I’m happily married with two young kids ages 2 and 4. We stay in a 2-bedroom apartment and usually leave the connecting door ajar so that if the kids wake up during the night they may have access to our room to seek comfort,which is very frequent especially during these noisy thunder storms.

My problem started with the arrival of my mother-in-law, less than a week ago to spend 2 months. Of course, she sleeps with her grand kids in their room.
This doesn’t stop them from frequenting our room during the night, so the door is still left ajar. Much to my amazement, my wife has now told me that she will no longer allow us to copulate during the time her mother is with us. She said her mum scolded her and feels we are rude to engage in lovemaking knowing fully well that she is in the adjoining room.

My wife has always feared her mum so it is impossible for me to convince her that this is her house, not her mum’s. I don’t see myself going one week without sex, talk less of 2 months! Is it my fault that the bed creaks or that my wife has to make noise at her height of ecstasy?

I feel that my mother-in-law is being very intrusive and insensitive and I’m prepared to talk to her and ask her to leave if she insists on tormenting my wife, but I know that my wife won’t find it funny at all.

What should I do?

do u want the old woman 2 feel jealous

A product of Linda ikeji's blog. I'm gonna respond anyway. The man married the wife and not the mother and if the wife does not satisfy his intimate desires, she'll be the one to cry fowl when he starts getting same outside. I wonder the purpose of a door that cannot be locked. Lock the damn door, play a cool music that is louder than your wife's moaning during sex and enjoy.

djeezy: A product of Linda ikeji's blog. I'm gonna respond anyway. The man married the wife and not the mother and if the wife does not satisfy his intimate desires, she'll be the one to cry fowl when he starts getting same outside. I wonder the purpose of a door that cannot be locked. Lock the damn door, play a cool music that is louder than your wife's moaning during sex and enjoy.

he dosent lock d door cos of d kids

Seriously dude, the sound of love making like moaning and gasping is annoying to the ear of a third party.

Your wife is not scared of her mum, she just respects her.

mentorken05: he dosent lock d door cos of d kids

That's coz they get scared sometimes at night. Her mum sleeps in the kid's room, so they've got company.

xynerise: Seriously dude, the sound of love making like moaning and gasping is annoying to the ear of a third party.

Your wife is not scared of her mum, she just respects her.

WTF! So you want the poor man to stay without sex for two months? That's torture.

xynerise: Seriously dude, the sound of love making like moaning and gasping is annoying to the ear of a third party.

Your wife is not scared of her mum, she just respects her.

which kind of respect is dat?so she shuld go ahead and respect d mum and disrespect d man of d hauz?

mentorken05: which kind of respect is dat?so she shuld go ahead and respect d mum and disrespect d man of d hauz?

your wanna choose between ra.ping your wife or chasing her mum?

unless both can go to the staircase and do it

If the wife wanted to respect the mother, all that is needed is for the woman to maintain low key during the vibration,not making loud noise doesn't make it less enjoyment, you can still get same satisfactions.......enjoy ur sef booooh

Simply shut da fecking door abi your children come to your room every night everyday? Why can't their grandma take care of them some nights and leave you and your wife to flex?

I don't understand how you expect your MIL to be comfy listening to you and your wife make love, the fact that you are even comfy with someone else listening on you worries me and must your wife make noise? Abeg she should keep it low and allow the old woman some sleep, haba!

freecocoa: Simply shut da fecking door abi your children come to your room every night everyday? Why can't their grandma take care of them some nights and leave you and your wife to flex?

I don't understand how you expect your MIL to be comfy listening to you and your wife make love, the fact that you are even comfy with someone else listening on you worries me and must your wife make noise? Abeg she should keep it low and allow the old woman some sleep, haba!

am suprised dis is coming from a lady...my wife shuld kip it low?dereby denying herself and probably myself d ectasy she deserves?dats fake sex if u must know...she has d right to enjoy sex as so do i

Women that make noise during sex though. Stiffle the moan with kisses. Make slow, gentle slides. The harder you hit it, the harder she'd moan. Good luck with your marriage

mentorken05: I’m happily married with two young kids ages 2 and 4. We stay in a 2-bedroom apartment and usually leave the connecting door ajar so that if the kids wake up during the night they may have access to our room to seek comfort,which is very frequent especially during these noisy thunder storms.

My problem started with the arrival of my mother-in-law, less than a week ago to spend 2 months. Of course, she sleeps with her grand kids in their room.
This doesn’t stop them from frequenting our room during the night, so the door is still left ajar. Much to my amazement, my wife has now told me that she will no longer allow us to copulate during the time her mother is with us. She said her mum scolded her and feels we are rude to engage in lovemaking knowing fully well that she is in the adjoining room.

My wife has always feared her mum so it is impossible for me to convince her that this is her house, not her mum’s. I don’t see myself going one week without sex, talk less of 2 months! Is it my fault that the bed creaks or that my wife has to make noise at her height of ecstasy?

I feel that my mother-in-law is being very intrusive and insensitive and I’m prepared to talk to her and ask her to leave if she insists on tormenting my wife, but I know that my wife won’t find it funny at all.

What should I do?

Lol!

mentorken05: I don’t see myself going one week without sex, talk less of 2 months! Is it my fault that the bed creaks or that my wife has to make noise at her height of ecstasy?

I feel that my mother-in-law is being very intrusive and insensitive and I’m prepared to talk to her and ask her to leave if she insists on tormenting my wife, but I know that my wife won’t find it funny at all.

What should I do?

lmao.. you're very very funny! and again i think you're frustrated with those words of yours! kanji na Bassssssttarrd! well me thinks you and your wife should start visiting an HOTEL!! you have your s3x in an Hotel and leave your mother-in-law to take care of the kids! that would be my solution to your problem! it's only for a short while though.. cuz ur mother in-law would soon leave and you guyz can continue your EXPLODING s3x..

Some mothers-in-law and their wahala. You can never please some of them, no matter how much you tried..
OP, simply lock the door, your kids cant be that lonely now that your wife's mum is with them. She should at least make herself useful by keeping the kids comfortable while you and you wife do-the-do
If she still doesn't like it, she could go back to her own house. Bottom-line; she should not come and put sand-sand inside your marriage.

Put the bed on the floor so there won't be noise from da bed cracking nd lock the door nd put the music but not too loud and let ur wife try and reduce her moaning. At least I assume the flexing ain't every day so u ppl can manage to do it with door locked

You can't expect your wife to do it with the knowledge that her mother is listening to everything. Be a man and fix the situation.

Seun: You can't expect your wife to do it with the knowledge that her mother is listening to everything. Be a man and fix the situation.

Exactly!!!

Seun: You can't expect your wife to do it with the knowledge that her mother is listening to everything. Be a man and fix the situation.

There is no way he can fix the situation except he does it outside the house with the wife or with another woman

just play some cool music in the background
and reduce the noise making.
You said you have kids that are growing up you have to learn to reduce the noise making because of the future.
hope you understand

Wtf! Bro, you have to summon some courage and shut the goddam door,leave the kids with their grandma and enjoy your life. I dont buy the idea of taking your wife(as in someone u married and has kids for you) to a hotel,but like what someone said ealier, put the foam on the floor and play an old skul music while you enjoy ur s3x.

Seun: You can't expect your wife to do it with the knowledge that her mother is listening to everything. Be a man and fix the situation.

dat was exactly why I made it public...I nid ur opinions...if I could handle it,I wouldn't bring it here

Start shutting your door and let grandma handle the kids now that she's around or what else is she in your house for?

You guys should please apply some wisdom most especially the wife
_if the bed is creaking you guys can put the mattress on the ground
_if its because of the kids,u guys should find a suitable time that they will be asleep and do whatever you have to do smartly
_if its because of your wife mother,your wife should know how to control her sweet moans,sweet screams etc
_and lastly understanding between man and woman matters a lot either in marriage,courtship,dating,etc

@op,
Here are the necessary preparations you need to do before sex;
1. Put the foam on the floor to avoid the "creaky" noise of the bed.
2. Play a soft music - blues or soft rock should be fine.
3. Lock your door. You don't need it open anymore since your MIL sleeps with the kids in the same room.
If you take these steps and your mother-inlaw still complains, you don enta one chance be that! ***konji levels***

cantell: @op,
Here are the necessary preparations you need to do before sex;
1. Put the foam on the floor to avoid the "creaky" noise of the bed.
2. Play a soft music - blues or soft rock should be fine.
3. Lock your door. You don't need it open anymore since your MIL sleeps with the kids in the same room.
If you take these steps and your mother-inlaw still complains, you don enta one chance be that! ***konji levels***

Nice one

djeezy: WTF! So you want the poor man to stay without sex for two months? That's torture.

help me and ask him oooo...

Give me ur moda inlaw's contact if only u can pay mua. Konji dey wori her jor!

mentorken05: am suprised dis is coming from a lady...my wife shuld kip it low?dereby denying herself and probably myself d ectasy she deserves?dats fake sex if u must know...she has d right to enjoy sex as so do i

What are you surprised about? What is fake about your wife controlling how she moans?since when does not shouting the roof tops down mean one isn't enjoying the s€x?

Seems to me like you are just looking for reasons to hate on your MIL, it is highly uncomfortable and somewhat out of place to listen to or hear people making love, why don't you even have a problem with that? Are you into voyeurism?

P.S, that your wife likes to shout doesn't always mean she's enjoying it, women fake a lot during s€x, so if you are worried her not shouting means you both are having fake s€x, you should also be worried she might be screaming just to make you happy and not cos she's enjoying it.

mentorken05: am suprised dis is coming from a lady...my wife shuld kip it low?dereby denying herself and probably myself d ectasy she deserves?dats fake sex if u must know...she has d right to enjoy sex as so do i

guy you don't understand yourself again gan. What are u saying?? U don't want ur wife to be denied the ecstasy of sex, then shut the fccking door! and play a not too loud music too! I guess ur not ready for the said s e x then. Their grandma is already there for them when they get scared in the midnight.
May i ask a qst, u've already given us the impression dat ur wife makes noise during sex, so prior to the arrival of ur MIL, are u telling me u still had s e x with the door open..with ur kids in the next room?? hearing every single sounds??