LoveAmaka88:
Don't take her back. You'll never feel comfortable. She's already proven that she'll cheat, expose you to disease, and lie point blank to your face. You'll wonder if your children are yours. Why not take time to build something with someone who is serious? She's obviously not ready for a real relationship.

khloedixie: This is vry serious and I feel your pains, my question is these, what makes you think dat she won't cheat on you again with these guy since its d 2nd time she's doing it bt if you really love her, give her another chance and take it †̥☺ God. There is this prayer I normally pray if am having problem with my guy, I tell God dat if we r meant 4 each other, he should make our love grow stronger bt if we r not he should cause a problem 4 us dat we won't cm bck again, few of m frnds tried it n it worked 4 dem, I tink u should try it. I wish u all d best!

slightlyMad: I always believe women cheat as much as men do but i dont want to imagine my woman doing this.
I really dont go through my woman's phone but she once made a comment that got me suspecting a particular guy on her BBM.
as nature would have it, she was dead asleep while i was awake around 2am coding away.

her phone beeped from a ping. i ignored it, 2 minutes, it beeped again so i looked through to see if it was an emergency cos it was just too late for anyone to be awake and making sure others dont sleep too.

Well, it turned out to be this dude she has always been talking about, she once said if she was broke, this dude will give him whatever he wants without even asking to touch her "big lie, i said to myself"

so i decided to follow up on what could be going on btw them.
she is smart to always clear her history but that did not stop me this very night.

i replied, "hello, you are still awake?"
so we kept talking and i kept him on for like 30 minutes on generic discussions.
at the point where i believe he would never doubt whom he is on to
i started the harmless intimate talks
"i miss you", he replied "really?"
i said "yes nau", my girl uses "nau" after "yes" every time we chat so i used that to make him feel more comfi.
so i asked "when are we seeing"

he replied "we will talk abt that tomorrow"

my conclusion from that sentence is that he wants them to talk about "when to see", when they meet tomorrow.
meaning he interpreted "when are we seeing" as "when are we having sex"

so i took the giant leap from there by saying
"how i wish you were beside me here"
he replied, "but you always act like you dont enjoy it every time we have it"
then i said, "thats because you dont try to turn me on very well",
i stopped chatting with the psycho when he started asking some irritatingly dumb questions like "do you think my thing is always to weak for you?"

bottom line my babe woke up, asked me what i was doing with her fone.
I asked her "what is btw you and this guy"
she said nothing, ok, have u at anytime in the past had sex with him? she said no

so i showed her that chat conversation, then she started begging
crying like a baby with tears everywhere claiming guy was her ex "another big lie".
3am till like 11am, she wont stop crying and pleading to give her another chance.
she deleted the guy's contact in a bid to convince me

Well i did forgive her but i got back the key to my house from her.
my intention is to give her another chance and test her a month later.
well, 2 weeks later, she goofed.

we were arguing over something else when i noticed she was reaching for her phone and subconsciously i was pulling away from her, suddenly i became curious and wanted to go through her phone, but this time with her consent.
she claimed she needed to make a very important call, so i let her have it, only for her to dial her mum and she really wasn't passing across any important info other that the usual expected greetings, so i waited for her to conclude the call, we started the war of "let me see, no you cant see"

i really dont know what she was hiding so i decided to play a smart one, i acted like "whatever" and walked away
i left her to navigate to where ever she intends to navigate to on her fone for like 10 second, only to run back at her and dragging her phone from her, though she clamped it in her hands very hard, i managed to retrieve it
and behold on the screen
i saw "are you sure you want to delete this contact"
i clicked cancel, and it was the same old guy she cheated on me with.

she pleaded she wanted to get something back from him, thats why she added him back
Inside me, i am through with her.
but here is the twist, there are some attributes she has that i must confess is priceless.
the connection we both have is so strong that we look forward to seeing each other even when we part for 1 day, she is my kind of girl and very intelligent.
i have this very strict list of personal requirements my woman must have, up to 7 in the list
she has all 7, come add cheating to am.
i am an ardent believer that 90% women cheat but that she got caught does not mean whoever am gonna end up with wont be worse or even lack some of these attributes i desire.

Do you think i should forget her and i will find someone who wont cheat?
my time is ticking very fast to start trying this and that girl.
we have talked about it and she say it wont happen again

seeing that post on the homepage about the married dude whose wife was cheating got me thinking again
PLEASE DONT MAKE A JOKE OUT OF THIS.
Thanks.

Dyt:

Wat if u find out its ur dad

berem: are you better than her Miss Innocentie? mtscheeew!
Can the op also prove to us that he has never cheated too? When a man cheats, it's a man's world. When a woman cheats she gets crucified. Abeg marry her sharp sharp and stop complaining joor!

berem: are you better than her Miss Innocentie? mtscheeew!
Can the op also prove to us that he has never cheated too? When a man cheats, it's a man's world. When a woman cheats she gets crucified. Abeg marry her sharp sharp and stop complaining joor!

@Berem, put this guy in ur dear brothers' shoes, lets see whether u'll advice him to marry such a lady. "Do unto others as u would want them do unto u!"

head_to_to: Put pepper into her yummy area.

AmBeautiful: I think you should let that lady be.
But it would also be a good idea to find out why she is cheating ? Probably it could be you lack something the other guy can give her?
Anyways staying with a cheat and eventually marrying one,can cause issues later on.
Prevention is better than cure!

MRbrownJAY: @OP

- playing private detective on your partner, while not knowing what to do when you find incriminating evidence of foul play, was your MISTAKE #1

- while confronting her she told you another lie to cover her deceitful behavior. that should have shown you what kind of ¤$£@%?)* (insert proper insult) that this woman is. not acting on that clue was your MISTAKE #2

- staying with someone because of some priceless attributes that they possess, while disregarding the equally awful and very negative "qualities" that she possess, was your MISTAKE #3

- whether your next gf will possess the right attributes or not IS IRRELEVANT to the fact that this particular woman is NOT RIGHT FOR YOU. the fact that your judgment is very clouded in this subject, is your MISTAKE #4

- talking about time ticking, and not wanting to try this and that girl,shows us that you are desperate and not thinking with your head right now. if you want to be with someone at all cost then by all means stay with this "obviously foul and wrong" girl, but that would ultimately be the reason for your MISTAKE #5

- forgiving someone who does NOT deserve forgiveness (or who does not really regret their act) was your FINAL MISTAKE

slightlyMad: hmm. Thanks all for your contribution.
I have no problem letting go, i have dated up to 6 girls so far, her inclusive and i can tell you that i have solid evidence of cheating with each one of them.

Moreover the ease with which i am able to woo any girl i meet and have them come my place if i want, is the reason i believe you cant find a girl out there who wont cheat on you. cos am sure all these girls are in one relationship or the other

Right now, i am going through serious seductions with 2 of my very close friend's women. one married, one single
i have been able to overcome both so far by keeping my distance.

and someone pointed if i am lacking something. Sexually? No.
but am just not the calling type.

Dyt: Yen yen yen yen
Leave her
She's dis
She's dat
Those ones tellin u dat, I cld bet there so called babes/wives/gfs are chronic cheats and till date, dey still lickin there feet

Do u intend to be a chronic cheater when u grow up?

SUNNY45: @Chlowi...Nice composition, but am sure u know guys have groomed so many girls and once they get a pinch of exposure, they bcome Boko Haram.

dayokanu:
How do you want him to prove to you that he hasnt cheated on her?

By showing you his diccckkk or what?

pavorikoko:

I refuse to concur to the fact that all women cheat naa!
Goodluck!

vanstanzy:

@Berem, put this guy in ur dear brothers' shoes, lets see whether u'll advice him to marry such a lady. "Do unto others as u would want them do unto u!"

Sanboy25:
@OP Do not dump her, pray that the Lord would open her eyes for her to see how great of a man you are.
Give her another chance, if she fails then leave her.
You will not find another good woman easily.
Seek help from your pastor, fast and pray.
Do not forget God is all-powerful.