We dated for very good 5 yrs and within this five yrs, I loved her like a wife, treated her as if we would end up as life partners.

I finished school and decided to further and this discouraged her from moving on with me and before God and man, I never blamed her for leaving because she wasn't getting any younger.

My problem now is after telling her I haven't gotten a girl friend since she left, she still calls and asks me to pay her a visit especially whenever the husband travels.

still sends me messages, calls in the midnight atimes. When I ask her the reason for all these, she will tell me that I made it difficult for her to stay with another man even her husband.

Last 3months, she put to bed and named the baby after me. Please what do I do, how do I let her go because the truth is I haven't had anything with a married woman and will never have due to the consequences that follow thereafter.

i saw this coming. the husband will smell a rat. start searching for the rat. finds the rat. and kill the rat.
lets pray the name of the rat is by no means same as the name of his first son

If you dont want wahala just leave this mans wife alone. What else? Ignore her calls and advances and appreciate the fact that she named her child after you that's it. you don't owe her anything

Evil woman. . Still wanna have something to remind her of her ex in her matrimonial home smh!

OMO,GUD 4 U.

ichidodo: OMO,GUD 4 U.

Seriously? get your head off ya arss

Bros,e don happen to me too.Na my 4 legs I take run because na so devil dey do him work.Dem no dey tell man say rain dey fall!!!

I don't know why most ladies still dig their ex after getting married? ... @post take to your heels ooo... The anger of a jealous man is more hotter than fire...

ok, op when u marry name ur first daughter after her.
it seems u r not letting her go too.
what stops you from telling her plain to mind her family
and stop disturbing you with her calls and sms?
rather you told her u have not got a gf since she left.
in other words, ur heart is vacant for her to occupy till u find someone

ITbomb: i saw this coming. the husband will smell a rat. start searching for the rat. finds the rat. and kill the rat.
lets pray the name of the rat is by no means same as the name of his first son

Simple. That's what you do when rats start disturbing your house and your wife is losing sleep over it, you find it and kill it

@ ITbomb:
That post was a bomb, the message loud and clear, enough for any stoopid rat to take heed. Yeah, also loved the creativity.

Mehn ...women get mind sha...I just pity the ladies husband...dats the height of insensitivity nd disrespect...naming ones first son after her ex...smh..God plz gimme a gd wife...I beg u o Lord...cos d tales I get to hear on NL is something else.

@op...get urself a new set of running shoes and run...d anger of a jealous husband is worse dan a consuming fire.

The fact that you know that some bad consequences will emanate proves that you already what's right to do. Well, because you asked, I'll say, "simply cut off all ties with her. Don't even communicate".

gone are those days when mad people wear rags.

Classic case of an Obsession, recommend a therapist to her

She's physically married to the man,but emotionally attached to you.
Please,just explain to her your stand on married women.
And don't pick her call,or give any chance of her,communicating with you.
Avoid her like a plaque,and don't be tempted to rescind your stand.
With time,she will get over it.

I believe you know what is the right thing to do.

Maybe you just need to grow some balls to do it.

If you want, you can create another thread on how to grow some balls.

Adultery can be defined as having s/e/x with someone,and calling another person's name.

i think you should avoid her as much as possible.
its a curse to sleep with another man's wife

Richard.:
We dated for very good 5 yrs and within this five yrs, I loved her like a wife, treated her as if we would end up as life partners.

I finished school and decided to further and this discouraged her from moving on with me and before God and man, I never blamed her for leaving because she wasn't getting any younger.

My problem now is after telling her I haven't gotten a girl friend since she left, she still calls and asks me to pay her a visit especially whenever the husband travels.

still sends me messages, calls in the midnight atimes. When I ask her the reason for all these, she will tell me that I made it difficult for her to stay with another man even her husband.

Last 3months, she put to bed and named the baby after me. Please what do I do, how do I let her go because the truth is I haven't had anything with a married woman and will never have due to the consequences that follow thereafter.

I feel you man.....
Only those without the trouble of a broken long term relationship will heap blame on the lady. Research shows that Women are more linkly to want a fling with their ex than men. Women are humans too you know.

You have to explain to her that any continued contact btw you both will only be counter productive. Then avoid her all together. Also pray for God's help cos I will imagin you are already lost in the desire.

WITH THIS KIND TORY HOW BASTARD NO GO PLENTY 4 NAIJA WTCHEW

What God has join together let no man put asunder. Ur ex is calling u to put asunder into her marriage. Ur ex is devil, so run 4 ur life

You must have given her the best of love and sexx that's why is so hard to let go.as I said earlier on a thread similar to this,a male friend who had 3 exes all married is restless because they keep stalking him.they still disturb him for sexx because he is good.one of them even promised to buy him a car! The dude had to change his number and they are still stalking him on fb!
But I don't know why its hard to forget an Ex especially women! "Thinking"

Four letter word: FLEE

OP, take my advise. Stop picking her calls. Tell her you have now found a wife and that she should leave you alone. That will definitely put her off for good. Unless of course, u still fancy having her....

Wierd things happen nowadays...re u even sure its even a good idea getting married....

I just hope her husband ain't on NL or else na wahala

Young man! Listen to me very carefully...

I admire the fact that you were a good man while it lasted. That is very commendable.

But now that lady is married. Stay away from her. Don't allow your good deeds lead you to evil.

Stay away from another man's wife if you do not want God's curse in your home.