I am 32yrs old and married with 2 kids for almost 3yrs but life with my wife has been a living hell for me.
I was hooked into this marriage via pregnancy and i swore never to subject any girl into an abortion and i obliged to get married.
My unhappiness brought a lovely damsel my way and i am now happy as it ought to be.
This sizzling romance with a 22yr old has been ongoing for about a month or little more and i love her so much but i am so scared of hurting her feelings now eventhough i'll be so sure she'll be willing to plunge neck deep with me.And i also think she might be pregnant!
What do i do? My happiness,my love and my future are at stake and how would her pastor father react to this because i may not turn my back at her.
Your HONEST AND SINCERE ADVISE I DEMAND PLLLLLLEASE!!

Your story is indeed a pathetic one, always bear in mind that there is always a way out of every problem in life. I blamed you for going an extral mile in tangling yourself in an extra-marital affairs cos you missed it all. Instead of seeking the face of God for amendment of what you refered as hell in your marriage, you went ahead to commit adultery. I will advice you to seek the face of God as well as put to an end the so called relationship with the said 22 years old girl. God will surely restore your marriage to be a haven for you.

true talk jare.

even if you're not thinking about yourself, you cant think about whats in it for your children? when did you find out your fling had a pastor father? and you didnt know to use condom? you made a mistake the first time not using condom and got into a marriage you claim was not your choice. now you have don it again, getting another pregnant. what do you really want people to tell you. well all i can say is deal with the situation, u,re too mature now not to know how to deal with the consequences of your actions.

But whats up with u sleeping around with no protection?

If u want some peace in ur life, u better just learn to love ur wife and leave this girl be.
If u arent happy with ur wife, why dont u just leave her?

baby4u2:

even if you're not thinking about yourself, you can't think about whats in it for your children? when did you find out your fling had a pastor father? and you didnt know to use condom? you made a mistake the first time not using condom and got into a marriage you claim was not your choice. now you have don it again, getting another pregnant. what do you really want people to tell you. well all i can say is deal with the situation, u,re too mature now not to know how to deal with the consequences of your actions.

Thank u o.
Well said, God bless u.

@poster

first off; find out of she's really pregnant.

Then go get tested. You owe your wife that much. (whether you like her or not is neither here nor there). If you have caught anything then you have to inform your wife.

If she's not then I think its time for you to end it.

If she is then she has to decide if she is willing to keep it. Either way you will need to tell your wife. From this bit onwards I pray God goes with you cause you will need divine favour.

when a man plant a seed here and there sometimes it germinates

as you de like to shag without shin guide so , take time o
make you no go carry AIDS

There are two things that is AT STAKE.      
1. your happiness. ( you love her)
2.your family. (it was a mistake and it's hell)
We all make mistakes  sometimes and it's  how we handle our mistates that make us who we are.
   I quite understand your situation it's a delicate issue.  
  First find out if she's pregnant then we can pass to the second stage.

         DON'T DEAR LET YOUR WIFE AND YOUR LOVER'S PARENTS KNOW OF THIS TILL YOU'RE SURE OF THE PREGNANCY AND ALSO IF THE BABE IS YOURS.      
                  and make sure condom is always in your pocket

nothing saps energy and breaks people focus like a bad relationship.

God help you brother

@poster,get to find out first via test if the girl is pregnant.if shes not,thank ya stars and plss stop seeing her.
concentrate more on your marriage,no matter how messed up it might seen to be,try to make it work.your wife might be a good woman for all i care.your major problem is that you feel you were tied to the marriage because of the pregnancy and with that thought on your mind,things wont work.you made the mistake of sleeping with her without protection,you made a worst mistake by marrying her just because shes pregnant.
remember,the devil you know always better than an unknown angel.
wishing you whatever you wish yaself.  

before u got the first girl pregnant, im sure u loved her very much. .now u two are leaving 2geda, things are going sour
what about praying to God to make things good or make things just like when u people started out.

Do you really think its beyond God?
I don't subscribe to having another girl? who knows, she might turn out to be another nightmare.

Live with the trouble of today and deal with it squarely

@poster
I do not pity you. Infact I am angry with you . Since you and the girl had the guts to sleep with each other, facing her father should be the least of you problems by using that same consciousless mind that made you not to think about consequences to tell him. As for your wife stop deceiving her and come clean. If she still wants to remain with your adultrous self, that's her palaver.

I am 32yrs old and married with 2 kids for almost 3yrs but life with my wife has been a living hell for me.
I was hooked into this marriage via pregnancy and i swore never to subject any girl into an abortion and i obliged to get married.
My unhappiness brought a lovely damsel my way and i am now happy as it ought to be.
This sizzling romance with a 22yr old has been ongoing for about a month or little more and i love her so much but i am so scared of hurting her feelings now eventhough i'll be so sure she'll be willing to plunge neck deep with me.And i also think she might be pregnant!
What do i do? My happiness,my love and my future are at stake and how would her pastor father react to this because i may not turn my back at her.
Your HONEST AND SINCERE ADVISE I DEMAND PLLLLLLEASE!!


you all should take it easy on the guy now, he only ask for ur advise not 4 u to be harsh on him, besides u dnt even know why he said life with his wife has been a living hell for em, atlest he tried by not tellin the girl to commit abortion. maybe the marriage was a sweet on in the beginning no one knows why he aint happy now.

and u mr. man wen next u have problems try findin a solutions to it better than commitin adultry dat isnt the rite way to find happiness,

instead of pityin urself ur here pityin and scared of loosing her, atimes u men amaze me honestly,

Nways hence u said u may not turn ur back on her, i guess u know wat ur bout to do, think wisely my dear,

will only advise u to follow ur heart cuz on one wants to be unhappy 4ever, goodluck

By the way always remember dat problems are there to make us think.

well i think dis guy came here 2 seek 4 a piece of advice not 2 add more blame on him, at poster i will advice u 2 fine out frist whether d young girl is really pregnant be4 any other thing

wish u good luck dear

The only advice I can give is to move this topic to the Jokes section.