The truth of the matter is men will cheat! Its just their nature, this quest to conquer, its purely animalistic, but despite that a man who truly loves u won't send u away given even to the fact that u are not based in the same city with him and u came just for a weekend! Its the height of disregard! Despite men cheating nature, they always protect the one the LOVE, nowadays in relationships, its not expecting to be the only one, its praying to be the no one! because my dear sister others go dey for corner. Girls can steal the guy who loves u for the moment but surely after the lower region and that animalistic urge is satisfied, he will always return to where his heart is!

Go and drink G...a...R....r.....Ï,

Missy_B:
And you believe none of your loved ones has ever lied to?

Topic : Confront him....and you don't necessarily have to leave now.

good point, missy

k2039: Op stupidity is seeing the obvious but choosing to believe the lies.

You know the content of their converstaion,you know well enough from the conversation if he is cheating.

If you have a deep conviction he is cheating,them it's time to call it quit.

If you confront him,he is going to lie,or tell you to forgive him that he will change.

The worst decision you can make is believing he will change and if you do believe you will only be left dissapointed for the rest of your life.

Think about this,if you were number one on his list,he would never had told you to go away but rather he would have called the other girl and cancelled the appointment with her.


Lets assume he is not even cheating,why did he have to lie with his mum.


My2Cent:You are just an option in his book,so walk away from the relationship now before he rips your heart off completely.
Never forget you were born without him and their are millions out their that are better than him,also their is someone out their who will make you his priority

I love love love this post. Who are you? Would like to know.

booqee: From what i know oh,(nobody should eat me raw abeg)...at least 80% of the guys cheat on their girlfriends or wife! Yes! And i really hate dat bout them,.but i've come to accept dat fact like dat.
But the thing is dat despite cheating, some guys still make it clear that their girlfriend is their 'real girlfriend' and they don't mess with her(they do their 'cheating' as discreet as possible) and they give her all d respect she deserves, but there are some guys who cheat without respect for their girlfriends like in ur case..he made u leave d house so he can bang another girl, in d same house u slept last night and will still sleep dat night. No! dats bullsh.it and trash...and u're his trash, sorry to say dat. I'd say you should confront him..but be careful, cos he's gon deny it or ask for forgiveness or even go on the defensive by saying "why did u have to infringe on his privacy by recording?" or "u don't trust him"..u know shi.ts like dats.. you shouldn't fall for any of it.. guys are more deceitful than a snake.
You shouldn't even take such nonsense.
After the confrontation, then walk away.
If he comes back to beg u...gauge and access his response, explanation and behaviour with sense and wisdom to know if he really loves you., and don't just accept so fast! And dats if he'll even come back.
U just need to reason with ur head here. Don't let ur heart do the reasoning..

Keep deceiving yourself that 80% of men cheat, therefore you have to accept and live with this ''fact''. Do you partake in thre3somes with him too?

Maybe you'll wake up from your slumber when he gives STDs, or when he dumps your sorry azz.

Some low lives will never know self worth, even if it hits them like a truck on the face!!!

aurora: Hi Nairalanders! Need some candid advice. I‘ve been dating this guy for 2 years though we‘ve lived in different cities in the last one year. He invited me to visit him and I did.

While there last weekend he told me his mum was coming to visit and asked me to give him some space which I did. I‘m not prone to suspicion but I thought it would be an opportunity to meet her and seeing that his sister is married and stays in the same city, I wondered why his “mum“ would chose to stay at his place, so before leaving I set up an app on my phone to record whatever was going on in my absence. When I returned later, I found out that his “mum“ was actually another girl. Right now I‘m thinking of confronting him about his lie or just walking away and never looking back. What do I do?

CONFRONT HIM! You don't deserve to be treated like that. And when you do decide to confront him, pack some extra heat just in case (friend, brother, machete).
Can i just say you're effing awesome for recording what he did! Present him with the facts!!!

cindyrella: I am not sure that guy really loves you sef!

Confront him with the evidence first before you walk away!
So he will know the reason why you are dumping his assss!

Couldnt agree with you more

No she should suffer in silence

k2039:

Never forget you were born without him and their are millions out their that are better than him,also their is someone out their who will make you his priority

God bless man; I love love the bolded part.

ghettodreamz:
What's the biggie about you meeting his so-called mom in the first place if he truly loves you? I leave you with this quote "Never make someone your priority, if to them you are only an option".

I love this quote.

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solidbroda: These are two things. If he cares so much about u and still cheating, I don't think u should bug urself. Men were created to cheat and its in our blood. Any lady competing with a man in such case will always find herself to blame. What you should focus on is how you can make him a better man. Does he really worth it. Out of all d 1million ladies he might have, do you feel he treats u as the 1 in a million? If he does, then you have nothing to worry. Don't try and compete by cheating with anoda guy, else, you will make things worse for urself and not ur guy. So cheers.

this is the dumbest of all dumb comments on this thread that i have read so far... mate, you need serious cleansing.

forget that player

Everybody thinks u were not treated fairly, but the truth is that you cohabiting with a man not married to you is where you missed it. With many advising you to quit, u will eventually fall into another mans bed and the fun continues while the hurt is around the corner

Let me give u a better advice: give your life to Christ and keep yourself chaste for your husband to be. That 80% of men cheat is the statistics in the world. A man that does not cheat(which apparently is what you are looking for) will also be looking for a woman who respects and regards her body as God's temple. God help you

Why confront him? Either you are going to stay or you will go. If you choose to stay with him, the next time he cheats, he will just try to be more discreet so you don't find out. If you choose to leave him, just stop all communication from your end. When he calls, tell him that you found out he was intimate with someone else and you have moved on to be with someone faithful. Ladies need to stop torturing themselves.

warrior101:

this is the dumbest of all dumb comments on this thread that i have read so far... mate, you need serious cleansing.

how old are u? 15? Cheers Junior

Since he doesn't want u to meet his mom do u still need a prophet to tell that he is a playa.u are worth next to nothing to him so bid him bye bye

La Parisienne:
Keep deceiving yourself that 80% of men cheat, therefore you have to accept and live with this ''fact''. Do you partake in thre3somes with him too?

wtf?? How does accepting d fact dat 80% men do cheat correlate with having a three$ome with my bf??

Maybe you'll wake up from your slumber when he gives STDs

good Lord! Are u silly by default or by design?? Where in my post did i indicate i have unprotected sex or even intimacy at all?? Now i think you're d one who needs to wake up from ur slumber and stop living in d past..if u think men don't cheat at all. Jeez! Dis is freaking 2012..we're not in the 19th century for goodness sake. You should certainly go out more and aquint urself with the society! Maybe then..u'll keep mum. Fact is, not every guy cheat..but for those who do..we still have d sensible and matured ones among them..who reserve a very large percentage of respect for their girlfriend or wife. But wat every girl wants just like me is to have a guy who wouldn't cheat at all but be faithful..but dat is just ur luck if dat wish comes through. Yeah luck..cos they're so few, take it or leave it!

or when he dumps your sorry azz.

Some low lives will never know self worth, even if it hits them like a truck on the face!!!

now may i ask you to keep dat pit u call mouth shut?!...if there's anyone suffering from low self esteem i think its you,.and it has apparently beclouded ur sense of reasoning.

booqee: wtf?? How does accepting d fact dat 80% men do cheat correlate with having a three$ome with my bf??
good Lord! Are u silly by default or by design?? Where in my post did i indicate i have unprotected sex or even intimacy at all?? Now i think you're d one who needs to wake up from ur slumber and stop living in d past..if u think men don't cheat at all. Jeez! Dis is freaking 2012..we're not in the 19th century for goodness sake. You should certainly go out more and aquint urself with the society! Maybe then..u'll keep mum. Fact is, not every guy cheat..but for those who do..we still have d sensible and matured ones among them..who reserve a very large percentage of respect for their girlfriend or wife. But wat every girl wants just like me is to have a guy who wouldn't cheat at all but be faithful..but dat is just ur luck if dat wish comes through. Yeah luck..cos they're so few, take it or leave it! now may i ask you to keep dat pit u call mouth shut?!...if there's anyone suffering from low self esteem i think its you,.and it has apparently beclouded ur sense of reasoning.

Blah blah blah of low life with a deafeatist mentality.

You suck, just like your posts. Go learn how to type first, maybe it'll help you get rid of your low self esteem.

Arrant nonsense the guy tell you say he want marry. . the two of you were yanshing now he wants to yansh some one else and you want to block him. If were u i for use the free opportunity wey him give me go drink garri and wipe out the taste of hin kpomo.

if you dont want him anymore keep on stepping

Lass, since there is no visual proof that the 'mum' was another lady, he has all confidence to deny it. My advice now is that you execise more patience and get her red handed. Then, you can now face him off and take any decision.

fluid26: Let a dog roam and he'll find his way home!

That's crap.
He lies and cheats. What else is there to say

Imanuelle: U got what u wanted!
Now who's hurt?

How is this helping anyone?

sanb: @edelweiss... The bottom line is, allow self-control to kick in whenever the temptation to cheat occurs.

To outline your post below

"The truth of the matter is men will cheat! Its just their nature"

That word MEN WILL CHEAT is not absolutely correct cos not all men will cheat. When a man is born he doesn’t have CHEAT written on his forehead. A man will cheat cos he wants to and not cos he has to plain and simple....


"Despite men cheating nature, they always protect the one the LOVE, nowadays in relationships, its not expecting to be the only one, its praying to be the no one! because my dear sister others go dey for corner"

The statement DESPITE MEN's CHEATING NATURE, THEY ALWAYS PROTECT THE ONE THEY LOVE is not true. If a man loves a woman, I see no reason why he should cheat on her in the first place. Cheating hurts and the pain to the innocent partner is sometimes unbearable...

"that animalistic urge is satisfied, he will always return to where his heart is"

The word HE'LL ALWAYS RETURN TO WHERE HIS HEART IS..that's easier said than done cos the pain inflicted on the innocent partner due to their cheating ways will always be there...

Dey there mek pant wear you. Men never do you something before. If them reap you apart emotionally na that time you go know sey men cheat without any reason or season.

edelweiss: The truth of the matter is men will cheat! Its just their nature, this quest to conquer, its purely animalistic, but despite that a man who truly loves u won't send u away given even to the fact that u are not based in the same city with him and u came just for a weekend! Its the height of disregard! Despite men cheating nature, they always protect the one the LOVE, nowadays in relationships, its not expecting to be the only one, its praying to be the no one! because my dear sister others go dey for corner. Girls can steal the guy who loves u for the moment but surely after the lower region and that animalistic urge is satisfied, he will always return to where his heart is!

Real talk. Seems you did psychology.

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La Parisienne:

Blah blah blah of low life with a deafeatist mentality.

You suck, just like your posts. Go learn how to type first, maybe it'll help you get rid of your low self esteem.

I think you are the one who sucks. She was trying to explain to you and like she said you do need to go out more and get acquainted with your society. Stop living in a fairy-tale world. Your bf might currently be cheating on you or supposedly, cheating with you (which ever the case). WAKE UP SUCKER

sanb: Oh my days and you think that's good enough...

I didn't say its good. Its just men. Once you understand you can control a man and convert a cheater to a lover. But don't put yourself on a high ride of hopeful wishes because my dear, they will reap you apart emotionally.

That can only occur if you allow that to happen...

omosexy1: they will reap you apart emotionally.

sanb: That can only occur if you allow that to happen...

. Oh you think you are special abi (you funny oh). What do you think you can do - hold him down with sex or food or alleged love? Educate me

I think its simple!It all depends on the content of Ūя̲̅ records.If its very obvious think giving him a chance isn't necessary but if its not really obvious he was cheating nd ‎​U̶̲̥̅̊ care about him I think giving him a chance to explain is necessary.But think ‎​U̶̲̥̅̊ need be calm I̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ whatever action you decide  take.

Confront him and find out what actually happened.It might not be what you think.