Please I need your help, my girlfriend of about a month plus wants to leave me because I'm a freethinker, I love her, I've always loved her, but being a freethinker is the best thing that has happened to me, she is a God fearing christian with good morals and she's very beautiful and intelligent, but she says she can't get married or date an "unrepentant pagan" like me, (yeah her words exactly) what should I do? Should I let her go or should I compromise and throw away what I believe to be truth and embrace what I think is false, all because of love, I'm confused,

Well, it love we are talking about here. If you feel you are really in love with her, then that love should be able to change you. If it can't, then you are not in love because love changes people.

eyenCalabar: Well, it love we are talking about here. If you feel you are really in love with her, then that love should be able to change you. If it can't, then you are not in love because love changes people.

Bro, U are spot on!
Please don't put the poor girl's life in bondage; besides, one month is too little a time to proclaim your "undying" love for a lady.

Chynx:
Bro, U are spot on!
Please don't put the poor girl's life in bondage; besides, one month is too little a time to proclaim your "undying" love for a lady.

well we've known each other for over ten years but we just started dating over a month ago, thanks for ur advice,

eyenCalabar: Well, it love we are talking about here. If you feel you are really in love with her, then that love should be able to change you. If it can't, then you are not in love because love changes people.

thanks mann,

bolaino: Please I need your help, my girlfriend of about a month plus wants to leave me because I'm a freethinker, I love her, I've always loved her, but being a freethinker is the best thing that has happened to me, she is a God fearing christian with good morales and she's very beautiful and intelligent, but she says she can't get married or date an "unrepentant pagan" like me, (yeah her words exactly) what should I do? Should I let her go or should I compromise and throw away what I believe to be truth and embrace what I think is false, all because of love, I'm confused,

Sorry for my inquisition... What is it you believe to be true as stated by you in your post

dmcdad:
Sorry for my inquisition... What is it you believe to be true as stated by you in your post

what I believe to be truth is that christianity like most religions is false, and has caused mankind more pain than gain, I'm not disputing that there is indeed the supernatural, but I don't believe that christianity has the answers it claims it does, and I don't believe in the biblical God,

bolaino: what I believe to be truth is that christianity like most religions is false, and has caused mankind more pain than gain, I'm not disputing that there is indeed the supernatural, but I don't believe that christianity has the answers it claims it does, and I don't believe in the biblical God,

Oops... I now see why the girl cant date or have anything to do with you because your beliefs are totally different...

If I were in her shoes too, I would do the same... Smh

Do what makes you happy. Is your cross, carry it.

Please let her go for her sake.

byvan: Please let her go for her sake.

can't I try being a christian and see how it goes?

dmcdad:
Oops... I now see why the girl cant date or have anything to do with you because your beliefs are totally different...

If I were in her shoes too, I would do the same... Smh

lol,

bolaino: can't I try being a christian and see how it goes?

How can you compel yourself to believe what you don't believe??

bolaino: what I believe to be truth is that christianity like most religions is false, and has caused mankind more pain than gain, I'm not disputing that there is indeed the supernatural, but I don't believe that christianity has the answers it claims it does, and I don't believe in the biblical God,

dude... Pls let her be ok? She's told u dat plainly witout mincing words so don't try being whom u r not. Go get sum1 dat blieves in wot u bliev or can stand ur beliefs...

bolaino: what I believe to be truth is that christianity like most religions is false, and has caused mankind more pain than gain, I'm not disputing that there is indeed the supernatural, but I don't believe that christianity has the answers it claims it does, and I don't believe in the biblical God,

Well, it all depends on who is trying to explain Christianity to you, which also boils down to the church you were before embracing paganism. Personally, at one time I was a pagan and later I decided to give Christianity a trial and it convinced me. Truthfully, my life has never been the same since then. So many things about me changed and at some point it was like I was just empty and powerless but something kept telling me no, you are not empty nor powerless, greater is He that is in you than he that is in the world and I believed. I kept building and building my faith on God's Word with that consciousness of who really I am. And I tell you that it has been wonderful with no regrets whatsoever because I know how my life was before God's Word came to me. And guess what, it was because of a girl. So much love I had for fair girls back then. What actually happened was that she traveled and spent sometime outside the state and told me on phone that if I was serious about her I should get a church and become a Christian like her. So while lying on my bed one night, I said to myself that I can't give up on this girl to any other guy and made up my mind that night to join any church around. But then something happened, when she came back, she told me that she never wanted me to join the particular church I did and I said to her that there's no going back. I can't be moving from one church to another because of her ...and I have been there since then. But she...?

bolaino: can't I try being a christian and see how it goes?

No don't try. Being a christian isn't sumtin u try out, its being Christ-like so if u don't accept dis in all totality, wot are u trying out?

eyenCalabar:

Well, it all depends on who is trying to explain Christianity to you, which also boils down to the church you were before embracing paganism. Personally, at one time I was a pagan and later I decided to give Christianity a trial and it convinced me. Truthfully, my life has never been the same since then. So many things about me changed and at some point it was like I was just empty and powerless but something kept telling me no, you are not empty nor powerless, greater is He that is in you that he that is in the world and I believed. I kept building and building my faith on God's Word with that consciousness of who really I am. And I tell you that it has been wonderful with no regrets whatsoever because I know how my life was before God's Word came to me. And guess what, it was because of a girl. So much love I had for fair girls back then. What actually happened was that she traveled and spent sometime outside the state and told me on phone that if I was serious about her I should get a church and become a Christian like her. So while lying on my bed one night, I said to myself that I can't give up on this girl to any other guy and made up my mind that night to join any church around. But then something happened, when she came back, she told me that she never wanted me to join the particular church I did and I said to her that there's no going back. I can't be moving from one church to another because of her ...and I have been there since then. But she...?

hmmmm, nice advice my mann, thanks for ur concern, but when it comes to christianity I've been there and done that, I used to be a hard core born again christian until, I started practicing different religions, I've searched for d truth and before becoming a freethinker, I did a lot of research and experiments, (religious experiments) and I concluded that christianity like the other religions, is something that was created to control the masses, (feeble minded) religion is mind control plain and simple, I can't go into detail, but thanks all the same,

byvan:


How can you compel yourself to believe what you don't believe??

yeah u can dear, how do u think the russians managed to put spy priests in the vatican? It's all in the mind my dear,

byvan:


How can you compel yourself to believe what you don't believe??

I wonder oooo. Since the life and belief of a true Christian totally negates his belief...

Like someone said, leave her for her sake please.

bolaino: hmmmm, nice advice my mann, thanks for ur concern, but when it comes to christianity I've been there and done that, I used to be a hard core born again christian until, I started practicing different religions, I've searched for d truth and before becoming a freethinker, I did a lot of research and experiments, (religious experiments) and I concluded that christianity like the other religions, is something that was created to control the masses, (feeble minded) religion is mind control plain and simple, I can't go into detail, but thanks all the same,

Thats where u got it wrong bro... Christianity is rather a way of life and not a religion. The name erupted when the Apostles and the other people with them lived their lives in one-accord as brethrens. That was where the people called them Christians (christ-like) at Antioch.

So, its just a Christ-like way of life and shouldnt be regarded as a religion.

bolaino: hmmmm, nice advice my mann, thanks for ur concern, but when it comes to christianity I've been there and done that, I used to be a hard core born again christian until, I started practicing different religions, I've searched for d truth and before becoming a freethinker, I did a lot of research and experiments, (religious experiments) and I concluded that christianity like the other religions, is something that was created to control the masses, (feeble minded) religion is mind control plain and simple, I can't go into detail, but thanks all the same,

Well well well, should I say you got some things wrong? Yes, you did. 1. Being "born again" is not being a Christian. It just those two words used in the Christian religion to tell one where the Christian journey starts. 2. True Christianity is not a religion. It is the [personal] relationship one has with God through His son, Jesus Christ. There is nothing about mind control in my walk with God because I see signs and wonders everyday. What you did was just a kind of generalization thing which doesn't exist. There's a higher life in Christianity. Christianity is patience, believe, faith, hope and love among other things.

bolaino: can't I try being a christian and see how it goes?

It will take the grace of God for you to be one.

bolaino: can't I try being a christian and see how it goes?

It will take the grace of God for you to become one.

dmcdad:
Thats where u got it wrong bro... Christianity is rather a way of life and not a religion. The name erupted when the Apostles and the other people with them lived their lives in one-accord as brethrens. That was where the people called them Christians (christ-like) at Antioch.

So, its just a Christ-like way of life l and shouldnt be regarded as a religion.

I get what u're trying to say my good man, but I hope u agree wit me that christianity stands or falls by the bible, if the resurrection of jesus is proved to be false, then there would be no christianity, and right now there's ample proof to doubt the authenticity of the four gospels, the gospel of mark (in it's original greek form) which is considered the oldest, does'nt consider jesus a son of God, but merely a man, I could go on and on, but thanks all the same,

eyenCalabar:

Well well well, should I say you got some things wrong? Yes, you did. 1. Being "born again" is not being a Christian. It just those two words used in the Christian religion to tell one where the Christian journey starts. 2. True Christianity is not a religion. It is the [personal] relationship one has with God through His son, Jesus Christ. There is nothing about mind control in my walk with God because I see signs and wonders everyday. What you did was just a kind of generalization thing which doesn't exist. There's a higher life in Christianity. Christianity is patience, believe, faith, hope and love among other things.

yes boss, there are miracles happening everyday, but these miracles are been performed by so called men of God who use occult knowledge for their personal gains, and the gullible christians fall prey to these evil schemers, I can assure u that no matter how long u pray u can not heal a blind man, but the good master said in the bible "greater things shall ye do" but that seems not to be the case, christianity is a religion, and religions are always about a personal relationship wit your deity/God,

bolaino: I get what u're trying to say my good man, but I hope u agree wit me that christianity stands or falls by the bible, if the resurrection of jesus is proved to be false, then there would be no christianity, and right now there's ample proof to doubt the authenticity of the four gospels, the gospel of mark (in it's original greek form) which is considered the oldest, does'nt consider jesus a son of God, but merely a man, I could go on and on, but thanks all the same,

I really hope God redeems you from this thing you have done to yourself... I have someone just like you and I know its the work of some silly research. Well, you have the right to believe whatever you want...

guy,
I understand your predicament cos I've been there. Am agnostic, but more atheist than agnostic. I've had a lot of girls refuse to associate with me based on my beliefs. Once they know what my stand is regarding all the nonsense called christianity, I could almost immediately feel their reluctance about going all the way. That was back then though.

Subsequently, I learned to take a better approach to handling all of this. At work, in relationships, I just refuse to mention what my beliefs are except it's absolutely critical to do so. I used to leave rooms or situations where someone was preaching some noisy word of god. Now, though, I'd stay and just go about my own business.

Methinks, your mistake is revealing your religious stance to her in the first place. I guess she's scared, cos she'd consider a fellow religious person more predictable. That's what it's about, bro. One minute, and anything you do wrong can be easily tied to your not believing in god. However, you could be a freethinker and she'd never know. You'd be nice to her and be everything. The day she finally does know, your relationship would have bonded so tightly that it won't be based one bit on religion or any other external factors.

At this stage, the egg is broken. You might as well do away with her. I don't know. Perhaps you love her too much to do that. But what's a freethinker getting so involved with love for, anywyz? Try keep your head straight. We know it's all chemicals in there causing all that gobbly (whatever that means!) feeling. Why not find a fellow freethinker partner in the first place? Then there wouldnt be problems. InkedNerd is one of them sweetest freethinkers on NL. So are a couple others. Yes, there are Nigerian girls who are freethinkers!

sauer: guy,
I understand your predicament cos I've been there. Am agnostic, but more atheist than agnostic. I've had a lot of girls refuse to associate with me based on my beliefs. Once they know what my stand is regarding all the nonsense called christianity, I could almost immediately feel their reluctance about going all the way. That was back then though.

Subsequently, I learned to take a better approach to handling all of this. At work, in relationships, I just refuse to mention what my beliefs are except it's absolutely critical to do so. I used to leave rooms or situations where someone was preaching some noisy word of god. Now, though, I'd stay and just go about my own business.

Methinks, your mistake is revealing your religious stance to her in the first place. I guess she's scared, cos she'd consider a fellow religious person more predictable. That's what it's about, bro. One minute, and anything you do wrong can be easily tied to your not believing in god. However, you could be a freethinker and she'd never know. You'd be nice to her and be everything. The day she finally does know, your relationship would have bonded so tightly that it won't be based one bit on religion or any other external factors.

At this stage, the egg is broken. You might as well do away with her. I don't know. Perhaps you love her too much to do that. But what's a freethinker getting so involved with love for, anywyz? Try keep your head straight. We know it's all chemicals in there causing all that gobbly (whatever that means!) feeling. Why not find a fellow freethinker partner in the first place? Then there wouldnt be problems. InkedNerd is one of them sweetest freethinkers on NL. So are a couple others. Yes, there are Nigerian girls who are freethinkers!

mann, I'm short of words mann, u just hit the nail on the head ma broda, thanks a lot for the advice, I used to keep my views to myself but sometimes I just can't help it when one ignorant pastor comes around and starts spewing trash, it gets to me, but I get what u're trying to say and I appreciate mann, God bless, (ooops) lol,

Bololo please dnt think you can bring a frëethinker to the house. Better go and repent.

Tenderly1: Bololo please dnt think you can bring a frëethinker to the house. Better go and repent.

hahahaha, sup blood, I miSs u guys,