The nature of my case is not one that can be discussed with friends /relations else they may mock my husband.
I am a married lady with a 3year old beautiful girl.
I have a serious problem that has been eating me up for a long time. Infact since I knew my husband, I have never ever enjoyed 1minute of sexual pleasure. I am a healthy chick with normal healthy sex appetite. You can say that I have a very good sexual libido.
My hubby on the other hand is the exact opposite. Infact he is dried in that aspect. He has a good organ but doesnt last upto a minute. As matter of fact, as soon as he enters me, I start counting down in my mind from 876543210 and before I get to zero, he starts grunting irritatingly and bam.... its over. He rolls off and the next thing you hear is him snoring. Meanwhile I will start shedding tears quietly hoping and praying for a day I will get a good sex. All I have been getting from him are crumbs, tasteless crumbs.

He has never attempted to go a second time to atleast satisfy me. He just wouldn't no matter how much I try to resuscitate the lifeless d**k. It just remains in coma till when next he wants to have sex.
I give my hubby bJ very well but he has never ever reciprocated the gesture. He says its not part of him to go down on a woman. You see how dead my sex life is?

He knows I m not happy but he doesn't care as long as he is getting hi satisfaction. I have discussed this ssue with him several times but he will never ever do anything about it.

I am totally frustrated and been pushed to my limits. If i dont enjoy intimacy now, is it when I am 50years? and with who?
Now adultery is not an option for me at all. I am a novice in the act of m.as.tur.b.a.tion and so I want to learn more about it so I will start helping myself. I like and want the feel of a strong rod going in and out of me and so I want to buy a very good vi.bra.t/or or Love Machine.

This is what I need from readers:
1) an address in FCT (we are based in Gwagwalada) where I can shop for a strong toy.

2) name of a good adult movie (not p.o.r.n please) I will buy, watch and learn how to pleasure myself).

Its either I do this or commit adultery. I do not want to sleep with another man. I would rather fvck myself with a Love Machine. I need to relieve myself of the million sexual tension inside me.

Woww.
What a mind boggling story!!
Have u talked to him about it?
What was his reaction?
Has he tried to improve?

If u tell a man about his performance in bed, even if its not so favourable, he will surely do something about it.

If you however believe he has nothing to offer you in the "go down low" department then by all means satisfy urself!!!

Good u have ruled out adultery, which when u get caught, nobody will listen to ur excuse. Click on the blue link below and send a pm to her, she will be of help to you with ur desire to a fulfilling sex life.

www.nairaland.com/chaircover
Regards!

check. www.zeevirtualmedia.com.they deliver all over Nigeria.they have a lot.

Your husband seems to be on the selfish side with this matter. His case is not something that has no solution except the fact that he is not interested in learning and improving. He needs a session with a sex therapist.

I do not know where you can get those gadgets in Abuja but I think you can arrange a session with a sex therapist in conjunction with your husband. If you do read Saturday Punch, there is a sex and sexuality column by Funmi Akingbade, her column deals with issues like yours but your husband must be willing to come out of his shell here in seeking help. You can arrange a meeting with her or call her on phone. I think her office is in Lagos, I am not sure but this is her contact details I got from punch cafi.punch@yahoo.com, 0818 802 2803.

The gadgets may only serve a temporary purpose but cannot equate the real deal. Only wish your husband will stop being selfish.

WOW OP ... You are indeed sex starved.

Check those websites out , talk to @chaircover too, she's into intimacy gadgets and all that.

He's selfish or getting it elsewhere, I mean if you can't go down on your wife but you enjoy same act, that's plain selfishness IMO.

Royal Roy: Woww.
What a mind boggling story!!
Have u talked to him about it?
What was his reaction?
Has he tried to improve?

If u tell a man about his performance in bed, even if its not so favourable, he will surely do something about it.

If you however believe he has nothing to offer you in the "go down low" department then by all means satisfy urself!!!

Good u have ruled out adultery, which when u get caught, nobody will listen to ur excuse. Click on the blue link below and send a pm to her, she will be of help to you with ur desire to a fulfilling sex life.

www.nairaland.com/chaircover
Regards!

or get him a drug that increases his performance for as long as you want.i have forgotten the name of that drug but my friend used to buy it for her boyfriend makin him to use it with one cok and bukk story of making his bones trong or something like that and that one will mumuishly swellow the lie and the drug.i wish i can remember the name but its one of this sexual enhancement drugs.as for adultery,i am sure you read the thread of what happened to some lovers caught in the act of adultery in anambra you dont want to be forced to act live porn in the public for all and sundry excwpt mabe youre not in naija sha

For ur noble dcision 2 avoid adultry,u wil surely save & kip ur mariage.

2, given ur reason 4 wantin it,d gadget thing wl make u frustrated & disilutioned about sex & mariage; so if I may advise,drop d idea.

3, if ur husband's lifestyle is filled by stress (physical & emotional), just kno it's a gret turn-off.

Gud sex btwn couples is usualy not spontaneous.Havin d upper hand, u hv 2 work him up to it hours b4 action time.Spend enof time 2geda, play about like kids & chat about sex.Over time he wl change.

I feel your pains, lady, and I'm happy that you have ruled out adultery. Ok.

Visit: zeevirtualmedia.com. They deliver various se.x toys discreetly, if you want it that way, and they can even help your husband's libido with viagra or any other drug. Goodluck.

@all, thanks. I have accessed the website and gone through their stuffs. Mehnnnn they have gadgets there oooooooo. lol. They are on break presently and will resume on 15th August. Abeg I already found something interesting. I have hope sha.

But like bellong said, it won't be like the real deal and worse of it all I that my hubby have the right large size that fits me perfectly. only he doesn't know how to use it.

Kulyie suggested pills........ won't it have effect on his health? I have thot about that but I am scared of the consequences these pills tend to have on the user later in life.

If you guys know how I am feeling now ehn, you will pity me.

I am currently pregnant on my late 2nd trimester and the hormones have increased my desire for good sex so much that I am a walking bomb.
Instead of my hubby quenching it, he will make it worse.

@Chaircover, will contact you.

Person wey get head no get cap and person wey get cap no get head. Try me and u'll give testimony.Jesus is lord

Its not stress.

He doesn't like sex talks. Whenever I try to introduce sexual topics, he won't respond. his reason is that he doesn't like those kind of talks.

I am a fun girl, 30yrs old, I know alot about pleasuring him and even getting him in the mood. but it doesn't freak him one bit. Even I have suggested to him so many times about love plays like tapping my bum bum surprisingly, giving me pecks on the neck, coming to hold me in the kitchen while I am cooking, you know those kinda lovi lovi stuffs. He just doesn't get it. I have a great body and I am very clean to the teeth, even wear sexy bum shorts in the house for him but he doesn't get moved. He loves watching porn but will never do any of those sweety sweety things they do.

His own is just wham-bang-thank-you-ma.
He is in his mid thirties and not even the church goer type.
He once said he has slept with so so many girls that he is now tired of the sex.

I am suffering it and its gradually affecting me.

OP, forgive me, I just had to laugh!

Will be back to put my 1 naira

Is sad you knew this problem but still went ahead and married him without finding the solution to it.

My opinion
1. Try and make him use his hand and tongue,,,,watch some movies and perfect the act

Except he doesn't care, or very tired to do it...

2. You can use your hand, intimacy gadgets, whatever you can find. You fit use bottle sef

3, watch some porn too...

4. Play run away match. But since you don't wanna cheat....go with 1-3 above.

Goodluck

Nawa ooh!
This thread got me tryna hold bak a laugh n end up choking n coughing spuriously!

@op: just study tha guy proper n know the times he's gonna come asking for sex.
then drop one or two of those Chinese sex drugs in one bottle of Big stout for him.
At tha end he'll be sweating heavily, confused, wit a big grin on his face, while u'll be looking for the nearest escape route

According to your post, you've spoken to him about it and he apparently doesn't care. That makes this situation really bad. Normally I could just say "it's your cross, carry it" but I can imagine how you feel.
My advice, try talking to him one more time. But this time, let him know how bad it makes you feel. Maybe even play the tears card on him. Hint about the possibility of you having to buy sextoys.

It may work, or it may cause him to accuse you of being a sluttt. You would know better which it will be.

U want vibrator u don't want porn films, who told u they're mutually exclusive?

zeevirtualmedia.com ships all toys you need, I shop there too, their delivery is lightening speed.

It's realy a dficult situation,bt u MUST NOT make it worse - now or much later.Sex is just one (tho a crucial) aspect of d multi-faceted famly institution.

He wnt buy into d use of enhancment cos he's not complaining. U nid 2 do som pretending. Witout hating him, pretend 2 him dat u no longer dsire d stuff; mind ur "kids" & other thins in d family. Dont apear seductiv again; make him hunger 4u wile u SAFELY apear dsinterested. Kill dat I-kno-u-always-need-it feelin in him & let him tink he's losing u.

barbiechick:

Its not stress.

He doesn't like sex talks. Whenever I try to introduce sexual topics, he won't respond. his reason is that he doesn't like those kind of talks.

I am a fun girl, 30yrs old, I know alot about pleasuring him and even getting him in the mood. but it doesn't freak him one bit. Even I have suggested to him so many times about love plays like tapping my bum bum surprisingly, giving me pecks on the neck, coming to hold me in the kitchen while I am cooking, you know those kinda lovi lovi stuffs. He just doesn't get it. I have a great body and I am very clean to the teeth, even wear sexy bum shorts in the house for him but he doesn't get moved. He loves watching porn but will never do any of those sweety sweety things they do.

His own is just wham-bang-thank-you-ma.
He is in his mid thirties and not even the church goer type.
He once said he has slept with so so many girls that he is now tired of the sex.

I am suffering it and its gradually affecting me.

Holy shyttee!!!. You so friggin right on da bolded!!!!.
My ladies love it!!!!.

Especially when you sneak up to em in the kitchen while cooking wit only my boxers on WITH the Soldier having a very big helmet touching em from behind!!!.

I once had a memorable sex with a particular lady in the kitchen. She only had to bend down on the kitchen slab while i worked it all out!!!!!.

Op I have a funny feeling your hubby is playing a smart one. Here is the deal,don't talk to him abt it again or complain. Do you have a brother or a male cousin If yes you and him will do the trick. Let him act as your boyfriend,call you and send you love messages n intimate messages. Receive the calls close to where your hubby can hear your conversation and leave your phone carelessly where can easily pick it and go through your messages.

Your game is to make him believe there is another man doing his job and get him jealous that's why I said your brother or your cousin AND NOT A MALE FRIEND. While he is home on weekends,let your cousin or brother call you and fix an appointment. Act like you don't want anyone hearing your conversation but make go he hears you agreeing to meet the other person on the line. Go out even if you just go to an eatery all alone and have a bottle of coke or a bowl of ice cream.

You are a woman na so you should know this tricks am saying well. Why I said play the trick with your cousin or brother is because he will pick your phone and search thru for his rival number and might call the number,so if he dosnt hear a male voice then your trick no work oo.

Play this game well and see him confronting you,then you make him realise you aint a log of wood and have feelings too. Since he has decided to ignore you,you found yourself someone. Make him believe you o and that you are playing safe using a CoNdOm with your new guy so he shouldn't be scared of contacting stds.

Be ready for what comes after it o cause you sure don't just expect him to keep calm abt it but make sure you don't let it get to the point of him involving families. I assure you he will be forced to go more than 3 rounds on you out of jealousy,and make sure you achieve this goal before you open up to him that the so called boyfriend of yours is your cousin or your brother.


If after all these,he goes back to his one round intimacy with you,then my lady your hubby is likely cheating on you big time or he need a serious divine intervention o.


Sorry I typed all these on mobile so please ignore mistakes.

Mehnn...ℓ̊ can't help but laugh at some comments... Ds thread wl soon turn upside down....


@op, sis sorry ehnnn...! Try and follow madam CC's advice...it cld help a long way.

Op I have a funny feeling your hubby is playing a smart one. Here is the deal,don't talk to him abt it again or complain. Do you have a brother or a male cousin If yes you and him will do the trick. Let him act as your boyfriend,call you and send you love messages n intimate messages. Receive the calls close to where your hubby can hear your conversation and leave your phone carelessly where can easily pick it and go through your messages.

Your game is to make him believe there is another man doing his job and get him jealous that's why I said your brother or your cousin AND NOT A MALE FRIEND. While he is home on weekends,let your cousin or brother call you and fix an appointment. Act like you don't want anyone hearing your conversation but make go he hears you agreeing to meet the other person on the line. Go out even if you just go to an eatery all alone and have a bottle of coke or a bowl of ice cream.

You are a woman na so you should know this tricks am saying well. Why I said play the trick with your cousin or brother is because he will pick your phone and search thru for his rival number and might call the number,so if he dosnt hear a male voice then your trick no work oo.

Play this game well and see him confronting you,then you make him realise you aint a log of wood and have feelings too. Since he has decided to ignore you,you found yourself someone. Make him believe you o and that you are playing safe using a CoNdOm with your new guy so he shouldn't be scared of contacting stds.

Be ready for what comes after it o cause you sure don't just expect him to keep calm abt it but make sure you don't let it get to the point of him involving families. I assure you he will be forced to go more than 3 rounds on you out of jealousy,and make sure you achieve this goal before you open up to him that the so called boyfriend of yours is your cousin or your brother.


If after all these,he goes back to his one round intimacy with you,then my lady your hubby is likely cheating on you big time or he need a serious divine intervention o.


Sorry I typed all these on mobile so please ignore mistakes.

chaircover: Tayo, this will backfire, especially if the man does have a genuine sexx problem. Its like you are kicking the man whilst he is down. He will never forgive or trust her again. There are some games you dont play with men and this is one of them.

If a man was coming home late and neglecting his family and you pretend that you dont care anymore of have his time anymore, this may work, but not in this situation. Its like you are counting the toes of a 9 toed person in his presence.

Very very true my sis,its a very risky game oo and her chances are 50 50. But seem to me as if she is sure her hubby is ok medically o.

@taryour ur sugestion 4 d OP 2 apear indiferent is excelent;but dat of bringin in anoda man(albeit a relativ) cud bakfire both sides.D man cud be a bully:recal he said he was a playboy.4 her,it cud push her into adultry.Let her just form unintrested.

DICKtator:

Holy shyttee!!!. You so friggin right on da bolded!!!!.
My ladies love it!!!!.

Especially when you sneak up to em in the kitchen while cooking wit only my boxers on WITH the Soldier having a very big helmet touching em from behind!!!.

I once had a memorable sex with a particular lady in the kitchen. She only had to bend down on the kitchen slab while i worked it all out!!!!!.

orisirisi.hope hot soup no pour for una body when una dey play rough play for kitchen

Okokobioko!!
This one pass yellowpawpaw!
My popcorn,where r thou?(Already seated)

So Chaircover na expert for this kain thing

Okokobioko indeed
This is not normal o
This ain't normal lai lai
Before you cook a minute rice the man is stone cold on the bed
Tua!!
Olorun ma je

taryour: Op I have a funny feeling your hubby is playing a smart one. Here is the deal,don't talk to him abt it again or complain. Do you have a brother or a male cousin If yes you and him will do the trick. Let him act as your boyfriend,call you and send you love messages n intimate messages. Receive the calls close to where your hubby can hear your conversation and leave your phone carelessly where can easily pick it and go through your messages.

Your game is to make him believe there is another man doing his job and get him jealous that's why I said your brother or your cousin AND NOT A MALE FRIEND. While he is home on weekends,let your cousin or brother call you and fix an appointment. Act like you don't want anyone hearing your conversation but make go he hears you agreeing to meet the other person on the line. Go out even if you just go to an eatery all alone and have a bottle of coke or a bowl of ice cream.

You are a woman na so you should know this tricks am saying well. Why I said play the trick with your cousin or brother is because he will pick your phone and search thru for his rival number and might call the number,so if he dosnt hear a male voice then your trick no work oo.

Play this game well and see him confronting you,then you make him realise you aint a log of wood and have feelings too. Since he has decided to ignore you,you found yourself someone. Make him believe you o and that you are playing safe using a CoNdOm with your new guy so he shouldn't be scared of contacting stds.

Be ready for what comes after it o cause you sure don't just expect him to keep calm abt it but make sure you don't let it get to the point of him involving families. I assure you he will be forced to go more than 3 rounds on you out of jealousy,and make sure you achieve this goal before you open up to him that the so called boyfriend of yours is your cousin or your brother.


If after all these,he goes back to his one round intimacy with you,then my lady your hubby is likely cheating on you big time or he need a serious divine intervention o.


Sorry I typed all these on mobile so please ignore mistakes.

Rubbish!!
When a woman has to play ring around the roses to get her man to function,can't you see she has a big problem on her hands
Thank God some viable tadpoles dey for im sac sef and she has gotten pregnant twice if not this poor woman would have asked her God questions,why her

You see why I started the thread sometime ago asking how a Christian woman is supposed to know that the thing inside pot is oha soup and not play play soup with hibiscus flowers