Nuzo':


I took off bro.

However, I had one when I was in school. She threatened to leave me if I don't give her hot slaps and bites whenever we were making love. I was much younger then...so I had to explore. I don't need to tell you the level of internal explossion and vibration she displays anytime a very hot slap lands on her face.

I had to leave later tho'. It was becoming traumatic for me instead.

BABE!:
Not surprised. That country needs national rehab. When a foundation of a country, the family, is so screwed up, what do we expect from the country as a whole ?

I smiled when I heard the girl say "rat poison".

I've told my man from the start that if we ever get married and he's caught cheating and he dies the next day, I killed him. Love hard, hate hard! Cheats are disgusting beings, not to talk of wife beaters .......

Heck, I'm TeamMellie on abc's scandal!

stillwater:

If bride price is what is making nigerian men not to treat their women right, I'm all for getting rid of the tradition. Even though i believe it wouldn't stop domestic abuse or cheating. Take India for example. India women pay dowry to the man, and are still under oppression and subjugation by their men.

Respect is earned!!!! You are not entitled to it because you have a pe.nis.

ItsModella:
I know the fact on ground but I'll not accept it. The fact that it is a common occurence does not make it acceptable. Nobody should have his/her life threatened constantly because he/she is in a marriage.

maclatunji:

A factual woman. I am tired of women who pretend so much on Nairaland. The best way to uplift women is to admit there is a problem and that there is no set of wonder-women anywhere who are immune. That deceptive marketing of super independent "wonder-women" is leading to younger ladies entering miserable marriages faster than I can type- "Jack Robinson". The are so sure of their "special" status before marriage but when they enter they receive the shock of their lives!

I am only reacting to the reactions of some women here to the video.

Thank you.

ItsModella:
Maybe your mom would but I know for a fact that my mother wouldn't.

jennykadry:

Actually her response was my first reply to you.

ileobatojo: Personally I'm tired of all these nairaland men that like to pretend as if they are too manly to take nonsense from their women when we know they are chopping shyte and chopping it in mounds by the day. They now come here and pretend they will never tolerate haughtiness from their women when it's all a big lie. Abeg drop the pretense and accept the reality of the situation on your ground.

Gaggi: Signs of the times. Poverty and hunger makes people take BS. A man who feeds and clothes u will give u shyte no doubt about that. Instead of advocating divorce and women lib and all that nonsense, feminist should pull resources and form an NGO that will empower these women so they can have self worth and independence.

Telling women not to take nonsense frm men and all that crap won't work because the woman must eat. If she files for divorce and isn't doing anything tangible then she will have to depend on a man again who will see her as a liability. It's a chain reaction. Break d jinx and empower a woman financially.

maclatunji:

I get where you are coming from. Both sides need loads of patience for marriage to work. However, go and check again, no man worthy to be called by that appellation will continually take ish from a woman past a certain threshold. It does not matter how much he loves her or any other factor for that matter.

oluking:

Pele take am easy when e reach your turn u go endure...u Might even name one of your pikin ENDURANCE

armyofone: Don't you agree that they are helping Nigerian women/ladies to see the light and creating awareness?
there should be an overhaul in the NiN style of marriage/relationship.
Not asking for a perfect relationship, but something near perfection is not bad for our mothers/sisters.

ileobatojo:

Same goes for the woman. Every individual has a different threshold for tolerating shyte. Some have very low thresholds and for others it's very high.

ItsModella:
I agree with you but in a way, our society has misinterpreted religious teachings to justify their flawed mentality. You hear a lot of people saying "it's in the Bible or the Bible is against it". Who told them that?

maclatunji:

Like I did not expect you to reply with this. A woman should be a lot more wiser, subtle and refined. Women who "rule" the world have mastered the art of influencing. Men tend to coerce, I am thinking ala Genghis Khan here.

A woman should not take that up.

Flygeriansteve: The shows that the gender equality advocates and feminism crusaders have so much work cut out for them. The ubiquitous internet blowhards who come on here are just an infinitesimal proportion of the largely ignorant and naive women who see cheating and domestic violence as perfectly normal!

As much as Im not an enthusiast of the fiery extremist type feminism, I find this responses shocking...

There needs to be a paradigm shift, let people go back to the basics- the man should be the responsible man,the woman should be the humble and submissive wife. That way, wrong behaviour can be easily identified and corrected not the role confusion and conflict that is rampant these days.

It really starts from when you are single. Single life is the foundation of your marriage not some unrelated relic of your past

jennykadry: rat poison kwa? Ota pia pia

Nigerians living in nigeria still have a long way to go. Look at that eejit willing to stay in an abusive marriage if her man is taking care of her.

dayokanu:



As long as some women are lazy and still see marriage as a meal ticket, these abuse wont stop anytime soon

jidegirl12:

Who's gonna make that happen today?? humbleness and submissiveness has been befouled to ridicule level , you dare not utter that in midst of their circle and you'd be called gullible and illiterate.



You'd think ?? Shut the front door!



And Oh it's not limited to Nigerians only

ileobatojo:

Yeah, a wise and refined woman will not blindly tolerate repeated physical abuse or blatant, unrepentant, disrespectful cheating on the part of her husband. That is the subject of this video.

Nashville:

Please do not blame religion but blame self esteem. This is how many Nigerian girls are brought up, they are told as long as the man provides, then he is fine. No religion preaches staying with a husband that perpetually cheats on you and beats you to death.

On the contrary if these ladies followed the teachings of the bible before getting married, they most likely will never be in those situation because they would never have married men that have no fear of God!