kandiikane: Not just nigerians.

kandiikane: Not just nigerians.

daisyella: That's because most tyms when you are having lunch with a girl in Nigeria and outside nigeria, it is assumed there is something between you two. u cant change what people think and why does it even bother u what people r thinking?

2buff:

Read Queue #3 . That's why

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Thank you for your reply, lucas-sp.
To clarify, please think of this occasion. Let's say Cathy is just my coworker. Another coworker (let's say Kevin) asks me what I am doing tomorrow. I say, "Oh, I'm having a lunch date with Cathy."
At this point Kevin would not know if I meant I'm just having lunch with her or I have a romantic date with her, correct?
If we all have been just friendly coworkers and there weren't any signs of romance before, then could my using the phrase "lunch date" make Kevin wonder which? (For example, make him ask "Are you guys dating?"
To avoid confusion, (if there is no romance) is it better to say "I am having lunch with Cathy."?

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Yes, I think if you used 'lunch date' it could make someone wonder if it's either friendly or romantic.
It would be safe to say, "Oh, I'm going out to lunch with Cathy." The phrase you came up with is fine too!

http://forum.wordreference.com/showthread.php?t=2628217

Tobius tobius: Why Do Nigerians Assume She Is Your Girl?
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People seem to think that Nigerians have a monopoly on certain types of behavior.

Lord_Reed: I keep wondering why people make things seem like Nigerians are the most crazy people on planet earth. Here is an excerpt from a website that is not Nigerian where the folk know that a simple lunch date can easily be misunderstood.




There is nothing about the so called queues (it should be) cues that indicate that this is a purely Nigerian reaction. It would be the height of self denial (not to mention self hate) to say 'white' people (cue Canadians) don't gossip.

2buff:

Thanks for the spelling correction.

Your Japanese example there does not apply as he even used the word "date". That is a word typically reserved for romance.

And what exactly is all this "self hate" nonsense you've been talking about? I don't need to hate myself to have an opinion on an experience. Are you at a point in life where you hate yourself and are trying to reflect that state to anyone who doesn't have the same opinion as you?

daisyella:
lmao!!! nw I get ur point.
that's juz d way it is bro, if u don't want people thinking shez ur gf, den don't hang out with her 2 much

Boll2010: Turn gay n let dem ya nyash.........u wey supose beg seun mak e create section 4 only mak u dy cry di! We talkn money u talkn bit!ches#bit!ches com n go#love com n go

ROTFL

Lord_Reed:

Constantly coming up with posts that denigrate Nigerians (of whom you are an offspring) indicates you are the one with the crisis, I am only pointing it out to you in case you are not aware of the frequency of your denigrating posts. I am Nigerian and I have no apologies for that; I will do my bit to better myself and my community regardless of the challenges.

FYI the excerpt is not Japanese as it is clearly marked Toronto and its purpose is to show you that confusion over social conventions is not a Nigerian phenomenon.

People all over the world do all those cues you outlined especially in conservative communities so to make a post that portrays Nigerians as excessive gossips, tattlers and busybodies is not only cringe worthy , it indicates you have an identity crisis. You may want to dissociate yourself from your heritage but c'mon you don't need to give a dog a bad name before you hang it.

daisyella:
lmao!!! nw I get ur point.
that's juz d way it is bro, if u don't want people thinking shez ur gf, den don't hang out with her 2 much

Lord_Reed: I keep wondering why people make things seem like Nigerians are the most crazy people on planet earth. Here is an excerpt from a website that is not Nigerian where the folk know that a simple lunch date can easily be misunderstood.




There is nothing about the so called queues (it should be) cues that indicate that this is a purely Nigerian reaction. It would be the height of self denial (not to mention self hate) to say 'white' people (cue Canadians) don't gossip.

2buff: Nigerians have this very bad amebo habit of assuming that because they see you having lunch or walking with a girl, that she is your babe.

- cue them Talking in their gossip covens circles about how you both make a good couple.
- cue church members who see you asking when you will marry her.
- cue wannabe-knowitalls putting sand in your garri by telling another girl you're actually interested in that "he already has a girlfriend" when she tries to research you.
- cue them thinking you are a dirty player when they see you again hanging with another girl

...seriously people.

2buff:

Toronto, Japan whatever. If you actually read what you posted you will see that Japanese is his native tongue. Not important . Again, all the bloke is doing is asking a question. And he did use the word "date" so that is a conscious giveaway to anyone who hears that and it disqualifies it from the essence of this thread. Second time pointing this out but for some reason you still keep bringing it up. Quit the pointlessness.

You living in Nigeria, you do not experience certain things from a multi cultural perspective as I do, so certain things are not really obvious to you. The result of my experiences from different cultural types is the content of this thread.

Mrs.Chima:


This is a Nigerian forum is it not

What better place to air issues or experiences with Nigerians than a Nigerian forum?

2Buffie... don't get your head swole because I ain't done yet.

What you need to do is tell them nosey mofos to mind their business and let them know you are single. Stop hanging around nosey mofos.

Lord_Reed:

This topic is not essentially 'Nigerian'. These traits are visible in almost every nation in this world so I will not agree for it to be made a unique Nigerian problem. I we are intelligent enough to make such distinctions.

Mrs.Chima:


This is a Nigerian forum is it not

What better place to air issues or experiences with Nigerians than a Nigerian forum?

2Buffie... don't get your head swole because I ain't done yet.

What you need to do is tell them nosey mofos to mind their business and let them know you are single. Stop hanging around nosey mofos.

Uch74: [color=#006600][/color]you've said it all! I am actually a victim of these for years now, even when I haven't been dating anyone...........I guess, looks also encourage these insinuations and rumours....no way an ugly dude's gonna be drawn into these sh*t...........

Lord_Reed:

This topic is not essentially 'Nigerian'. These traits are visible in almost every nation in this world so I will not agree for it to be made a unique Nigerian problem. I think we are intelligent enough to make such distinctions.

Mrs.Chima:


But he is complaining about his experiences with nosy azz Nigerians so it's all Nigerian.

We can't change his experience whether you think it's intelligent or not.

The facts remaibs that he is dealing with nosy azz Nigerians and need to change his circle.