spoilt: Those who so hotly advocate this abstinence should bring it closer to home for it to make meaning. Quoting the word is fine but did you live it? All the way? How did it work out for you? Some have admitted they ate the fruit and decided to embark on secondary celibacy. Others made it to the marriage bed intact and confessed it wasn't easy. To those who are quoting the Bible and pointing to spiritual paths are you voicing what you know to be right but didn't keep to yourself? Has it been easy? Has your partner been supportive? Are you in agreement? Are you a hypocrite? No comment? Lol. Some people have their spouses and people that know their nairaland Id here. Honesty is not in their best interest. Online forums provide anonymity and real life should be tendered with Bible quotes.

Efemena_xy:

It's called hypocrisy - of the highest order attainable.

Most of the folks here against pre-maritial sex most certainly did not / do not practise what they preach. If abstinence is such a virtue, then why oh why did they give into the 'sinful, depraved' flesh??

donchris999: Why are you generalising? That you indulge in an act does not make everyone indulge in the same. Anyway i have always known your stance in issues like this. Even if a topic on extra-marital affairs come up here, i know already what your position would be. You no dey change? I am not the best ooo, but since i know this monicker i have been wondering who is behind it. Look how your quoting and running from one post to another on this thread to justify your acts. Abeg no be by force, just posit your stance on the issue and park well. SMH!

spoilt: Those who so hotly advocate this abstinence should bring it closer to home for it to make meaning. Quoting the word is fine but did you live it? All the way? How did it work out for you? Some have admitted they ate the fruit and decided to embark on secondary celibacy. Others made it to the marriage bed intact and confessed it wasn't easy. To those who are quoting the Bible and pointing to spiritual paths are you voicing what you know to be right but didn't keep to yourself? Has it been easy? Has your partner been supportive? Are you in agreement? Are you a hypocrite? No comment? Lol. Some people have their spouses and people that know their nairaland Id here. Honesty is not in their best interest. Online forums provide anonymity and real life should be tendered with Bible quotes.

jennykadry: LMAO, so saying premarital sex is bad equates to hypocrisy. All in a bid to justify some actions

Honestly though, the way some of you's are going on about this, ki lo de? Na guilt abi what? Make your point and relax. No be fight.

ms.anon:
Truth be told, the word of God made its stand on premarital sex clear. They are no grey areas; no buts. I wouldn't though. I would test drive. Before now i would have been leaning towards keeping myself until marriage but with the recent horrors I've been reading about marriage and also seeing.. Erm.. I would rather not risk it. Its bad enough that i have to go into marriage knowing it'll most likely get unbearable at some point and hoping our love, trust and understanding will see us through but going in only to find out he cant do? or maintain an e.rection? Haba. That's too much.

Sex is an integral part of marriage and i can imagine it creates a bond between partners. What happens when after doing it the biblical way, i find out that he cant get it up or that he just can't do? Will the bible keep me warm at night? Or will my tears and prayers to God ease the insane h.orniness i've been blessed/cursed with (depending on how you look at t) when i'm ovulating?

I don't think so. That being said, all sin is equal. I wouldn't want to risk it really. That's my point of view.

bellong:

There's no hypocrisy anywhere. Anybody that knows me on seeing my moniker will know who I am. Its not a case of hiding under faceless forum.

Like I said before, I didn't test drive before entering because I knew what I was getting. The maker revealed everything I asked. There's no hard and fast rule to it. We can either decide to obey God or not, its individual choice. I never condemned those who did it the way they thought best for them. Just stated my opinion.

If after testing and the guy is certified okay in sex-ual issue, how do you test drive issues of the future and unknown events?

Efemena_xy:

I told you once, a long time ago to put a sock in it!

Are you some sort of pervert? Stop tailing me. You know nothing about me, never have and never will. I owe you no explanations for my views and I will post whatever and whenever I like, so deal with it.

Re: The bolded, why not just admit it outright that you are one of the hypocritical pretenders? Now get off my case, will you?

Admonition: @OP,
The christian race is a walk of faith. We walk by faith and not by sight. All what Christian marriage entails- prayer, compatibility, true love,partner selection and others must be carried out in faith. I have never heard of someone that walked by faith and yet was ashamed. Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. I think the poster is trying to import carnal ideas and equate them to the things of faith. You do not need to sample anything through sin. Your heavenly fathers knows what you really desire, what you want and what fit you most. If you are really a child of God, He will give you what is best for you. Stop teaching christian singles things that will corrupt their mind. God is a perfect match maker. This is why many churches today tends to be carnal and teach carnal ideology.Imagine if the OP is a woman leader in the Church. Is this what She will teach intending couples to do? There are couples who waited on God with true faith and got more than they ever wanted. Commit thy ways unto God and He will give the the desires of thy heart

Efemena_xy:

I told you once, a long time ago to put a sock in it!

Are you some sort of pervert? Stop tailing me. You know nothing about me, never have and never will. I owe you no explanations for my views and I will post whatever and whenever I like, so deal with it.

Re: The bolded, why not just admit it outright that you are one of the hypocritical pretenders? Now get off my case, will you?

donchris999: Sharrap there! Do i know you? You are a disgrace to womanhood especially married women and you know that. I will stop at that for the thread to flow. Perverrt of the highest order!

Efemena_xy:

Be my guest and go fcck your brains out you Oloshious fellow.

Pervert you were, pervert you are and pervert you always will be. I sincerely hope you get sodomized an.a.lly several times over by a dozen boko harmists!

Mtcheew!

donchris999: Sharrap there! Do i know you? You are a disgrace to womanhood especially married women and you know that. I will stop at that for the thread to flow. Perverrt of the highest order!

Efemena_xy:

Be my guest and go fcck your brains out you Oloshious fellow.

Pervert you were, pervert you are and pervert you always will be. I sincerely hope you get sodomized an.a.lly several times over by a dozen boko harmists!

Mtcheew!

Efemena_xy:

No. What we're saying is this:

If a person holds fast the belief that pre-maritial sex is bad, but yet they indulged in it, enjoyed themselves well-well...now how do you say it? Chop-mouth-clean-waka-commotthose same people are not in a position to lord it over the rest of us 'sinners' weilding the bible in our faces!

Where was the bible when they were busy test driving? If you're going to walk the walk, then by all means do so, but don't do A then turn around and tell us A is bad having had your fill!

donchris999: Id.ota! If you tested then why do you still look for small boys to fu.ccck? Abi you still dey test ni? Anuofia! Pervert of the highest order! You go test till eternity? Every time testing, testing and testing. Very soon you will start testing children. Anuofia!

slimyem: Ha!!
I came late to the party. Pre-marital sex huh??
God,please bless me with the kind of faith and trust Bellong had in you and your choice for him before walking the walk without test driving.

This I ask through Christ out Lord.

donchris999,please don't make a mess of this beautiful thread.

jidegirl12: OMGosh!!

Bros , Donchris Abeg sheath your words... Please... Efe e don do oh ....okay shows over.

Ile , I'm still looking forward to your post on this.

alutacontinua:

Sweetie, come sit beside me...I be like say PART II is about to start.
I dey tell you, plenty plenty grace is needed.

jennykadry:

Maybe I missed where people were being judgmental, please point it out to me. I used to have this friend in high school who started having sex at the age of 14. You know what she used to tell me back then?she used to say she knew it was bad, after the deed had been done she used to feel guilty, she said she knew it was wrong but just could not help herself. She also told us (cos we were like in a group) that in church on sundays and wednesdays prayer meeting she would feel so guilty cos she knew she had done soemthing she shouldn't have done.

No one here is calling those who have done it or not done it names, but the way you are going on about it, it's like you are justifying your action or trying to prove things to people when really there is no need for it. Some people have said it that even though they did it, they knew it's against whats written in the bible.

It does not hurt to say........Hey I did it cos I wanted to be sure but people I know it is not right.....No one is being hypocritical here but you just keep calling them names. Like honestly, I can feel the anger in your post and lawd hammercy on your keyboard.


Like I said , it would not kill any christian to say........Hey, I did it before marriage even though I knew it was wrong, I did it.....Don't justify actions that are completely against God and his words if your are christian. If you aren't fine, but if you are one please don't.

I read @admonition and @bellong's post and nowhere were they being insultive. The said things the way their religion has taught them. It does not mean they are sinless......they are no saints themselves and they are not claiming tthe title.

Efemena_xy:

On the contrary, babes, the show is just beginning. Your so called brother nor fit mind im own bl00dy business.

Replace the bolded bit with Satanist cult member!

donchris999: Id.ota! If you tested then why do you still look for small boys to fu.ccck? Abi you still dey test ni? Anuofia! Pervert of the highest order! You go test till eternity? Every time testing, testing and testing. Very soon you will start testing children. Anuofia!

jennykadry:

Maybe I missed where people were being judgmental, please point it out to me. I used to have this friend in high school who started having sex at the age of 14. You know what she used to tell me back then?she used to say she knew it was bad, after the deed had been done she used to feel guilty, she said she knew it was wrong but just could not help herself. She also told us (cos we were like in a group) that in church on sundays and wednesdays prayer meeting she would feel so guilty cos she knew she had done soemthing she shouldn't have done.

No one here is calling those who have done it or not done it names, but the way you are going on about it, it's like you are justifying your action or trying to prove things to people when really there is no need for it. Some people have said it that even though they did it, they knew it's against whats written in the bible.

It does not hurt to say........Hey I did it cos I wanted to be sure but people I know it is not right.....No one is being hypocritical here but you just keep calling them names. Like honestly, I can feel the anger in your post and lawd hammercy on your keyboard.


Like I said , it would not kill any christian to say........Hey, I did it before marriage even though I knew it was wrong, I did it.....Don't justify actions that are completely against God and his words if your are christian. If you aren't fine, but if you are one please don't.

I read @admonition and @bellong's post and nowhere were they being insultive. The said things the way their religion has taught them. It does not mean they are sinless......they are no saints themselves and they are not claiming tthe title.

jidegirl12:

I've said my own , e don do una oh... Abeg oh...it's nice to have you back and you wanna start wwe already?

slimyem: Ha!!
I came late to the party. Pre-marital sex huh??
God,please bless me with the kind of faith and trust Bellong had in you and your choice for him before walking the walk without test driving.

This I ask through Christ our Lord.

donchris999,please don't make a mess of this beautiful thread.

spoilt: Much ado about se.x or the lack of it thereof. Both sides to this debate are quite passionate I see.

alutacontinua:

Sweetie, come sit beside me...I be like say PART II is about to start.
I dey tell you, plenty plenty grace is needed.