There's this lady I really cherish.

Now she tells me she loves me but she is not in love with me.

I have asked her to explain and she is not willing to do so. Am even more confused now

Abeg my fellow NLders, what does it mean to love someone and not be in love with that person. Abi she confuse?

both of u are confused.
if 2 confused ppl marry ,they will make a confused couple in a confused marriage producing confused children in a confused country.
smh for naija

LoL. She's confused. Since she doesnt have a reason...

How do we explain what she can't explain? Do we now read minds?

powertool: There's this lady I really cherish.

Now she tells me she loves me but she is not in love with me.

I have asked her to explain and she is not willing to do so. Am even more confused now

Abeg my fellow NLders, what does it mean to love someone and not be in love with that person. Abi she confuse?

that is hurting. Sorry hey . Sometimes the truth has a nasty way of hurting innocent people

Monicasque:


that is hurting. Sorry hey . Sometimes the truth has a nasty way of hurting innocent people

Someone tell me if this an example of an advice or taunt?

I'm not really big on commenting or replying on posts...but this question sort of gave me a reason to bend that rule...Now,my answer is not inspired by any similar experience of myself or anybody close to me,but rather what I would have meant if I were the one telling someone even though my answer may not really apply because I'm a guy not a girl,I'm hoping that at least it would give you some faint hint into what she means by "I love you" but not "in love" with you.

I love you means..."I like your person,your personality".."I like the things you stand for,your principles"..It's more like a brotherly-sisterly kinda thing..it's a warm,settling kind of feeling that has no romantic or sexual connotations what so ever.

Imagine telling your biological sister.."I love you"...now that would be more "appropriate" than telling her "Sis,I'm in love with you"

So in essence..being in love with someone has a higher romantic,sexual tone than "I love you"

But there are several other shades to those two statements,if I start breaking it down according to how I understand,the page might get too wordy and boring...One of the other shades could be...being in love with someone is a precursor to loving someone...When you're in love with someone,it's more like the dating/fiance-fiancee period...but then when you're are married..you would most likely express your love for your wife as "I love my wife"..not necessarily as "I'm in love with my wife"...So as I said,it could have different shades of meaning.

But bottom line...based on what she said,I think you should build more on your friendship with her rather than dating her.

Monicasque:


that is hurting. Sorry hey . Sometimes the truth has a nasty way of hurting innocent people

She's just not into him

I must confess,we ladies are not nice sometimes.
Boss, she means you're good as a brother and/or friend but anything beyond that is a NO-NO. All that grammar is so that you won't feel bad. MOVE ON!!!

it means she likes you too much to take the relationship further.