Husband Material...this is for the single girls out there who are presently in a relationship. while you and your guy are still dating and before you walk down the altar with him, there are some things you need to take into consideration before you say I do...And as a lady you ought to know if your current boyfriend is an husband material or just there for the moment. written below are some of the things you need to consider first...

(1). Is your guy loving enough: make sure your boyfriend's love for you is genuine. make sure he truly loves you and is not planning to marry you cos of your body or sex. for we do have guys who mistake lust for love. some of them behave as if they cant live without a girl, but once he sees another girl, you see him reciting the same love lyrics he's been professing to you as well. most guys lust after girls. their love is not even up to a 6 inches nail. it's so shallow, and can evaporate at anytime. especially if the girl is no longer fine or good in bed. but my dear, any love or relationship based on looks, sex or lust na waste of time! you should be able to know if your guy's love for you can withstand any temptation or challenge. some guy's love are like fruits. once it's exposed, it starts changing colour. but some are like a rock, which are most times unbreakable.

(2). Is your guy Caring: if your guy doesn't care much about you or your upkeep while you two are dating, then there's no guarantee he's going to change that habit/attitude when you two are married. you'll know a good husband material while you two are dating. even if the girl is a terrible girl, it wont prevent her from knowing a good guy from a bad guy when she sees one. some guys dont even care to know if their babes have money for toiletries or for pad whenever they are having their period. they usually assume a lady ought to know how to take care of these things without being told. their own is to come and chop. and whenever a girl refuses to get down with her guy especially during her menstral period, without telling him her reasons, the guy go begin vex and go con dey suspect the girl for nothing. o boy, your girl is not a boyscout o. do your duty as a boyfriend and respect her as your woman.

(3). Is your guy understanding: Most guys lack this quality. they are usually quick to anger or suspect their girls whenever she falls short of his expectation. most times, they assume a lady should know everything. forgeting that women are the weaker vessel. whenever she's slow or delay in doing some things, try and bear with her. learn to be tolerant and understanding. women are known to be cautious naturally, even when driving. so, a guy shouldn't be quick to condemn or get angry with his girlfriend. even when it comes to the issue of food or any domestic issue (some guys can quarrel with their woman cos of food). tolerate her, try to understand her, correct her politely, cuddle and also support her. cos she's your woman.

(4). Is your guy hardworking: this is a very important issue to consider while dating a guy. since its every girl's dream and desire to take her relationship to the next level (marriage), she ought to look out for this trait in her guy. your guy should be hardworking. even if he's not working, he should be doing something positive to provide for himself and also be able to assist you occasionally until he gets a better job or opportunity. your guy dont have to be an oil worker, a banker or an engineer with a fat pay package every month for you to conclude he's hardworking. he could be any of this, and yet may not know how to plan, invest or make proper use of his income. and that could be distastrous for you two later. and if he's none of this, it's the things he's able to do with the little he has that makes him an hardworking guy. cos if he's not hardworking, then both of you are inviting hunger and poverty into your home when you eventaully get married. and this can break up your marriage sooner or later. hardwork is the bedrock of real men. make sure he's one, in order to safeguard and secure your future.

(5). Is your guy romantic: yeah, this is always the favourite part for most girls. any relationship without romance is as good as dead. romance is the tonic for every relationship or marriage. and once there's none or little of it, your relationship or marriage is bound to start having issues. which if not properly and quickly resolved could lead to something else. so, my dear i'm not saying you sould be the one to initiate romance in your relationship, no. that should be the job of your guy or husband to be. your know how some guys think nah. if you try to initiate it all the time or you crave for it too much, some guys might start thinking the girl is loose. so, leave him to do his job. except he no get the liver.

(6). Is your guy responsible and committed: make sure he's a responsible guy. and not a chronic womanizer or into booze. though it's hard to tell but you'd know a womanizer when you see one. and may God help you if you're dating a womanizer. And if your guy is not that committed as much as you are in the relationship, then you are in fantasy island. while you are thinking of going right, he's thinking of going left. and once his goals and yours are not the same, then you two may not have a future together. so, try to know if he's ready to be a man. ready to start a family and also be there for you. cos some guys sometimes are scared to take that plunge. they feel getting married or having kids would take away alot of things from them. and cos of that, they find it difficult to commit themselves or take the relationship to the next level.

(7). Is he supportive and does he respect your opinion: make sure he's not the arrogant or proud type. cos we do have guys who hardly listen to their girlfriend or take her advice. for there are guys who believes most girls are unintelligent, but are only good in vain things. they feel most girls dont know much about business or other important issues. but when it comes to entertainment, clothes, blackberry phones, ipad, shoes, handbags, perfumes, wedding parties, shows etc, many of them no dey carry last. but notwithsatnding, it's the duty of a guy to make his girlfriend better in areas she's not. teach her, learn with her, also support her all the way. those things you dont know, your guy should endeavour to teach you, cos you two are in the relationship to grow together. and a correct guy will always be willing to support the dreams of his girl. if she wants to further her education or go into a business, the guy should be willing to advise, encourage or support her towards achieving her goals. relationship shouldn't be all about one partner but both. the two of you should support and motivate each other. you need to work together as a team all the time. if your guy is always talking and thinking about himself and his achievements, and is less bothered or concerned about your growth/well-being, then you need to think twice about your relationship. you dont even need to take a trip to obudu cattle ranch or any other resort to think about it.

(. Is your guy cool headed and sweet: Is your guy sweet, cool and friendly. does he keep a straight face all the time, or smile alot. and I hope he's not abusive or violent. cos there are many girls in abusive/violent relationship. and they are somehow stuck in it. their guy beat them all the time, collect money from her or introduce her to bad things. some stay in such a relationship with the hope of getting married to the guy. they feel they dont have any other option than to stick with him come what may. if your guy beat you always, has hot temper, obtain money from you alot or maltreat you, and he's not willing to change, then he's not an husband material. period!

(9) Is your guy religious: Being religious, I'm not talking about carrying Bible about or going to church every day. but your guy should atleast not be far from God. you two should endeavour to be closer to God, attend a Bible believing church, and also find time to study the Bible together. dont judge yourself, or allow others judge you two. let your hearts be clean, let your intentions be genuine and both of you should be willing to work towards making things right before God.

(10). And is your guy a fair weather person: there are guys who are only seen when their girlfriends are healthy, looking sweet or doing fine. but whenever she's ill or going through a difficult period, such guys run far away from his girlfriend. a correct guy will always be there for his girlfriend. take good care of her whenever she's ill, do his best to assist/support her whenever she's going through a difficult moment and also give her a shoulder to lean on. any boyfriend dat only comes to you whenever he wants to have fun, should be chased away with aziza (broom). cos he doesn't mean well for you. shikena!

And mind you, I'm not saying you should give your guy a straight red card if he doesn't possess any of these qualities. give him some time ( i.e give him a yellow card first) to change for good. and if he's not ready to do so, then you can tell him to either wake up or take a walk, so that you can try other alternatives. but should your alternatives (other guys) be worse than your first choice, then it's better you stick with him and try work things out. cos half bread is better than none!

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