belemzy: Just broke up from a distance relationship. Well he started lossing trust when i got a job in 5 star Hotel in Abuja. He started calling like mad, and when ever i don't take his calls, it becomes an issue. @ a point i couldn't handle it any longer so i called it off.

for u to call it off means u have been seeing someone else.

I'm in very long distance relationship and all worked for me, though u will hear a lot of discouraging words from friends but because I love her so much,i ignore them,call her,say sweet things to her, make her happy, laugh together,and we r happy.

I've been married for 3yrs. Wife 's an undergraduate student in one South-south university while I'm a postgraduate student in one North-west university.
There was no such thing as infidelity between us.
REASON: we love each other.
Love conquers all; I'm a living witness.

soulamanne: travelling).am in one for 2yrs now and so far so good.but what ve found out is a good percentage of people are in such.even married couples.this is attributed to the fact that a living must be eked out.

not all r cash demanding ,example is mine we meet 4yrs ago and since then I only call her never travel to c her except this February. But because we trust ourselves we r able to cope,she finds it hard somtimes to tell me to send her recharge cards but I understand her better

ajlofty: men,it is not an easy stuff but one can still cope if ur income history is reasonable and constant which can make u visit her tym to tym or d oda way round.bt if ur not having any cash on u my bros them e go hadoo cos even calls na money too sooo na u no how u go dey do am

u said it all..when there is money,no problem

The only way to overcome the pain is to quit the relationship so you can have rest of mind.
For couples, either of you should abandon whatever you are doing and join the other period.
That's my candid advice or else you will have heart attack.

https://www.nairaland.com/1004761/living-without-spouse-6-months

My own post about just this; living without my spouse for a certain amount of time.

Like someone else said; I do believe the chance of making it is much bigger if you already have a foundation to begin with, not that you f.ex met on a holiday, and two weeks after are 6hours apart with a plain..

Its not easy, at all. And trust is absolutely a big, big part of it all.
I am currently waiting the adress so that I can send my husband some things; a bracelet I made him for fun with "baba" written on it, and a drawing his babygirl made Plus some pictures and a small letter. I also know he will be sending me something.

You have to take day by day, and try your best not to worry. Love is love, and if it stays, it stays, if it goes, it goes. You can do nothing more than your best in it all.

~Bluetooth:

The guy is at one end shaggging another girl while his girlfriend at the other end is shagging another boy. . . . .i think distance relationship is an aggregate of confusion and an energy-demanding task.

@bluethoot, I found it interesting that people do not say the truth and if they don't why can't they keep quiet. All these people talking about pre marital sex, are they not making love to another girl and the girl friend swagging another man. The question is are they virgins. It is a matter of pretending. Just have to be matured and let the secrets of relationship and marriage be. lies and deceit is part of maturity of marriage.

i tink de communication part is de most important.i'm married now;but i was in 1 before dt and sometimes i wish we did things differently cos it was pure n sweet.

To those engulfed by the feeling that distance rela. aviods pre-marital sex, i wonder what school of thought is that.

Long distance relationship depends on a lot. Well for me is the sweetest cause am enjoying my distance relationship for 3 Years now and we are still very strong. I love my baby j thanks for understanding.

To be very much realistic 'cos i'm into one, it's usually not very easy coping with. All it requires is trust nd constant mutual communication.

Bélla3: It prevents pre marital sex, so its vry good even though am nt in one.

for once i agree with you

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Am in @ the moment.3 months to be precise.its not really easy.Trust is the hard part 4 now although i try not to think about it.
Well what will be,will be.

What if your partner had been unfaithful to u before, should u still trust him?

SlyIg: Ado akpaniko...

ami ndian ke uyo ado

In one right now, its been six months since he has been gone. It's complicated and takes a strong will and faith in the relationship. It's like a 50/50 chance for me now.

Stale

I like the advise. Keep it up.I particularly will stick to it and make us of it with my Girl. I just love your words................

bizmogul: Are you in a distance relationship? Do you worry about calling it quits but you love this person and can't let go? Your survival in a distance relationship depends on how the relationship got start. For example I spent sometime together with my girlfriend in school before I graduated and we got seperated by distance. Distance relationships could be very painful and tiring but in order to sustain it you need to apply the following.

1. There must be genuine love: I love my girl so much, right from the outset and she loves me in return despite the fact am not rich this has been the core of our relationship. Each time we talk about the past and how memorable it was being together the memories keep us alive.

2. Trust: without trust distance relationship goes dead. Trust issues begin to come up when one party begins to act differently, like myself I erased my thoughts from ‎​tinking my girl has someone else; I don't think about it no matter what, its not a perfect relationship but because we trust each other we keep going on and on.

3. Don't Listen To Friends: friends sure have a way of destroying distance relationships. I remember the times when I sit over a drink with a couple of friends, they make me feel like a loser, they make me feel like a complete idiot, asking questions like do you know what she is doing now? Maybe she is having fun with some other guy while you are here being the good guy. I almost fell for all that, it almost ruined my relationship but as I earlier said, trust is what keeps me going.

4. Regular communication: keep in touch at all times, say sweet things you will normally say to her, don't let her feel you are ever tired, with various communication gadgets blackberry,facebook,mobile phone,skype communication has been made easier.

5. Send a surprise gift from a distance: you know where she stays? Why not courier a package to her with a recent picture from you, a hand written note and some gift items. It helps.

I will stop for now, more updates coming soon.

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Dat is when u know ur self oooo make I no lie u [b]

bizmogul: Are you in a distance relationship? Do you worry about calling it quits but you love this person and can't let go? Your survival in a distance relationship depends on how the relationship got start. For example I spent sometime together with my girlfriend in school before I graduated and we got seperated by distance. Distance relationships could be very painful and tiring but in order to sustain it you need to apply the following.

1. There must be genuine love: I love my girl so much, right from the outset and she loves me in return despite the fact am not rich this has been the core of our relationship. Each time we talk about the past and how memorable it was being together the memories keep us alive.

2. Trust: without trust distance relationship goes dead. Trust issues begin to come up when one party begins to act differently, like myself I erased my thoughts from ‎​tinking my girl has someone else; I don't think about it no matter what, its not a perfect relationship but because we trust each other we keep going on and on.

3. Don't Listen To Friends: friends sure have a way of destroying distance relationships. I remember the times when I sit over a drink with a couple of friends, they make me feel like a loser, they make me feel like a complete idiot, asking questions like do you know what she is doing now? Maybe she is having fun with some other guy while you are here being the good guy. I almost fell for all that, it almost ruined my relationship but as I earlier said, trust is what keeps me going.

4. Regular communication: keep in touch at all times, say sweet things you will normally say to her, don't let her feel you are ever tired, with various communication gadgets blackberry,facebook,mobile phone,skype communication has been made easier.

5. Send a surprise gift from a distance: you know where she stays? Why not courier a package to her with a recent picture from you, a hand written note and some gift items. It helps.

I will stop for now, more updates coming soon.

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Dat is when u know ur self oooo make I no lie u [/b]

bizmogul: Are you in a distance relationship? Do you worry about calling it quits but you love this person and can't let go? Your survival in a distance relationship depends on how the relationship got start. For example I spent sometime together with my girlfriend in school before I graduated and we got seperated by distance. Distance relationships could be very painful and tiring but in order to sustain it you need to apply the following.

1. There must be genuine love: I love my girl so much, right from the outset and she loves me in return despite the fact am not rich this has been the core of our relationship. Each time we talk about the past and how memorable it was being together the memories keep us alive.

2. Trust: without trust distance relationship goes dead. Trust issues begin to come up when one party begins to act differently, like myself I erased my thoughts from ‎​tinking my girl has someone else; I don't think about it no matter what, its not a perfect relationship but because we trust each other we keep going on and on.

3. Don't Listen To Friends: friends sure have a way of destroying distance relationships. I remember the times when I sit over a drink with a couple of friends, they make me feel like a loser, they make me feel like a complete idiot, asking questions like do you know what she is doing now? Maybe she is having fun with some other guy while you are here being the good guy. I almost fell for all that, it almost ruined my relationship but as I earlier said, trust is what keeps me going.

4. Regular communication: keep in touch at all times, say sweet things you will normally say to her, don't let her feel you are ever tired, with various communication gadgets blackberry,facebook,mobile phone,skype communication has been made easier.

5. Send a surprise gift from a distance: you know where she stays? Why not courier a package to her with a recent picture from you, a hand written note and some gift items. It helps.

I will stop for now, more updates coming soon.

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Dat is when u know ur self oooo make I no lie u

U make a Point

Include phone intimacy lol

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This is my gf

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@op, I love ♈☺uЯ write up, you said it all
I love mah gerl so much, I found true love, she loves ♍ε̲̣̣̣̥ d same way I love ßŮϯ now we re world apart nw
I left 9ja 7 months ago, I'm in cape town now ßŮϯ our love is stil very strong, stronger than b4 sef, we chat everyday on fbuk, sometimes I call her nd she calls ♍ε̲̣̣̣̥ too, my first month on sa she was d one calling almost errday buh as soon as I settled, I started calling her aswel
We trust eachother, she tells ♍ε̲̣̣̣̥ hw much she loves ♍ε̲̣̣̣̥ nd misses ♍ε̲̣̣̣̥ every minute of d day, we talk bout our meetings in d past, our kisses nd love making, I intend Ť☺ marry her wen I come back Ť☺ 9ja by d special grace of God

I want Ť☺ let U̶̲̥̅̊ guyz knw this, Ŧħåϯ "TRUE LOVE" exists, 4 those who re saying it doesn't

This is my gf

What's the point in putting her picture up?

You're gonna have to be more mature to make your long-distance relationship work son.

All the best

Seriously u REALLY have to know your bf/gf oo! Am saying because I know at least 4 girls here in my school that are engaged and one married that are receiving the bangingg of their lives. My ex told me she had a bf in portharcourt sef. I don talk my own ☺!

belemzy: Just broke up from a distance relationship. Well he started lossing trust when i got a job in 5 star Hotel in Abuja. He started calling like mad, and when ever i don't take his calls, it becomes an issue. @ a point i couldn't handle it any longer so i called it off.

Jst like dat? If he dint deeply love u in d 1st place, im sure he wldnt budge at al. Ws he that tetchy b4 u got a '5-star hotel' job? Did u take a time off at ur place of work 4a retreat wid him inorda 2fuli gain his trust? A thousnd questnaire 4u, bt sori, ur 'quittin it' sounds too casual

sexy glow: Hmm..am learining.@ op does this work in marriage also,in a situation where hubby and wify work and live far from each other?

better follow ur husband to whereva he's working. It doesn't work in marriage my dear

I'v always known its a very difficult task. I am in now and as d body gets weaker everyday, only d heart is stronger. U just ve to ve one thing goin in for u or u wld lose it. If ur body & heart are both weak, u'll definately b caught off guard. My girl has been away for a year now & seeing her in d nxt 2yrs but d thoughts of seeing her again & d memories we share keeps me goin. Goodluck to y'all in my shoes. It sure aint one thing to xperience

jadeflint: What if your partner had been unfaithful to u before, should u still trust him?

my dear this is a decision u'll ve to make on ur own. We dnt knw d two of u. U can't judge a relationship by just wat is written. He/she may ve cheated(d other may ve made d room for that). I blive every relationship deserves a 2nd chance if the 2parties are willing. Goodluck to u

I was in a distance r/shp for eight years. We loved and respected each oda very much BUT BUT BUT BUT we were seeing oda people secretely. We confessed to each oda d night of our engagement. Too bad he died in a terrible accident few weeks to our wedding. I swore neva to go into anymore distance r/shps because no matter how much u love this person, u will still cheat!!

emcemayo: I am in one as I write and quiting has never been on my mind, even though we will insh'llah be getting married in d first quarter of next year. Long distance relationship is not for everybody if you know you can't scale through no point, just pull out. As 4 me it helps me focus on other things and it very much keeps pre- marital sex @ bay. Ya!!!

Av been in one for almost eight yrs nw n we r billed to get married in 2mnts time. it has nt been izy, bt we knew wat we wanted n we rily worked tru thick n thin 4 it.