IS THERE ANYTHING ''LIKE JUST FRIENDS'' ?
LET ME REMIND YOU HERE THAT '' JUST FRIENDS'' MEANS
[b]1 NO SEX
2 NO PASSION FOR EACH ORDER
3 NO LUST
4 NO SECRET DREAMS AND DESIRES [/b]FROM MY OWN POINT OF VIEW, IT IS VERY DIFFICULT FOR A MAN AND A WOMAN TO BE JUST FRIENDS, PARTICULARLY IF THEY WERE ONCE LOVERS
OR WHAT DO YOU THINK.

I totally disagree with you! Why? Because it's common, it's about time we erase that perception or stereotyped idea off our brains. I have a lot of male friends, cus am attracted to great brains (intellectuals), i learn something good from such people.  Besides life is not only about sex / romance, there's a lot to it that just that!  Once you respect yourself, principled, set of rules for ya life, u know when to do this n with whom u do it. . . not all opposits attract!  I'ts amazing that most men find it difficult to bliv that a woman can't have a male friend and by all means! there must b something going on btn then. . . that's merda!!  I call that "shallow thinking". . . we need to grow up for once!  I don't give a hoot if u call me a flirt for relating wt guys (intellectuals at that).  If my partner trusts me, your mistrust na mess, so leave it where it belong, garbage!

@ efuah
Yeah babe what u said is the truth a man and woman can be just friends with necessarily having, passion for ech other I ha a friend whom we worked together she was my best friend but guess what I never had passion, sex for her.

It's possible!!!!!

efuah:

  I don't give a hoot if u call me a flirt 

I AM NOT CALLING You THAT!, I AM ONLY SAYING THAT there is this word i call CRUSH.
IF BY ANY CHANCE YOU ALLOW IT COME BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR FRIENDS THEN YOU ARE IN HOT WATER. BECAUSE IT WILL GIVE BIRTH TO FEELINGS AND FROM THERE ANOTHER THING.
OR WHAT DO You THINK

IS THERE ANYTHING ''LIKE JUST FRIENDS'' ?
LET ME REMIND YOU HERE THAT '' JUST FRIENDS'' MEANS
[b]1 NO SEX
2 NO PASSION FOR EACH ORDER
3 NO LUST
4 NO SECRET DREAMS AND DESIRES [/b]FROM MY OWN POINT OF VIEW, IT IS VERY DIFFICULT FOR A MAN AND A WOMAN TO BE JUST FRIENDS, PARTICULARLY IF THEY WERE ONCE LOVERS
OR WHAT DO YOU THINK.

Hell no, one party must always feel something,,,,
though he/she may try to suppress it

i have male friends i don't have any sexual or tinglings for them

@poster
if u find it difficult to relate with a female without having sex on ur mind i think u are a chronic perv!!!

It's scarcely possible

I have 4 very close male friends that are just that male friends. They are my voice in the dark when it comes to male issues. I have:

1. K - my american "I will never fall in love" friend that calls me on my shit day in and day out and calls me out when i am wrong.
2. Rob- My ride or die friend that no matter what will be there when the chips are down.
3. James - my brother from another mother who i love to sit around and just build
4. Peter - My Nigerian friend who guides me thru my marriage helping me to understand/relate/talk to my hubby thus making our marriage stronger. His advice is not replaceable.


If it was not for the advice/guideance that i recieve from my male friends I would not understand men the way that I do. Men and women think differently and to have someone of the opposite sex, who is really a friend, help guide you thru the darkness is wonderful.

I am happy that my man is not insecure and understands his charm is very strong and working very well. . . LOL

yes it is very possible but then some mutual feelings arise at times

yes it's possible,

but the fact is out of 100% just friend relationship, 80% end up with something different quot me.


but still we still hv some jst freidn and it worked.

Yes! Initially you might be attracted to a few of them,especially if you've a lot in common and they've qualities you lack and really admire. But then the attraction passes and you settle down to just being friends. I tell ya, guys make the most amazing buddies once they lose sexual interest in you and simply like you.

Mad_Max:

Yes! Initially you might be attracted to a few of them,especially if you've a lot in common and they've qualities you lack and really admire. But then the attraction passes and you settle down to just being friends. I tell ya, guys make the most amazing buddies once they lose sexual interest in you and simply like you.

the best friend a man can have is female.  that is if you can avoid the sex.  family members are better and if you prefer work hard on making your other half your best friend. it is hard work and could make you vulnerable but if it works you got your back covered for life if it doesnt goodluck at least you tried

Years back. . . .I had a Female as a best friend . . .No feelings. . .No strings attached. . .  .just pure  mutual respect (or so i thought)
She didnt say nothing to me until she left the country . . .that was when she called and said that she had a crush on me but was afraid to tell me cos she knew i was gonna reject having a relationship with her. . .so she decided to keep mum until she was far away from me.

So, yes. . .individuals of the opposite sex can be friends. . .no strings attached

Man and woman cant be friends well there are two sides to that story for this to work (Man and a woman just be friends) this has to be in place.
I) The guy has to have his own babe
II) The guy isnt sexually attracted to the woman
III) The guy has decided not to date the woman
IV) The guy should have a life that doesnt include the woman
I dont have a guy friend because men are for f**king while i have some female friends

the is nothing wrong with just having a guy as ur friend but when the guy is ur ex that where the promblem lies

Naw i dont tHInk So!

My Bf Tried to say that they werent friends but i totally think otherwise!
never can happen ever,
well unless the bitch is ugly,

@ Topic,

yes it is very veyr VERY possible.

I totally disagree with you! Why? Because it's common, it's about time we erase that perception or stereotyped idea off our brains. I have a lot of male friends, cus am attracted to great brains (intellectuals), i learn something good from such people. Besides life is not only about sex / romance, there's a lot to it that just that! Once you respect yourself, principled, set of rules for ya life, u know when to do this n with whom u do it. . . not all opposits attract!

Correct, this perception needs to be erased. We can all be friends without engaging in immoral thoughts.
But dawn it, if she is fine and all that - omo okurin will be omo jo.

It absolutely DEPENDS! If you have no fire, attraction, or desire for that person whatsoever, you can be good friends. In most cases it's almost impossible.

It exists: My 3rd best frnd is a girl & our relationship is purely platonic.
We've bin gud frnds 4 like 8 yrs nw. . . D feelings surface @ times but we control 'em. Afterall the feelings are ours. . .

A man and a woman can be just friends.My trusted woman friend of ten years is my eye. She gives me the woman perspective in all that I do.

I have never felt anything for her except that I respect and cherish her friendship.It took her parents eight years to believe we are just friends.

it can happen but its not easy to maintain

YES ITS POSSIBLE, only if the guy is impotent

not true always.
yes can be friends

smooooooth:

YES ITS POSSIBLE, only if the guy is impotent

okay maybe not in all cases.they guy may not be impotent, but then he must be gay

Oh yeah!! very very possible under one condition
a surgeon have to do something in between their legs
one needs to be stitched the other to be cut off.
perfect friendship. no long thing!!!!

@ Topic

People shld learn to speak for themselves


@ Efuah,u have said it all girl, it's all abt who u are,, ur mind set, your perception and self esteem

Friendship is not all about sex. I can have male folks without strings attach, sentiments involved, i have loads of them. How u present ursellf is how people take u. When i was serving as a coper, i had a coper friend (male) Kanayochukwu aka Ajile. i hope he reads this as dont kwn his where about, we do sleep together on same bed, share dreams,. knowledge, very intellectual as Efuaf also stated, but it eneded at that. For me, he was a brother and a great friend.

When u respect urself, people accord u same, so for those that says it'simpossible, it is possible, it's all about who u are , and what u want in every friendship please.

it is possible but takes a whole lottaff discipline on either side.i like havin female friends so that i can ve woman's true perspective of a man besides my gf.i ve like 3 of them an i dont hesitate to talk anytin with themi even prefer them older.my gf is young and looks up me in all issues even sex so it is these ladies that ad me on what what and what.it is only natural if atimes u start thinklin nutty(esp d guys)but u need to assert self discpline and respect the woman and urself.if handled very well,a friendship with a woman is very intersetin as both of u exchange ideas on hoe to handle the opposite sex.i call sucvh girla sista