Debsolat:

Apologies if it sounded condescending. I did not mean that south east london people are not real because that would mean putting everyone under the same blanket. And I was brought up in south east London. Or be like the poster who is generalising. You can go ahead and bash people because we don't agree with your opinions. Vanity and Damiso, hope apology is accepted?

Ilekokonit: What have Naija men in London done wrong in wanting to raise a family with a Naija woman "every time they are having their morning devotional prayer as a family, if the man lingers on for too long in prayer the wife disrecpectfully tells him to cut short his prayer right in front of his kids."

If the man complains, the callous wife sneers at him right in front of the kids stating "You PHD, Me Bread Winner" reminding him that despite his PHD degree, she remains the bread winner.

damiso:

Debsolat haba i really really got what you meant.And also Cottons peckham crowd.They are around me (not necessarily location wise i know some who live in Dartford ).People who spend £30,000 on 1 yr old birthday party with complete £250 aso- ebi to boot .Ha i even have them as family and inlaws.Had one of such parties last week and the kids party pack can only be best imagined.Not to tarr all people with the same brush but some of these people tend to exhibhit most of the traits OP described.

Apologies accepted dear

PIAGET: Stfu nd go luk 4 ur baby daddy nd apologys, dirty ho like u. Tnk God 4 d op cos i jus read ur thread.
Preety sn ur newly trapd dummy wil discover wat a foul-mouthed bi*ch u r nd dump u as wel. Dirty single mum, Ur so disgusting wit ur cotton wool brain, Eediot!

Sensual Man: Ilekekonit hz finally subdued nd relegated all doz family section cabal women 2 viewers, HEHEHEHE none is willing 2 throw tantrums 2 avoid havin dia past dug up by inspector ilekekonit,
c.ome wat may am lovin ds dude.
Ride on bro,
Smh 4 9ja women, they ain't worthit.

agiboma: Well OP looks to me like you want someone you can control and play around like a ball, someone that harkens to your every beckon call. Well you should marry a Nigerian lady and keep her in Nigeria ooo, dont let her come to the developed world so she learns about women rights and empowerment Im afraid that will foil your plans for the puppet aka wife you want to keep in your home.You ever heard the saying, When in Rome you do like the Romans.

I'm as Western as any Nigerian man can get, but I can still see where the OP's coming from. There are two things not to be confused - control and respect. Regardless of who the breadwinner is, the man remains the head of the family. There are ways a wife can correct mistakes her husband makes, without putting him down, and definitely not in the presence of their children.

Yes, Nigeria may not be a developed country, but that doesn't mean once Nigerians settle in the West, their traditions and family / cultural values are left at MMA to die. I was born and raised mostly in the UK, but I still remain a Nigerian at heart, with Nigerian values combined with a smattering of Western influence. My children will be brought up with traditional values, that imbibe respect. Not running wild like their Caucasean counterparts, who would cheerfully tell their father to f*ck off, just because he wouldn't allow them to smoke pot or attend a late night party.

Just because a Nigerian woman moves to the West doesn't mean she loses all sense of reason or decency. Neither does it mean a Nigerian husband who demands respect which will instill discipline in their children, and stand them in good stead, is an ogre or control freak.

So yeah, I may be British, but I still maintain my "Browness", which I'm very proud of.

damiso: Mr Siena,very well said and i agree with most of the points you raised cos i and my husband share most of those values.It takes alot though as a woman to hold onto to some of those values if the Man wants to adopt the traditional hard stance while still wanting the woman to be an equal financial contributor.

That said i am.a strong advocate of a loved woman will definitely have no problems submitting(there are rare cases though).Me i dont even want to be the head ,i am ok being the neck that turns the head .
I live in London and i kinda get the picture he was trying to paint thought there was a tad bit of over generalisation going on.

OP though could have done without the insults and personal attacks,so not necessary.

Ujujoan:

Oga S don vex oh . . .

Abeg my sister, Siena no dey vex o - I just dey talk true na!

agiboma: @25 the only "clogged up mind" is your's.

the above is not even worthy of a response.

You can join the OP's senseless pity party, its because they chased you off the other thread you decided to come on this one to start something?

Siena:

I'm as Western as any Nigerian man can get, but I can still see where the OP's coming from. There are two things not to be confused - control and respect. Regardless of who the breadwinner is, the man remains the head of the family. There are ways a wife can correct mistakes her husband makes, without putting him down, and definitely not in the presence of their children.

Yes, Nigeria may not be a developed country, but that doesn't mean once Nigerians settle in the West, their traditions and family / cultural values are left at MMA to die. I was born and raised mostly in the UK, but I still remain a Nigerian at heart, with Nigerian values combined with a smattering of Western influence. My children will be brought up with traditional values, that imbibe respect. Not running wild like their Caucasean counterparts, who would cheerfully tell their father to f*ck off, just because he wouldn't allow them to smoke pot or attend a late night party.

Just because a Nigerian woman moves to the West doesn't mean shge loses all sense of reason or decency. Neither does it mean a Nigerian husband who demands respect which will instill discipline in their children, and stand them in good stead, is an ogre or control freak.

So yeah, I may be British, but I still maintain my "Browness", which I'm very proud of.

slimyem: The Siena responding on this thread is not the Siena i know..

Slim, you'll never know, hee hee hee.