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| Should I Let Her Do It????? by Nextworldnx(m): 11:54pm On Sep 25, 2012 |
Nairaland Romance gurus please bail me out. We have been enjoying ourselves all these while that we have been dating, infact i can say that it has been blissful. But it looks like all that wanna change now. Last night my creamypie called me to discus something important~i could tell from her tone that something was bothering her~. She me told a film production company noticed her talent during one of her performance on stage while acting for the small drama group she belongs to. According to her, they blived she can do well on the big stage, but they will be trying her out first on their soap opera with scenes shot in far away Enugu and its environs. She loves the whole idea and probably a chance to showcase her talent and possible a breakthrough on acting front(She loves acting!!). But there is a problem,... The SCRIPT!!! Yes, the script, and thats why she is not too comfortable about it unless she ask for my approval first before she puts pen to paper. She and a Guy are the main actors according to the script and are lovers. Now she will have to kiss him  , romance him ~u know na, what lovers do~ bla bla bla. During rehearsals last week, she performed well but couldn't nail it (do the romance stuff). She said "dear, i couldnt bring myself to do it except you give me the permission to". Now, The Director is not happy, but after discussion with him, he gave her till thursday being 27th of this month to make her decision.Guys, i've been confused ever since and completely gutted at the thought of my precious jewel being fondled  by another guy all in the of "acting", To think that i want to marry her. Chai, its not easy o! Either way i reason it, the reality still stares me i the face.I dont want her kissing and romancing other guys, neither do i want to be a stumbling block to her progress. please help me out with honest advice on how to handle this predicament, as I have 2 days to give her my reply. |
| Re: Should I Let Her Do It????? by obowunmi(m): 12:08am On Sep 26, 2012 |
Just hope its not even a por,n movie.... So many deceivers out there. Do your research. |
| Re: Should I Let Her Do It????? by Nextworldnx(m): 12:15am On Sep 26, 2012 |
No, its not an indecency movie. Its a normal story that involves a young boy and girl falling in love while in the village and as time goes by the guy had to go oversees to further his education(msc.), to come back home later on and marry her. but along the line something happened. bla bla... its a normal story, but she and d guy are the main actors(they are other actors ofcourse!!) |
| Re: Should I Let Her Do It????? by obowunmi(m): 12:25am On Sep 26, 2012 |
Well don't read too much meaning into it. |
| Re: Should I Let Her Do It????? by Nextworldnx(m): 12:27am On Sep 26, 2012 |
Am trying, its just not easy!! |
| Re: Should I Let Her Do It????? by vivianc(f): 12:43am On Sep 26, 2012 |
If this is what she has chosen for herself; her career, then you have to support her. She loves and respects you enough to even seek for your permission. Its not gonna be easy but its possible! All you need to do is activate your highest level of understanding and maturity, and always remember the fact that whatever she is doing with another guy on stage is acting, but with u its real. You own her love, heart and body! If I were you, I'd be more bothered about the fame and publicity and how its gonna affect our personal lives! Dude, this is what u should be more concerned about! You guys need to have a SERIOUS talk, lay down some ground principles! Cos trust me once she hits it big, your private life could be officially over! Good luck lover boy! Lol....... 1 Like |
| Re: Should I Let Her Do It????? by 190theclown: 12:47am On Sep 26, 2012 |
it is better she does it front of the camera dan behind the camera and behind your back where she would always still end up doing!! how are u sure that gurl isnt cheating on you already isnt she NIGERIAN  1 Like |
| Re: Should I Let Her Do It????? by vivianc(f): 12:52am On Sep 26, 2012 |
190-the-clown:U know you are my guy any day any time, I too gbadu your swag! Lol.......... But pls do not spoil this beautiful relationship! |
| Re: Should I Let Her Do It????? by Tenderly1(f): 12:58am On Sep 26, 2012 |
vivian chinaza:190 |
| Re: Should I Let Her Do It????? by Nextworldnx(m): 1:00am On Sep 26, 2012 |
vivian chinaza: If this is what she has chosen for herself; her career, then you have to support her. She loves and respects you enough to even seek for your permission. Its not gonna be easy but its possible! All you need to do is activate your highest level of understanding and maturity, and always remember the fact that whatever she is doing with another guy on stage is acting, but with u its real. You own her love, heart and body! wow! never tot of that. thanks |
| Re: Should I Let Her Do It????? by 190theclown: 1:02am On Sep 26, 2012 |
vivian chinaza: oK Sorry OP dont be offended *Im out* |
| Re: Should I Let Her Do It????? by Nobody: 1:15am On Sep 26, 2012 |
to be sincere is not your decision to make, it's hers. urs is just to love and support her if she feels there's no meaning to it 1 Like |
| Re: Should I Let Her Do It????? by Ranoscky(m): 2:36am On Sep 26, 2012 |
joeydozzy: to be sincere is not your decision to make, it's hers. urs is just to love and support her if she feels there's no meaning to itSomehow, i think its his decision to decide. Op, if i have a gf and she wants to be an actress (and that involves kissing, smooching and caressing another dude in some part of the movie scene), left for ME to decide if that role would go on. But if am not cool with the idea of seeing another guy romancing my future wife to be, in a movie role and she insists, then the best i can do is END the r/ship and leave her life alone for her to carry on with her future career, and also start dating someone that wouldn't find any problem with a guy romancin his gf in a movie [afterall, I'm NOT married to her yet]. Life is sooooo EASY but sometimes, we make it difficult for ourselves. Abi no be person/human being dey marry all these Euro pornn stars? |
| Re: Should I Let Her Do It????? by Nobody: 7:19am On Sep 26, 2012 |
Well, let her do her thing because it is her career, and that is what she has chosen. But accept whatever happens eventually 'cause this Naija actresses mostly end up being .............................. So prepare to move on in case. She loves you for now sha, that is why she seeks your approval but do not delude urself into thinking it will continue that way, but it might. 1 Like |
| Re: Should I Let Her Do It????? by Nobody: 7:47am On Sep 26, 2012 |
Ha! Yay!! Bro, seriously, once a girl delves into acting or modelling...na problem o! Forget these stories of professionalism...she will be consumed! Even if u dey form stronghead...love is blind...love is trust...bla bla bla...you'll never be comfortable. Inner peace will elude you. Plus, her tendency to cheat will skyrocket from its present level to about *the number of scripts she acts. With you current state of mind, if you REALLY love her and intend tying the knot, ask her to quit with immediate effect. |
| Re: Should I Let Her Do It????? by Ishilove: 8:11am On Sep 26, 2012 |
The truth is that you should let her follow her heart because one day when things aren't rosy, she will turn around to blame you for being the stumbling block to her career,or on the flipside, the person who pushed her into doing something she wasn't comfortable with in the first place. This her life, her passion, so let her be the one to prayerfully make her decision. Your role is to love her and support her so that years on,despite the outcome, you will be bold to say your hands are clean. Peace |
| Re: Should I Let Her Do It????? by Riskyman(m): 8:44am On Sep 26, 2012 |
Guy, you dont have to be hard on yourself yet. The truth is that it will be unfair if you try to stop her, coz 1) you are not married to her 2) She is not your child. As for me, if you really love her and you cnt stand her doing a mere acting (no matter what it is, she going to act), please just quit the relationship and dont let her know that you are leaving cos she choose to act. Now, if you really love her like you claim... Support her and be there for her and i bet you wont regret it. My 2 cent |
| Re: Should I Let Her Do It????? by Nextworldnx(m): 9:46am On Sep 26, 2012 |
Thanks you'll for your points. From the points raised so far, its 50:50. Some wants me to leave her if i am not comfortable with the idea of her acting while others say i should support her if truly i love her as i claim. The draw back with former is that its not everyday that one comes across a girl who you truly love(she is a wife material) while the latter is that, most actress tends to be promiscuous. God help me make my decision, i think am gonna give my support and let her do it. But i will be watching from the sidelines, if i notice any nonsense besides front of camera- am out!! |
| Re: Should I Let Her Do It????? by stepo707: 9:59am On Sep 26, 2012 |
For me its not even the present situation you should be worried about but when she eventually steps up in 2-5yrs from now,would she still seek your opinion,love you and respect you again?  Go figure |
| Re: Should I Let Her Do It????? by Okontami: 10:38am On Sep 26, 2012 |
@Poster, please respect her and allow her to pursue her dreams. Today, i have my regrets.10years ago while still dating my wife, she was the cover of a very popular Naija magazine and i was so angry, she started receiving calls day and night. She was also called into broadcasting and due to my insecurity and inferiority complex i stopped her. Because of the love she has for me, she gave up her dream of being a super model and the face of TV in Naija. She continued with her career as a petroleum engineer . Today, she has a job that pays seven zero figures per year, yet she is not fulfilled. When i think about how she gave up her dream for love, i always feel very selfish. 10 years after, the pain is still there and with being the project lead for her company, she is very much unfulfilled in her evaluation of her self. Its presently too late for her to go back, but please don't regret like me. Please allow her to shine, all professions have their rule of engagements, this is just one of them. Once she is trust worthy, encourage her and be there for her. May God help you. |
| Re: Should I Let Her Do It????? by Nextworldnx(m): 4:38pm On Sep 26, 2012 |
stepo707: For me its not even the present situation you should be worried about but when she eventually steps up in 2-5yrs from now,would she still seek your opinion,love you and respect you again? thats exactly my fear |
| Re: Should I Let Her Do It????? by 0rion: 7:27pm On Sep 26, 2012 |
My advise, very simple let her fulfill her dream. If you cant stand to see your gf kissing another guy just free her. Why do u think omotola not accting again? But dont be selfish let her DO IT she wants it. may be you dont know how to kiss and she want to try another guy but if she has morals she will never take the offer. |
| Re: Should I Let Her Do It????? by Nobody: 8:06pm On Sep 26, 2012 |
I remembered making a comment about a topic about career woman yesterday.I mentioned in my comment that when a married woman is pursuing her career,the man feels she is too exposed or not submissive.this is a good example.op you guys aren't even married so that makes it easy.you should allow her to follow her dreams.you don't need to be a barrier to her future cos you are over protective.if she has the talent to act,then allow her dreams to come true.for goodness sake,she is only acting.why be so jelous for nothing? At this time,you should support her in every possible way and stop getting provoked over nothing. |
| Re: Should I Let Her Do It????? by Nobody: 8:15pm On Sep 26, 2012 |
[size=19pt] HEAVEN & EARTH KNOWS I'LL NEVER . .I REPEAT, NEVER ALLOW MY WOMAN DO THAT!![/size] Poster from your post, I see your girl is ready to kiss that guy (error1: no shame), forget that trash "I need your permission", na plain WASH. My rule is: " [size=18pt] Do It And Fly come to think of it.. we never even know her, she don dey kiss kiss.. Go and ask Omotola & co, they all started with good morals, shame, decency. [/size] |
| Re: Should I Let Her Do It????? by omega25red(m): 8:16pm On Sep 26, 2012 |
poster ask to be on set for the love scene.. That way no hanky panky would go down i had no idea that Nigerian soap operas had sex scenes in them  |
| Re: Should I Let Her Do It????? by Nobody: 8:17pm On Sep 26, 2012 |
0rion: But dont be selfish let her DO IT she wants it. may be you dont know how to kiss and she want to try another guy but if she has morals she will never take the offer. God Bless You. Allowing her kiss and kiss evey kissable thing does not shows your motivating her in acting.. Did she take a career of kiss and romance or a career iin acting? Let me tell you sir, there are many other acting opportunities that doesn't involve that. Just look at super story.. How many nigerian circular actors/actress can stand mike bamiloye (xtian movies) in terms of cash?? Be very careful bro, "the fact that one love se. xx and good on bed doesn't mean one should act ph orn" |
| Re: Should I Let Her Do It????? by Nextworldnx(m): 10:36pm On Sep 26, 2012 |
Thank you'll for your replies, i have made up my mind and tomorrow,i will be calling her to give her my support and the approval to go one with movie. I have checked the script, and the intimate scene is not much,infact just once. So, she can go on with it and lets see what the future holds. Btw, for those who thinks the movie is an indecency one, well its not,... Its a normal story that involves a young boy and girl falling in love while in the village and as time goes by the guy had to go oversees to further his education(msc.), to come back home later on and marry her. but along the line something happened. bla bla... its a normal story, but she and d guy are the main actors(they are other actors ofcourse!!) |
| Re: Should I Let Her Do It????? by Nobody: 10:40pm On Sep 26, 2012 |
alright sir |
| Re: Should I Let Her Do It????? by AdekunleIG(m): 4:55pm On Mar 25, 2021 |
How far? Are you guys still together after 6years Nextworldnx: |
| Re: Should I Let Her Do It????? by Judywealth(f): 7:12pm On Mar 25, 2021 |
If she has to act like someone with a terrible disease, a nun or someone who is dead, does it mean she is any of those things? It's acting. Her ability to become the character on camera is what will make her win in this field. And her values and principles is what will keep her. For me knowing how to handle the fame and fortune that comes with being popular is what you guys should worry about. Please don't be the reason why she wouldn't fulfill her dreams because she obviously values your input a lot. |
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