stop following what friends are doing and be yourself cos when the nemesis comes, your friends may be no more!

realfreddy: I do not know why he would deny you but most men I know that would cheat would make the ladies outside aware of their marital status. I want to think this is more than him cheating. He isn't just proud of you or the kids. This is my take on this.

DailyNews: Everyone is here now counseling the op and blaming her believing all is well with their own marriage, relationship or date, nope! see, nemesis is real, karma is real, nature pays back every evil deed we do. most ladies now married were once jumping around town with aristo married me just to make money, wear flashy clothes, own flashy phones, go flashy places and wht have u. when they were students, they hardly stayed in their hostel, they were busy answering HOT CHICK, jumping from one city and top-rank hotel to another and enjoying the fun of spinsterhood, now they are married they now want men to be decent just because they are now married. you cannot eat you cake and have it, u can never win every battle of life; you win some and loose some, thats life. track back on your life when single, did you engage in indecency of such degree or any? this may be a pay back. for some good ladies who lived a good life and still get cheated by their hubby, you also need to look inwardly into your past life or that of your hubby before marriage. those men you as a single lady (not just the op, but to all ladies encountering similar thing), were they not somebody's husband? some girls will claim they never knew he was married, how would you not know when u have decided that the only men u want to go out with are men over 39, 40, etc just because of your selfish desire for money & material things, so u now want to believe that all men of that age bracket are single waiting for cindy like you, daydreamers, wake up! In summary, if you are a lady here reading this and shouting and thinking your own marriage or relationship is the best, then you are fooling yourself because you are just lucky that u haven't caught yours, pray u don't cos virtually 95% of financially able married men in Nigeria of today cheat on their wives, you know why? because the Nigerian girls from inception have taught Nigerian men to believe that money is equal to their love, no matter who you are. they have taught men to believe that so long as they have money, they can sleep with any girl of their choice in Nigeria with ease and thats what men grow up to believe even when they get married, they still want to exercise that freedom. Until Nigerian girls start to show less interest in men's money and material things and start to let men believe again that money cannot win them all girls they desire, this will become the order of the day, and more homes will be built on infidelity. So the re-orientation should start from the single ladies, change your ways now, don't think u can sleep around with men for money, job, favour, etc and then smartly walk your way into marriage and still enjoy a smooth home, never, expect a natural pay back, whether u turn to a sister-mother-mary born again plus or not, u must pay small...so start now to correct your mistakes so u don't end up in a deadly marriage, and deciding to stay single for life isn't the answer cos u will realize the demerits later in life. so ladies live a good life when u are single, stop being too desperate about money and fun, stop allowing peer-pressure to lure you into indecent lifestyle. stop following what friends are doing and be yourself cos when the nemesis comes, your friends may be no more!

coogar: