SweetNess:

Hi Everyone,

He says he can't keep a relationship because of his job, and he is gone quite a bit, but I think it's worth a try, and he is always saying when I get back, lets go do or that, but I am never with him with the many parties he attend with his Nigerian friends. We both are in our late 30's, but this is new ground for me. Any advice on what I am seeing or not seeing?

I am guessing u havent had sex since 2005. Please don't hit my pervet mind. I think the guy likes u but not intrested in anything serious. Some guys can be like that. You could talk to him about marriage to see his view. Good luck sha

eww i know how it feels. Well in that situation, just try ur luck after all u have nothing to loose. Its a yes or no answer. U r not getting younger either so dont wait. Go for it and if he is not ready for it, then broaden ur search for mr perfecto and try a second spin. Good luck

Nigerian men associate alot with nigerians but are really friendly with foreigners. I'm guessing he feels just as u feel but is also not trying to burden u with his feelings right now especially as he's never around. My advice: give him the green light and then wait and see his reaction. Give him some sign to show him that u will not run when he gathers the courage to express his love for u. It is very rare for a Nigerian man to spend so much time with a woman from a different culture when he has no intentions, but there again, some men are just like that.

give him a peck sometime, hug him longer than usual but dont say anything about a relationship, allow him come out with it cos u may give him the wrong impression if u dont.

Best of luck!

Hi there, I am a Nigerian babe and i would like to tell you that the guy does like you but he doesn't want to commit to a relationship. Men get lonely too and he likes the idea of having someone to call and share intimate greetings with not like just anyother friend, but he would rather just keep it like that for as long as he can. If you really want to tell him how you feel i am all for that atleast let it not be that you never tried but, this can't continue the way it is.
I do hope he changes his mind to start a relationship and for a guy that just bought a home, I think he is preparing to settle down even if he doesn't know it first.
Best of luck!

@jolie, the guy likes him but not intrested in relationship. Must a guy be in relationship to like a g irl?

@larger 20, a guy doesn't have to be in a relationship to like a girl but when he starts getting very intimate with her then i think he should try to show some form of committment.
where would we all be if we just have shallow relationships that lead the other party into thinking they are really liked.

@ jolie, I don't think so. Follow your mind, I know why the girl is conceern in the first place is that she is getting older and still single. hot girls really like this type of relationship because every guuy wants a peice of them. I don't think the guy should show some commitment. There is no string attached. I think the girl should expand her horizon. Its ok to limit her activities with the guy once she starts seeing someone else or dating someone else. As far as its just plain talk, i dont see anything wrong with it. Even if she is sleeping with the guy for the fun of it, that is her choice. Some girls cant wait, i know this for sure

@larger, please don't misunderstand that I have a problem being single, and if I implied that, that was an error. I am single by choice because I don't have time for the bs. Even though I mentioned being intimate, please don't mistake it to be that I am going to fall for the okie doke, and just have sex and mosve on. He is a really sweet guy, and I am please with the responses that I have recieved in this post. I will just player by ear, and probably lean toward what Lexi state.

Btw, someone called me a He, I am a female, he is male.

SweetNess:



Btw, someone called me a He, I am a female, he is male.

sorry o!

lol,