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Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 3:29pm On May 15, 2013 |
baby_123:baby, There r certain ways you advise some certain people who are under certain condition. This lady is in her 20s. She is a single mom. She is under pressure becos she wants to fulfill her career and doesnt knwo how to resolve the issue of her son. Her mum isnt ready to takkia of dat boy while she is away. You shld know she is not happy and so she will snap at anyone dat tries to abuse her or something. If a younger lady in dis situation comes to you for advice, how will you go about it? |
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by teemilo: 3:42pm On May 15, 2013 |
I really can't pick on all of the above post so I will just try to address the issues I feel have been raised repeatedly. The first will be:why can't I travel with my son? My son is young&yet to start school, to the best of my knowledge free public education starts at age 5&thereabout, that means if travel I will have to pay heavily for private preschool+childcare afterwards if I decide to work. If I persuade my bf to sponsor us both, I fear for what will happen if the relationship hits the rocks&he stops sending money. If I am by myself if something like that happens it will be a lot easier to cope if all I have to worry about is myself. So the way I see it my only real options are stay in Nigeria or travel without my son. 2) Why am I considering sending my son back to his grandparents after the last time. The last time he was there, he was younger&was not really eating solids properly.I guess they tried to wean him forcefully. You know how old people think every child should be content eating amala and ewedu everyday... Anyway, I think that explains( but does not excuse tho) how skinny he looked when he came back. If I ever intend to leave him there&travel,i will definitely stock their house with his favorite foods that would last at least 3mnths, I will also make sure my younger ones visit at least once a month with provisions&to check how he is doing. If travel next year, he will be already four, it will be easier for them to care for a four year old boy than a two year old baby... And I definitely do not think they went out of their way to maltreat him. They threw him a first year birthday party (even though the date had since passed) he came home with several toys that he got as gifts. Infact my real fear is that they won't give him back to me when I get back into the country. I am yoruba&yoruba families don't joke with their first sons. |
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by baby124: 3:44pm On May 15, 2013 |
nikkykay: Advice to someone that has an answer for everything? At the same time lacks the ability to think critically? A PhD is 5yrs in the US, and 3years in UK. What if she doesn't get the fellowship? So many things for the fake OP to think about. Was it not here that someone came and was crying her sponsor stopped paying her fees abroad? You really have time to give advice to story tellers and listen to outrageous stories. Someone that has made up her mind but only looking for validation online. SMH. |
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 3:49pm On May 15, 2013 |
teemilo: I really can't pick on all of the above post so I will just try to address the issues I feel have been raised repeatedly. baby_123:Sorry with wot i read up dre i can see she has made up her mind alrdy. There is no point. Wish u all d best OP |
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by teemilo: 3:53pm On May 15, 2013 |
baby_123: On this thread alone you have called my bf a little sh*t, you have told me I have no bussiness dreaming dreams, you have said I am unintelligent &immature&shouldnt have a child, now u call me a lunatic, YET U ARE AMAZED that I call u aggressive? I have so many words for you but I wasn't raised to insult my elders. Please keep to your words and stay out of this thread |
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 3:56pm On May 15, 2013 |
teemilo: I really can't pick on all of the above post so I will just try to address the issues I feel have been raised repeatedly. Oooookaaaaaaaaaay . . . you want us to help you pick out the best place to buy his 'favorite' food so you can stock them for 3 months abi You should have said nau, and we were just blowing big big grammar since . . . Abeg who can suggest a nice supermarket in Lagos for her. Me I dey my village so I no know . . . |
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by AjanleKoko: 4:10pm On May 15, 2013 |
teemilo: I am a mom to a three year old boy from a previous relationship that ended because it was abusive. Whatever dreams you have must include your son, and doesn't have to include your boyfriend. Frankly speaking. If he won't budge, find another boyfriend who doesn't want your son out of the picture. Maybe find another way to go to UK/US/Canada for your Masters and PhD thingybob even |
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by teemilo: 4:10pm On May 15, 2013 |
nikkykay: i have already stated many posts ago that i have decided to pursue a Nigerian Masters. i was only explaining the train of thought that led me to even consider giving up custody, thanks alot for your posts on this thread. |
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by Pataki: 4:16pm On May 15, 2013 |
Ujujoan: OLODO (Dunce), I will keep spanking your head! |
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by Pataki: 4:18pm On May 15, 2013 |
teemilo: Oh oh! All the best sha. |
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 4:25pm On May 15, 2013 |
Pataki: @ Ile shey you are seeing him now oh . . me I dey on my own and he came to look for my trouble! Okpo! |
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 4:26pm On May 15, 2013 |
teemilo: Please don't make your decison based on what we say . . . all in all, you know what is best for you and your child. Good luck and please ignore that old bush meat (pataki)! |
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 4:26pm On May 15, 2013 |
Ujujoan: Lol! Pataki: Take your lovefest to another thread jor! |
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 4:29pm On May 15, 2013 |
Ujujoan: Don't mind him Uju! It's love!! |
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 4:32pm On May 15, 2013 |
ileobatojo: Pukes . . . my time don expire for this thread. @ Pataki I'm waiting for you in another thread . . . |
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by biolabee(m): 4:36pm On May 15, 2013 |
teemilo: I really can't pick on all of the above post so I will just try to address the issues I feel have been raised repeatedly. Ok that clears the seeming malnourishment however what is ur bf medium term plan for u and ur son Say you go gfor the Masters and get a Fellowship for a PH D what next? where is marriage? where is your son in all this? Is he coming back into the loop after the 1 year |
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 4:40pm On May 15, 2013 |
teemilo:Ok then all d best. Dnt worry foreign certificate can still show later 1 Like |
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by Pataki: 4:40pm On May 15, 2013 |
Ujujoan: Ujujoan: |
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by Pataki: 4:45pm On May 15, 2013 |
biolabee: Man, wetin be your own?! This is why you allow most of the ladies here to be on your case! You are the one who made a comment that most of the posters here are either single or married so they cannot give any input to the OP. Are you then well vast enough to give her a solution? Keep asking questions that does not even any inkling to the topic nor would it bring the thread to a close. She has already concluded the thread, so leave it be! 2 Likes |
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by Pataki: 4:48pm On May 15, 2013 |
ileobatojo: Lovefest ke? Joor oh! Mi o ni fe fi ata gigun shey atike! 1 Like |
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 4:54pm On May 15, 2013 |
Pataki:But pataki ds are important questions na |
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by biolabee(m): 4:55pm On May 15, 2013 |
Pataki: Peace... |
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 4:58pm On May 15, 2013 |
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Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by Pataki: 5:01pm On May 15, 2013 |
nikkykay: Nikkykay, I don't think they are. What if she has no plans for marriage with him? Why should we be bothered to know what her plans after study? She already said the thread was created to highlight her train of thoughts towards giving the custody of her son. Why should I want to be bothered about what plans she has for marriage, and what not.....just my opinion though. 1 Like |
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 5:09pm On May 15, 2013 |
Pataki:But you knw from dey way she said d guy is taking d issue of the boy's custodian, it warrants ds questions? If i can still remember, she said somewhere dat dey hav future 2gether or something. |
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by Pataki: 5:12pm On May 15, 2013 |
biolabee:Claiming all macho? Dude what are you sniffing? Harass people online? Are you on some cheap drugs or something? You are rather best ignored. 2 Likes |
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by biolabee(m): 5:16pm On May 15, 2013 |
Pataki: xxxxx I have no beef against you ish 1 Like |
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by Pataki: 5:17pm On May 15, 2013 |
nikkykay: I still believe it does not warrant the question. She raised concerns about her son simply because her boyfriend who was going to be her sponsor for her Masters abroad wanted her to leave the son elsewhere which she was not too happy to do. Once her Masters is accomplished, she is at liberty to take whatever decision she so chooses thereafter. Anyways, I think this topic is dead now. |
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by Pataki: 5:22pm On May 15, 2013 |
biolabee:You are an adult who rants as a kid. On a forum, arguments are bound to occur. Exchanges of opinion (heated or mild) are bound to happen. In your distorted view, does that amount to attacking people up and down? Should we then say your first post here was an attack on earlier respondents; when you stated that they (the respondents), were either married or single hence they have no reasonable opinion to offer? 2 Likes |
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by biolabee(m): 5:29pm On May 15, 2013 |
Pataki: hey brah... did not want to do this but let me humor you .... this is my first post here below.. you have an issue and thus perception has coloured your interpretation of the post Where did i say others have nothing to say You claim to be the adult and yet u are now insulting me Is this how u run your domain - shouting everyone down Ok.. carry go... I expect arguments to occur and i welcome it as in that we all get to learn from each other But you oh you,, the important igi that knows everything .. kakaaki?? biolabee: Op please don't let anyone hassle you. |
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by Pataki: 5:38pm On May 15, 2013 |
biolabee: Yes I deliberately insulted you, because you threw the first insult at me, when you stated that I seem to be on heat.... Don't act dumb with me. I find your attitude quite tetchy. And actually this is your first post below: biolabee: See confusion wey dey this woman life because a man did not do the needful Are you having MPD? 2 Likes |
Re: My Boyfriend Wants Me To Give Up Custody Of My Little Boy, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 5:47pm On May 15, 2013 |
Give it a rest guys please. DONE. The lady's mind's already made up anyways, I've nothing else to say. Talking about expensive childcare abroad when you've never been there yet to find out, last time I checked , childcare is subsidized for students kids = Zero payment. Do what you like woman BUT I hope you experience same maltreatment that innocent boy ( terrible 3 that hardly sit in one spot and easily provoke adults) will go thru from those strange people he hardly trust in thousand folds ( call it a curse/ affliction I've said my piece) * This God sef na waya!* 1 Like |
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