Idi-Amin:
Need your opinion, me and my wife always disgree about something. It's nothing major, but she takes it too serious.
Oga repent. It is very wrong. You are sending wrong information to them at their early stage.
We have 3 kids. 7 year old boy, and twin girls, 4 years old. My wife has a problem that I do not hide my unclothedness from my kids. If I am urinating in the toilet, and my son wants to pee as well, he comes beside me and pees, and he will even joke and try to shoot my pee with his pee. I do not tell him to wait outside so that he does not see my manliness. Even if we are in the bedroom and I'm lotioning up and daughters run into the room, i do not hide and tell them to go outside so they do not see my manliness! Why should I do that? they are my children. My wife will tell them to go outside.

If we have no visitors at home, and Im taking a bath, I dont lock the bathroom door. My wife would come and say 'you need to lock the door, these children can come in' and I will be like 'So? they are my children'

she keeps telling me it's not proper in our culture, it is morally wrong and can cause disrespect, it does not happen in Nigeria, bla bla
I can understand where she is coming from. I stayed at home for 23 years and I can say I have never seen my father's manliness (or maybe I did as a small child and can't remember).

Is it wrong?

HQ: Read between the lines. The OP pointed out that it has been the "norm" since his kids were babies - which suggests they are sort of used to it.


IMO, I don't think it's a good idea to continue with the practice when your kids hit puberty (now I'm talking Dad vs Female Kids & Mum vs the Male Kids).

At their current age they may not see it as anything but as they grow older(and hit puberty), they could re-act differently.


Think of what happens when a child goes by "Oh, Mum doesn't mind when I pop into the Bathroom when she's bathing" and does that a lot more often (with a bad motive).

I just hope the kids grow up to understand that it wouldn't be regarded "normal" if they did same to "someone else" (say dash into the bathroom without knocking when someone's bathing and so on).


Just My Two Cents. I'm not a father yet, hopefully when I get there, I'll understand better.

Idi-Amin:
Need your opinion, me and my wife always disgree about something. It's nothing major, but she takes it too serious.

We have 3 kids. 7 year old boy, and twin girls, 4 years old. My wife has a problem that I do not hide my unclothedness from my kids. If I am urinating in the toilet, and my son wants to pee as well, he comes beside me and pees, and he will even joke and try to shoot my pee with his pee. I do not tell him to wait outside so that he does not see my manliness. Even if we are in the bedroom and I'm lotioning up and daughters run into the room, i do not hide and tell them to go outside so they do not see my manliness! Why should I do that? they are my children. My wife will tell them to go outside.

If we have no visitors at home, and Im taking a bath, I dont lock the bathroom door. My wife would come and say 'you need to lock the door, these children can come in' and I will be like 'So? they are my children'

she keeps telling me it's not proper in our culture, it is morally wrong and can cause disrespect, it does not happen in Nigeria, bla bla
I can understand where she is coming from. I stayed at home for 23 years and I can say I have never seen my father's manliness (or maybe I did as a small child and can't remember).

Is it wrong?

linearity: If you are staying in one of the western countries e.g. USA, UK, etc....very soon you will be getting a visit from child protective services and you will be in a difficult position defending your action.

This is the way it is going to happen: Since kids are innocent and very free, one day at the playground at school or during picnics, and as each child will be discussing living at home or body part out of curiosity, your kid is going to let it out how your manliness is bigger than his, etc...one thing will lead to another and the teacher will hear about it....then the principal...if the teacher did not her...the kids that heard it...down the road will make those comments casually to their parents and those parents will call the principal...one way or the other...your kid will be invited to the principal's office and child protective services will be called.

If you narrate what you just told the world here to the child protective service or a Judge, I do not think they will be happy with your actions and if in the USA, you will at least server time for either of the following or all of them combined:

1. Indecent exposure.
2. Corruption of a minor
3. Lewd and lascivious conduct

Since this has been going on for a long time, if the prosecutor does not like you and want to shut you down for a very long time...they would charge you with multiple counts on each charges.

Now, am not saying all of these or any of these might stick...but I do not think you will be let go off the hook free.

You have already done the damage, heed your wife's warning and stop it immediately...this might not prevent your kids from talking about it...but the further you put the incident from them, the less they will remember it and be able to talk about it.

Ndeewonu: Except you want to start sleeping with your daughters even before they get to 10 years (just as some fathers we read about these days, do), that is the only reason that can justify your showing your unclothedness to your children. If your children, including daughters, get used to your m@nhood, it means it would become much easier for you to start having s3x with then, even up to their adult age, and they would not see it as anything bad.

Boy! That is too wrong! As soon as my own children get to 1 (I mean one) year, I move them to the Children's Room.

beebop: Also someone is mentioning something about children gossiping about daddy's kpekus.

AND SO.

Your daddy has a blockus, Everyone's daddy has a blockus. I can't count how many blockuses I've seen on the roadside in Lagos just peeing away merrily. It's my own daddy's blockus that is now special.

chai. you people will KEEEL me

Me I like to read on the toilet. My door is firmly closed (also who wants to smell that) and anyone disturbing me during #2 will hear from me, not because I'm ashamed I have a toto but don't DISTURB me while I'm reading on the toilet dammmit.

Idi-Amin:


This is the kind of stupidity i try to avoid from brain dead nigerians, don't know how you get access to the internet to be honest. 'Unless I want to start having sex with my daughters' you said. Really? Is that the conclusion you have made from my post. I'm out of here folks, does anyone know how to delete a post on nairaland?

cowgurl: What your wifey is requesting of you is no big deal poster, so please don't make it one.
so just go ahead and act accordingly.


I personally do not have an issue with you being unclad around your 7 year old son cos to me, it's kinda fun, the games you both play n all
but around your 4 year old daughters now that's obscene, besides you don't want those twinnies comparing sizes when they grow up lol!

so just do as she said alright.

Siena:

Dude, that's going to the extreme. You have NO right to label the OP as the worst father, nor make crass comments about his kids being taken away. I don't agree with undressing in front of his kids, but I prefer to keep an open mind. Would I do it? No.

And just so you know - in the West, as long as nothing lewd was taking place, the authorities can do jack about it. Some new-Age families stay undressed within the confines of their homes, and go to nudist camps. Yes, with their children, who may even be in their teens.

This is a topic that will generate different reactions - some positive, some negative. It shouldn't generate verbal abuse, and i think you should do the manly thing, apologize to the OP and edit your post.

beebop: Also someone is mentioning something about children gossiping about daddy's kpekus.

AND SO.

Your daddy has a blockus, Everyone's daddy has a blockus. I can't count how many blockuses I've seen on the roadside in Lagos just peeing away merrily. It's my own daddy's blockus that is now special.

chai. you people will KEEEL me

Me I like to read on the toilet. My door is firmly closed (also who wants to smell that) and anyone disturbing me during #2 will hear from me, not because I'm ashamed I have a toto but don't DISTURB me while I'm reading on the toilet dammmit.

afam4eva:
Pls what part of the scripture is this? At times i wonder if i'm reading the right Bible.

Mavor: Remember the part where Noah grew a vineyard and one evening he got drunk on the wine from that vineyard. He slept naked in his tent as a result of that drunkenness. One of this three sons came in and saw his old man naked and went out to tell the other two laughing about it. The other two walked backwards into their dad's tent holding a blanket and covered their father, shielding their eyes. When Noah woke up, God made it known to him what happened and Noah cursed the son who mocked his unclothedness, cursed him and his descendants.

Missy_B:
I've always opined that many things are best left off NL . . . Too many idiots roaming about, wanting to be heard.

You can't delete your posts except the mod help you. Until then, use the modify button; modify your original post. I agree you should delete/modify the original post.

afam4eva:
Did he curse them because they saw his unclothedness or because they mocked his unclothedness?

violent:

I don't see anything crass in my comments nor a need to apologize for thinking it's morally reprehensible if a father does not see a big deal having his two underage young girls stare on his bareness. That in my books qualifies for the worst parenting ever.