Please I rily need you guys opinion.am in a rtship of 4yrs,and I lv my bf a lot.bt dias something he does dt I dnt fnk is a good idea.anytime,we get in2 a fight,he beckons on his sis who pleads on his behalf.I dnt lyk dis cos if I wanna reconcile wif him,I wnt it 2 b cos I lv him and am forgiving him,nt cos I respect his married sis n so forgives him. The recent fight led 2 my fake breaking up wif him,(I just wanted 2 teach him a lesson shaaa),it didn't even take 30mins that I told him aint interested any longer,dt I got calls frm his sis n bros.I didn't pick dm @ all.so wt I did wz 2 pick up d phone screamn @ him;must he always involve his siblings?cos he knows fully well dt I respect dm.so cos of dt,I gave hm space 4 3weeks.my dears,dt 3weeks wz full of calls I dnt even know.so wen I felt I wz done making him pay 4 wt he did,we reconciled bt gave him an ultimatum dt he shld less involve his family in our affairs,else I quit 4 good.I love him n stil wanna continue loving him cos it's what my heart wants n not cos of family.that he agreed 2 it shaaa.hope am not trying 2 b a bad ass gf or something.useful advice pls!!!!

Well from what you wrote, don't tell a man its over when you don't mean it, its not a good idea(learnt that the hard way) rather have a heart to heart talk with him and sort things out.

Since you've told him you don't like him involving his family in every little issue, watch him and if such happens again, let whoever calls know how you feel and don't pretend to forgive someone because another person begged on their behalf, forgive them cos you want to.

i see nothing wrong with him involving his family i.e asking them to beg on his behalf when you both get into a fight. It just goes to show he values the relationship.
Keep up with the attitude of 'fake break up' and you just might lose him for real

hornipipe: i see nothing wrong with him involving his family i.e asking them to beg on his behalf when you both get into a fight. It just goes to show he values the relationship.
Keep up with the attitude of 'fake break up' and you just might lose him for real

funny shaaaa,just wanted 2 prove a point.dts all.well,I dnt fnk I wil b doing dt

Your boyfriend getting a lil 'begging' backup isn't a bad idea 'if' he's at fault and acknowledges his folly, what you really need to work on is yourself. You don't forgive a man because you respect his family, you do so because u've both talked about the problem and decided to resolve the issue. The moment he realises that his family pleading on his behalf doesn't affect ur decision he'll stop trying.
Again if ur man avoids these confrontations and rather chooses to run off to sister dearest everytime, then there is something wrong and u need to look into it asap esp if u two ever decide to tie the knot. Last thing u want is family interference at every bump.

You should watch the fake breakup too, a man can only breakup with n re-date a girl so many times. One day u might just lose him .

Is dis sign of immaturity or toddler in love?
@op, if u really love him 4 all he is, talk to him as advised by others, if no changes, talk 2 d siblings 2 train him so dat he will be independent n bother them less. But say dis politely.

freecocoa: Well from what you wrote, don't tell a man its over when you don't mean it, its not a good idea(learnt that the hard way) rather have a heart to heart talk with him and sort things out.

Since you've told him you don't like him involving his family in every little issue, watch him and if such happens again, let whoever calls know how you feel and don't pretend to forgive someone because another person begged on their behalf, forgive them cos you want to.

This is it right here.