DMainMan:

u de mynd dose mods. Even a 7year old knows dis is a c. ock and bull story.

Truckpusher: OP you don't sound married to me at all.If you guys were married that long with a pregnancy that resulted to a child and you're talking abt it as if it's some kind of soap opera, that means you're not a serious person just like the picture you're trying to paint abt him, because i don't just see the emotion attached to your story.... after passing through hell like you claimed there should be some level seriousness and emotions or is this another cooked story deliberately prepared for NL's gullible members?

PrettyCindy:


i cant start all over again. I have talked alot about it here.
If you are interested, go to my profile and look for the topic ' am a single mum, can i still find true love'. Patiently read, you will get the gist.

I did not bring it up for discussion, just jisting. Am not looking for any one to convince me to go back. Ok. just want to entertain you guys with some real life drama.

Oh ok..But can i hug and kiss u??

Truckpusher: OP you don't sound married to me at all.If you guys were married that long with a pregnancy that resulted to a child and you're talking abt it as if it's some kind of soap opera, that means you're not a serious person just like the picture you're trying to paint abt him, because i don't just see the emotion attached to your story.... after passing through hell like you claimed there should be some level seriousness and emotions or is this another cooked story deliberately prepared for NL's gullible members?

tellwsdom:

Oh ok..But can i hug and kiss u??

hug and kiss her ke! Prettycindy beware of hawks like him º°˚˚˚°º‎​oohh . They may be worse than your ex

chigsmith: @Pretty Cindy
..I believe you have moved on long time ago and "His" case should remain a closed one.
Life ahead has better things to offer and don't give their pleas a second thought. Once beaten twice shy.

Billyonaire: You do not believe in repentance ?

Tinkybabe:

so because she went through all that she should be moping around nairaland for what reason exactly?,This is a woman who has been through a lot, been able to pick herself up, dust herself and move on with her life.She is a strong woman who isn't here to garner pity but share her story for others to learn..I'd say that she's in fact a successful woman in that regard

OP..I'm glad you're back on your feet and doing well for yourself.

PrettyCindy: Nairalanders abeg make una see drama ooooo!

We were married for about 8months. We seperated one year and eight months ago when i was about 3months pregnant. Since then till date, he never asked about my child, dont even know the colour of my child's skin. We made several attempts to return the bride price he paid (only married traditionally) but they refused to accept it.

So i decided to opt for divorce. The divorce petition was sent to him through my cousin. My cousin said ex husband was shocked to his root when he saw the topic of the letter. Said he wasn't expecting such.

For reasons i dont understand, my cousin who is married gave ex husband his phone number. And ever since then, ex husband and his family members have been bombarding him with calls pleading with him to plead with my family that they want reconciliation and settlement.

As far as i'm concerned, its all drama.

That man maltreated me so much that thinking about it now is making me sick.

What is the purpose of this thread, nothing much. Just want talk out my mind jare.......

ifihearam:

where you a slave before?
so if you have made up your mind not to return to him,why are you telling us na.

Sisi_Kill:

Why do y'all seem so affected by the fact that a woman whose husband left her isn't moping around, on the verge of suicide?!!

@ OP
The reason why your hubby seems shell shocked by your decision to get rid of him is the same reason some men on this thread are taking it personally. Our Society has convinced them that a woman can do nothing. . .absolutely nothing without a man.

Dear OP, your hubby (like some men on this thread) are confused. . .this is not how it is supposed to be gaddamit!

When. . .When. . .did a woman start putting herself first? How. . .when. . .did we land on Bizzaro world?!!

Sisi_Kill: Hilarious thread!!

OP I am not laughing at your situation oh...I am laughing at the responses from some men.

Why do y'all seem so affected by the fact that a woman whose husband left her isn't moping around, on the verge of suicide?!!

@ OP
The reason why your hubby seems shell shocked by your decision to get rid of him is the same reason some men on this thread are taking it personally. Our Society has convinced them that a woman can do nothing. . .absolutely nothing without a man.

Heck Nollywood reinforces this delusion in every single movie its ever made, movies where the men are absolute douchbags, they get do whatever they want, treat women like absolute shite and in the end they go back to them (not contrite oh, nah. . .he comes back with an air of "I am doing you a favor" so you berra recognize) and what does the woman do. . .she falls to her knees and thanks her God for "overcoming"

She goes around shoulder's held high (because it is glued to her cheeks from when her hubby and/or his mistress poured acid on her) her eyes gleaming (because it has been replaced with a glass eye after he punched it out) and her mouth in a perpetual smirk (The mouth tends to take that shape when it is used for target practice) feeling cool with herself that she got her hubby back. Yes ke, how do you like 'em apples

Dear OP, your hubby (like some men on this thread) are confused. . .this is not how it is supposed to be gaddamit!

When. . .When. . .did a woman start putting herself first? How. . .when. . .did we land on Bizzaro world?!!

You see how you have thrown a wrench and scatter balanced their entire belief system? I'll run for cover if I were you. . .you just disturbed a hornet's nest.

PrettyCindy: Like my sister said, you deserve a good and better man.

All the crap about him being a changed person is just story. He wants to trap me so i will be his slave forever.

ileobatojo:

Nailed it!!



Oh, by the way, forgiveness and 'giving your kid a father' can be done just fine without continuing to suffer abuse in marriage. Just thought I'd fyi.

BluStreak:

You have said & heard it all. You don't need this man except your fate is sealed in a perpetual life of misery. He will never change since he isn't even aware of what pushes him to assault you. He therefore will have no control of what he doesn't know. Your life is better-off without him.

Don't go back is my final advice. Please don't.

$25 million:
I'm sorry but you sir are an idi.ot,, who told you the next man would be a saint, he might even be more draconian except offcourse you want her bed-hopping.This freaking world is full of lousy unforgiving cretins damn.

touchmeder:



Sorry just a question,do you really need a divorce from the court for a traditional wedding? Do they do that in customary court or what?

emma_best2000: go into prayers my sister , listen to the voice of God and do not follow the advice of people , IMO though

$25 million:
. What do you understand about tolerance, forgiveness, commitment (not hopping from man A to man B), and character reformation. You constantly sound like you're flawless, though cruel and utterly intolerant. If the coin was turned I know some men who will readily forgive and tolerate the lady despite her ills after humbly apologising and even further help in making her a better person. I honestly do not bloody give a damn what any lousy feminist says or thinks but as long as remorse is in sight, any opposing dogmatic phylosophy is unequivocally cruelty and wickedness making the op even worse off. Apologising spells out humility.

ileobatojo:


You want her to go and endure abuse and suffering not for any personal benefit to herself but so she won't be looked down upon by people like you as hopping from man A to B; and I'm the cruel one? Lmao.

And please highlight what in my post you Tquoted makes me sound flawless.

In your grossly biased state, I'm sure you completely missed where I gave her leeway to return to him if she feels like things could be better. Unlike you my primary concern is for the OP's safety, not for the by force carrying of the title mrs to a possible early grave in order to appease sadists like you who are more concerned with your inability to see her as more than a sexual object.