bellong:

I get your point. The best way is still via communication which he should be sincere enough to open up. At least our forefathers were not christian, they held chastity in high regards and were not put to shame in this area. Why? Because they were sincere in their dealings involving marital relationships.

bettymafy:

Our forefathers upheld chastity mostly for women and not for men. Men in those days were free to sow their wild oats.

Again, we are talking from the religious point of view and not cultural.

debrief08: Me I was previously married so obviously not a virgin.
We waited because I had it in my head that all men wanted with a divorcee was hit and run, he didn't have a problem with waiting since it made me comfortable though sometimes he "tried his luck"
Anyway fastforward to after the wedding, Oh boy, that was when I learnt the beauty and awesomeness of S3x, I never knew women also got MouthAction till that day, I always believed that only men got touched and the works down under, he went down on me that night, and I had what I assumed was a mini stroke, I was confused, disoriented, I was telling him to stop because I was dying and yet felt a sweetness I never knew existed.
The crazy man gave me a smug grin as if to say "see what you don dey miss"

bettymafy:

Our forefathers upheld chastity mostly for women and not for men. Men in those days were free to sow their wild oats.

Again, we are talking from the religious point of view and not cultural.

bellong:

The religious and cultural POV are intertwined. Story passed down to me did not excuse the males from infidelity as both the male and female would be banished out of the society if caught in the act.

They did that due to their religious belief and not culture.

bellong: Since you asked for a religious point of view, I will try as much as chip my understanding.

The fact that someone has been randy and wayward does not make him better in bed than a virgin whose JT is active. The most important thing is readiness and willingness to learn new things. There are many books, websites and blogs for that. Pre-marital sex has actually caused more harm than good all in the name of testing before buying.

To any lady who discovered that her husband is "engineless" only after the wedding, you are at liberty to divorce him.

babyosisi:
We are not just talking about Knowing what to do when the time comes
How does the woman who wants to wait assure herself that the sumtin is even working?

stillwater:

Lol, my boyfriend has a grouse with virgin men. He thinks they are terrorists like Mutallab in the making, lol cos that's the only way they can release the tension. And I know the fact that I say there's no difference between a virgin man and non virgin vexes him well well, I do it on purpose lol. And you are right it's the willingness to learn. It's not by the number of partners you've had, have you fine tuned your touch?

maran1983:
To further put my fears to rest, I pried the number of his ex from his brother, gave her a call and was able over time to find out how he was between the sheets.
Needless to say, I was in a coma for a week after our wedding!

Duke_Nija: Christians indeed!
Instead of focusing on other things they r there feeding their flesh.
Sex is integral to marriage but when you get into a wrong union sex will not even be exciting, so why focus on that?
Christians caged by flesh
A true born again Christian will not ask such ludicrous kwesion.

damiso:

Admonition: @OP,
The christian race is a walk of faith. We walk by faith and not by sight. All what Christian marriage entails- prayer, compatibility, true love,partner selection and others must be carried out in faith. I have never heard of someone that walked by faith and yet was ashamed. Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. I think the poster is trying to import carnal ideas and equate them to the things of faith. You do not need to sample anything through sin. Your heavenly fathers knows what you really desire, what you want and what fit you most. If you are really a child of God, He will give you what is best for you. Stop teaching christian singles things that will corrupt their mind. God is a perfect match maker. This is why many churches today tends to be carnal and teach carnal ideology.Imagine if the OP is a woman leader in the Church. Is this what She will teach intending couples to do? There are couples who waited on God with true faith and got more than they ever wanted. Commit thy ways unto God and He will give the the desires of thy heart

Admonition: @OP,
The christian race is a walk of faith. We walk by faith and not by sight. All what Christian marriage entails- prayer, compatibility, true love,partner selection and others must be carried out in faith. I have never heard of someone that walked by faith and yet was ashamed. Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. I think the poster is trying to import carnal ideas and equate them to the things of faith. You do not need to sample anything through sin. Your heavenly fathers knows what you really desire, what you want and what fit you most. If you are really a child of God, He will give you what is best for you. Stop teaching christian singles things that will corrupt their mind. God is a perfect match maker. This is why many churches today tends to be carnal and teach carnal ideology.Imagine if the OP is a woman leader in the Church. Is this what She will teach intending couples to do? There are couples who waited on God with true faith and got more than they ever wanted. Commit thy ways unto God and He will give the the desires of thy heart

prosper86:
You are very very correct.!The blessings of God maketh rich and adds no sorrow,those that seek God for marriage and trust fully in God are never and can never be dissapointed.

dayokanu: What would communication tell you? the proof is in the act itself

if you ask a virgin guy? Does he have errection Yes he does but how would he know how long he lasts?

Some guys are done after 2mins while the sister is just warming up.

So what kind of communication would address this aside from doing the act itself

Failure to do is like Buying a No testing gadget from Alaba. Na God hand you dey

babyosisi: coogar God forgive you and that gif here
Rofl

coogar:

you asked a question - i gave you the answer.
watch your partner as he's about waking up. the laws of nature dictate he must have a härdon at that moment. you can then touch and feel it. that's non-sëxual and cannot be considered a sin!

coogar:

you asked a question - i gave you the answer.
watch your partner as he's about waking up. the laws of nature dictate he must have a härdon at that moment. you can then touch and feel it. that's non-sëxual and cannot be considered a sin!

coogar:

you asked a question - i gave you the answer.
watch your partner as he's about waking up. the laws of nature dictate he must have a härdon at that moment. you can then touch and feel it. that's non-sëxual and cannot be considered a sin!

jidegirl12: So while I'm waiting for Dami.....Dayo did you go to Redeem convention @Dallas last week? I need your testimony for proof for Dami.

dayokanu:

Yes I was there in Floyd TX for the friday event only