xynerise: My dear there is no place like home. Dont you want him to visit his family?
Love can bring you to Nigeria who knows?

Hawtbabe: I don't mind but he will say that he wants to go back but do things to contradict the statement. For example he wants to find permanent job. For him to stay he's told me that I need to make a certain amount. I've recently been offered a job that I really want to do" that is 1k less than what I need to earn for him to stay. When I told him he was happy but then told me to look elsewhere.

Hawtbabe: I have been dating my my boyfriend for a year and 8 months. My boyfriend is Nigerian(born & raised) and Igbo. I was born in the UK, but raised the African way( Sierra Leone). When we met he told me that he loves me within a month or two. I didn't know why he had said it so fast. It scared me. He came here on a student visa but it ran out and he applied to stay for another few years but it runs out in November ths year. On New Year's Day he proposed to me and I said yes, but he didn't ask my fathers permission even though they have met (which is concerning me). My Igbo male friends who were born here have explained how traditional Igbo people are, so I was shocked. And before I caught him toasting babes in his fb messages and I threatened o leave n he begged me to stay. Also hes been insisting that we go to a registry before we even have a wedding. He has friends that are married non Nigerian girls who were Los born here. None of them have partners from their own country(Nigeria) and all have settled with uk women.

I speak with his brother on fb. When speaking he told me that "things are hard in lagos, no wonder Ikechukwu doesn't want to come back". But when I speak with him he's always telling me that he wants to go back to Nigeria to live and that this country is not for him. So I'm left confused.g d

My family are concerned that I'm being used & my instincts are telling me to leave him. I'm too ashamed to tell them he has asked me to go to a registry. Am I being crazy or is he with me for stay.

Mrs.Chima:


Sweety...imagine you in a country where YOU KNOWS NO ONE and everything is new! Of course you would want to go back home. He is homesick and misses home. It is expected...but once you get into a swing of things with the new country...you will not worry so much. It is possible that he will go back home to retire because UK dollars will stretch longer in Nigeria...so money wise it is safer to return back in Africa if you can afford to pay for decent security and things.

He is struggling and he is looking for means to survive...the decision is yours.

Hawtbabe:

Also 9months into the relationship I found out I was pregnant. When I told him he told me to go for an abortion but later changed his mind.At 3 months I miscarried n he acted as if it never occurred. And I've also met his dad but not his mum.

Mrs.Chima:


Girl...come sit by me. Let me put my baby in her crib. Brb.

Hawtbabe:

My question is if its for stay why introduce me to his dad?

Mrs.Chima:


Did you meet his dad physically or was it online?

Honeyjay:
I have been dating my my boyfriend for a year and 8 months. My boyfriend is Nigerian(born & raised) and Igbo. I was born in the UK, but raised the African way( Sierra Leone). When we met he told me that he loves me within a month or two. I didn't know why he had said it so fast. It scared me. He came here on a student visa but it ran out and he applied to stay for another few years but it runs out in November ths year. On New Year's Day he proposed to me and I said yes, but he didn't ask my fathers permission even though they have met (which is concerning me). My Igbo male friends who were born here have explained how traditional Igbo people are, so I was shocked. And before I caught him toasting babes in his fb messages and I threatened o leave n he begged me to stay. Also hes been insisting that we go to a registry before we even have a wedding. He has friends that are married non Nigerian girls who were Los born here. None of them have partners from their own country(Nigeria) and all have settled with uk women.

I speak with his brother on fb. When speaking he told me that "things are hard in lagos, no wonder Ikechukwu doesn't want to come back". But when I speak with him he's always telling me that he wants to go back to Nigeria to live and that this country is not for him. So I'm left confused.

My family are concerned that I'm being used & my instincts are telling me to leave him. I'm too ashamed to tell them he has asked me to go to a registry. Am I being crazy or is he with me for stay. /


I'm a mixed Scandinavian and Asian girl engaged to a Nigerian Igbo guy living abord. I met him at my Mother country where he living. We are together 3 years now. I've been supporting him every month in two and half years already. He 've been cheating and lies on me.He dominate me to get what he want. I fighte with him. I want to break up and leave him ,but I can't never leave him and he never let me go. He told me he choose me to be his wife and love me so much. His cheated only mistake. I don't believe him. Lately in 6 months we always fight after his dating girl message me and let me know that they are dating.He broken up with her immediately and told her if she disturb me again he will report her to police that what the girl told me and cried with me. I cant trust him any more even he said sorry 1000 times and promise will not hurt me again. He said dont want to see me sad and cry, in 6 months I was in suffered,but I never stop support him. He got nice new mobile phone in 2 Christmas, shoes brandname jeans and nice house where he staying. He told me when he done with his Master he will take care of me in the rest of our life,but Its ok for me I dont need that I can take care of my self. I love him unconditional,but in last month I had enough and tired of fighting with him. I decided to stop and leave him .He told me he will let me go if I want ,but after that families involver his parent and mine don't want us to spilt .And when I look inside my heart I still love him very much.. I told him we move on in life and forget everything in the past. I forgive and give him second chance, but if he do it again we will not discussion just end up. I told him I trust him again 100 % sound like silly, but that 's all I can do I told him I can't stop him from cheating, he have to stop him self. What can I do that I only pray and keep hope he will change and keep his promise. I'm not stupid or bad looking I have a good job and my owned business.. I only follow my heart what I can tell you that listen to your heart and let it be If you doubt about him don't be with him. If you love him give your self a chance, people may be using and hurting sometimes ,but who worth it.. think and choose wisely..

No offence but how is this of relation

Hawtbabe: I met the dad physically. And after he uttered abortion he changed his mind and told me that he would marry me and change things around for his child.then we we're planning to go Nigeria to meet his parents before I started to show(this was before I met the dad).

Honeyjay:
I have been dating my my boyfriend for a year and 8 months. My boyfriend is Nigerian(born & raised) and Igbo. I was born in the UK, but raised the African way( Sierra Leone). When we met he told me that he loves me within a month or two. I didn't know why he had said it so fast. It scared me. He came here on a student visa but it ran out and he applied to stay for another few years but it runs out in November ths year. On New Year's Day he proposed to me and I said yes, but he didn't ask my fathers permission even though they have met (which is concerning me). My Igbo male friends who were born here have explained how traditional Igbo people are, so I was shocked. And before I caught him toasting babes in his fb messages and I threatened o leave n he begged me to stay. Also hes been insisting that we go to a registry before we even have a wedding. He has friends that are married non Nigerian girls who were Los born here. None of them have partners from their own country(Nigeria) and all have settled with uk women.

I speak with his brother on fb. When speaking he told me that "things are hard in lagos, no wonder Ikechukwu doesn't want to come back". But when I speak with him he's always telling me that he wants to go back to Nigeria to live and that this country is not for him. So I'm left confused.

My family are concerned that I'm being used & my instincts are telling me to leave him. I'm too ashamed to tell them he has asked me to go to a registry. Am I being crazy or is he with me for stay. /


I'm a mixed Scandinavian and Asian girl engaged to a Nigerian Igbo guy living abord. I met him at my Mother country where he living. We are together 3 years now. I've been supporting him every month in two and half years already. He 've been cheating and lies on me.He dominate me to get what he want. I fighte with him. I want to break up and leave him ,but I can't never leave him and he never let me go. He told me he choose me to be his wife and love me so much. His cheated only mistake. I don't believe him. Lately in 6 months we always fight after his dating girl message me and let me know that they are dating.He broken up with her immediately and told her if she disturb me again he will report her to police that what the girl told me and cried with me. I cant trust him any more even he said sorry 1000 times and promise will not hurt me again. He said dont want to see me sad and cry, in 6 months I was in suffered,but I never stop support him. He got nice new mobile phone in 2 Christmas, shoes brandname jeans and nice house where he staying. He told me when he done with his Master he will take care of me in the rest of our life,but Its ok for me I dont need that I can take care of my self. I love him unconditional,but in last month I had enough and tired of fighting with him. I decided to stop and leave him .He told me he will let me go if I want ,but after that families involver his parent and mine don't want us to spilt .And when I look inside my heart I still love him very much.. I told him we move on in life and forget everything in the past. I forgive and give him second chance, but if he do it again we will not discussion just end up. I told him I trust him again 100 % sound like silly, but that 's all I can do I told him I can't stop him from cheating, he have to stop him self. What can I do that I only pray and keep hope he will change and keep his promise. I'm not stupid or bad looking I have a good job and my owned business.. I only follow my heart what I can tell you that listen to your heart and let it be If you doubt about him don't be with him. If you love him give your self a chance, people may be using and hurting sometimes ,but who worth it.. think and choose wisely..

Mrs.Chima:


Awwww. It is unfortunate that you married a cheater...not necessarily a scammer which is what many women/men have experienced. I can imagine how you are feeling knowing that the man you love so much cheated on you and betrayed your trust. It can be difficult to trust someone who lives in the same house as you.

Lack of trust is a surefire way to destroy a marriage. How are you coping?

Mrs.Chima:


I don't know about immigration in the UK but see if a child is necessary to prove no marriage sham occurred between the o pair of you.

Are you okay with him marrying you for papers potentially?

sauer: How do you guys get yourselvs es in such mess? Must one have to tell you before you make the right decisions? Why are you not strong- hearted and demand a relationship that eventually includes you, a relationship that is not one-sided?

Hawtbabe:

Absolutely not ok with it. I want to only get married once like my parents are.

Mrs.Chima:


You deserve that suga. Just think about what I say okay?

Honeyjay: He is living in my mother'scountry in Asia and I living in Scandinavia. We see each other every three months. I travel to see him almost ,but sometimes we met in Turkey he doesn't get visa to EU yet. He will done his Master International business program in June then we will getting marriage and he will apply for his resident visa to come to stay with me.. c

Mrs.Chima:


Are you married or will get married?