prince_onx:

Thanks AJ for modifying your first post! sounds better! you made the first one sound like he's taking advantage of the 19yrs old girl even though he clearly said he didn't involve in any romantic affair.

All the same, long distance relationship don't work or do it for me.

almondjoy:

@poster
you sound much older than this girl.

1. you should never get involved in a long distance relationship

2. If you are looking for a lady to start a relationship, dealing with a teenager is not the best way to go about it.


I do not understand why you have to put yourself through this kind of "sugar daddy/sugar baby" romance. When you decide to fool around with little girls who have eyes for little boys, this is the result. Look baby, I was a 19 year old too in a University in Nigeria. If you think this girl will sit and close her legs waiting for you in NIGERIA for that matter. . .you must be joking! Come hell or high water. . .the kind of dudes I went to school with will not let you have a moment's peace till you give up that cookie. In the classrooms they are pinching your arse. In the hostels, they never leave your bed till dawn. . . giving you the sweetest rap lyrics of your life. Infact a 19 year old girl in any University in Nigeria is a dude magnet, no matter how born again or ugly! The attention is fun and the hormones are raging. You have only become her "mumu money bag". Love has nothng to do with this equation. You are only interested in her young body, not even her mind. . . that comes with a price. You cannot even list specific qualities that attract you to this girl but her youth.

In all honesty, at 19, I would be doing the same thing this girl is doing to you. I[b] will use your money to sponsor birthday parties for my cutest boyfriends. [/b] Since you refused to "touch"me, I really do not have any "fond memories" of what your love feels like. So let us keep it at sending money into ma account, and let others "touch me" in your absence. A 19 year old girl only remembers who lights her fire more than who sends her money. You might not be the only one sending her money. . . .so nothing special there. Infact, you might be the poorest of the "money miss roads"! She is only acting her age. I don't know if you are acting yours.


Please get you a real woman, if you are looking for a long term relationship! This child is still going through the motions, just like you are.

Thank you for sharing!

almondjoy:

@poster
you sound much older than this girl.

1. you should never get involved in a long distance relationship

2. If you are looking for a lady to start a relationship, dealing with a teenager is not the best way to go about it.


I do not understand why you have to put yourself through this kind of "sugar daddy/sugar baby" romance. When you decide to fool around with little girls who have eyes for little boys, this is the result. Look baby, I was a 19 year old too in a University in Nigeria. If you think this girl will sit and close her legs waiting for you in NIGERIA for that matter. . .you must be joking! Come hell or high water. . .the kind of dudes I went to school with will not let you have a moment's peace till you give up that cookie. In the classrooms they are pinching your arse. In the hostels, they never leave your bed till dawn. . . giving you the sweetest rap lyrics of your life. Infact a 19 year old girl in any University in Nigeria is a dude magnet, no matter how born again or ugly! The attention is fun and the hormones are raging. You have only become her "mumu money bag". Love has nothng to do with this equation. You are only interested in her young body, not even her mind. . . that comes with a price. You cannot even list specific qualities that attract you to this girl but her youth.

In all honesty, at 19, I would be doing the same thing this girl is doing to you. I[b] will use your money to sponsor birthday parties for my cutest boyfriends. [/b] Since you refused to "touch"me, I really do not have any "fond memories" of what your love feels like. So let us keep it at sending money into ma account, and let others "touch me" in your absence. A 19 year old girl only remembers who lights her fire more than who sends her money. You might not be the only one sending her money. . . .so nothing special there. Infact, you might be the poorest of the "money miss roads"! She is only acting her age. I don't know if you are acting yours.


Please get you a real woman, if you are looking for a long term relationship! This child is still going through the motions, just like you are.

Thank you for sharing!

Almondjoy, you should also remember that girls get jealous more than guys. The room mate of the said 19yrs girl might be having another thing in mind as well,

SAM MILLA:


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Truth hurts and i know that someone is telling me the truth when all of a sudden i start to realize that all my decissions about a certain thing is or was based on sentiments.
I can not deny the fact that i was involved intimately but at the end of the day, everything we do here on earth, good or bad, right or wrong always leads to something.
I will take some advices and leave some but i will also be ready to take responsibilities for my decisisions. Thats what matters. Humans can only be controlled by hope and fear. Although its hard to accept but my fears has been vaguely confirmed and my hope still pushes me foward. Either towards good or bad. But i believe in giving second and third chances. Maybe i will fail but like someone said here, calling regularly will only make me know what i should not know. Thank you almondjoy, within two days of meeting you in nairaland, i have come to realise that you are a fierce critic of nonsense and weakness. Thats good for people with strong heart,

chukz4real:

@Poster
Our big sister had said it all. Almondjoy, you should also remember that girls get jealous more than guys. The room mate of the said 19yrs girl might be having another thing in mind as well,

anyways, I reserve my comment. I was once a victim of such as well, different strokes for different , abi na lie?

chinda3:

exactly what i said from the onset,the 19 yr old girl might have a boyfriend in school,nobody is exempting that,but women can be very jealous ,d room mate i guess is having something else in mind,even if d 19 year old was not in d room that night(maybe d girl was in d room oooo,but fast asleep) ,as a friend she is supposed to cover her up,not making it sound as if d girl is wt another guy,or even if she truly was not in d room that night,the room mate should have atleast explained better the reason y she wasnt there ,sam be careful d room mate im very sure has a hidden agenda

almondjoy:

Fine, girls can be conniving bitches behind each other's backs. But what kind of girl will not bother to get in touch with a dude spending money on her in this day and age of GSM? Her actions just show she is too busy spending "Uncle Sam's" money on her "boy toys"!

almondjoy:

The way the dude came across to me was like an older dude in his 30's or 40's. He
didn't involve any romantic affair"? . . . And he is giving this girl money left, right and center?

Ah-ah? Am I missing something?

But what kind of girl will not bother to get in touch with a dude spending money on her in this day and age of GSM?

AJ, I visited my secondary school lwhere I wrote my WASC exams last year and met an SSS 2 girl. She was cool, with all the curves and what have you. Well, I looked at her to be too small for me considering academic qualification and age (she should be in her late teen). Well, my friends who schools around the neighbourhood (undergraduates) told me that there's nothing wrong with goin out with her. The "razzled" the chic for me because I couldn't do that myself.

Hmmmmm, she visited my place two days after in company of my friends. "Didn't touch though!" She complained of money, I was on my leave then and had some with me, so I gave to her. The request for money kept coming on daily basis and I was as well issuing out as if I was spending the POWER SECTOR money! I was talked into trying it out with her by friends (well, after getting to know her through some of her explanations, I found out that she' from a very poor background, so I insisted on assisting her financially and forget about the sex thingy). You know what? I was turned to MUGU 5. Instead of coming to my place again, she'll rather send letters to me through my younger ones in her school despite my invitations.

Nigerian teenagers for You. Forget about their age, tear conscience out of your dictionary and do if u can. Its better u rush while offer last oooooooo

chukz4real:

AJ, I visited my secondary school  lwhere I wrote my WASC exams last year and met an SSS 2 girl. She was cool, with all the curves and what have you.  Well, I looked at her to be too small for me considering academic qualification and age (she should be in her late teen). Well, my friends who schools around the neighbourhood (undergraduates) told me that there's nothing wrong with goin out with her. The "razzled" the chic for me because I couldn't do that myself.

Hmmmmm, she visited my place two days after in company of my friends. "Didn't touch though!" She complained of money, I was on my leave then and had some with me, so I gave to her. The request for money kept coming on daily basis and I was as well issuing out as if I was spending the POWER SECTOR money! I was talked into trying it out with her by friends (well, after getting to know her through some of her explanations, I found out that she' from a very poor background, so I insisted on assisting her financially and forget about the sex thingy). You know what? I was turned to MUGU 5. Instead of coming to my place again, she'll rather send letters to me through my younger ones in her school despite my invitations.

Nigerian teenagers for You. Forget about their age, tear conscience out of your dictionary and do if u can. Its better u rush while offer last oooooooo

chinda3:

guess im not seeing clearly,can't remember reading where d poster said d girl does not call him

honestly ,like i said this girl might be dating someone else,and at d same time,the room mate is trying to blow a false alarm here

Like I said. . . she no get her own handset? Cheesy Always "switched off" when she wants to go "under G"!

Bro Chinda
You are right anyways, but how many female friends do u have? If u live among them, You'll know better

chukz4real:

AJ,
e b like sey u hot when u dey campus ooooooooo! Well, can't explain myself y majority of my friends are female. I spend for them not minding anything, majority of them are mere platonic friends anyway, while some do try to lure guys into doing the act!

SAM MILLA:

FROM THE ORIGINAL POSTER
OK, good people of nairaland, this whole story is going to take a new turn now. For the fact that my interest is taking your times, I will say a big thank you to all of you.
Something else happened after that. After i got over my disappointments and shocks, i called her again because i wanted to take instant decission about the whole relaationship thing. I am not good at hurting people even if it means revenging over something bad done to me. I try everyday to make people laugh and people who know me will testify to this. So i called again and asked her to repeat what she said about NON OF YOUR BUSINESS. she started her explanations by saying that she was crying at the time i made the first call. That her money was stolen the previous night in her room and there was only one suspect. I want all of you to make a guess on who that would be. So after some possible arguments and ill looks, she couldnt sleep there for the night. Remember we are talking about ladies hostel here. So she went two rooms down to her friend to stay there for the night and that was when i called the room mate. Like i said earlier, she grudginly answered and even before i said anything, she knew i was the caller. I called from a hotel room in Italy because i was on a business trip to Milan and that means that i called with a private number. I didnt call with my mobile phone due to the cost will be so high so i used a calling card connected to the phone in my hotel room. So, i wondered how the room mate knew i was the one calling even before i asked of the girl. In her own words , she said, ''SHE IS NOT HERE, JUST CALL BACK''''where did she go?''I SAID SHE IS NOT HERE , OK, SHE IS NOT SLEEPING HERE TODAY BYE'' I don't remember who hung up first. So my question now is, i am trying to trust her but as we all know , you can't trust a 19 year old girl who lives 6000km away from you especially the one in the UNI. But i am now compelled to believe her. The mistake was that she said that its non of my business and i am still trying to know why she said that. Leaving her is easy, getting her back will not be the same thing if eventually she is saying the truth. No one wants to be cheated including Milla but we all get cheated atimes,

almondjoy:

It amazes me that you still have time for this girl. So you still have doubts about what you should do? It looks like you have more of a relationship with this "room mate" than with this invisible babe of yours!

We all get cheated for sure. . . .but your case is a cheap shot! A 19 year old girl?

clerc:

i think almond is right.
well my guy i think u ve to give the girl a break. stop chasing her and let her come chasing after you. one thing is that love is like a bird u just let it go if belongs to you it will come back but if not then u lost takia

chinda3:

@sam

i can see u truly love this girl,but one thing i know in life is what is yours is yours,u see, if this girl is truly yours she will remain if not i pray God brings d rightful person your way