djeezy: He who loves less controls the relationship and it's usually the party who sets the ultimatum. Well for me if my girlfriend sets an ultimatum for me and I decipher it's for the best interest of the relationship, I'll accept it in good faith but if it's for her own selfish interest, it's never gonna work.

mirob: What of if the guy gives you an ultimatum not †̥☹ touch his phone or go through it, how will you feel in that relationship?

mirob: What of if the guy gives you an ultimatum not †̥☹ touch his phone or go through it, how will you feel in that relationship?

Bontee: As a last resort sometimes in resolving issues, they are needed if one partner is becoming too unreasonable. When given an ultimatum then you act on it based on the fact that it is reasonable or it is not and this will determine how you are going to react to it. You can either let it slide and dame the consequence or make your partner see reasons to why the ultimatum is not needed to resolve the relationship.

mirob: What of if the guy gives you an ultimatum not †̥☹ touch his phone or go through it, how will you feel in that relationship?

Is it ur phone

Or are u a thief

mirob: What of if the guy gives you an ultimatum not †̥☹ touch his phone or go through it, how will you feel in that relationship?

byvan: I hate ultimatum!!Giving me an ultimatum is like intentionally luring me to defile you,because I ll.I can't give an ultimatum,it mares relationships.Once you give me an ultimatum,my Oga at the top will make me do another.

vivian chinaza: Good day all.

I just want us to talk about ultimatums in relationships and how we handle them.
Ultimatum is a final, uncompromising demand or set of terms issued by a party to a dispute, the rejection of which may lead to a severance of relationship. This is a strategy used by many of us which can make or mar our relationships.
Often times when we are given ultimatum, it paralyses us, and we fight back for the wrong reasons. Maybe to show that we are in control, to prove that we are not weak, etc.
Personally I believe ultimatum mars a relationship more than it makes it. So many relationship break ups can be attributed to ultimatums, either the we you give or the ones we receive.
I also personally think that if we understand how to handle ultimatums by sharing ideas, it will help us a great deal in our various relationships. This relationship is not restricted to that of man/woman only, no, it cuts across every aspect.

So ladies and gentlemen, how do you handle ultimatums in your various relationships? Do you give ultimatums? If yes, why? Do you think it is the best strategy? Do you fight back when given ultimatum? What impact does fighting/rejecting ultimatum have on your relationship?

Let's live and learn.

byvan:


Keep searching,you haven't found your man yet.I personally will know that much won't come out of the relationship.

Donalð Genes: Lastly, its one of the tricks we quys use in tryinq to find any available fault to break up
And if the qirl is one that too dey poke nose in everythinq and ofcourse its irritates us......

Truckpusher: If you're into a serious relationship that is tending towards marriage and particular bad habit keeps manifesting over and again ,and there is no indication that you're partner wants to make a drastic change now.In that case sometimes ultimatum can be given by both parties to clearly define what and why this would never be tolerated......fortunately only alpha males and secure ladies has the heart to give ultimatums....ultimatums wasn't meant for every Tom,Dick and Harry...

Donalð Genes: Where is vivian oooooooooooooooooo?

Donalð Genes:
Hahahhahahaahaaha so this yearn"my oqa@ the top"still dey savour you for mouth?

All the same,back to the topic,I don't subscribe to the idea of an ultimatum once you are in qood relationship but much to my consternation, I know some of my hoodies who do this shit to their shawtties and lo and behold,the qirls will still succumb to my friends ultimatum in other not to qet kicked out, albeit,it solely depends on the individual involve,some chiqs brood no nonsense if a quy qive "em ultimatums,b'cos they have their assistant boyfrds by the corner....though I once use to do it but now am qrown up,I can't do such,its totally irrelevant,

Those are guys that knows what's up.

Idowuogbo: Ulti wot? D tot of it alone dey boil my blood. Wtf?

vivian chinaza:

Present sir!

Donalð Genes:
Yours is always hot ever since I born you my pikin

Rooneyboy:

Those are guys that knows what's up.

Idowuogbo:

Donalð Genes:
What are we havinq for dinner dear
Am famished?

vivian chinaza:

I really hate to give or be given ultimatums. It turns my blood to blue.

But I have given ultimatum once in my relationship. Omg, my bf (now ex) was going to kill his brother. Family issues and I got caught up in the middle. I begged and begged and begged but his rage was getting the best of him. Menh, I was scared, but I also knew I was his weakness. So I was like "if you touch him, this relationship is over." He was jolted back to his senses. I still couldn't figure out what changed his mind; the ultimatum or the fact that he have could seriously injured his brother and maybe go to jail cos I hadn't seen him in so much rage before.

vivian chinaza:

Ok, this thread is on FP, you could get banned for derailing. Just telling you from experience.

vivian chinaza:

Ok. Thank you.

Permit me to rephrase, may I?
What is someone, let's say your babe tells you "Joe, if you don't do this, its over between us." How would you react to that?