Break ups suck! But you really have no
choice, do you? Use these 10 steps on how
to move on and deal with a break up, and
make yourself stronger too.
How to deal with a break up and smile!
Your will power and your determination is
the only thing that matters when it comes to
moving on after a break up. Nothing else
will help you, not your friends and not a
string of flings. Hold your ground, convince
yourself that you’re ready to move on and
get away from the pain. And use these steps
to move on and deal with a break up.
#1 Don’t write letters. There’s always a
constant itch to get in touch with an ex.
When you feel down, when you listen to a
romantic song, or even when you’re drunk.
But hold that thought. Never try to get in
touch with an ex unless you’re just bumping
into them accidentally. It’ll weaken your
resolve to get over your ex.
If you find yourself writing a long email to
your ex, write it if you must but don’t send
it. Hold on to that draft copy overnight.
When you wake up in the morning, you’d
realize that it was just a weak moment and
you don’t really want to send the email
anymore. By waiting a while, you’d be able
to feel stronger about your own resolve. The
same rule can be applied to phone calls and
texts too.
If an uncontrollable urge to call or text your
ex overwhelms you, don’t stop yourself.
Instead, just convince yourself that you’ll call
the next morning if you still feel like it. Each
time you put away a phone call or an email,
you’d feel more confident about getting
over your ex and moving on.
#2 Deal with the addiction. Exes are an
addiction, just like any other serious life
threatening addiction in the world. And the
worst part here, is that you can’t really cut
down a little bit at a time. You have no
choice but to go cold turkey and avoid all
contact. It will hurt and you will feel terrible,
but you’ll feel better a week later, and even
better another week later.
Treat your ex like a bad addiction, and learn
to deal with the break up. It’ll help you when
you start to see your ex as something that’s
bad for your life.
#3 The evil selfish ex. Let’s face it, if your
boyfriend or girlfriend dumps you, they’re
evil *at least in your head*. If your ex gets
rude or yells at you when you try to talk to
them, or if they ignore you, or if they look at
you with spite and disgust each time you
walk up to them, you have every right to
believe that they’re evil, selfish little devils.
But you know what, you can’t blame them
for it.
Your ex doesn’t like you anymore, they
despise you. Of course, they could be nicer
and try to be more understanding. But you
can’t expect every ex to hold you by the
hand and help you find the way out. A few
exes prefer tripping you and kicking you
where it hurts. Hate them for it. But deal
with it. And get over it.
#4 Replay your relationship. While you
sitting alone and staring at a wall or an
empty glass of wine, replay the relationship
in your head. Pick the mistakes and the
flaws in the relationship, and try to see
where things started falling apart.
But remember to pick the mistakes, not the
pieces of the relationship. The love affair is
over. What you need here is to try and figure
out where you went wrong, and where
your partner hurt you. Were you trying too
hard to please, insecure, clingy, or were you
just too busy with your own life? And about
your ex, try to pick their flaws too, so you
don’t fall for another person with the same
flaws again.
#5 Don’t force yourself. For the first week or
so, don’t bother trying to convince yourself
that you’re over your ex. Just let life take its
course. Do your best to get over your ex by
keeping yourself occupied, but don’t force
your mind to forget your ex. You may be
successful in bottling the thoughts, but
they’ll always come back now and then in
surges that will hurt you more.
#6 Stay miserable. Allow yourself to feel
miserable and hurt. But time yourself and
keep an eye on the calendar. Give yourself
about three weeks to get over your ex. Mark
the date on your calendar with a big red
marker.
Think about your ex for those three weeks,
but constantly remind yourself that at the
end of these three weeks, you’ll wake up the
next morning and completely overcome the
sadness you’re feeling. Keeping a date
marked on the calendar can psychologically
prepare you to get over your ex. And at
times, your wound may heal even before
those three weeks!
#7 Fantasize the high road revenge. There
are two types of fantasies you can think
about after a break up, the I-wish-we-could-
get-back fantasy, and the I’ll-get-even-with-
you fantasy. Don’t try anything below the
belt like spreading naked photos or cheap
comebacks like that, it’s not fair and you’ll
never forgive yourself for years if you even
have the slightest semblance of a
conscience.
Take the higher road. Convince yourself that
you’ll put your focus and energy into other
positive things, so that one fine day, many
years from now, you’d do something
spectacular with your life. And fantasize
scenarios where you’d run into your ex. It’s
not fair, but it helps for the moment. And
odds are you may forget all about this a few
years later. Don’t know what I mean? Go
watch Cee Lo’s F*ck you on youtube.
Fantasizing about success and exes makes
the dreams of success so much sweeter!
#8 Laugh like a crazy person. For the first
few weeks, don’t convince yourself you’re
happier. Just wallow in your self pity and
depression. But once you wake up one day
and feel better, a few weeks later, laugh!
Feel the happiness well within you. Realize
how good you feel. It takes a while, but
you’ll feel it when you’re ready. Listen to
happy songs, watch funny movies, and
laugh out loud. When you’re ready to move
on from your sad state, your mind will be
more than happy to help you have a nice
time.
#9 Curiosity and the no contact rule. The no
contact rule is really important. You can use
all the other steps and follow it to the tee,
but if you screw up here, you’ll be back on
square one in no time. Have you ever looked
for your ex’s facebook page sometime *just
to see what they’re doing*?
The first time you take a peek at your ex’s
page, you won’t think too much about it. But
as time goes by, you’d end up visiting their
page more and more often, until you realize
you’re addicted to the idea of wanting to
know more about you ex. There’s no
escaping your ex once you get wrapped up
in the curiosity of knowing more. Avoid it.
Don’t stay in contact, and don’t go looking
for information either.
#10 Get better and sexier. Have a life, go on
out there and enjoy yourself. Sitting by
yourself in the corner of the room will never
make you feel better. Date others or at least
meet a few interesting dating potentials that
catch your fancy. Remember, you’ll have a
very difficult time moving on if you find out
that your ex is dating someone new,
especially if you aren’t getting flirty with
someone else already.
Work out and get fit. You’ll look better, and
the endorphins released in your body will
make you feel more upbeat and look sexier.
A heartbreak isn’t the end of the world.
Sometimes, as hard as you try to prevent it,
break ups are inevitable. What you do next
and how you pull yourself together to deal
with the break up makes all the difference
between a person who experiences a break
up, and a broken lover who gives up on a
chance to have a happy life again.
Use these 10 steps on how to move on and
deal with a break up. Following these steps.http://uganda24.net/how-to-move-on-and-deal-with-a-break-up-with-a-smile/

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