@ilekokonit,

Cool down bro, your own is to dig up old post and use it to fight people based on what they say!
This is your thread, be better to discuss the topic like matured human and not start fighting and digging up old post. That's childish I must say!

As per the topic, people opinion varies, not every body sees keeping a man or marriage as being successful!

To others, all I want in life is happiness, if marriage gives me that, fine! If not, I take a walk..life is too short Abeg!


So, relax and focus on your thread

Just saying

All I know is that life is a choice. Whatever a man sows that he shall reap.Every woman needs a man, same applies to men. Nature cannot be cheated. Any woman who thinks that women liberation means to sit on top of her husband's head should be equally ready to enjoy the exalted status of single motherhood! Much as I vehemently oppose some men's over-dominance and inhumane treatment of women, I equally detest women who think that they have no place being submissive to their husbands. As a practising christian I believe that the bible is clear on the issues pertaining to the hierarchy of authority in the home. The truth is that in any family where the children disrespect their Dad, the mum should be held responsible: Children are the best copycats I've ever seen. Young mothers should be wary of how they treat their husbands in front of their children and vice versa. Respect is reciprocal. Men should learn to love their wives and treat them with dignity. If any woman cannot stay under a man, let her not marry. So long as culture dictates that men should propose, engage and eventually marry a woman and take her to his home or parents house, women should learn to be loyal to their husbands to be deemed as virtuous. We should also not offer the rich aspects of our cultures on the altar of enlightenment. The worst form of education is learning to turn off our ears to the voice of reason. Many parents today are busy chasing money and pleasures for their children thinking that money is all there is to guarantee their children's happiness. Many young people of nowadays are sadists. I foresee a serious social disorder for this Nation if parents don't sit-up and teach their children the right values and social etiquette.

Vikin:
Cool down bro, your own is to dig up old post and use it to fight people based on what they say!
This is your thread, be better to discuss the topic like matured human and not start fighting and digging up old post. That's childish I must say!

Ok, my own is to dig up old posts BUT what is your own ? or are you too lazy to read and understand the genesis of the whole thing

Who is fighting who ??

Listen, this is the 21st Century and sane people no longer fight no matter the level of provocation. We can exchange words of correction and expose hypocrisy but fighting is for schoolkids.

And what makes you the authority on what is childish and what isn't ? Or do you think your above comments are necessarily correct

Nobody has a monopoly of wisdom so you are the one I will advice to take your own advice and cool down. Or are you now telling me that the bad behaviours of the various monster London Wives detailed in my first post is acceptable behaviour to their Long suffering husbands ? Or you didn't bother to read my initial post in full and just decided to jump on a bandwagon and side with people who threw the first brickbats ? Oh, I just saw that you are a woman. No Wonder !!

If you notice another lady commented on my post without throwing any insults and I have not replied her as her post was not insulting like the others which I replied and yours now.

I'll advice you that If you want to judge a matter in future you have to approach it objectively and READ AND ASSIMILATE all the facts. Don't just pass judgement for judgements sake.

Abi why be say you see matter wey no really concern you when I am correcting errant London women and some scallywags with shady and dubious pasts are not only claiming to be what they are not but they throw the first insult at me and I reply them and all you can do is tell me to cool down and stop digging up posts and stop fighting. In your "second" opinion, is that really an intelligent way of mediating and calming things down??

What are posts for if not to be read by the 7 billion people worldwide. If you have any secrets you don't want unearthed why put it on a public forum accessible at the click of a mouse especially when your posts reveal your shady past and/or deception ?

And why are you bothered about my exposing impostors using their former posts or do you think anyone in this 21st Century will just take people at "mouth value" without digging deeper especially since I was minding my business on my own thread before the silly cows started calling my post nonsense.

Or do you yourself have a hidden history in your posts on Nairaland that you are afraid of being unearthed someday.

^^^^ blah blah blah! Ranting like a rabid dog!

Keep digging! Pls, dig mine too as per your job description ...

Vikin: ^^^^ blah blah blah! Ranting like a rabid dog!

Keep digging! Pls, dig mine too as per your job description ...

Hey Vikin, has my DIL arrived yet? hvnt heard nor 'seen' you in a while!

Interesting.. I will just ask one question is this extreme aspect of feminism only displayed by women in London or one that is common to wives in diaspora

Also to add, this may not only be unique to women in diaspora as such is gradually becoming common here in naija sef

Then your riposte to cotton may not have been necessary as that is a potential thread derailer

I would like to learn more about family life among Nigerians abroad as some of my friends want to relocate their families abroad

smartmom:

Hey Vikin, has my DIL arrived yet? hvnt heard nor 'seen' you in a while!

Not yet o! We all waiting! She seems too comfortable, but am working on chasing her out!

Long time!

Oppsss, wrong thread! Dey go soon ban us!

@op,

i dunno about you but most naija married women in london are well-behaved!

Vikin:
^^^^ blah blah blah! Ranting like a rabid dog!

A rabid dog is still a dog and is a million times better than you a woman who wants to sleep with a man who has changed sex into a woman or a woman who has changed sex into a man.

I always knew there was something unnatural and demonic behind mouthy women[b/] or how do you explain your following post :-

[b]Would You Date/marry A Transgender?

by Vikin: 10:31am On Jun 07, 2012

Call me ignorant whatever.. am still going through some pictures of thai men turned to ladies. They got the shape of ladies, the b.reas.t but still maintain their manhood (U know what i mean).

My colleague just told me he is married to one. (A thai lady-man).

Am just wondering...would you date/marry a lady-man. This is not gay/lesbian... they can serve as both.


For me, i would love to experience it.

https://www.nairaland.com/957712/date-marry-transgender

What other depravity would you a married woman with a child "LOVE TO EXPERIENCE"

And yet you have the nerve to call me a rabid dog when a "married" dog will not entertain the kind of depraved fantasies lurking in your mind.

Has your feminism now given you a spiritual dick or will you conduct YOUR DEPRAVITY with a Love Machine

Or will your depravity be conducted with a hermaphrodite since you say This is not gay/lesbian... they can serve as both.

Your husband is in trouble. He don enter "one chance marriage". Just make sure you teach your young child the difference between good and bad and don't go indoctrinating the innocent child that transgender and gender realignment is normal or that a man can sexually serve as both man and woman like you stated in your depraved post.

Keep your depravity to yourself but leave your innocent children AS PURE AS GOD MADE THEM.

Now that you have been exposed as a "She/He" what more insults do you want to throw at me ?? and don't bother going back to delete evidence of your sexually depraved mind because we now know you for who you REALLY are. A dirty cow !!!

Ilekokonit:


A rabid dog is still a dog and is a million times better than you a woman who wants to sleep with a man who has changed sex into a woman or a woman who has changed sex into a man.

I always knew there was something unnatural and demonic behind mouthy women[b/] or how do you explain your following post :-





What other depravity would you a married woman with a child "LOVE TO EXPERIENCE"

And yet you have the nerve to call me a rabid dog when a "married" dog will not entertain the kind of depraved fantasies lurking in your mind.

Has your feminism now given you a spiritual dick or will you conduct YOUR DEPRAVITY with a Love Machine

Or will your depravity be conducted with a hermaphrodite since you say [b]This is not gay/lesbian... they can serve as both.

Your husband is in trouble. He don enter "one chance marriage". Just make sure you teach your young child the difference between good and bad and don't go indoctrinating the innocent child that transgender and gender realignment is normal or that a man can sexually serve as both man and woman like you stated in your depraved post.

Keep your depravity to yourself but leave your innocent children AS PURE AS GOD MADE THEM.

Now that you have been exposed as a "She/He" what more insults do you want to throw at me ?? and don't bother going back to delete evidence of your sexually depraved mind because we now know you for who you REALLY are. A dirty cow !!!

You should try this one, she is transgender, maybe that would clear your head off!

Or this.....this one is better for you, considering the age!

Ilekokonitagbe...you are NL's Linda Ikeji.

Why did you quote my lates post but "conveniently" ommited the part that shows your depravity or how do you explain your following post :-

Would You Date/marry A Transgender?

by Vikin: 10:31am On Jun 07, 2012

Call me ignorant whatever.. am still going through some pictures of thai men turned to ladies. They got the shape of ladies, the b.reas.t but still maintain their manhood (U know what i mean).

My colleague just told me he is married to one. (A thai lady-man).

Am just wondering...would you date/marry a lady-man. This is not gay/lesbian... they can serve as both.


For me, i would love to experience it.

https://www.nairaland.com/957712/date-marry-transgender

Were you suddenly ashamed of yourself that you ommited the above from your requote and try to bury your evil habits by posting those nonsensical demonic photos.

It really shows you the inner workings and habits of some Naija women if you can be comfortable trawling websites to wiew and fantasise about pictures of men who have breasts and dicks and God knows what else and you don't expect that to have a polluting effect on your subconscious ecpecially seeing that you have a young child

Or are you a demon in disguise ?

And to think that some female Nairalanders trusted you to give them advice whilst they were pregnant shows that some people are SIMPLETON'S who can not read between the lines and know that because of the possibility of "transference of spirits" they should not have let you anywhere near them when they were pregnant because of your nasty and UN-NATURAL sexual ambitions.

Ilekokonit: Why did you quote my lates post but "conveniently" ommited the part that shows your depravity or how do you explain your following post :-




Were you suddenly ashamed of yourself that you ommited the above from your requote and try to bury your evil habits by posting those nonsensical demonic photos.

It really shows you the inner workings and habits of some Naija women if you can be comfortable trawling websites to wiew and fantasise about pictures of men who have breasts and dicks and God knows what else and you don't expect that to have a polluting effect on your subconscious ecpecially seeing that you have a young child

Or are you a demon in disguise ?

Are you still ranting!

Your post is mainly bashing Naija women! We are having a swell time and you are here hating....



More to come...

Debsolat:

Definitely Pechkam crowd! Hanging with wrong crowds. Been in this country for a decade and half and my parents more than that. They are happily married and so am I. Pls leave your South east/east London and meet real people.

Very condescending
So south east London Nigeria ladies are not real

@ Poster

A grown woman of 60 years must know why she did what she did!!
You can't be judging based on a one-sided conversation
Anywhooooo, were it to be true, such is life. You get the good with the bad. You just keep it moving
Good luck!

Vikin:
Your post is mainly bashing Naija women! We are having a swell time and you are here hating....

You a mother, calls fantasising about sleeping with a man with breasts PLUS dick PLUS the "other one" having a swell time. Why don't you kuku go and sleep with a demon since you have seen enough of them on those sickening websites you trawl ?

Ilekokonit: This is a major question any single guy of today is adviced to ask himself. With what we all know happens on the net is a healthy monogamous relationship still possible in todays world. For guys living abroad the advice they hear is not to go bring a wife from Naija as you might be importing trouble with your own hands seeing what happens every weekend in Naija niteclubs plus the scourge of Aristo etc.

So the guy says he will look for a babe abroad where he is based but the news you keep hearing is not comforting for someone with old school values. If it is not Naija babes being addicted to s.ex toys then it is the fact that a lot of black girls abroad have also turned into escorts (p.rostitutes). To put it mildly just check out the number of black girls on www.sugardaddie.com If that doesn't shock you then by the time you see some Naija babes on www.adultwork.com then you will see why every single naija guy is now not in a hurry to say I do until he is sure of the womans pedigree (if he can ever be 100% sure that is).

The greed and sexual decadence of some women is out of this world. Its even more SCARY if you are a single guy hoping to one day settle down.

Lol at girls in sugardaddie.com.....oh my! Na dia u register? What ur username there?

I can see where your problem lies!

Vikin:

You should try this one, she is transgender, maybe that would clear your head off!

Haha! Love the Robert Atkinson picture! Which female is he juxtaposed with?


@ topic. The reason many Nigerian marriages seem to take a different form in the West is a simple one. Human beings, male and female desire happiness in life. Period. They want fulfillment and personal satisfaction. Contrary to what many men want to believe, a woman does not achieve personal happiness by simply keeping a husband at any and every cost to her. Therefore, and this happens the world over, whenever the barriers to getting a chance at happiness are removed (for instance moving from a repressive society to women to one that's not), women will take that chance. As unsavory as this seems to some men folk, this is the simple truth. If one person is working constantly and relentlessly to keeping the other person happy and not getting enough in return to keep themselves happy, it is not far fetched to see why they would seek a reprieve. And no, simply bringing home the bacon is not all she needs to be happy.

Another simple truth is that this is mostly avoidable by the men involved making a few adjustments/compromises.

Oya listen to this song for another illustration of the above 2 points.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fhe5mjgEIRk

Disclaimer: this does not mean that every single woman is innocent, there are some terrible and greedy ones that take undue advantage of the liberty they have. But there are also many that are just tired of suffering and want a chance at some well deserved happiness.

wonlasewonimi:
Ilekokonitagbe...you are NL's Linda Ikeji.

Not really. Its just that I am naturally inquisitive and will not swallow anything you tell me hook, line, sinker, fisherman and boat without digging deeper plus I have a very low tolerance for bullshit and/or bullshitters.

For example some time ago on Nairaland there was a thread about "how much are you worth" and a particular posters entry was intriguing as the person claimed to have paid off their mortgage and now owned their house outright. I had no cause to doubt them but lo and behold a few searches on google revealed the same person telling someone else on a different fora that they were paying X amount monthly to rent their house and the 2 posts were one or 2 weeks apart with the Non NL post being earlier.

If you know about mortgages, you will know about the "Exchange" and "Completion" cycle and realise that the persons earlier post off Nairaland stating that they were renting their home was the accurate one whilst the Nairaland post claiming to own their house outright is a BIG LIE as you don't JUMP from renting your house to owning it outright in a space of one or 2 weeks in that part of the world. Did your landlord suddenly die and will the house to you all within a space of 1 to 2 weeks ??

This is one of the reasons I don't just believe everything I read on Nairaland.

More transgender guys

More pix....make I kuku help you derail the thread

obyrich: All I know is that life is a choice. Whatever a man sows that he shall reap.Every woman needs a man, same applies to men. Nature cannot be cheated. Any woman who thinks that women liberation means to sit on top of her husband's head should be equally ready to enjoy the exalted status of single motherhood! Much as I vehemently oppose some men's over-dominance and inhumane treatment of women, I equally detest women who think that they have no place being submissive to their husbands. As a practising christian I believe that the bible is clear on the issues pertaining to the hierarchy of authority in the home. The truth is that in any family where the children disrespect their Dad, the mum should be held responsible: Children are the best copycats I've ever seen. Young mothers should be wary of how they treat their husbands in front of their children and vice versa. Respect is reciprocal. Men should learn to love their wives and treat them with dignity. If any woman cannot stay under a man, let her not marry. So long as culture dictates that men should propose, engage and eventually marry a woman and take her to his home or parents house, women should learn to be loyal to their husbands to be deemed as virtuous. We should also not offer the rich aspects of our cultures on the altar of enlightenment. The worst form of education is learning to turn off our ears to the voice of reason. Many parents today are busy chasing money and pleasures for their children thinking that money is all there is to guarantee their children's happiness. Many young people of nowadays are sadists. I foresee a serious social disorder for this Nation if parents don't sit-up and teach their children the right values and social etiquette.

Exactly! What you sow you reap, abi? That is to say the men in these stories reaped, are reaping or will reap what they had sown!
So what are we all crying about?

My own take is i live in South East London in a Housing Association property BUT i know i am a good wife .Me i no dey form to be what i am not.

I am also a Naija import .

OP no vex,peckham crowd is not.necessarily the location,its people who have Owambe mentality and what you described is quite common among that crowd.

Also the personal attack on Cotton,so not necessary.

All I can say to the guys here is,find your soulmate,treat her right and let her be the wife you want her to be,that way,you won't come here writing lamentations.The moment you start treating a woman badly,her survival instincts kicks in.

The men are not innocent in all this,why won't women be demons if a man can cheat on his wife and boast of it in NL?why won't she kill you when you derive pleasure in slapping her around??

Am not a die hard feminist,I only stand for what is right.Do me,I do you is not a bad concept after all.The few good men are enjoying their marital lives,while the suckers keep complaining.

@Obyrich,you nailed!!

damiso: My own take is i live in South East London in a Housing Association property BUT i know i am a good wife .Me i no dey form to be what i am not.

I am also a Naija import .

OP no vex,peckham crowd is not.necessarily the location,its people who have Owambe mentality and what you described is quite common among that crowd.

Also the personal attack on Cotton,so not necessary.

did someone attack me - do i look bothered? is he paying my mortgage?

What the poster described in his first post doesn't make sense and just seems like a frustrated man look for a pathway to bash nigerian women based in London. A woman at 60 years old whether she is in london or the moon acting a fool is a fool!!

English is not my first language but the topic did say "some Nigerian women" . From my understanding, that does not equate to all Nigerian women in London or does the OP have a reputation for bashing Naija women?

cotton101:

did someone attack me - do i look bothered? is he paying my mortgage?

What the poster described in his first post doesn't make sense and just seems like a frustrated man look for a pathway to bash nigerian women based in London. A woman at 60 years old whether she is in london or the moon acting a fool is a fool!!

Stfu nd go luk 4 ur baby daddy nd apologys, dirty ho like u. Tnk God 4 d op cos i jus read ur thread.
Preety sn ur newly trapd dummy wil discover wat a foul-mouthed bi*ch u r nd dump u as wel. Dirty single mum, Ur so disgusting wit ur cotton wool brain, Eediot!

MMotimo: English is not my first language but the topic did say "some Nigerian women" . From my understanding, that does not equate to all Nigerian women in London or does the OP have a reputation for bashing Naija women?

Exactly! Tnk God dia r stil ppl wit undasting, not dat disgusting rotten fairly used foul-mouthed tokumboh bìtch dat answers cotton101, mor like cotton wool

@ op, why so much fight cause u got a response u don't like? Its cos of men like u that the female folks are embracing the western culture. I can imagine how u will beat up your wife at home cos she made a comment u don't like.

PIAGET: Stfu nd go luk 4 ur baby daddy nd apologys, dirty ho like u. Tnk God 4 d op cos i jus read ur thread.
Preety sn ur newly trapd dummy wil discover wat a foul-mouthed bi*ch u r nd dump u as wel. Dirty single mum, Ur so disgusting wit ur cotton wool brain, Eediot!

I looooove this reply!! . . That Baby Mama LTD needs psychological help.

O ga o.I thought family section was looking towards no insults policy for difference in opinion.

Naija people and acidic tongues.Geez.

vanitty:

Very condescending
So south east London Nigeria ladies are not real

@ Poster

A grown woman of 60 years must know why she did what she did!!
You can't be judging based on a one-sided conversation
Anywhooooo, were it to be true, such is life. You get the good with the bad. You just keep it moving
Good luck!

Apologies if it sounded condescending. I did not mean that south east london people are not real because that would mean putting everyone under the same blanket. And I was brought up in south east London. Or be like the poster who is generalising. You can go ahead and bash people because we don't agree with your opinions. Vanity and Damiso, hope apology is accepted?