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Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by emmynisaj: 11:09pm On May 05, 2013 |
In A ¤confused State¤ Plz I Need Advice When i was little,i was a victim of sexual harrasment by both my uncle and my cousin..dis made me hate men so much and i avoided relationships for a lng time..Now i fell in love with a very special man and i want be with him forever..but weneva we about to get intimate,scary images from d past just invade my thoughts which makes so scared of doing anything with.,most tyms he understands,but I feel bad 4 havin 2 do dis to him..i love him so so much..pls i need ur advice..thanks!!! |
Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by PrinceNN(m): 11:47pm On May 05, 2013 |
go for some therapy... or google some info on how to overcome such thought..i hav a friend who went throught such, and worse...but she came thru...now she bleeps like hell sorry for your pains tho 10 Likes |
Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by its22078: 12:28am On May 06, 2013 |
this must be so hard for you. i reall sympathise. Pray about it and give it to God. You're gonna have to let go of it little by little and its not going to be easy. Part of letting go is talking about it - to parents, family, friends and even confronting the uncle and cousin. Also get some therapy or medical help of some sort. You cant let the evil people who did this to you continue ruining your life till now. They cant win. Good luck. 3 Likes |
Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by Caracta(f): 12:30am On May 06, 2013 |
I couldn't have said it better. Very good comments already. Need i say more? 2 Likes |
Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by emmynisaj: 1:19am On May 06, 2013 |
Thanks alot people i really appreciate ur help Thanks alot people i really appreciate ur help |
Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by Caracta(f): 1:31am On May 06, 2013 |
its22078: this must be so hard for you. i reall sympathise. Pray about it and give it to God. You're gonna have to let go of it little by little and its not going to be easy. Part of letting go is talking about it - to parents, family, friends and even confronting the uncle and cousin. Also get some therapy or medical help of some sort. You cant let the evil people who did this to you continue ruining your life till now. They cant win. Good luck.OP, read this comment over and over again. I relate with your state, and i understand (to an extent). It's not going to be easy but i need you to be determined and never give up. Let the tears flow. Talk about it. Those times you hold your pillow tight and cry your eyes out...it's all going to be history soon. Have fun and do things that'll make you laugh. I pray God will strengthen you and hold your hands as you come out of your shell. 3 Likes |
Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by clemz85(m): 2:14am On May 06, 2013 |
maka why not! My ppl said, "once bitten by snake runs before a lizard head" then again, "if there's no solution for something, there's something for solution" 1 Like |
Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by Mynd44: 4:53am On May 06, 2013 |
See a shrink |
Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by emmynisaj: 10:48am On May 06, 2013 |
Caracta:Thanks alot.i wil do my best |
Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by emmynisaj: 10:51am On May 06, 2013 |
Mynd_44: See a shrink Watz a 'shrink'?? :/ 1 Like |
Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by ezemoses(m): 12:51pm On May 06, 2013 |
yes i also think you should see a pyschologist ( thats a shrink) 1 Like |
Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by Freiburger(m): 1:06pm On May 06, 2013 |
I think a therapy will help in a situation like this. |
Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by DICKtator: 1:07pm On May 06, 2013 |
pHUCCCK!!!! |
Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by GraceBestowed(f): 1:10pm On May 06, 2013 |
I'm sorry that you're going through what you're going through. What you need is patience, personally, and from whoever it is that is directly affected. Don't expect to snap out of it, trust your instincts, and take it one step at a time (in trying to let go of the past). As for those people who abused you, their reward is coming! Please don't listen to anyone that tries to downplay your situation! 3 Likes |
Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by FrontPageLawyer(m): 1:11pm On May 06, 2013 |
emmy nisaj: We should always consult google. Btw, thought it was supposed to be done after marriage. Except you trying to bend rules. Lol Sorry for your troubles girl. You need help from a psychologist 3 Likes |
Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by Freiburger(m): 1:14pm On May 06, 2013 |
FrontPageLawyer:What if after marriage and the same problem persists? If you 're in her husband's shoes, will that be funny to you? 1 Like |
Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by heykims(m): 1:15pm On May 06, 2013 |
hmm.......a portion of Mazi Omenuko's PPA- place of promiscuous assignment- might help. But make sure u dont read dt thing too much o 4 u may go so gaga dt u might even scare off other other male mammals... Premarital sex no good o!!! 5 Likes |
Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by Foreblary: 1:15pm On May 06, 2013 |
emmy nisaj: In A ¤confused State¤ Plz I Need Advicejust follow your heart and dont ever decieved your self again |
Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by MajeOfficial: 1:17pm On May 06, 2013 |
emmy nisaj: In A ¤confused State¤ Plz I Need Advice What you're experiencing is sadly normal. If there is adequate therapy in your area i would go, and if it's beyond your area it's worth the journey because this issue can hold back your life. I'm sorry that you suffered through what you've suffered. You're traumatized and haven't had the ability and help to deal with it in the proper way and until then the trauma will remain. The most important thing to do in my opinion is to remember rape isn't sex. what your boyfriend is trying to do with you may look similar to what your uncles/cousin did, but rape is an attack...it's more similar to beating someone mercilessly than having sex. Sex is a natural, normal and intimate thing you share with someone you love. It's very fun and innocent, it has nothing to do with what happened to you before. Your boyfriend is not your uncle, and you're with someone you cherish and KNOW will never do something like that to you because he loves you as well. I have to start realizing the differences between your uncle/cousin and boyfriend and most importantly the differences between rape and sex. Plantains and Bananas are said to look similar but are not the same at all (no pun intended) ps: Be PATIENT with yourself! it's going to take you a long time to come to terms with your past, and it's going to be a long and grueling battle but if you're willing to take it on no matter how difficult it is, you will prevail! 9 Likes |
Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by nbright: 1:18pm On May 06, 2013 |
₱®ÌИСΞ:That's scary. |
Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by Freiburger(m): 1:20pm On May 06, 2013 |
nbright: That's scary.Imagine that Bleep like hell |
Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by livingstoneony(m): 1:21pm On May 06, 2013 |
emmy nisaj:a shrink is a device used to squezze things. 1 Like |
Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by GraceBestowed(f): 1:22pm On May 06, 2013 |
^^^ LoooooL ^^^ |
Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by alphaconde(m): 1:22pm On May 06, 2013 |
But I hv been told by someone that she has become addicted to sex cus of this same experience. Can someone separate the difference or substantiate any? |
Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by denitro(m): 1:24pm On May 06, 2013 |
Your past is your past and should be in the past. You dwelling on your past clearly shows you are not willing to live in the present. (Remember, today is a gift that is why it is called - the present). My advice: Forget about your past - and I mean it seriously. Learn to trust the one you love so that you will not end up driving him away. Men process information differently from women. I have been with friends who had girlfriends in similar position. Some saw her as someone will be very unstable as a future wife while other guys never knew their girlfriends had such troubling past until later when she revealed it, but she never showed it or even gave a hint. (That is clearly a woman who is focused and willing to live in the present and face the future) Sorry I might sound harsh but its your life n future n happiness that we are talking about, Don't ruin it. 1 Like |
Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by FrontPageLawyer(m): 1:24pm On May 06, 2013 |
Freiburger: Where did i err? Just saying what a preacher would have told her, though m not a fan of sex before marriage |
Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by collins123(m): 1:26pm On May 06, 2013 |
Do not be deceived: neither fornicators...will inherit the kingdom of God 1 Corinthians 6:9 2 Likes |
Re: Sexually Harassed As A Child & Scared Of Sex by alienware(m): 1:26pm On May 06, 2013 |
U need therapy. |
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