What would you do if u catch your spouse making out (sex) with someone else a day before your wedding?

Adapted from the Movie ... "Ale Ariwo"

Postpone the wedding and start asking some serious questions.

cancel the wedding duh!

call off the wedding.... just end it don't ever get married to her/him. there is not a good excuse/explanation/plea for wht she/he did..

You don't but that's a chance you'd have to be willing to take.

True. We are very quick to discard something or someone. We need to stop, take a deep breath, and ask what is actually happening.

Cheating on your bride or groom to be is a symptom. It's saying: There's something wrong with something in this relationship that I am trying to get else where.

Find out the problem. It may not be worth getting rid of the person. If you are serious (about to become married means it's pretty serious) then take the time to go to counseling. Find out how to work it out. If you have tried everything and then still fail, move on.

But try first.

Dont go ahead wiv the wedding!

I've seen that movie, And i'll do exactly what the guy did. Go ahead with the wedding. There's always a choice for divorce....

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Today is my birthday, And, Whoever says the world doesn't evolve arround me is a liar, because today, It does. I am sixteen

well i will go ahead with the wedding, but it is not going to be the same.
he is got some explaination to do .

i would whoop the guy's ass like no one ever did before and I would make this a secret until the wedding day , then i will disgrace her would disgrace her when the pastor ask if i would take her to be my wife by telling the whole gathering what she did, and tell the pastor, No.

That is so mean

terry that mean

why are you guys saying thats mean , she didt think of the guy before accepting to marry me. Thats not mean, If she loved me she wouldnt do it. So why would i spare her.

I think thats suppose to be the last outing before the shop is closed. I will go ahead with the wedding, but remove some things from the wedding vow.....you can imagine what that will be.

I feel you. But to .... is human, But to forgive divine.

Angel there are things that could be forgiven not this kind. If we were dating and something like that happened i wouldnt care, but she is my wife to be. Thats gonna urt more. That guy would suck my d""k that night.

oh God,
terry, i know is going to be hardbut what if it is you that she caught.
i know u will want her to forgive you
like angel said to err is human to forgive is divine

I so did not know it was "err" that was always said. I just skip it. Thanks gina for inputing it.

@ terry, Put yourself in the girls shoes, wouldn't u beg for forgiveness?

Marriage to me is a life long commitment. She got a weddin tomorrow for heavens sake. She must be a nympho or lacks self control. She's not prepared for the wifely duties then.
I sure wont go ahead with that wedding. I wont postpone either (i'll cancel it).
I also wont discard her cos no one is a saint. I'll forgive her anyway. We've just got some stuffs to settle b4 i know the next move.
"This is my Life, the world can wait"

Layi, for heaven's sake u made this post. Did u watch ale-ariwo? if U were the girl and someone threatened to tell ur husband about your past relationship with his dad, and u are like confused about the whole thing. Just like it happened in Ale-ariwo, wouldn't u do what the woman did?

"Nothing can be hidden under the sun"
My 'husband' would still find out sumday. No need goin through all that stress. I'll rather tell him myself.
A lie is a loop. U have to keep liein to cover it up and where do u end....

The truth truly sets u free baby.

Ohh...U watched that movie. Did u see how everything happened soooooo, Just like that!

Yeah i watch the movie but she neednt have gone that way. That was d cause of her problems. What stops her from tellin her man?
Dont keep fire under ur clothes and expect not to get burnt!

wedding cake will still be sweet 4 infant nephew and nice .

are we talking about the usual bachelors' eve - spinsters' eve madness or what??

I really would not know what to do t that time. I might be too angry to react properlly so I'll just leave and go atke a fast drive to clear my head. When I get back it will be either of two things.

Ask 4 an explaination
Boot the [cheater] out.

The explanation will lead to two things

Digest whatever explaination was giving
Boot the [cheater] out

Digesting the info will lead to two things

Accepting that I have failed in my duties to make my girl happy and satisfies in all aspect then calling the relationship off with the intention of improving my lot the next time..... or
Boot the [cheater] out!

I want u all to understand the basic fact that calling off or even postponing a wedding isn't that easy. Gosh! y'all don't know what L O V E means. If at all u catch ur wife in such an act (and probably u trust her so much and u also know that the love between u two is too strong), then u should be able to know something is definitely wrong somewhere. She couldnt have done it willingly or to hurt you. Perhaps, she's doing it to save ur marriage and ur being together as husband and wife, maybe as a result of blackmail of something she did in the past.

As for me, I'll continue with the wedding but on the wedding night, instead of the normal "play", I'll sit her down and we are gonna have a serious conversation together after which I'll have no choice but to forgive her and try as much not to remember the scene of her in bed with someone else.

E easy like dat? emmmm I dont belive you bro

I know it isn't that easy. It might take me days to think about it (after the wedding) before I finally forgive her (that's if she's truely sorry). But then, I'll scold and threaten her in a manner that she'll never think of committing such an act anymore, no matter what!

get real...