ayobase:

Why won't ur cousin wanna engage her!
He is 29 and comfortable, what is he still waiting for...this girl in question is tired of gifts after and before gifts...she wants it defined!

Its hightime ladies started speaking their minds at a points in relationships...."What's happening to our relationship...when are we taking it to the next level"

Most guys out there are full of deceit. They end up dating these girls for months aor yrs and later breaking up....a responsible lady at the age of 24 dating guys at intervals after break ups wouldn't know when she is gonna be 35.

we think alike!!
Mr A for 8 months
Mr B for 13 months
Mr C for 6months
Mr D for 18 months

And she keeps dating without these guys engaging or defining....hmmmm!

Girls wake up....we guys could be bad...tell him ur church mind....we say you are desperate cos we are not ready for you!

A man saying a girl is desperate deeply means that he does not love that girl....as simple as ABC!

I'm talking on behalf of my sister and fiancee!

~vicky~:
@ topic no one has really had someone they could be completely honest to and tell all their dreams, secrets, etc to. It's not that they're desperate, it's just they love the idea of having someone special and being so connected to them.
Dependent girls who think that life is a fairy tale usually marry at an early age because they need their man to support them and are afraid of being single to avoid being lonely. Successful independent women know not to marry yet until they have stable lives and are happy to be single if they aren't finding the right man yet. It's ok to think about marriage, but you shouldn't devote your life to find a man to fulfill your wedding plans.

sanb: @op; It’s not as if women are desperate; For example, if a lady is approaching her mid to late 20s and she’s not married, the pressure starts mounting. The pressure starts from family to friends and even work colleagues. Then, you’ll have people say may be it’s her character or forming/playing hard to get that has hindered her from getting married. Sometimes, people forget that some women would like to accomplish certain things before they settle down i.e. have a career and be independent so as not to become a burden to their spouse.

Back to the scenario you’ve given, 8 months is quite a while for your cousin not to determine if his GF is capable of being his wife. I don’t think the relationship should take that long before he makes up his mind if he’ll see her as a wife or not. As for the gift, it’ll have been better if she’d at least thanked him first and not even mention that she’s expecting a ring. It’s not for her to determine when she gets a ring. On the other hand, your cousin is not too young to settle down and if he knows that he’s not thinking of marriage, then why not let his GF know so that she understands what she’s letting herself into...