For sometime now have not goten a Job and my boyfriend seems to b disturbed more than I do, is not dat am sitting @ home doing nothing, am also fasting and praying for a job,and also learning some stuffs. He says all sort when he comes around. Funny enough is not that I ask him for money o. The latest he said was "Go get a job cos u are becoming a concern to me and u knw I cant stick with dat for too long".Our relationship is more than a year now abeg help me cos I dont want to loose him.

shilees:

For sometime now have not goten a Job and my boyfriend seems to b disturbed more than I do, is not that am sitting @ home doing nothing, am also fasting and praying for a job,and also learning some stuffs. He says all sort when he comes around. Funny enough is not that I ask him for money o. The latest he said was "Go get a job because u are becoming a concern to me and u knw I can't stick with that for too long".Our relationship is more than a year now abeg help me because I don't want to loose him.

@ shilees,dumb d LOSER and get urself a HERO cos i tink u deserve beta.

I dont av the heart to dump him besides I love him and believe He love me too but his attitude lately is something else. how can I keep him from leaving

@ poster
wake up and smell the coffee. . . . you dont have the heart to dump him abi?
once he dumps you,you'll come back here to cry

Dump his sawry ass, hes not worth your time, love or trouble.

right on girl

gurl he doesnt deserve u not at all. . . .please let him go abeg

Wait a sec. . .
She should dump him?
He does not deserve her?
He's a loser?

Jeebus! Are you serious? What if it was the other way around and it was the guy who didn't have a job, what then will you say? Dump him, He does not deserve her, He's a loser. . .abi? ^{*Shaking my head*}

@ Poster
Have you been actively looking for a Job. . .apart from the fasting and praying I mean? Well if you are, sit him down and explain what you've been doing, tell him that it's not like you love not having a job but it's just taking longer expected. You can even make him feel like your hero (^{Feed the Me Tarzan, You Jane mentality all guys have}  by saying he should also help you keep an eye out for a job and if he's still all "get a job now" THEN go ahead and dump him.

If you haven't started looking for a job. . . Start ASAP.

love love love, is suffering and smiling love?

you will be surprised at how some men treat their ladies who dont have a job.

take a brief survey and you will find out that what you guys are doing is not love

Translates into:

1) Your boyfriend's looking for a reason to leave you.

2) Your boyfriend want's to push YOU to dump HIM, so HE doesn't have to make the decision.

Siena:

Translates into:

1) Your boyfriend's looking for a reason to leave you.

2) Your boyfriend want's to push YOU to dump HIM, so HE doesn't have to make the decision.

Totally agree with u

like I said earlier am seriously hunting for job i buy guardian every week with the liitle money am able to squeeze out of ma sister and all i get wen he calls is "ow far anything yet"

shilees:

like I said earlier am seriously hunting for job i buy guardian every week with the liitle money am able to squeeze out of ma sister and all i get when he calls is "ow far anything yet"

Blimey. And this IS your boyfriend?

He's actually talking DOWN to you, treating you like a naughty child.

He's not acting like your boyfriend, more like a father to a recalcitrant child.

Are you sure you really want to be with this guy? From all you say, you're making the effort, and I believe you love him. But, do you honestly feel he loves you?

His attitude is a "put-you-down" one, and not healthy at all. He's demoralising you, whether he knows what he's doing, is another matter. I take it he was born with a job, and never had to look for one? You're running the risk of becoming down-trodden, and I feel you deserve better. Don't let him treat you like a doormat.

1) Your boyfriend's looking for a reason to leave you.

This is usually what it really translates to.

Maybe im insane but dont most bfs who have jobs help their women by helping them send out their resumes too or t5elling friends to help them be on the lookout instead of making bloody threats?

That aside I hope you arent just relying on "fasting and prayer"

I understand his concern but i just dont knw wat i'll do, apart from the job thing he's a cool guy, to dump him? i cant do dat he's a honest young guy but am begining to feel bad abt this job thing.we talk everyday and, i just cant let go

well im not exactly syaing dump him. . . .yet

Just make it clear to him that you dont appreciate his behavior and that it's not helping out the situation. Also suggest that he takes your resume to places for you so you two can both be looking for your behalf

Have you check the job sectiopn here on NL actually? Not sure how reliable they are but it wouldnt hurt to try.

@ poster if u aren't being a liability to him,den i see no reason why he should cry more dan d bereft.as hard as it is to understand:i think he is looking for a reason to let u slide out of his life.the ball is now in ur court.

shilees:

I understand his concern but i just don't knw what i'll do, apart from the job thing he's a cool guy, to dump him? i can't do that he's a honest young guy but am begining to feel bad about this job thing.we talk everyday and, i just can't let go

If you don't want to dump him then take a break from the relationship till you can get a J-O-B

Probably that will solve your problem.

1) He's stiil in your life
2) You get a job
3) You make him happy by not making him associating himself with a 'loser like you'

By the way he's not the only man in the world. . . . . . there are plenty honest men out there that won't think to be there for you when you need it.

Then again he may just be treating you this way because its the only way he knows to push you to look harder

@poster
i guess you are a marture lady, so u can differentiate btw right and wrong, i don't advice u dump him according to some precious posters, one in relationship its not a small thing don't allow "JOB" to make u lose ur wonderful relationship, u know wat kindly go through ur thread and pick out the good point from it . . . . .this is NL we care's abt you.

@ all the ladies

if it is easy 4 girl to dump a guy, then ladies will have to do the chyking, while guys do the listening.
anyway,
@ poster, reassure him that u will get a job and what he has to do for you is to encourage u (not blame u etc) and also pray for you. make it a heart -to-heart talk with him. i'm pretty sure him will understand u. have a nice day.

hi welli

Kai, this boi talk sense today?

@zstyle

na wa 4 u.

ztyle:

Kai, this boi talk sense today?

True talk, o jare

*boyfriend i love you weluwelu, i no go leave you weluwelu, even if you leave me weluwelu, i go still dey love you weluwelu*

*boyfriend i love you weluwelu, i no go leave you weluwelu, even if you leave me weluwelu, i go still dey love you weluwelu*

pirated. . .   

i took my time i went through ur responses and it appears only siskill managed to turn the table. we all know what ur responses would be if the tables were turned. i can only imagine what u guys would say if this guy was jobless.

by the way, im not in support of the guys' deeds

OMO IBO:

i took my time i went through your responses and it appears only siskill managed to turn the table. we all know what your responses would be if the tables were turned. i can only imagine what u guys would say if this guy was jobless.

by the way, im not in support of the guys' deeds

@omo ibo, since u r nt in support,y dn't u mk ur point rather dan running around d topic.

chisimdi:

@omo ibo, since you're nt in support,y dn't u mk your point rather dan running around d topic.

my points made already. u responded to my point

@ Poster.I believe u just finished your service.and if that is so,u'vnt stayed for this job hunting for long.therefore any guy who cherishes you would only help you search for a job with you,buying the guardian himself,giving u the latest job advert in town and encouraging you to hold on too.I did not say he does not cherish you,but i feel this guy is looking for a reason to dump you.
I will advise you to monitor your friend's recent movements if you don't mind. Moreover,you have to let him know that God is the one that provides a job and not the other way round.
good luck and have faith in God

_{lol. . this reminds me of one guy who insisted that I should specialise in the area he thought was best for a woman, otherwise "he's not sure it will work out between us" y'all can figure out the rest of the story}

Anyway, I can understand where the guy is coming from. Some people hate to see others idle.

Try and find a job soon since he's "pissed" about your idleness and you don't want to loose him.Tell him to give you some time

Thats a new and interesting take,,, i like 

at the risk of sounding anti-religion,
fasting and praying wont get u a job,, u need to hit the pavement girl

hav u tried starting a small business venture?
how about offering your services for on the job training?

If he thinks u're not doing enough, then u probably aren't,
as to his breaking up with u? quit frankly any guy that cannot accept u for who you're, who issues ultimatums, isnt worth your tears,
don't bend over backwards for any man, they arent worth it.

get a job but get it for yourself, make yourself a better person and a guy who'll appreciate your individuality will come along

@ shilees,dumb d LOSER and get yourself a HERO because i think u deserve beta.

well i knw ways to dumb a guy if u r interested, no much on dumping though