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Re: We Need Marriage Counselors In Nigeria Please. No More P And E by Fhemmmy: 6:19pm On Jun 11, 2013 |
nikkykay: Thanks guys displaying maturity on ds thread Amen oh. |
Re: We Need Marriage Counselors In Nigeria Please. No More P And E by Fhemmmy: 6:20pm On Jun 11, 2013 |
jidegirl12: While i would copy her way of doing buz, i wont listen to her parental advice cos she aint one and neither would i listen to her approach on how to take care of my home . . . . Lol |
Re: We Need Marriage Counselors In Nigeria Please. No More P And E by tsmith(f): 6:20pm On Jun 11, 2013 |
damiso: [/b] damiso: [/b] , I see we are rather similar; navigating this westerner world with our cultural background, it a tough mix. But as an appendix to your post from way back 'Can a mother have it all', i'd say yes we can. It's only a matter of time ans striking the right balance. |
Re: We Need Marriage Counselors In Nigeria Please. No More P And E by bukatyne(f): 6:22pm On Jun 11, 2013 |
biolabee: good stuff guys... threads on NL can be devoid of rancour... Remember Jacob was a cheat? Reuben sleeping with his wife, his kids lying to him about Joseph are the prices he paid for his sins |
Re: We Need Marriage Counselors In Nigeria Please. No More P And E by Fhemmmy: 6:23pm On Jun 11, 2013 |
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Re: We Need Marriage Counselors In Nigeria Please. No More P And E by biolabee(m): 6:27pm On Jun 11, 2013 |
bukatyne: Then no one is perfect then except Jesu and Enoch.,.. The Bible me i dey read these guys were polygamous, drinkers, adulterers and rap.ists (of their half sister sef) |
Re: We Need Marriage Counselors In Nigeria Please. No More P And E by bukatyne(f): 6:30pm On Jun 11, 2013 |
biolabee: Read Matthew 5:48 |
Re: We Need Marriage Counselors In Nigeria Please. No More P And E by Fhemmmy: 6:31pm On Jun 11, 2013 |
biolabee: Thus God never look for the perfect ones, else, Jesus Himself would not have chosen a cocky (peter), thief (Judas) and unbeliever (Thomas) as disciples . . .Always willing to work with us, just the way we are |
Re: We Need Marriage Counselors In Nigeria Please. No More P And E by bukatyne(f): 6:32pm On Jun 11, 2013 |
nikkykay: Thanks guys displaying maturity on ds thread True, Amen |
Re: We Need Marriage Counselors In Nigeria Please. No More P And E by biolabee(m): 6:33pm On Jun 11, 2013 |
bukatyne: you for quote am na 48 Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect. may god help us |
Re: We Need Marriage Counselors In Nigeria Please. No More P And E by Fhemmmy: 6:37pm On Jun 11, 2013 |
biolabee: Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect. . . . But this verse here is not saying that you are perfect like your heavenly father, just saying, we should aspire to be better |
Re: We Need Marriage Counselors In Nigeria Please. No More P And E by biolabee(m): 6:41pm On Jun 11, 2013 |
Fhemmmy: I agree sir.. since the good master also said no one is good except one.. but i get her POV at least... |
Re: We Need Marriage Counselors In Nigeria Please. No More P And E by bukatyne(f): 6:43pm On Jun 11, 2013 |
Fhemmmy: The key word is aspire or work towards being better. Our imperfection is not an excuse to misdo! |
Re: We Need Marriage Counselors In Nigeria Please. No More P And E by Fhemmmy: 6:45pm On Jun 11, 2013 |
bukatyne: Wonderfully said . . . |
Re: We Need Marriage Counselors In Nigeria Please. No More P And E by Fhemmmy: 6:45pm On Jun 11, 2013 |
biolabee: True that . . . |
Re: We Need Marriage Counselors In Nigeria Please. No More P And E by Nobody: 6:47pm On Jun 11, 2013 |
Fhemmmy: Ofcourse you'll chose the biz idea first On a serious note, she never gave any parental advice, BUT she's surrounded by top experts in various fields ( Phil, Oz, Rabbi and so on) and she learns from them too, as per the WILL , I only used that to broaden kids Responsibility and accountability after parents training. Good discourse tho |
Re: We Need Marriage Counselors In Nigeria Please. No More P And E by Fhemmmy: 6:58pm On Jun 11, 2013 |
jidegirl12: Yes oh, i will take the business part first, cos i hope to get better in my business and all that , , , Lol, but when it comes to how to raise home and the rest, i will go to the manual of He that created it ALL . . |
Re: We Need Marriage Counselors In Nigeria Please. No More P And E by bellong: 8:35am On Jun 12, 2013 |
biolabee: good stuff guys... threads on NL can be devoid of rancour... My point was not specifically that good fathers always end up having good children. It was only to point out the weakness of David as per fatherhood. However, proportion of fathers who raised their children in the right way and their children turned out good are very high compared to the other. What I personally observed over the years is that parents most times wait for their children to start talking before being trained or corrected about any negative character. You hear things like, he is still too young to understand, he doesn't know what they are doing etc.... Starting early and being a good father outweighs not being one. If at the end they turn out bad, at least you have peace on your part. Jacob was a fraudster . The kids are already grown before he encountered divine transformation at bethel. We could also infer that because he hated Leah, he didn't pay attention to her children compared to Joseph and Benjamin from his beloved wife. Samuel did his best and died happy because he didn't die of regret from failure of fatherhood like his "mentor" Eli. |
Re: We Need Marriage Counselors In Nigeria Please. No More P And E by bukatyne(f): 8:51am On Jun 12, 2013 |
bellong: This is a beautiful piece Have a blessed day |
Re: We Need Marriage Counselors In Nigeria Please. No More P And E by biolabee(m): 10:28am On Jun 12, 2013 |
Hmmm..... No father will die 'happy' or fulfilled that he tried his best and he lost his child(ren) At least not ME Remember the shephard left 99 to get back the ONE As humans we will try but God blesses the efoorts because destiny stealers abound every where bellong: |
Re: We Need Marriage Counselors In Nigeria Please. No More P And E by bellong: 11:12am On Jun 12, 2013 |
biolabee: Hmmm..... I agree 1 Like |
Re: We Need Marriage Counselors In Nigeria Please. No More P And E by Fhemmmy: 3:39pm On Jun 12, 2013 |
biolabee: Hmmm..... Words of wisdom . . . 1 Like |
Re: We Need Marriage Counselors In Nigeria Please. No More P And E by biolabee(m): 3:58pm On Jun 12, 2013 |
Fhemmmy: Thanks sir |
Re: We Need Marriage Counselors In Nigeria Please. No More P And E by AyeeIdris(f): 10:45am On Jun 15, 2013 |
Thanks for all the comments. Just one observation. I read earlier that when someone wrote that unless the counselor has been married successfully for many years, he will not be willing to go to one. I beg to differ. It is like saying unless a doctor has delivered hundreds of babies, he cannot deliver mine. Counselors are specially trained. They don't need to have 20 years experience in marriage before they can give marital advice. All they need is the skill and experience from dealing with other couples in similar situations, not their private lives. My two cents 1 Like |
Re: We Need Marriage Counselors In Nigeria Please. No More P And E by Fhemmmy: 2:23am On Jun 16, 2013 |
Ayee Idris: Thanks for all the comments. Just one observation. I read earlier that when someone wrote that unless the counselor has been married successfully for many years, he will not be willing to go to one. I beg to differ. It is like saying unless a doctor has delivered hundreds of babies, he cannot deliver mine. Counselors are specially trained. They don't need to have 20 years experience in marriage before they can give marital advice. All they need is the skill and experience from dealing with other couples in similar situations, not their private lives. My two cents I see where you are coming from, but experience in book when it comes to psychology and medicine are not same . . . A counselor that is yet to marry has nothing to offer me than what she has read in a book, and again, most of the books are written for a different culture than ours . . . What will he/she tells me to do if i am facing a rough marriage? he/she is yet to experience one 1 Like |
Re: We Need Marriage Counselors In Nigeria Please. No More P And E by AyeeIdris(f): 11:39am On Jun 16, 2013 |
Fhemmmy: what if the counselor has successfully dealt with other couples with similar problems like yours? |
Re: We Need Marriage Counselors In Nigeria Please. No More P And E by Fhemmmy: 2:26pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
Ayee Idris: How would i measure the her successfully dealt with other couples with similar problems . . . |
Re: We Need Marriage Counselors In Nigeria Please. No More P And E by AyeeIdris(f): 7:58pm On Jun 20, 2013 |
Fhemmmy: She will have records, won't she? Will you measure the number of times your doctor has done an operation before you allow him do it on you? |
Re: We Need Marriage Counselors In Nigeria Please. No More P And E by tanidabi: 8:59pm On Jun 20, 2013 |
Marriage counselling is key,the prob is we are too religious to ask for help,I have three pple I confide in,one has been married for over 30yrs and d oda 2 for abt 10-15yrs,pastors also have marriage challenges,but I notice der's a lot of burden placed on women to make marriage work,I talk to marriage counsellors cos they are professionals and its der job nd dey make sense to me ,if our men listen to dem marriages will be better,when u need help talk to professional councellors not neceSsarily pastors |
Re: We Need Marriage Counselors In Nigeria Please. No More P And E by Fhemmmy: 2:46am On Jun 21, 2013 |
Ayee Idris: Ha ha ha . . . Just like you wont allow a doctor in training while in house fellowship to operate on YOU, likewise i wont allow someone with no experience to tell me what to do in my marriage . . . it is more than what is written on the page of some book. 1 Like |
Re: We Need Marriage Counselors In Nigeria Please. No More P And E by Nobody: 1:46pm On Jun 24, 2013 |
nikkykay: The issue is do our couples practice the kinda love dey practice in the western world?IMO western marriages are not better than that of Nigeria. In the case of infidelity, we have Nigerians that do forgive their wife as well. It is wrong for you to castigate Nigerian men while we have a lot of Western wolves. Things have evolved. If the westerns do put themselves down as you have just down they won't be improving. Just as @nikkykay said, there are western ladies who would never forgive their men found wanting for infielity. |
Re: We Need Marriage Counselors In Nigeria Please. No More P And E by intimatetalk: 4:39pm On Aug 29, 2013 |
Its high time Nigerians start talking to professional counselors , especially when it comes to the issue or relationship and marriage counseling. My few years experience as a professional relationship, sex & marriage counselor here in Nigeria shows that we still have a long way to go. Lot of hypocrisy and holier than thou attitude resulting to secret sins. www.intimatetalkwithtolu.com |
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