anitank:
Do they specify by using "some" or "most" whenever they come here to bash "Nigerian Girls"........Yeah that hurts too

dmcdad: Wow... This got me ruminating... Op, in as much as you are right in most of the points you outlined, yet, there are some iota if not more than that of fallacy as regards this piece of yours. I would agree to some extent that men are one of the contributing factors that tends to spoil a lot of women with the all-money mentality today, but even at that, men are not entirely to be blamed.

dmcdad: What happens if a girl is the principled and very disciplined type that doesn't get gifts just anyhow? In as much as men get you gifts every now and then is not a yardstick for you to base your aim of going into a relationship or whatever on money. That would be a misconception. Yes! I agree a lot of men flaunt these stuffs to trip them girlz, but even at that, a lady who knows her worth hook, line and sinker cannot be bought no matter what.

dmcdad: The fact that the last three men a girl dated gave her gifts it's not or should not be a yardstick for her to be requesting from the current boyfriend. Tell me, if a guy comes on here to give a complaint as regards how a girl dumped him or something, and how he had suffered similar fate from the past three relationships he had been, and because of that he decides to generalize that all girls are the same, what would you say? I presume your answer would be that, despite the fact that three or four girls did hurt him, that is not to say that every other girl will hurt him. Gbam! This is contrary to what you said. Like you said, because she had dated three guyz probably her past three dates), that did buy her gifts and stuffs, that means she would also expect that from the current guy. This would be very wrong because it would mean generalizing that all guys are indebted to act as such. Do you catch my drift?

dmcdad: Men like to show off quite alright, but you and I know very well that, there are few (rare gems) that you can't flaunt your wealth for and succeed. You would agree with me right? Now, this means that, the fact that a man flaunts what he has is not enough reason for you to have that fishy kinda mindset that the guy is suppose to pay or be an office to you.Do you think it's enough reason to tell you that I was unfaithful with you blah blah blah due to the fact that I saw a woman on the street who was unclad? Would you accept that as good enough reason to justify my unfaithfulness? C'mon! I know it plays a role in the seduction game, but that is not an excuse to be unfaithful, right? Same applies in that assertion of yours.

dmcdad: In a nutshell, in as much as I agree with you that men play a contributing role in helping to shape the minds of a lot of girls today, that is not to say the men are entirely to blame because it is still up to the girls involved to choose to fall or not. After all, there are girls that will NEVER receive any gift from you, no matter what you get them. Are these same set of girls not humans? Or do you want to deny the fact that they do exist?

dmcdad: Bottom line: Men are not to blame for female gold-diggers but the females involved. Men play a contributing part in flaunting or offering gifts or the likes, but it is always at the disposal of the said women to accept or not.

Sweet.gurl:


I wish you guys will read the whole thing before you comment. I said some... and that it was increasing. I didn't say all. The problem here is, it is becoming an epidemic and would continue to increase if something doesn't change it may even become a norm. Like any other the thing it can become a culture as it continues to grow and it would be harder and harder to find guy who don't flaunt their wealth and girls who don't gold dig.

agabasam: If they is no gold digging, ugly folks would be deprived of d beautifull 1c......no spoil bizness 4 sme pple o........as i fine so,i no d spend moni 2 get "u knw wat", it comes as a free gift of nature...sme even bring thnksgiving gifts afta d events

all-out:


You're taking a mid position not really committing yourself! Well my conclusion was for the guys to avoid the morally bankrupt and classless sisters!

Sweet.gurl:


Lmao ... in ur dreamzzzzzzzzzzzz...

agabasam: aw u wish lols...... I dnt lie nah...med sch hs calmed me down sha....lif z a stage...

usermane:
The tip of the iceberg is men aren't looking for the nice girl,they are looking out soley for beauty. A lot of men are so superficial that they value looks far above manners on their scale of preference. And since a lot of men are after just one beautiful girl at a time,each man tend to see his wealth as an ace in hole to lure the lady to him. Hence the girl is surrounded by gold mines and have no choice but to dig and mine from the largest mine deposit.
In short, unless we guys become less superficial we might just have to endure the gold diggers.

Sweet.gurl:


Go to sleep dear so u can keep dreaming about ur goodlooks.

agabasam: av gat 2 rush 2 skul..wia do u stay...seems like gud luk z a myth dia...lols....sme ladies dig gud luks....i remenbr 1 dt gts gift 4r ha male pals n gv me in ma yr 1....gud luks z gd bzness......

agabasam: ....sme ladies dig gud luks....

caesaraba:

(Almost) everyone digs good looks. Men and women alike. That said, experience has taught me that although the beauty of the 'container' matters, the content of said 'container' matters more.

Sweet.gurl:


Skool... on new yrs eve? Im in australia. Where about are you? Goodluck with ya bizness btw. lol

agabasam: gr8 den...am hia in Nigeria.....am nt going 4 lectures...jst 2 clerk sme1....wishing u d best in 2013

Sweet.gurl:

Sweet.gurl:


Lol . Have fun

Sweet.gurl:


Agreed.



Yes and No. It all depends on the strength of the lady to resist the temptation. In anything and everything humans can be persuaded. Otherwise we wouldnt bother with arguments, talk shows, protests, especially media which plays a big part in framing peoples mindset. Let me ask you a question wasn't it media that promoted gold digging and the flaunting of wealth? What makes you think that the human perceptions can not be altered?



I would not blame him because as humans it is normal for us to become defensive if we keep experiencing pain. That fact that he is generalizing that all women are the same doesnt make it true however due to his experience he has come to that conclusion. Like i said, it's all in the mind. YES the same thing can apply to female. Haven't you heard of girls who like to be beaten by their male partners because they associate it with love. Twisted right? Thats the mind for ya....



Agreed! I didnt state this as a fact. I said if a man flaunts women get the perception that... you have the money and want to spend it. Just as if a girl dresses and behaves like a s.lut the man get the perception that she is cheap and easy.



Agreed. Good for those girls but we are not the majority. All my friends think im crazy. I still think that men are more responsible. It started with a man giving, it would end when men stop giving. You have to understand that women love to receive (and thats OK) but a line must be drawn, if men do not draw the line women would be happy not to?



It is natural and OK for women to accept. Men have to draw the line when it comes to flaunting and giving. I personally would not tell a lady not to receive when given because its natural for women to do so.

Good and fine... Media played a massive role in promoting gold-digging and the likes, but even at that it's not enough reason to change your perception. If it does change your perception, then it means you never had a mind of your own, or you are not strong-willed. Now let me ask you... Do you really think people's perception are suppose to metamorphose due to the media? If this were the case, are you saying there is now a justifiable reason for someone to be immoral, since the media is promoting immorality? Now, what I am insinuating is that, even though people's way of seeing things can be altered by the media, I still stand on the fact that, that is not to justify their misdeed of any sought.

You see! Another thing you pointed out from the outset is that, women love to receive right? why is it then that MOST women today are stingy? This is a fact. Don't argue that with me. Now if men are guilty of making them love money , gifts and stuffs, are the men the ones to blame that MOST women are way too stingy?

You kept stating that it's natural for a lady to receive gifts blah blah blah.... Where did you get that from? Where was it written? In the Corpus of Revelation (The Bible)? C'mon! Enough of this; they naturally love gifts and it's natural for them to do so... I do propose that, girls should learn to hold themselves. If you must collect gifts from someone, make sure the reason for collecting such gift is justifiable. I had someone sometime ago that didn't allow me to give her gifts, but she loved giving me gifts to me... She collected gifts on some few occasions, but she made sure they were not expensive stuffs else, she would have rejected them pronto...

My dear... There is need for people to discipline themselves... Let's tell ourselves the truth... With what the media is propagating, my level of morality should have been at a low ebb, but because I can seldom be influenced negatively, that is why no matter what the media disseminate, no matter the number of unclad women I see, or no matter the level of people's remiss attitudes towards whatever they do, I yet remain the one I am because I cannot be influenced just anyhow and I don't look for meagre ways to justify whatever I do, all because I need to throw the blame at something... It's high time we started taking the blame for our failings.

Do have a nice time...

shymexx:

How's it baseless?? And when are women going to start taking responsibilities for their actions??

So, because I spend my money on myself to live an expensive lifestyle, that means women have to gold dig me, no?? If men are to be blamed for women being gold diggers, then women are to be blamed for men being casanovas(promiscuous)... Because women are willing tools in the act as well..

Most women want a lifestyle they can't afford and their only "means" to that "end" is the opposite sex, yet they want to blame men for that inglorious stupidity - pathetic!

usermane:
The tip of the iceberg is men aren't looking for the nice girl,they are looking out soley for beauty. A lot of men are so superficial that they value looks far above manners on their scale of preference. And since a lot of men are after just one beautiful girl at a time,each man tend to see his wealth as an ace in hole to lure the lady to him. Hence the girl is surrounded by gold mines and have no choice but to dig and mine from the largest mine deposit.
In short, unless we guys become less superficial we might just have to endure the gold diggers.

We guys Now you are generalizing because it's what you do... I can NEVER do that no matter what. Anyone that is not willing to accept me the way I am, should board the next available flight to HELL... Gosh!!!

Sweet.gurl:


See what i mean... @DJX50 is money all you have to offer a girl u think is beautiful. Think about something else that is valuable about you and let that be what you use to draw women to you. Fortunately, i don't have a price set on me. Thanks for the offer though .

baby_mama:


Amen o


If I were single and searching at this stage of my life,I would even marry a super rich man without a functional blokoss kpa kpa and dig that gold of his
Money is good to have
Who wants to hop on Okada from place to place?
Is it not fellow human beings that are vacationing in Dubai and London and France?

dmcdad:

That is the problem with us my dear... The fact that they make the mistake of generalizing, does that mean you will join them? Can two wrongs ever make a right? Even those who happen to generalize, people do highlight such places and inquire for corrections as it would be very wrong. Inductive logic or reasoning cannot hold on here, take note of that.

faceit: there r so many ladies dat i v met dat doesnt ask for anytin from any man...they work and doesnt want to b trample upon by men dat think all women r gold diggers....as if dey r even billionaires in d first place...rubbish

DJX50:

Ok, my magic stick is faaaarrrr more valuable than money.
Its really magical n works wonders....
Would that draw you to me then?