Idi-Amin:
Need your opinion, me and my wife always disgree about something. It's nothing major, but she takes it too serious.

We have 3 kids. 7 year old boy, and twin girls, 4 years old. My wife has a problem that I do not hide my unclothedness from my kids. If I am urinating in the toilet, and my son wants to pee as well, he comes beside me and pees, and he will even joke and try to shoot my pee with his pee. I do not tell him to wait outside so that he does not see my manliness. Even if we are in the bedroom and I'm lotioning up and daughters run into the room, i do not hide and tell them to go outside so they do not see my manliness! Why should I do that? they are my children. My wife will tell them to go outside.

If we have no visitors at home, and Im taking a bath, I dont lock the bathroom door. My wife would come and say 'you need to lock the door, these children can come in' and I will be like 'So? they are my children'

she keeps telling me it's not proper in our culture, it is morally wrong and can cause disrespect, it does not happen in Nigeria, bla bla
I can understand where she is coming from. I stayed at home for 23 years and I can say I have never seen my father's manliness (or maybe I did as a small child and can't remember).

Is it wrong?

Siena: Personally, I don't think it's appropriate. They may well be your kids, but there are some lines you don't cross, undressing in front of your kids (especially the girls) is one of those borders.

I'm with your wife on this one.

ayabunmi: My opinion as one raised in Lagos. It is wrong for children above the age of 7 to see their parent's unclothedness. It is believed that they are matured to start forming images in their mind (i guess the question of why does mummy have breast and daddy "rod".

Idi-Amin:


tell me why do you think that because a little girl has not seen manliness before as a child, then it means she will grow up morally better than the one who grew up seeing her father's manliness.

what do you mean by 'there are some lines you should not cross' I am not a peadophile abegi, and will not be Nigerian Josef Fritzl. It just does not bother me, that is all I am saying.

slimyem: Op,is it until your son starts asking you why your thing is bigger than his own that you'll know its wrong?
...or until your daughters ask you why your own isn't like their own?
They are your children but they are well grown past that totally innocent stage....
Be wise!!

Idi-Amin:


tell me why do you think that because a little girl has not seen manliness before as a child, then it means she will grow up morally better than the one who grew up seeing her father's manliness.

what do you mean by 'there are some lines you should not cross' I am not a peadophile abegi, and will not be Nigerian Josef Fritzl. It just does not bother me, that is all I am saying.

Idi-Amin:


Even if they dont ask at home. dont they go to school? they will ask sooner or later, they will have peers in school. When you start hiding this this education from your kids and make it a taboo to ask about their private parts, that is when they will start exploring at age 13 and bring disgrace into your house

Mrs.Chima:


YOU DON'T HAVE AN ISSUE BUT YOUR WIFE DOES. You do not owe no one an explanation on this site but you do owe respect to your wife's feelings regarding your flaunting around your body in front of the kids. She is uncomfortable with you prancing around or you simply do not care?

We can't help your marriage nor we can prevent whatever comes your way but you simply asked us our opinions and we gave it to you. Now you can simply have a chat with your wife and find out what is good for the both of youse...until then she is unhappy and you don't give a Bleep.

Idi-Amin:


Look, it is not like I am walking around the house with nuts dangling from left to right. I wear clothes in my house, let's get that clear. It's just not in me to close the bedroom door when I come in from the bathroom just because my kids are downstairs and they could come up anytime. if I am lotioning up and one of daughters walk in, should I dive for cover behind the bed, and shout 'get out'.

I undersatnd my wife's feelings but I have to consciously think about it and do what she is saying. it's mot like I think to myself 'should I do it or not do it, my wife might get annoyed. I will do it anyway'

Idi-Amin:


Even if they dont ask at home. dont they go to school? they will ask sooner or later, they will have peers in school. When you start hiding this this education from your kids and make it a taboo to ask about their private parts, that is when they will start exploring at age 13 and bring disgrace into your house

Mrs.Chima:
Since OP doesn't have an issue with prancing around nekkid...then he shouldn't have an issue with his children prancing around nekkid to other people as well.

If he doesn't give a Bleep...neither should the kids. Prance on!

slimyem: You shouldn't even wait for them to ask but when they ask it shouldnt be because you been flaunting your thing in their face all over the house.
Sex education is good but it has to be verbal not practical like you are doing and its has to be when the child's mind is developed enough to understand and digest the idea not at age 4 or age 7.
What they should be learning now is how they shouldn't allow anyone touch them in those places and/or let you or their mum knows if such happens!!

Missy_B: It's not a question of being proper or improper; it depends on what you're comfortable with.
Why anyone couldn't be comfortable un/dressing in front of their kid is what I cannot understand.

Yes, questions have been asked and appropriate answers were given.

Idi-Amin:


Madam you making assumptions here. I would defo have an issue with my kids naked around aother people. we are a close family, i have been like these with them since they were babies. It's no big issue for them, they dont even look at me, or my manliness. it's not like they go around the house laughing 'I saw daddy's manliness, hehehe'. because we are a close family, they dont even look, I can be in the shower, my son can come in the bathroom pee and walk out without even acknowledging that I am naked in the shower. I get your point though

Idi-Amin:
tell me why do you think that because a little girl has not seen manliness before as a child, then it means she will grow up morally better than the one who grew up seeing her father's manliness.

what do you mean by 'there are some lines you should not cross' I am not a peadophile abegi, and will not be Nigerian Josef Fritzl. It just does not bother me, that is all I am saying.

Mavor: Dude are you a Christian? If yes, the bible has God speaking against children seeing the unclothedness of their parents. Not good.

Idi-Amin:
Need your opinion, me and my wife always disgree about something. It's nothing major, but she takes it too serious.

We have 3 kids. 7 year old boy, and twin girls, 4 years old. My wife has a problem that I do not hide my unclothedness from my kids. If I am urinating in the toilet, and my son wants to pee as well, he comes beside me and pees, and he will even joke and try to shoot my pee with his pee. I do not tell him to wait outside so that he does not see my manliness. Even if we are in the bedroom and I'm lotioning up and daughters run into the room, i do not hide and tell them to go outside so they do not see my manliness! Why should I do that? they are my children. My wife will tell them to go outside.

If we have no visitors at home, and Im taking a bath, I dont lock the bathroom door. My wife would come and say 'you need to lock the door, these children can come in' and I will be like 'So? they are my children'

she keeps telling me it's not proper in our culture, it is morally wrong and can cause disrespect, it does not happen in Nigeria, bla bla
I can understand where she is coming from. I stayed at home for 23 years and I can say I have never seen my father's manliness (or maybe I did as a small child and can't remember).

Is it wrong?