Oky so what happened was that me and this guy started dating,we only dated for 4 months. He left me, because he said he is not ready to be a father (I have a son, he's 3). He said thatI can wait till he grows up,but I told him that it'll never work because my kid comes first. Now we are only friends, but its weird, he brushes my hair and dries it, and gives me massages, he gives me now more compliments than when we were together. He talks about sex more even though he stopped my advances. He called my kid on his birthday and bought him a gift. He plans time with me. I told him to delete my pictures on his phone, he only deleted the ones with only me in. He kept our photos together and photos of my kid. On the other hand he already went on a date with another girl, and sent me photos of the types of girls he wants me to look out for him. I'm soooooo confused! I have no idea what he is thinking? We talk permanently and he always tries to cheer me up and wishes me future hapiness,he takes care of all my needs. Does anybody have any advice or insight in what's going on? Please help!

He is gay

Why can't he be your friend? He is only interested in friendship. Don't read too much meaning into his "niceness."

I don't mind being friends, I like it actually, but the way he is acting is just confusing

sarah2: I don't mind being friends, I like it actually, but the way he is acting is just confusing

He's already told you he's not interested. Don't be confused. Its clear and obvious.

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I agree with him.
He is just a good guy who doesn't need to be in a relationship with you before he does all that....

obowunmi: Why can't he be your friend? He is only interested in friendship. Don't read too much meaning into his "niceness."

I like this and I think its true.But don't allow yourself to be used as a spare tyre.
Set boundaries and define the relationship so that you both benefit out of it.
By the way,one mistake single ladies do, is telling their partners that their kids come first.Of course kids do matter, but there is the other part of your life he wants to attach himself to.His intention is not to replace the kid.Watch out next time so that you don't scare potential guys.
Be his friend.

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i must confess hes a very unusual guy... But i kinda liked his attitude, wishd i could do jst what hes doin. To be extra kind to my eXs.i know it frightens dem alot!

lola.luv:
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He is just a good guy who doesn't need to be in a relationship with you before he does all that....

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He is just neing a friend. A very good friend at that

pendo89:

I like this and I think its true.But don't allow yourself to be used as a spare tyre.
Set boundaries and define the relationship so that you both benefit out of it.

If you read between the lines you'd note the guy has already set new boundaries and keeping within its new platonic limits, for which the OP is benefitting more and happier from his improved attitude and attention; however, you'd also sense that she is secretly hoping for a little bit more and would no doubt welcome him crossing the line - that's why she's claiming she's confused.

if you like, keep being confused and waiting for him @ poster.

The OP is just reading meanings where there is non. It is obvious that the guy cares about you just as a friend and noting more but this atitude of yours might just chase him away all together

Are yhu drunk?....so why r yhu confused...there's no need to still hold up a torch that's burnt out...you'll jst crash & burn..

But op, if you want this guy still,make a play for it and see what happens. He may fall for you ,again.instead of dying in silence and suspense ,tell him ,what's on your mind.