Dear Nairalander, am presently in a relationship with a girl I met a couple of months ago. On getting to know her and after we had gotten used to one another, she told me she was a virgin and I was cool with it. Am no saint myself and I told her that was really awesome for her to have stayed that long ( she is 24 years old) without having had sex. On hearing this, I made up my mind that I was going to be serious with her and I did away with all other girls in my life. I also told her I was ready to wait as long as she wants even if it means our wedding night if that was what she wanted. She said that ok and I made a vow to myself that I was going to remain faithful to her no matter what.
She has visited me at my station a couple of times and we jus made out. I never went beyond first base with her. Last week, she came visiting and one thing led to another, we both got carried away, and before I could say Jack Robinson, I was making love to my 'so called' virgin gf. I was surprised she wasn't a virgin as she claimed and when I enquired as to why she would deceive me she claimed she did not. She claimed her hymen must have broken somtime ago cos she engaged in exercises during her childhood and that was why there was no blood and stuff. I decided to let it slide and believe her. I told her it dint matter that iit was her I wanted and not her virginity. We continued dating without havin sex afterwards. Am gonna get married to her by November this year if things go according to plan.
However, d virginity stuff bothers me a lot cos I get the feeling she wasn't totally honest with me. She claims I am the first guy to make love to her but am finding it difficult swalooing that. I have tried to raise the issue a couple of times so we could clear the air. If she admits she has had sexx before I would not stop lovin her but its the feeling that she's lying to me that bothers me. I can't sleep cos I keep thinking about it.I don't want this to be between us but I realise it will always be. I love her to bits but I can't get this feelin outta my mind. I really need your candid advise. Thanks.

There are a number of ways of breaking one's hymen and exercise is one, it's definitely a possibility. I can't tell you if she's lying though, is the hymen thing the only issue? Or has she done other things to make you suspect her?

ibkaye: There are a number of ways of breaking one's hymen and exercise is one, it's definitely a possibility. I can't tell you if she's lying though, is the hymen thing the only issue? Or has she done other things to make you suspect her?

My thought exactly. There are some signs you can detect that show she lied to you.

Maybe, just maybe she has the knowledge that exercise can break the hymen that was why she used that as an excuse(Dont get me wrong on this).

You do know deep inside you that she actually deceived you. She lied to you and you bought it.

But I don't feel sorry for you as you just found her worthy of being in a serious relationship with you when she told you she was still a virgin at 24. if she said had said otherwise from the beginning, you wouldn't have taken her seriously.

FYI, she's been screwing with every other guy left, right and center. That 'broken hymen' story is just total bull****!

I don't get how guys claim to be wise and smart and then get deceived so easily. But I don't have any pity for guys like you. You deserve it bro.

Wish you a HML

Just let it slide jare, since you love her, she could be telling the truth and she could also be lying, but the chances of the latter is higher (99.9%), she definitely knows she wasn't a virgin before that day. she should have knowledge about how and when she lost her virginity. I'm not a mind reader, just take her word for it, except you have noticed any form of immorality in her. Conjugal bliss dear.

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Make sure you iron things out before you take her to the altar

Should I take her word for it?
No, don't take her word for it. Instead take the opinion of faceless people on a public forum who may not have even had breakfast talk less of money to toast babes

Dear Nairalander, am presently in a relationship with a girl I met a couple of months ago.
I don't think you re in a relationship..........you cannot 'relate' on this issue talk less of others that are gonna come up


On getting to know her and after we had gotten used to one another, she told me she was a virgin and I was cool with it. Am no saint myself
You re no saint.........nobody is, so why bring this here??

On hearing this I made up my mind that I was going to be serious and did away with all the other girls in my life
Players always fear that the very games they played on others will be played on them .......... Hence the obsession with virginity and knowing who /if any previous sexual encounters



However, d virginity stuff bothers me a lot cos I get the feeling she wasn't totally honest with me. She claims I am the first guy to make love to her but am finding it difficult swalooing that. I have tried to raise the issue a couple of times so we could clear the air. If she admits she has had sexx before I would not stop lovin her but its the feeling that she's lying to me that bothers me. I can't sleep cos I keep thinking about it.I don't want this to be between us but I realise it will always be. I love her to bits but I can't get this feelin outta my mind. I really need your candid advise. Thanks.

She claims? So she's essentially a liar? You re in a relationship with someone who you cannot take their word for..............that is what you re implying.
It seems to me your mind is made up and you don't need anyone's opinion but just want to justify the decision you ve already made in your head. Nothing whatsoever about her character or personality but everything hinges on the presence of a hymen which frankly speaking nobody on this forum can vouch for.

I think that young lady should move on with her dear life and not waste her time on you because you re not worth it.

Chinwem: Should I take her word for it?
No, don't take her word for it. Instead take the opinion of faceless people on a public forum who may not have even had breakfast talk less of money to toast babes

HOW FOOLISH SOME PEOPLE CAN BE.





Its ''Let alone'' not ''talk less''

Foolish is your middle name^^^^^^

Chinwem: Foolish is your middle name^^^^^^

Happy Sunday

Was there free entry or was it tight, if yes, u be mugu , she decieved u

Chinwem: Should I take her word for it?
No, don't take her word for it. Instead take the opinion of faceless people on a public forum who may not have even had breakfast talk less of money to toast babes

Dear Nairalander, am presently in a relationship with a girl I met a couple of months ago.
I don't think you re in a relationship..........you cannot 'relate' on this issue talk less of others that are gonna come up


On getting to know her and after we had gotten used to one another, she told me she was a virgin and I was cool with it. Am no saint myself
You re no saint.........nobody is, so why bring this here??

On hearing this I made up my mind that I was going to be serious and did away with all the other girls in my life
Players always fear that the very games they played on others will be played on them .......... Hence the obsession with virginity and knowing who /if any previous sexual encounters



However, d virginity stuff bothers me a lot cos I get the feeling she wasn't totally honest with me. She claims I am the first guy to make love to her but am finding it difficult swalooing that. I have tried to raise the issue a couple of times so we could clear the air. If she admits she has had sexx before I would not stop lovin her but its the feeling that she's lying to me that bothers me. I can't sleep cos I keep thinking about it.I don't want this to be between us but I realise it will always be. I love her to bits but I can't get this feelin outta my mind. I really need your candid advise. Thanks.

She claims? So she's essentially a liar? You re in a relationship with someone who you cannot take their word for..............that is what you re implying.
It seems to me your mind is made up and you don't need anyone's opinion but just want to justify the decision you ve already made in your head. Nothing whatsoever about her character or personality but everything hinges on the presence of a hymen which frankly speaking nobody on this forum can vouch for.

I think that young lady should move on with her dear life and not waste her time on you because you re not worth it.

so being in a relationship means dat u'll have 2 believe evrythin d person says , sorry but ur analysis makes no sense 2 me. Dis faceless people as u put it mite actually have a reasonable advice 2 give, I'm sure de op had a rzn for bringing up d issue here, so itz not compulsory 2 comment

Chinwem: Foolish is your middle name^^^^^^

and wise is your last name goofball.

Lol, op ur a super maga but im sure ur story is fictitious

@ ibkaye, daisyella, el guapo and k2039 thanks a bunch. your comments are really appreciated.

From the age of 17 to the age of 24. That's 7 years of keeping her virginity away from the hands of Guys only to be Broken by a few months of dating and "Jack Robinson".
Bro forget it, the girl is lying..

I got this very huge feelings in my stomach dt it's a lie. To be candid, I still don't get why ladies lie about that virginity stuff, most especially to a guy dt der's a chance he'll still get der one day. @op, i wouldn't say you should overlook it cos I am nt rily a fan of trying to play smart in relationships, most especially serious ones. I'll say try and find out the truth from her (der are numerous ways of doing that, she's your woman) and warn her not to play stupid games on you again. Forgive her and live blissfully ever after.


On the other hand, you could have known if she was lying from the tightness of the place, her wealth of experience in the act and the way with which she answered the question. i.e. if the answer was ready-made or not.

Even if she claimed her hymen broke a long time ago, you could still tell if she was a virgin or not. Was it very difficult for you to enter? Like did you struggle a lot for the entry?I am talking 10 minutes or longer. If the answer is no, then she is no virgin. You have been bamboozled

Obsessive virginy disorder - that's d problem most mad men with numrous indiscretions have

@ OP; sorry If u fall in2 dat category.

Am out; **spits on thread**

what's with your user id, Jesu.

na mad people full this place, lord have mercy.