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Men Lose Their Self-esteem When The Women They Love Are Successful by MAYOWAAK: 9:50am On Sep 04, 2013
A woman's success also makes a man less interested in their relationship, researchers found.
September 2, 2013

According to a new study, men experience a blow to their self-esteem when their female partners experience success, even when they aren’t in direct competition. Women’s success also negatively impacts how men view the future of the relationship, researchers found.

“There is an idea that women are allowed to bask in the reflected glory of her male partner and to be the ‘woman behind the successful man,’ but the reverse is not true for men,” says study co-author Kate Ratliff of the University of Florida.

Ratliff and University of Virginia researcher Shigehiro Oishi put study participants through a series of five experiments to gauge how a partner’s success impacted men’s and women’s implicit and explicit self-esteem. In cases when a woman outperformed her male partner in social or intellectual tasks, men registered a dip in their implicit self-esteem. Meaning, they didn’t report feeling insecure to researchers, but negative feelings and low self-esteem were nonetheless registered on word association and other tests used to gauge unspoken attitudes and feelings.

Women did not register negative emotions when their partners succeeded. Interestingly, when their male partners performed well on a task, women felt more confident about the future prospects of their relationship. Men, however, felt worse about the future of their relationships when their partners were successful. ”So thinking of themselves as unsuccessful might trigger men’s fear that their partner will ultimately leave them,” Ratliff and Oishi wrote of their findings.

The researchers hypothesized a zero-sum approach to success and failure may be what was fueling men’s insecurities and resentment at their partners’ success, explaining that men may be more likely to see their partners’ success as their own failure.

http://www.alternet.org/gender/study-men-secretly-feel-terrible-when-women-they-love-succeed

http://www.apa.org/pubs/journals/releases/psp-a0033769.pdf
Re: Men Lose Their Self-esteem When The Women They Love Are Successful by Mynd44: 10:12am On Sep 04, 2013
Read the title, don't agree at all
Re: Men Lose Their Self-esteem When The Women They Love Are Successful by ambafrank: 10:13am On Sep 04, 2013
I totally i agree with you. As man you have to work hard to aviod such incident.
Re: Men Lose Their Self-esteem When The Women They Love Are Successful by Nobody: 10:15am On Sep 04, 2013
Some researchers no jus gree get work.
Re: Men Lose Their Self-esteem When The Women They Love Are Successful by AbuMikey(m): 10:18am On Sep 04, 2013
OP,Yimu for You! angry
Re: Men Lose Their Self-esteem When The Women They Love Are Successful by Mynd44: 10:18am On Sep 04, 2013
ambafrank: I totally i agree with you. As man you have to work hard to aviod such incident.
So if your wife earns more, you lose your self esteem?

Smh
Re: Men Lose Their Self-esteem When The Women They Love Are Successful by Nobody: 10:21am On Sep 04, 2013
Soo true!
Re: Men Lose Their Self-esteem When The Women They Love Are Successful by Mynd44: 10:22am On Sep 04, 2013
nadia_SA: Soo true!
Very untrue
Re: Men Lose Their Self-esteem When The Women They Love Are Successful by Nobody: 10:32am On Sep 04, 2013
Bla bla bla.... Worthless research.
Re: Men Lose Their Self-esteem When The Women They Love Are Successful by homesteady(m): 10:38am On Sep 04, 2013
It would be a fallacy to say it is true and it will also be a fallacy to say it is false!
Because Not all men are the same! I know most men would loose their self esteem #Ego Issues, but not all men!
So to me the research is like 70% true! undecided

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