IM 24 AND I THINK ITS TIME FOR ME TO SETTLE DOWN, I WANT TO MARRY A GIRL FROM HOME BUT IM AFRAID! IVE SEEN ALOT OF GUYS GO HOME TO MARRY, BRING THERE WIVES BACK TO THE US, PUT THEM THROUGH SCHOOL AND EVENTUALLY THE WIFE LEAVES THE GUY, WTF? ITS LIKE A 419 MARRIAGE I KNOW 3 GUYS THAT IT HAPPENED TO AND I DONT WANT TO BE NEXT,

why marry a girl from home that you dont know?
marry the akatas ( Brrrr! i hate that word!) that you know.

The devil u know is better than the angel u don't know.
since it already happened to 3 pple that u know. . . why join the wagon?

stick to the women u know. . . besides, u don't have to go home to go pick a wife. There are lots of nigerian girls over there. . .better still, lots of african girls.

THE PROBLEM IS THAT MOST OF THE NAIJA BABES IN AMERICA ARE 2 AMERIANIZED AND HAVE LOST ALL SENSE OF THE NIGERIAN CULTURE!! THEY DONT COOK OR CLEAN HERE, THEY CAN EVEN DELIVER A NICE SLAP TO A GUY IF U PUSH THEM AT LEAST THE ONES IN NAIJA STILL HAVE A LIL RESPECT/MORALS

if u wanna marry a gurl from home, then i suggest u go home and settle down for a while. court with someone , without giving details of where ur'e from. pld sont marry village gurl o, because u're looking for a gurl that'll give u respect, i suggest u marry a gurl thats well educated and from a good, decent respectful nuclear home. but dont jump on marriage, its something u're gonna be in for the rest of ur life, so u're still young and you have time. go home, and get in a relationship, see how it goes then u can accomplish ur mission.

akata boy dem don yarn everything,why u wan go naija go peak wifi
1 u no dey nija chick wey dey house dem level(dem mentality)
2 u no even need am cuz to me it make absolutely no sense atall
omo make u jst settle down with any chick wey ur spirit finds
satisfaction,he no matter where dem come from ok.

akata boy dem don yarn everything,why u wan go naija go peak wifi
1 u no dey nija chick wey dey house dem level(dem mentality)
2 u no even need am cuz to me it make absolutely no sense atall
omo make u jst settle down with any chick wey ur spirit finds
satisfaction,he no matter where dem come from ok.

Why are you going to Nija to marry?

Are there no American Nigerian girls there?

Omo i really don't think u should venture into it, i don't think u have the liver (no offense).

Sweetie, i really like u sha and i dont want to see u hurt - so am saying dont do it.

Sorry to digress here. Adeboo, why are you trying to discourage him from marrying from Nigeria, IN Nigeria?

You're practically painting Nigerian girls in Nigeria black! He can also get hurt by "American-Nigerian" girls too, if he doesn't know his onions! Some Nigerian girls in the US have hidden agendas, and not all Nigerian girls in Nigeria have ulterior motives.

Please, be a bit more tolerant, there's nothing wrong with Nigerian girls in Nigeria.

@ Akata: If you really need to post this here, then to be honest, i'd say you're not ready to settle down, no offence. There are plenty of educated girls in Nigeria, who don't need you to "put them through school", as you put it. Times have moved on, a lot of Nigerian girls are pretty independent, and doing well in Nigeria, they don't all need your money! A lot of them are probably doing better than you are in the US.

Siena:

Sorry to digress here. Adeboo, why are you trying to discourage him from marrying from Nigeria, IN Nigeria?

You're practically painting Nigerian girls in Nigeria black! He can also get hurt by "American-Nigerian" girls too, if he doesn't know his onions! Some Nigerian girls in the US have hidden agendas, and not all Nigerian girls in Nigeria have ulterior motives.

Please, be a bit more tolerant, there's nothing wrong with Nigerian girls in Nigeria.

@ Akata: If you really need to post this here, then to be honest, i'd say you're not ready to settle down, no offence. There are plenty of educated girls in Nigeria, who don't need you to "put them through school", as you put it. Times have moved on, a lot of Nigerian girls are pretty independent, and doing well in Nigeria, they don't all need your money! A lot of them are probably doing better than you are in the US.

I am not discouraging anyone.
What i have said ti him is that in terms of mental level - he isnt on their level. He has never even been in Nija, and u want him to marry a Nija girl.

I am just saying to him what i would say to my brother - he wont be able to handle it.
Being hurt is not the issue here, but being hurt and left skint is what am talking about.

Being skint financially, emotonally, spiritually etc.

I am not painting Nija girls anyhow, i am a Nija girl and thats what i feel.

adeboo:

Sweetie, i really like u sha and i don't want to see u hurt - so am saying don't do it.

How you take like am, you don see am before.

Geetoylaz:

if u want to marry a girl from home, then i suggest u go home and settle down for a while. court with someone , without giving details of where your'e from. pld sont marry village girl o, because u're looking for a girl that'll give u respect, i suggest u marry a girl thats well educated and from a good, decent respectful nuclear home. but don't jump on marriage, its something u're going to be in for the rest of your life, so u're still young and you have time. go home, and get in a relationship, see how it goes then u can accomplish your mission.

I think i agree with you, go home, court a lady, plz don't jump into marriage okay. wish you luck.

tngtech:

How you take like am, you don see am before.

I think i agree with you, go home, court a lady, plz don't jump into marriage okay. wish you luck.

No i just like how he is real naive sha.

I understand what you're saying, Adeboo. My point is, not everyone's mentality is determined by their backgrounds.

An educated girl in Nigeria, from an educated family background, can be less streetwise than a Nigerian girl, who's lived in the US for even 10 years, if these girls have lived a tough life, and grew up with "street girls". There are places in the US, that are a lot tougher and rougher than places in Nigeria!

The point is, if Akata was brought up in a middle-class region, by middle-class parents, then there are Nigerian girls in certain parts of the US that will be too much for him to handle! On the other hand, there are Nigerian girls in Nigeria that would be more his kind. The point I'm trying to make here, not everyone from your area is the right one for you!

Akata, you're the man. You need to make your own decisions, without help from anyone! We can only advice, you'll have to do the manly thing, and make your own choices. I've no doubt, you'll get burnt along the way, regardless of where you choose from, but the trick here is, not to make the same mistake twice, otherwise, that would make you a fool, and I'm sure you're not silly! Good luck.

common we have some nice girls what u taliking about, even nigerian girls don,t misbehave as much as american girls. well as for me i don,t have problem with girls,it all matters on the person himself. if u are down-to-earth,nice and have a giving spirit then u have a problem.try to be difficult trust me no woman wants a man she can manipulate. so american boy so get them. give me reports.

perhaps, maybe da 3 guys told them wives that they r medical doctors etcc and when they arrived, they said another thing, i know alot of people it happens, when u lie and get a wife 4rom home, your punishment is waiting for you as well

@poster,

No need to be scared!  Just make sure she has like 3 or 4 children in about 3 years so before she thinks of jet-skiing out of the relationship--GAME OVER!

Unless you go and marry one of those fake "virgins" that have lived in Lagos and Abuja as single business women! Most have fibroids and missing parts of the uterus. Unless you want to spend time with fertility specialists!

Just go to your village during Christmas and during thanksgiving service and shadow all the young babes there with correct breasts,---without bras and standing Ikebes.  Not those old born again spinsters when don born for bush tire--bury all their children for evil forest! There are a few nice families left.  You just need to shop around.  Please, start from your village.  Leave all those city chicks alone!

did u school at iree poly? u look like someone i have meet

Don'tthink about coming here,  if you do, sorry!
and the thing about coming to settle here? EH!! Don't try it my brother, the game there pays more than here 150%, OWU go blow you ooo.
Go to church and get a wife from there! Nigerian females are despirate and can put on any form of behaviour and pretends to be a sheep when their original self is an hungry Lion. The few good ones are taken already!

What am saying is that - how will he know which girl is from an educated background?

I am saying this because i have seen friends marry those who are educated and those who are non educated - and its all ended the same way.

I am truly yet to hear of someone that brought a wife from Nija and it ended well - am not saying there arent good girls o.
I am just speaking from experience.

@poster

Don't be feel afraid wanting to marry a Nigerian girl! Don't mind other people warn you negatively and don't listen to your 3 friends who went thru badly.

If I was your shoe to have great desire settling down with a Nigerian girl, go for it with deep cautiously come down to Nigeria to meet your Nigerian girl in order to observe her everything she claim over the phone/dating online whether if she is honest or not. Check out her background everything!!!

If you feel that she is the right one for you, then I hope you are aware about getting immigrant paperwork that take time at least 3-6 months if you doing right thing to bring your Nigerian girl coming to the USA. This is not easy!

I talk about a Fiancee visa with the support affidavit document requirement within 90 days to expect to get married in the USA, check out US travel site for details.

Because i heard many horrified stories for example one Nigerian abroad bringing a girl from Nigeria after Fiancee visa was granted to get married---later this girl from Nigeria was not telling her newly US husband that she is not able to make baby anymore due to 8 abortions when she was in Nigeria. All she wanted just "paper". That is sad story!!!!

I am not trying to scare you, but you need to be aware everything down there very cautiously when it comes to dating a Nigerian girl.

akata boy from your earlier post you seem to be looking for a cook and cleaner .makes me wonder whatever happened to your 2 God given hands. The african mentality is often that of a man going into marriage with all these expectations of what a wife will do for him. Because a woman cannot cook or clean doesnt make her a bad wife. Do you cook and clean?

i'm highjacking this post Damn that girl Geetoylaz is such a hot chick she got a 100 watt bulb smile how you doing girl whats poppin

any way you should listen to Geetoylaz advice its very smart and really what you need to hear

marry anywhere for there is no fear in love

Siena:

Sorry to digress here. Adeboo, why are you trying to discourage him from marrying from Nigeria, IN Nigeria?

You're practically painting Nigerian girls in Nigeria black! He can also get hurt by "American-Nigerian" girls too, if he doesn't know his onions! Some Nigerian girls in the US have hidden agendas, and not all Nigerian girls in Nigeria have ulterior motives.

Please, be a bit more tolerant, there's nothing wrong with Nigerian girls in Nigeria.

@ Akata: If you really need to post this here, then to be honest, i'd say you're not ready to settle down, no offence. There are plenty of educated girls in Nigeria, who don't need you to "put them through school", as you put it. Times have moved on, a lot of Nigerian girls are pretty independent, and doing well in Nigeria, they don't all need your money! A lot of them are probably doing better than you are in the US.

So true.

almondjoy never cease to crack me up

Guy if like urself no 9ja say want come marry else, i no go talk pass dis cos dem don yan u d koko way u wan know u self don see urself so what else do u want know?, guy wake up other African girls full town marry any except 9ja.

efuah:

almondjoy never cease to crack me up

Sis-in-law!  Na true na! Haba!

You know that once a lady passes that 25 years old thing and not one child has passed that area called the uterus, na so so potato go begin grow inside the uterus! Just look around you. Fibroid here, fibroid there! All our ladies are looking pregnant-- yet nothing kicking inside but yams and potatoes!

@poster
Make sure you see her naked and her tummy is flat while she is standing up and lying on the bed. Make sure no lumps are visible. That was the advice I gave all my brothers before they got married. Now they cannot stop thanking me!

almondjoy:

Sis-in-law! Na true na! Haba!

You know that once a lady passes that 25 years old thing and not one child has passed that area called the uterus, na so so potato go begin grow inside the uterus! Just look around you. Fibroid here, fibroid there! All our ladies are looking pregnant-- yet nothing kicking inside but yams and potatoes!

@poster
Make sure you see her naked and her tummy is flat while she is standing up and lying on the bed. Make sure no lumps are visible. That was the advice I gave all my brothers before they got married. Now they cannot stop thanking me!

Militia, good day!

Good day Siena! Love your smile! Off to bed dearie! Talk to you later!

why is it that we all nurture wrong mentalities about marriage? I believe from my experience, the emphacy should not be laid on what location to marry and tribe to marry, soiling the image of all nigerian girls is not the issue here, afterall, most of our mums were nigerian girls. Don't forget that you were given birth to by a nigerian woman
My suggestion is this, whoever your lady will be, emphasize on futurural prospective realities. Is she going to help you become what you want to be in life? Do you see her being a division to you or a multiplication? Is your future secured with her. I hope you get your bone from anywhere if you have a good motive.

SIGNS YOU ARE STILL IN LOVE WITH YOUR EX

Take a look at this list of signs that you are not over your ex, and find out if you really are about him, or not ...

1. You get caught almost texting him


For many women, erasing their phone number is the best option. But you can know it by heart. What kind of defeats the whole purpose.

I mean really, how many times have you written a long and sincere message - only to think about it later and decide to eliminate it?

Or worse ... in a moment of irrationality, send it to him?

If you are still thinking of him enough to write messages to him and send jolts of emotion through you, it means that you are not on him.

You will overcome it over time, but for now you will have to concentrate on yourself.


2. You want him to see you
If you come to places on purpose because you know he will be there, that is a huge sign that you are still not over on him.
Even if you go to a party that you know is going to be with another guy to try to make him jealous, all you're going to do is end up getting sad when you see him feeling happy.

The only way to overcome this temptation is to keep yourself occupied in your own life and not try to be where you are or be seen by him.

Otherwise, you are just taking the break and taking more and more time to overcome it.

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